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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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Is it wrong to sleep with someone on the first night?
Q. Is it a mistake to sleep with someone on the first night? Even if you've been friends for years? We had sex on the first night, and I really like him. He's still here even though we had sex. He tells me he misses throughout the day, and that he ...
A. 1 December 2010: You were lucky. He is not leaving after sex, in fact, it seems as though his behavior has changed for the better if he is willing to tell you how much he likes you. This does not happen a whole lot. Most guys will ignore a girl after they have sex ... (read in full...)
I slept with my friend's husband and I don't want to lose her friendship!
Q. I am currently separated from my husband. He asked for an open marriage in order to pursue his secretary. I said no and he left several months ago. I have a friend. I asked her to set me up with someone she knows. I was expecting her to...
A. 1 December 2010: You have to tell her. It is better she finds out from you, her friend, than if she found out from someone else or from her ex in the heat of an argument. Just explain what happened and tell her that it is not something you were actually pursuing ... (read in full...)
Everyone rejects the idea of us being together!
Q. im 21 I love the most beautiful girl on the earth ...shes 20, shes my everything, i cant live without her, and everytime i see her , we cant talk nor look at each other or even say hi or hug, nothing, and it kills me to death, as if im being ...
A. 1 December 2010: Just be together! You are obviously very much in love with this girl so just be together. It does not matter what anyone thinks or says. They have no right to judge whether or not this is relationship should be allowed to happen. I see nothing wrong ... (read in full...)
My best friend has cut me out of his life and I am heartbroken! What do I do?
Q. Ok to cut a long story short, me and my friend have been very close for 3 years, there has been laughter/heartbreak/anger/passion everything, I fell for him and he didn't feel the same so he stopped talking to me because he didn't want to hurt me, ...
A. 1 December 2010: It sounds as though he is jealous of your new boyfriend. He may not have felt anything for you when you confessed that you were falling for him but, I think he might actually feel something now and the fact that you have a boyfriend angers him ... (read in full...)
I do love him a lot but am I a mug?
Q. This is a long story lol.. Me and my boyfriend have been together for five years ( 6 Month break between) we have a 2 yr old daughter also. Anyways at first he was perfect but after aa while of him smoking drugs I ended with him an found someone kn...
A. 1 December 2010: You end this. He is not healthy for you in any way, constantly feeding you lies and greedily taking what he wants. Taking Christmas money meant for your daughter would have and SHOULD have been enough. You have clearly spent a lot of effort, trying ... (read in full...)
Is it fair to request that he deletes his ex-girlfriend's phone number?
Q. My fiancee has an ex that he shares a long history with. They were off and on for years and he cheated on one of his girlfriends twice with her as well. It was about 5 years ago, and the girl he cheated on was crazy and he wasn't in love with her. ...
A. 30 November 2010: There definitely should be honesty between you, especially if you are intent on marrying.
It is reasonable to be a little worried, especially if he was willing to cheat. It does not matter how serious that previous relationship was. But focus on... (read in full...)
Unexpected father of a lesbian daughter. How do I deal with this?
Q. I am a 28-year-old single, straight, male, who is now a stay at home dad to a 14 year old girl, my niece, who was left with me when my sister and brother-in-law died 2 months ago in a car accident. The first month was definitely awkward as I have ...
A. 30 November 2010: Treat her as you would if she was not a lesbian. What difference does it make if she is attracted to other members of her own gender?
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Is it right to have sex with my girlfriend?
Q. Im 17 years old male!my girlfriend live in my country but im studying in Canada.i wanna have sex with my girlfriend in this year when i wanna go back to my country but my girlfriend is virgin and I dont know that is it right to have sex with her or ...
A. 30 November 2010: I do not know what the legal age is in Canada but nonetheless, assuming you are over it, Do not act on this urge unless you are both absolutely ready. She is a virgin and she has to willingly give this to you, so whatever you feel, be sure that it ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to break his heart, I'm the only person he trusts!
