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| | *erberus_Raphael's profile:I see love everywhere and I see it as a chance for peace. With love, there is a happiness because real, strong love, is a truly benevolent emotion. The archangel Raphael is god's healing. Through God, do I find inspiration to at least try my best to guide others to the peace they seek. I turned to god when I had no where else to go and I found something I could trust in and believe in when I felt cold hearted and angry, the very same way people feel when they trust in the ones they truly love.
If anyone is wondering, the very symbolic nature of Cerberus is important to me. It signifies a time in my life was my liberator and destroyer, I was pushed to the brink of sanity and pulled back, all because of a complicated form of love. But it made me stronger and wiser and now I seek to spare the broken the same physical and emotional pain I felt once before. I was an awful, intolerable, intolerant, heartless and destructive young man before I found a form of peace. As much as I want to help those in need, as much as I like to think that what I say may bring a smile or hope to one's life, I need to remember that what I do here is for my own sense of redemption.
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16 November 2010: I am sure there are some who know what day the 16th of November is, and I am also sure that there are some who don't. The 16th of November was declared the 'International Day of Tolerance' and its purpose is to spread peace amongst all races and ...
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It is so close to our wedding but we both have doubts! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was in love with a guy.We are in relationship since 2yrs now.We decided to get married.He used to do all lovely things to me.Very caring,Affectinate,Not at all aggressive and all.Everything was so smooth and going pretty well. Suddenly ...
A. 18 November 2010: Tell the parents to stop. You wish to postpone the wedding. It is best if both of you go and talk to your parents, make it clear that neither of you are ready to get married until you sort all of the issues out. They may deny you of this and they ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him my feelings and risk ruining a good thing? Or should I stick with "if you love someone let them go"?
Q. I have recentley reconnected with an old flame. The last time we saw each other we were intimate but I was in a relationship at the time, so we never kept in touch. It is now 10 years later and last week we disovered that we live down the road fr...
A. 15 November 2010: No doubt about it at all. If I found the right person, my plans would shift greatly to suit me and the right person.
I still think you should tell him even if you are unsure. It is always good to let someone know how you feel about them.
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I'm a Christian, he's a Muslim and I don't think this is going to work!
Q. Someone please help me! I've just found out that my Internet romance, who I have fancied for about 4 months now and think he's amazing, is a Muslim! I'm a strong Christian in a very strong Christian family. I don't know what to to I love him to b...
A. 14 November 2010: Just so everyone understands, I did not mean to offend anyone by what I said or what I will say, I am merely offering my perspective and my opinions on this matter.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I'm a Christian, he's a Muslim and I don't think this is going to work!
Q. Someone please help me! I've just found out that my Internet romance, who I have fancied for about 4 months now and think he's amazing, is a Muslim! I'm a strong Christian in a very strong Christian family. I don't know what to to I love him to b...
A. 14 November 2010: When a Christian prays to God and speaks of Jesus, does that Christian think that the Jews and the Muslims are sinfully parading around? No. The Jews and the Muslims too, show appreciation and respect for God and for Jesus and for all around them. ... (read in full...)
He says I'm "perfect". Should I be flattered or is it going too fast?
Q. I split from my boyfriend 8months ago due to cheating and lying. So ever since i've been pretty cautious with guys, as i dont want to go through that again. Two weeks ago I went to watch the rugby at a bar and when the match finished, a guy approach...
A. 14 November 2010: It depends on you? Are you comfortable with his hints? Perhaps he was seeking a relationship all along. He surely was not trying to offend you in anyway so all evidence points to him feeling that this may be the beginning of something worth while. ... (read in full...)
I feel like a freak of nature!
Q. First I have to inform you all on the story, before my question makes some sense. Okay...Teens/young adults my age usually, already have sex or have sudden urges to do the said act. But...I find myself not feeling those urges, and frankly I don't ...
A. 14 November 2010: It is normal. There are more people than you realize who view things precisely the way you do. You are not a freak and it may have been unwise for some of them to have lost it already.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
I'm a Christian, he's a Muslim and I don't think this is going to work!
Q. Someone please help me! I've just found out that my Internet romance, who I have fancied for about 4 months now and think he's amazing, is a Muslim! I'm a strong Christian in a very strong Christian family. I don't know what to to I love him to b...
A. 14 November 2010: No one has to completely give up anything but if they both love each other, they both must meet each other halfway. It is not impossible. I know of a couple just like this girl. It is not theory, but potent possibility. Yes I am aware of the ... (read in full...)
Got quotes?
Q. got good quotes ? any kind . love , life , dark , light . you name it . I need some good ones for my class . lol . help me out . post one or more(: thanks ....
A. 14 November 2010: "It does not matter how slowly you go, so long as you do not stop" - Confucius
"A Man's character is his fate" - Heraclitus
“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall” - Confucius
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
She fell out of love with me! What did I do wrong?
Q. Ok so I'm 20 and she's 18, gonna be 19. When we met, I was 19, pretty confident, waned to go places and do things. She was still in High school, 18 years old in December.. Pretty much we met each other randomly. I'd not lost my vigrginity till a ...
A. 14 November 2010: It sounds like depression. I think she may need professional help. Get through this with her, even though she may act as though she does not want you right now, inside she might still feel something strong. Just be there for her as a friend from now ... (read in full...)
