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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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International Day of Tolerance
Q. I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
A. 28 November 2010: Moon river- Religion has bred blind contempt for others for thousands of years but, there have always been the good and the wise who follow none but the purest. That brings into view, a small but ever so powerful glint of hope that followers can ... (read in full...)
I feel so lost after losing this baby...
Q. Me and my husband have together for 5 years and have been married for 3... We got pregnant about 9 months ago but i lost the baby and didint tell him because he said he would leave me... I dont know what to do because he is going to tell everyone i ...
A. 28 November 2010: This man does not deserve to be a father nor a husband. This sort of tragedy tends to bring with it a test of character and your husband failed miserably. He should be there for you, grieving with you, doing anything to help you so you can both move ... (read in full...)
Heart in one place, soul in another, Help!!
Q. last weekend, for our 3 year anniversary, my partner brought her best friend over and we had a threesome. as my partner is not all that excitable, she went to sleep afterwards, and her friend and i continued to have oral and then had intercourse a ...
A. 27 November 2010: It seems as though you have always been cheating on some level anyway if your soul has always been yearning for this friend. You have to be honest with both of them. Consider being with neither for now until you can sort your thoughts out.
I not... (read in full...)
International Day of Tolerance
Q. I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
A. 27 November 2010: I think religion was essentially formed to unite people. Body and soul. It is not religion itself that divides but the oblivious followers who blindly follow other corrupted followers. Spirituality does not always come into conflict with religion. ... (read in full...)
Is the fact that he looks at porn and lies to me about an issue of incompatibility?
Q. My question concerns pornography. Context: My boyfriend and I are 23 years old and have been together for almost 2 years. I love having sex and virtually never turn him down. Really, I'm the one that gets turned down the most. We currently ...
A. 27 November 2010: A lot of women have had to go through this. It is always the same.
When a man begins lying to someone he loves about this, it becomes a problem and it starts gnawing at everything around them. He has to face facts. If he cannot go a week without ... (read in full...)
The problem is that she has a boyfriend
Q. I am 18 and in love with this girl. She is my best friend. I can tell her anything. We were friends in high school and still are. She loves me too. The problem is that she has a boyfriend. Her and I are very close. We flirt fairly often over the ...
A. 27 November 2010: You realize that in doing this, she is being emotionally unfaithful to her boyfriend. If she loves you like you say she does, she should have left him a long time ago. Otherwise, to lessen the complexity of this situation, you have to let her go. ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cheated and I am pissed!
Q. my girl friend told me awhile ago that she cheated on me twice with two diff. people.. she cried alot and i cud tell she fells really bad about it but im pissed. we had minor problems things that cud of been fixed but she chose to cheat...at the ...
A. 27 November 2010: Take some time away from each other. She probably does love you a lot if she cried as much as you said as she revealed it all to you. I doubt she will make the same mistakes again so willingly after that what happened. Take a few days to sift ... (read in full...)
B/f acting weird after our argument! Does he just need time?
Q. Hello there. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 months now, and we got into a little argument today and he almost broke up with me. But he didn't and we mended everything. I need help because now he's being all weird, and i know that ...
A. 27 November 2010: This is far too unspecific. How exactly is he behaving?
Of course you need to give him another day or two to lick his wounds that are still aching from the argument which seems to have been almost cataclysmic.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Why is this considered cheating?
Q. hello i've posted a question before but never got a clear answer why because i failed to make it clear. now heres my situation my gf absolutely believes i cheated because of the following... 1) i was involved with 2 of my friends webcam porn. he w...
A. 27 November 2010: If you haven't already, I suggest you start spending more time with her and when you do, refrain from looking at other girls no matter what. She will notice that and she will feel more secure if you don't.
Whatever you do, even if it is for a fr... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to get upset about my boyfriend's underage drinking?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for a year now, and the only problem I ever have with him is when he drinks. He just turned 20, and has been drinking since 16 or 17. I don't like it. I don't believe getting drunk is safe (a close friend's sister was ...
A. 27 November 2010: Have you considered breaking up with him? I know that might sound quite dramatically unecessary but I think it is what you need to do. Does he know about why you hate that he drinks? If he is aware of it all, he is generally being an inconsiderate ... (read in full...)
I need a man's take on this, what are the most important characteristics of a good woman?
Q. What are the most important characteristics in a good woman, girlfrien and/or wife? I am really trying to become a better woman and would like a mans take. Thank you!!!!...
A. 27 November 2010: First answer, who are you right now? Start with being who you are, the chances are you are already more than good enough if you are even willing to engage in self-improvement. Such is the way of humans in general, constant development.
A woman sh... (read in full...)
Do I keep... or get rid?
Q. Dear Cupid, So im dating this black boy and my parents didn't know about it cause they would kill me if they knew. Well one day my mom wanted to look at my facebook and i knew he had posted comments and things on my wall, so i confessed. well ...