Q. i've been going out with my boyfriend for 6 months, he is madly in love with me but i just have never felt the spark in the relationship. its a secret from my parents and is just too hard trying to find ways around them and im sick of disappointing ...
A. 30 November 2010: It has to be done and in situations like this, I am afraid there is nothing you can do to avoid hurting him somehow. But honesty and gentleness is the lesser of two evils. Sit him down and talk to him about this. He will be hurt but he should at ... (read in full...)
Bonding with my partner's 3 year old son?
Q. I've been seeing this woman, whom has a 3 year old son. I invited her to have a nice pic-nic at a park with her in attempt to bond with him a little. How ever I'm not quite sure what would be some good games for us to play with him, let alone f...
A. 30 November 2010: Whatever you do, as long as you try, I am sure that her 3 year old will enjoy it. Children at that age are almost too easily amused with anything and everything around them.
I assume the child will constantly ask questions. Indulge it and see ... (read in full...)
Romeo and Juliet was just a step on my ladder.
Q. I have come looking for help and advice. I need it desperately. This is my story. When I was 15 I started going out with a girl who we will call lucy (not her real name). I had had a few girlfriends before her that lasted around 8-10 months (...
A. 30 November 2010: From what you have said, the solution is clear. Whatever her reasons may be, whatever has been said or done, the only real answer to this is: Give her time and space to clear her head. Let her know what she wants and in time, you may continue let ... (read in full...)
Who do I go to?
Q. Should i go back and be with my son father or be with this other guy? now i been with my son father for 3yrs and the reason for our beak up is that he was not being the man i needed him to be for me,,and he always told me i dnt give him a chance to ...
A. 30 November 2010: Give your son's father another chance. I think it will work but warn him that this is his last chance. He cannot keep taking you for granted. You said you love him and you already have a child with him. What you have with this other man is not love ... (read in full...)
He's got all these girls falling at his feet, should I admit how I feel?
Q. Hello, i just need some advice. So basically my best guy friend and I have been close for about 9 years. We both study at different universities, so we don’t get to see each other much but since he’s come back I really don’t know what to do. Over...
A. 30 November 2010: Has he ever accepted any of those other girls? If not, he could just be waiting for you. Either way, I think it is good that you tell him how you feel.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
24 reasons of why I should break up with him?
Q. Ok so I've listed the things my ex has done during our 6 month relationship. What would others say/do in response to this kind of behaviour? 1. Leaving me outside in the cold waiting for him while he continued to drink with mates and ignore me...
A. 30 November 2010: Accept what has happened, do not bother expecting any form of contact from him, do not bother contacting him. He is out of your life, it might as well stay that way.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Why is it so bad someone my age has sex?
Q. Hi, I was thinking today, why is it so bad someone my age has sex? I assure you I haven't but I was talking to my mom and she said as long as you are responsible(using multiple forms of birth control) and had sex with someone you trusted and knew ...
A. 30 November 2010: There is a clique in my little sister's class (11-12 year olds) who literally think that drinking makes them cool. It is that kind of immaturity that leaves them all in a constant state of emotional ignorance. What will/do they think about sex? They ... (read in full...)
Confused about all his "I loves you"..something just isn't right here!
Q. Basically I started dating this guy about 4 months ago offically. We were talking alot before he asked me. At first i wasnt really into him but i liked talking to him alot sometimes. I really felt he was more into me than i was into him and id blow ...
A. 30 November 2010: Is this his first serious relationship? If it was, I think he was brave enough to tell you that he loves you because he expected the worst (Just a guess drawn from the fact that he is shy and seems somewhat timid which could be because of low ... (read in full...)
Why is this guy so mean to me?
Q. I'm in a tennis class with him and every time I do something, he criticizes me. I barely even talk to him! I don't even GLANCE in his direction. I'd walk around with my tennis racket, he'd call me a loser. I'd hug my friend and he'd call me gay. I'd ...
