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writes:im 14 and the other day me and my boyfriend (who is also 14) were walkin to school and he was with all his mates and he whistled at my freind and calle her a slag and i said he was a pr*ick and walked off but he grabbed my arm and pushed me over but i fell and the floor my friend tryed to grab me but he just kicked me and made me bleed i was cryin and cryin hes appolagised but i dont no wat to do im scared and i have to sit in form with im every day :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2010): Honey,you need to leave him. Tell your teachers you cannot sit next to him, and maybe why, and they will move you. You deserve sooo much better!
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reader, Sissy 1992  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 Dont EVER let a guy treat you like that do not let him get to you, show that you are not scared of him... Be strong im praying for you...
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reader, Kimmy Kim's  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 listen the love u have for this guy doesnt exsist he hit u i told u my story and that was hard me too do so i really suggest u to take everyones advice and put it to ur own use we cant make u change ur mind but we can be there for u i dont even know u but ill pray for u and hope for the best i really dont want to here on the news that a girls been killed by her boyfriend cuz then imma feel like its all my fault so plz dont let me think that becuz if i do imma probabily start cutting myself again becuz it made me bring up the abuse ive been in so plz plz for ur life sake
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): my sister had a boyfriend around your age who was at first nice and sweet, then quickly changed the moment he pushed her. he hit her hard when they were fighting. but she stayed withhim. 6 months later they had another fight and she ended up in the hospital with many injuries.
moral of the story: when he hurts you, listen to your head, not your heart.
Abby 15
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reader, Miss.Me +, writes (25 November 2010):
 You love him too much?!! Well he loves HURTING YOU!!! Who pushes someone then kicks them, until they bleed?? They are monsters who do that! You being afraid of him is definitely a sign that you should NOT love this guy. Being young you might like the idea of having a boyfriend, but realize that you dont deserve to be beaten, humiliated, and frightened. Just let this guy go! I'm worried that he'll do something even worse next time. Before class or whenever, tell him you need to talk to him. Let him know that because he hurt you you have chosen its best for you to break up. After that even when you see him in class or any where else, pretend that he doesnt exist. Ignore him. DONT LET HIM HURT YOU AGAIN. You say you love him too much. Why dont you try making a list of what makes you "love" him? I'm sure there wont be anything on that list (I doubt there will be anything at all) that you would risk getting hurt for. You're a girl - you have to be strong and show guys that you wont be disrespected. I still cant believe how evil this guy was!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 November 2010):
 That is not love. The moment he even THOUGHT about hurting you, the moment you began to fear him, whatever facade of love you two had crumbled away completely. This is not love.
You may feel that way right now but one day, when you are older, when your mind has pieced together the way of the world, you will realize how wrong you were to stay with a violent, pretentious little boy like him. Do yourself a favor and stop talking to him, stop telling yourself and all around you that you love him because you don't or rather, you shouldn't. He will only break your heart, along with the rest of you. Just think about why he hurt you, only because you were defending the dignity of a friend. Why shouldn't you? Friends always defend each other and a BOYFRIEND should not have offended anyone like that in the first place. How demeaning and unnecessary. Does a boy like that truly deserve your love? No. You may argue "I can't control how I feel" and that is so very true but, what you CAN do is control how you act upon those feelings. With what he has done, feelings will fade all too easily. Just keep reminding yourself why you ignore him and strive to keep him away from your personal life. From now on, he should only be your classmate and nothing more.
That being said, I think you should tell someone about what he did to you and your friend, it was demeaning and wrong and his under-grown adolescent mind has to have that lesson branded into his thoughts so that every time he looks at anyone, he will remember never to treat them like that again.
I hope that helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): We've given you advice and you've chosen to ignore it. Why ask for advice in the first place? Did you think people would tell you it was acceptable behaviour? It's not.
If you let this go he will do it again. You do not want this kind of abuse in future relationships do you? Because if you think this is acceptable that isn't a good sign.
You may love him but if this is the way he is treating you he does not feel the same. People who love each other do not hurt them intentionally. I just hope you wake up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the support but i love him too much
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): Report him to a teacher or an adult you can trust. Don't let him get away with hurting you.
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reader, Kimmy Kim's +, writes (24 November 2010):
ok well dont let him get away with this because it will get worse. i am also 14 and last year i went out with this boy named trevon and he cheated on me more then once and my friends told me that but i didnt believe them. then when i invite him over to my house he tried to take my pants off and i didnt let him he nearly raped me that day. then when i got a dentention and i told him he punched me but i let it go ya he left a mark on me but i forgot about it. then new years i broke up with him becuz i figured out that the realationship was unhealthy becuz he sexiualy abused me, he physicalily abused me, and he mentalily abused me. i dont want this to happen to anyone else after ive been through it so really dont be sweet on him u need to break up with him u need to tell an adult and get it tooken care of i dont want you to be in the situation i was in so please take my advise cuz i dont want to see anyone get hurt.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2010): I know this is going to sound really blunt but the truth is that you should break up with him. Violence of any kind is wrong and he is clearly verbally abusive as well (what he said to your friend). He doesn't deserve a second chance even if he did apologise. He doesn't seem to have any respect for you and you deserve better than that. You shouldn't have to put up with this. I understand that you are afraid so if you do take my advice and break up with him for good, approach him with a few friends for moral support and in case you need someone to help you. Good luck, sweetheart!
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reader, raiders +, writes (24 November 2010):
 report him, do not take this abuse, tell your mother, or school principle, or go to the police but do not let him get away with thinking that it was ok for him to hit you.
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reader, alice0110 +, writes (24 November 2010):
he was just trying to act 'cool' around his friends although he needs to learn that thats no way to treat a girl. you should sit down with him and talk because it sounds like hes different around you compared to how he is with his friends and thats not right
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