A. 27 November 2010: If you love him, you should keep dating him. Tell your mother that you love him and you cannot just leave him like that. You do what your heart tells you to do and right now I imagine that it is practically begging you not to leave him otherwise you ... (read in full...)
He hasn't texed me or called me since we had sex.
Q. He hasn't texed me or called me since we had sex. Is he over it now that I gave him what he wanted or should I just text him. We were talking about having a relationship but one thing led to another and we had sex. I am just not sure why he hasn't ...
A. 27 November 2010: Give it another two or three days, some people think it only appropriate to text a week after anything happens and whilst that should not be the case here, it is still a possibility.
If he does not text, I am afraid he was only with you for sex,... (read in full...)
Should I leave for me and my son's sake?
Q. Should i leave him? My partner of ten years and who is the father of my son has cheated three times on me.The last time i wanted him to leave but somehow he managed to convince me it wasnt him. However 6 months later he tells me it was.I still f...
A. 27 November 2010: Without another word, take your son, take your things and leave. Go to a family's house or a friend's house or even a hotel if you can afford it until you can find another place to live. Get a divorce.
He will know why you left. Let your son grow... (read in full...)
International Day of Tolerance
Q. I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
A. 26 November 2010: A dear friend of mine is a devout Christian. In school he would pray bravely in public every lunch and break even in front of those who would persecute him for doing so. He always praised Jesus and God and he still is willing to express his love for ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to start thinking about having a family?
Q. It's a pretty new relationship of 5 months. My boyfriend is 5 years younger than me, making me 27 and him, 22 years old. I overcame the "he's younger than me...is it okay" phase. however, I'm facing a new dilemma. I'm going to want to start having ...
A. 26 November 2010: There has to be SOME maturity that dwells in him, otherwise you would not be with him would you? Unless you are attracted to immaturity.
Assuming you have known him for a long time, it is alright to talk to him about this, it may not necessar... (read in full...)
How do I stop her from being such a fool and going back to this abuser who'll obviously hurt her again?
Q. Hi guys... this is a long one but please advise! My 22 year old stepsister got physically abused by her boyfriend yesterday. She's been living with me for 4 months but spend most of those nights sleeping over at his place. She met him 3 months...
A. 26 November 2010: You are her sister. Do not turn away from her just yet. Believe it or not, it is equally as hard for her to let go of him as it is for you to watch this happen to her. Let her go back to him but warn her, make her PROMISE that if he EVER so much as ... (read in full...)
I've fallen head over heels for a woman who is 20 years younger than me!
Q. In Love With a Younger Woman? I am hoping someone might give me sound advice. I have fallen head over heals in love with a woman of 39 who is younger than me by 20 years. I have been a happily married man for 35 years with 4 grown up children...
A. 26 November 2010: Personally I see excellent advice here. You realize it is possible that over the course of 35 years, you heart has become jaded to the monolithic form of impenetrable love you shared with your wife. So when a new woman offered closeness, when she ... (read in full...)
My husband tries to discipline me when I make a mistake!
Q. I've been married for about 4 months now and I'm having a strange problem with my husband: he wants to walk all over me. he's into spanking in the bedroom which I like but he also tries to "discipline" me when I make a mistake. I tried to play along ...
A. 25 November 2010: Do not threaten. ACT instead. This is abuse in its strangest and most sinister form. He wants to hurt you and make you cry. You are not his love, you are his emotional and physical punching bag. If you allow him to hurt you, he will and he will do ... (read in full...)
I just don't love you anymore
Q. I have been married for 18 years. I love my wife more than life itself. We have always had a 'rocky' marriage from the outside however we always made it work and deeply loved each other. this past year everything was great, better than it ever has ...
A. 25 November 2010: It may be an imbalance, spiritual or material. I think the time spent with her parents will be a good thing. It will give her time to think and perhaps she will change her mind. Love cannot just disappear like that but, she may have gotten jaded. I ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to still feel scared of your parents when you've been on your own?
Q. Hi, my bf and I really want a baby - his family are thrilled whereas mine think I'll be throwing my life away if I get pregnant. I'm 20, my partners 21. I'm too scared to start trying because of my parents reaction. My mum said she wouldn't be ...
A. 25 November 2010: Only you know if you are ready and fit to be a parent. Aside from the fact that your parents are against it, what is keeping you from having this child and caring for it? Do YOU think you can manage? In essence, no one else can decide for you and ... (read in full...)
Confused heart
Q. So me and my husband have been together for 2 and a half years. We have a beautiful 17 month old daughter and i am totally in love with him and find myself loving him more and more everyday. Yes we have been thru alot of typical relationship issues ...