A. 30 November 2010: Just ignore him. I am not sure what he is trying to do exactly but I know that he is doing it for attention. Just carry on enjoying tennis and eventually this guy will go away.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Romeo and Juliet was just a step on my ladder.
Q. I have come looking for help and advice. I need it desperately. This is my story. When I was 15 I started going out with a girl who we will call lucy (not her real name). I had had a few girlfriends before her that lasted around 8-10 months (...
A. 30 November 2010: Why did she break up with you?
You broke up for a reason and there is little you can do anymore, other than being her friend I suppose. But that really depends on why she broke up with you.
You say you love her but in time your heart will ... (read in full...)
How do I soften that I don't want to be in relationship?
Q. Dear readers, what if one day a guy you have a good feeling for him comes and confesses that he likes you what would you do? In case if the relationship can't be happened what should I say? If I say " I have a good feeling for you too but I don't ...
A. 29 November 2010: What you typed is probably as gentle as it gets. I am sure he will understand, if he doesn't, he probably is not ready for a relationship anyway.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of the responsibility that comes with turning 18!
Q. I am 17 years old but I am scared of turning 18 because i feel like i will "officially" be legal and thats just too much. Not just the whole sex thing but the responsibilities that come with it. Any advice?...
A. 29 November 2010: I am around your age, I have a job, I am helping to provide for my mother and my sisters and I still need to act on my plans for my education. It sounds like a lot but it is a lot easier than it sounds. As you progress through life, a lot of things ... (read in full...)
Good or bad idea to get ex girlfriend a present?
Q. Getting an ex girlfriend a christmas present, is that a good thing or is it a bad thing? I was just curious about other peoples opinion. ...
A. 29 November 2010: That depends on what your relationship status is currently. If you have a girlfriend, be cautious because she might see that sort of action as a threatening attachment. If you are currently single, I do not see any reason why you cannot give her a ... (read in full...)
Did my past put him off? Or should I give him more time?
Q. I am in-love with this guy, I know he is the one for me. I told him that I was abused as a child, he was very angry at the person who hurt me, and then I didn't hear from him for days. I understand that it is a big thing to come to terms with so I ...
A. 29 November 2010: I think he might still need time. Some people do not know how to deal with this sort of information and they panic because they are not sure of how to react. Do not worry yourself though, he could have been busy at the time you greeted him online. ... (read in full...)
Is sweet & innocent going to be a problem here?
Q. I'd love some advice from guys and girls about keeping my more experienced boyfriend interested in me sexually. We're the same age, and have both been in long-term relationships before, having been single for around a year before getting together ...
A. 29 November 2010: Sweet and innocent to an extent. At the right amount, sweet and innocent can be a huge turn on but if you are too sweet and innocent, it may put him off a little. It will feel as though he is tainting something a little too pure and it will feel ... (read in full...)
Meeting his friends for the first time
Q. Hey readers, I'm going to a party with my new bf in a few days-it's his friend's birthday, and all his friends will be there. Some of them are girls, and I know two of them are really beautiful, and that he used to date another of them years ago. ...
A. 29 November 2010: Your boyfriend should know these people. He should be able to figure out how they woudl react, if he is confident enough to introduce you to them, I am sure he knows that everything will be alright. You need to relax. You are only meeting people, ... (read in full...)
A bit infatuated with my stalker
Q. I have made an unbelievably bad decision. This might be a little long, so thank you in advance for reading. I have no one to turn to, not because i don't have anyone but because i do not think anyone would understand. Ill start at the beginning...
A. 29 November 2010: I am caught between suggesting you get a restraining order and suggesting you talk him through this and eventually help him rid himself of this. Are you absolutely sure that he is a sufferer of OCD? Are you sure this is what led him to stalk you ... (read in full...)
She tells me I'm too good for her
Q. This girl that I met and have seen off and on for about the last 3 years says I'm too good for her. I'll try to give the shortest posstible version of this story. It started off when this girl and I met, hung out for about 3 months and reall...