A. 25 November 2010: He is just angry. I do not know why, I probably do require it but I know that he is just angry. When people are faced with harsh things, they tend to deal it out like playing cards to everyone so that they can release some anger. He may say the ... (read in full...)
The love of my life doesn't feel it anymore??
Q. Well I met a girl about 26 months ago....she is perfect, we are perfect for each other. We had a perfect 9 month relationship, then she had to move away with her family. We have been doing long distance for more than a year...almost tw...
A. 25 November 2010: This is just a suggestion that sometimes works when I wish to feel something or if I wish to make someone feel a specific thing. You reminisce with her about those deep moments you had and you talk just a little bit about why you loved those ... (read in full...)
He kicked me and I'm scared now I have to be in class with him every day
Q. im 14 and the other day me and my boyfriend (who is also 14) were walkin to school and he was with all his mates and he whistled at my freind and calle her a slag and i said he was a pr*ick and walked off but he grabbed my arm and pushed me over but ...
A. 25 November 2010: That is not love. The moment he even THOUGHT about hurting you, the moment you began to fear him, whatever facade of love you two had crumbled away completely. This is not love.
You may feel that way right now but one day, when you are older, w... (read in full...)
I love her but we have very different opinions on important issues!
Q. I have been dating a girl from a little over a month now. We connected extremely fast at the beginning and things were great for several weeks. As I got to know her, however, I found out things that I'm not sure if I can deal with on a long term ...
A. 24 November 2010: Her opinions on children may change later on in life so I would not worry about that. As for her opinions on religion, is she quite strict in her opinions or does she actually consider other views at the very least? If she considers it, there is no ... (read in full...)
What can I do to cheer up and get some balance in my life?
Q. Hello Everyone. Lately I am feeling very depressed, normally I am a really happy going person, but 2010 hasnt really been my year... This year Ive lost a good friend and his passing has been hard on me My girlfriend cheated, lied, broke...
A. 24 November 2010: This is how we grow. Life tends to shove tests down our throats and expects us to keep breathing. So gasp.
You are not alone in this. There are many people, of all ages, who give their hearts to someone, only to have them torn asunder by careless... (read in full...)
Does this mean deep down I am not happy in my new relationship?
Q. Hi guys, some help would really be appreciated. I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years back in October 2007. It was a very traumatic break up as he had moved abroad and started seeing someone else. He broke up with me by email. For a year my li...
A. 24 November 2010: I think it means you are yearning for closure. After all, he did break up with you by E-mail (which is cowardly if you ask me).
Do you think of your ex when you are out doing things with your current boyfriend? If you do, it is a problem and I th... (read in full...)
I thought we were close and now he's ignoring me!
Q. I've been in a odd situation for the pass 2 months. I finally was able to see a good friend of mine in college. We talked about our lives and what was new. But this got alittle different we both had boyfriends/girlfriends so I didnt act on my ...
A. 23 November 2010: I do not think you would seem clingy if you messaged him about it, you are only worried about him and this relationship. It is quite reasonable and I think he will understand. Ask him how he is, ask him if he would like to spend some time with you ... (read in full...)
He never says he loves me, does this mean he just using me for sex?
Q. I meet a man last year november 2009 .. and from that on we meet each other as a normal girlfriend and boyfriend .. i love him from months pass by i started loving him till now we still together have sex, cooking food together , hangout do some ...
A. 23 November 2010: You two do a lot of things together so I think what he may be feeling is confusion. He may wish to make sure it is love he feels instead of anything less. Be patient. If you are worried, deny him of sex and see how he reacts to that. I highly doubt ... (read in full...)
What now? I am fed up with our relationship the way it is at the moment!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years in January. We have been having a lot of problems since last year started and it become a bit hard to handle. I feel like we're growing apart and that he's becoming more and more comforta...
A. 23 November 2010: Just end this relationship, perhaps not indefinitely, but for the foreseeable future, I think it best to end this. He sounds slightly immature if you ask me and your cousin may be right otherwise, why else would he refrain from saying anything in an ... (read in full...)
I think I have lost my best friend! What should I do?
Q. well here is the story. I had a best friend that i have lost. I met here in the 8th grade,right now i am in 10th grade. in the summer before this year me and her got really close to each other, to the point where i was closer to her then actual ...
A. 23 November 2010: Leave her alone. I do not wish to offend you but in all honesty it sounds as though you have caused her enough trouble already. Just leave her alone for now and let these fresh wounds heal. In a few months I think it will be alright to start a ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend ALWAYS have to have someone with him?
Q. what is really goin on in my relationship? Ok why does everyday my boyfriend wakes up in the morning when he isnt working and go pick his friend up or his uncle and bring them back to the house we never really be together he always got somebody with ...
A. 23 November 2010: Confront him about it and hear his side of it. Although, personally, I would leave him. It is just the impression I got from your description but it seems as though he is purposefully excusing himself from spending time with you. Whether he is ... (read in full...)
Is he only staying with me because he feels sorry for me?
Q. i'm over 8 months pregnant and been in a relationship with the father for 3 years.. hes been so supportive throughout the pregnancy financially but seems to have totally gone off me physically. i mean i dont want sex all the time or anything its not ...
A. 23 November 2010: It might have been the drinks. After all, alcohol increases aggression and when people are aggressive, they will say anything or do anything to practically destroy their object of their hate. They may or may not mean it and you were only the object ... (read in full...)
Why am I cheating with a married man?
Q. What is wrong with me? My boyfriend does everything and anything for me. I don't have to ask for most things. I always said, I wanted a good guy to come in my life and change me but I'm cheating on this good man and I don't understand why. He works ...
A. 23 November 2010: All those reasons are valid reasons but understanding why is not necessary right now. Immediately, the moment you finish reading this, you have to swear to yourself, PROMISE yourself that you will no longer talk to this married man, nor shall you ... (read in full...)
I caught my sister masturbating
Q. I walked into my younger sisters room to get her downstairs for lunch nd i saw her in her bed nude masturbaiting with a gel bottle and i dont know if i should tell mum and dad?...
A. 23 November 2010: There is no need to tell anyone, masturbation is normal and natural. Try not to bring it up. Eventually you will forget it. It isn't a big deal.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
What do you do when you hang out with a guy?
Q. ahhhh what do u do when u n guy hang out? like what things do u talk with him about? please help this is the 1st time im g2 hang out with a guy..n i rly like him :) but i get rly nervous around him n ik he likes..he said he luved me but was like jk ...
A. 23 November 2010: If you do not have anything specific planned you can hang out wherever you want. Whenever I hang out with my friends we tend to walk about wherever we are, perhaps try exploring the neighborhood together. As for conversation, just relax and talk ... (read in full...)
Online guy sent me his photo and now I just want to disappear
Q. I've been talking for four months daily with this man on the Internet. He's really, really nice and understanding. He barely ever showed his picture. Twice and he looked good looking. Today's my birthday and I asked for him to send a photo even if ...
A. 23 November 2010: It has only been 4 months and you two do not really even know one another. If you simply stopped talking to him, he would be confused and possibly quite ashamed if he figures out that it was because of the picture but, I doubt it would hurt him.
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How can I try and push myself to not like women?
Q. I have a question that may sound silly, but how can i try and push myself to not liking women?. I am a female that is bisexual and I have a boyfriend that I am very in love with and we are very serious about each other, but the problem is i've been ...
A. 23 November 2010: Does your boyfriend know you are a bisexual? If he does not, I suggest you tell him, only on the basis that there is honesty and awareness between the two of you.
This is not a problem of sexuality, it is the questionable outcome of a threesom... (read in full...)
Why did it feel weird?
Q. Ok so I'm 14, the boy I like is 15, He asked me out and I thought he was messing around like usual, so I asked him to prove it to me that he loved me... He told me to meet him, so I did we stood around for abit and then walked about 10 meters ...
A. 23 November 2010: I suspect he only told you these things in an effort to use you for his own sexual gain. Do not continue. This is not love, this is not the beginnings of a relationship, this is a hormonally driven boy trying to use you.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I feel dumb
Q. Hi im erica and i have been with my boyfriend for about 4 years we have a little boy whos 2 when we first got together everything was good with us and after like 1 year he started acting wierd he would go out alone and leave me at home i was about 4 ...
A. 23 November 2010: Stop talking to him, stop writing to him, do not let him near you or your children. I am surprised you trusted him for this long. Now, you must know how hollow his promises are. Now go free to find real love, the kind of love that keeps you warm and ... (read in full...)
I've fallen head over heels for a woman who is 20 years younger than me!
Q. In Love With a Younger Woman? I am hoping someone might give me sound advice. I have fallen head over heals in love with a woman of 39 who is younger than me by 20 years. I have been a happily married man for 35 years with 4 grown up children...
A. 23 November 2010: Never assume reasons for her behavior. Your apparent feelings towards her may blind her and drive you to think wrongly of her actions.
Do you truly love your wife? If you do, do not take any action, stop finding excuses to be with this other wo... (read in full...)
Husband's not ready to have a baby but I am!
Q. I'm 29 years old, soon to be 30. Have a great husband (29), we've been married just over a year and together for 4. I have this burning desire to have a baby, have felt this way for about 6 months now but my husband says he's not ready and we both ...
A. 23 November 2010: Technically I do not think anyone is ever ready to have a child. But although Parenthood has its struggles and stressful situations, it remains a blessing. To hold a new born in your arms and hear its shrill laughter or cry, then to watch it grow. ... (read in full...)
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