A. 29 November 2010: She was in an abusive relationship before you so that could be why she feels as though you are too good for her. Some abusive relationships leave the victim questioning their own self-worth. They wonder whether anyone would ever want them or if they ... (read in full...)
She tells me I'm too good for her
Q. This girl that I met and have seen off and on for about the last 3 years says I'm too good for her. I'll try to give the shortest posstible version of this story. It started off when this girl and I met, hung out for about 3 months and reall...
A. 29 November 2010: She was in an abusive relationship before you so that could be why she feels as though you are too good for her. Some abusive relationships leave the victim questioning their own self-worth. They wonder whether anyone would ever want them or if they ... (read in full...)
Married man wants me to move into his house with his wife and kids and his wife is ok with it??
Q. i am 17 and i and this marrierd man are in love i mean he loved me and was regretig why he had married but i definitely know that this love won't lead to anywhere. he also understands that it won't lead to anywhere but he swear to take me as his ...
A. 29 November 2010: This sounds as though it can only end terribly for all sides. It does not matter what he swears on, people tend not to take such things as seriously anymore. He will break his promise, he will hurt his family and he will hurt you.
Forget your fee... (read in full...)
Domestic Violence- The Necklace
Q. So this is my story of surviving domestic violence. When people say that phrase they pre-judge i bet your thinking i'm in my late 30's/ 40's had a history of violence from my childhood? Maybe live in a poor area? Well your wrong, i'm 23, it happened ...
A. 29 November 2010: That was a wise thing you did. I hope all other women find that same strength to leave abusive relationships. I do find it strange though, it is almost like a more grotesque case of Stockholme Syndrome with most abusive relationships. The abuser ... (read in full...)
Husband doesn't like being with me in Public
Q. I'm 38 and married to a younger man. He and I have great chemistry at home (awesome, in fact) but he completely withdraws and doesn't want to be with me in public. I love to dance and he will not dance with me in public although he will dance with ...
A. 29 November 2010: He has already revealed his true intentions. He is only with you for a Green card. To me, the fact that he is reluctant to be seen with you in public is quite disturbing, considering the fact that you are his wife, and the fact that he has cheated ... (read in full...)
I'm really shocked at something my friend did and I don't know how to talk to her about it
Q. I have had this friend since I was a toddler. I really care about her but something has happened. You see, she did something with this other guy which quite frankly I am shocked about. I can't believe she would do such a thing. And just to top it ...
A. 29 November 2010: It depends on what she did and why. Still, if you are truly worried about drifting apart, you could always talk to her about it. If you two really are/were as close as you say then, she will understand where your worries stem from. You are a friend ... (read in full...)
Not sure if my husband truly loves me...
Q. Hey guys, how are you all? I'm good! I'm 18 years old and I'm married. My husband just turned 20. We've been together for almost a year but here lately I feel so alone, like I'm by myself. I feel like I can't seem to do anything right or good ...
A. 28 November 2010: How long have you known him? Is he quite busy all the time? In my honest opinion, it seems as though you married him far too early in the relationship.
Already your marriage is crumbling upon a brittle foundation. The moment you felt you could ne... (read in full...)
He cheated with his ex, and now we're both pregnant by him!
Q. ok im 18 and ive been seeing this boy named ronnie for 7 months may11th to november 11th and i thought he was the one and him and his siter and her 4 kids live with his ex and i trust him so it wasent a big deal it woulod have been way better then ...
A. 28 November 2010: Leave him and stop contacting him. No good can come from anything with this man. What you choose to do with this child, I do wish you the best of luck. If you are financially stable, if you are confident about this, you can still take care of the ... (read in full...)
I think it's time to divorce my high school sweetheart!
Q. I married my high school sweet heart. We have 3 young children. It wasn't easy for us to be together and I risked a lot to stay with him. He was an incredible young man, so loving, so naive and yet I felt so taken care of in his company. I adored ...
A. 28 November 2010: What does he lie about? Ask him why he feels he has to lie to you when he used to feel so comfortable with being honest. It would be a shame to separate this family, especially after you two have spent so long together.
How long ago did he start... (read in full...)
Jekyll when sober, Hyde when drunk. Which is his true side?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for around 8 months now and I really like him, ALOT. But when he gets drunk he is soooo mean to me for no reason and when sober he is the nicest person I have ever met.. so I guess I am wondering what side of him is the ...
A. 28 November 2010: Drunkenness is not as truthful as one would think. Maybe he should stop drinking, otherwise, I suggest you stay away from him when he does drink so that it does not harm your relationship because, if it goes on like this, he may end up saying ... (read in full...)
Jekyll when sober, Hyde when drunk. Which is his true side?
Q. I've been dating my boyfriend for around 8 months now and I really like him, ALOT. But when he gets drunk he is soooo mean to me for no reason and when sober he is the nicest person I have ever met.. so I guess I am wondering what side of him is the ...
A. 28 November 2010: Drunkenness is not as truthful as one would think. Maybe he should stop drinking, otherwise, I suggest you stay away from him when he does drink so that it does not harm your relationship because, if it goes on like this, he may end up saying ... (read in full...)
Do men ever regret NOT being in their child's life?
Q. Hey i just wondering, do men regret not being in their child's life... like they know they have one or do they have to see the child before they regret not being there or do they just not give a damn? and before anyone says I stopped him seei...
A. 28 November 2010: That depends. Some men are vile in all forms.
My own father left me with my three siblings and my mother. He went off to start another family. I now have half brothers and half sisters whom I have never met.
He does not seem to regret it. There... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with a different man each week but I don't want to be this person... help!
Q. Dear all, I'm not too sure where to start but I don't know what to do and I really need some advice. I split up with my boyfriend (we'd been together for over 7 years) in january and since then i have been doing things that really aren't me. ...
A. 28 November 2010: Stop drinking, stop having sex. If you want change, here is your chance to make it. The moment you wrote this, you began to realize that something was deeply wrong with this and THAT is the first step to change.
Every night, instead of going ou... (read in full...)
Family member hates my boyfriend, what do I do? I don't want to lose him.
Q. Me and my partner have been going out for almost a year now and one particular family member of mines does not want us to be together cuz she said he is a bad person but he never treats me bad... despite that we live far from each other but i love ...
A. 28 November 2010: It is one family member? What does it matter? You are dating him, not her. Listen to her though, why does she not like him? If her reasons are reasonable, I would consider them but if not, it does not matter what she says. This is your relationship ... (read in full...)
International Day of Tolerance
Q. I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
A. 28 November 2010: Moon river- Religion has bred blind contempt for others for thousands of years but, there have always been the good and the wise who follow none but the purest. That brings into view, a small but ever so powerful glint of hope that followers can ... (read in full...)
I feel so lost after losing this baby...
Q. Me and my husband have together for 5 years and have been married for 3... We got pregnant about 9 months ago but i lost the baby and didint tell him because he said he would leave me... I dont know what to do because he is going to tell everyone i ...
A. 28 November 2010: This man does not deserve to be a father nor a husband. This sort of tragedy tends to bring with it a test of character and your husband failed miserably. He should be there for you, grieving with you, doing anything to help you so you can both move ... (read in full...)
International Day of Tolerance
Q. I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
A. 27 November 2010: I think religion was essentially formed to unite people. Body and soul. It is not religion itself that divides but the oblivious followers who blindly follow other corrupted followers. Spirituality does not always come into conflict with religion. ... (read in full...)
International Day of Tolerance
Q. I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
A. 26 November 2010: A dear friend of mine is a devout Christian. In school he would pray bravely in public every lunch and break even in front of those who would persecute him for doing so. He always praised Jesus and God and he still is willing to express his love for ... (read in full...)
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