I'm a Christian, he's a Muslim and I don't think this is going to work!
Q. Someone please help me! I've just found out that my Internet romance, who I have fancied for about 4 months now and think he's amazing, is a Muslim! I'm a strong Christian in a very strong Christian family. I don't know what to to I love him to b...
A. 14 November 2010: If the love you feel is real, nothing should get in the way of you two being together. Both religions were born of peaceful teachings. Even Jesus himself accepted all no matter what race or creed. Somewhere in time, words were forged and forced into ... (read in full...)
Gf forcing me to get maried and have kids but I don't want to go too fast
Q. I have been in a relationship with a girl for the past 5 years and so and we have never had sex.now my girlfriend says she wants to have sex as all her friends have already done it more than once.i said that she might get accidentally pregnant .so ...
A. 13 November 2010: So just tell her that you wish to progress slowly. Let her know that whilst you do intend to marry her (assuming you do), you have to ensure that your future together will not be hindered by problems that can still be prevented now.
I hope tha... (read in full...)
Does he like me for me or the sexual attraction?
Q. I need opinions, but please don't be rude or too judgmental. I realize I need help; that is why I'm reaching out for it. There is this guy I grew up with; we were always very close and I always felt like he was the best part of my life growing up. ...
A. 13 November 2010: It may sound far-fetched but I think he wants to lose it to you BECAUSE of your close friendship. You are someone special to him, perhaps he sees his virginity as something so precious that losing it to you would mean more than anything to him. ... (read in full...)
Lost: Soulmate, reward if found.
Q. I became involved with a woman seperated from her husband. She was asked for a divorce from her husband and he told her to move on. She met me shortly after and we fell in love. We talked about marriage, having a family together, bought rings for ...
A. 13 November 2010: Well only the OP could possibly know whether or not she is the type of woman to use her own daughter as an excuse. Do you truly think this has absolutely NOTHING to do with her daughter? Have you ever had parents divorce each other and live ... (read in full...)
Help getting over my first love?
Q. Hey, so I'm 15. I've decided to break up with my boyfriend. We've been going out for 11 months, and we both care about each other alot, but things have changed, and we don't make each other as happy as we used to. I'm in high school, and high school ...
A. 13 November 2010: In my honest opinion, I really do not think you should break up with him simply because things have died down all of a sudden. You still care about each other and clearly there are still deep feelings between you. Every relationship has its great ... (read in full...)
I'm disturbed by the fact that my girlfriend had a lot of sexual partners before me
Q. Hi, I am a 22 year old male and I'm currently with my girlfriend of 4 months. She is 18 years old. We have been having regular sex since we were together, and I love her very much. In fact, I love her more than anyone I've ever been with. Unti...
A. 13 November 2010: You can still be her one and only. The one and only person who loved her as strongly and as joyously. You can still be the one that means more to her than anyone else. What difference does her physical past make if together, what you feel now is ... (read in full...)
They say we won't last, but I have faith in this relationship!
Q. so me and my beau have been dating for a while(; he makes me sooooooo happy . I always feel hyper after I hugg him or even talk to him . I want to tell him something really sweet . I've thought of a few things , butt they don't apply to us . we are ...
A. 13 November 2010: Just ignore them. They could not possibly know. They take pleasure in seeing you lose faith but you should not let them succeed. What they say should be of little consequence as their words and their knowledge have no merit.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
They say we won't last, but I have faith in this relationship!
Q. so me and my beau have been dating for a while(; he makes me sooooooo happy . I always feel hyper after I hugg him or even talk to him . I want to tell him something really sweet . I've thought of a few things , butt they don't apply to us . we are ...
A. 13 November 2010: I doubt anyone really knows how you both feel in this relationship, how could they possibly know whether or not you two will last? Do not listen to them, all that matters is how you feel with him and no words nor sneers should sway your heart.
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Lost: Soulmate, reward if found.
Q. I became involved with a woman seperated from her husband. She was asked for a divorce from her husband and he told her to move on. She met me shortly after and we fell in love. We talked about marriage, having a family together, bought rings for ...
A. 13 November 2010: You need to give her time. I imagine if anything she said was true, she is weeping every night thinking about what she is doing but she knows she has to for the sake of her daughter. Her child comes first and she knows that and YOU must know that.
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How should I ask my bf about the money he owes me?
Q. What should I do?? please help? my boyfriends sister wanted him to buy her make up..so he asked me to come to the shop with him..i went. he was waiting for his sister to send him the money so he could pay for the make up..it was taken quite l...
A. 12 November 2010: Just ask him if it is possible for his sister to pay you back anytime soon, you do not mean to pester him about it but you are in need of the money. It is simple, he should not get upset about it.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Should I tell him my feelings and risk ruining a good thing? Or should I stick with "if you love someone let them go"?
Q. I have recentley reconnected with an old flame. The last time we saw each other we were intimate but I was in a relationship at the time, so we never kept in touch. It is now 10 years later and last week we disovered that we live down the road fr...
A. 12 November 2010: Tell him how you feel about him. You are not risking anything. This good thing does not have to be ruined, if he does not feel the same way, you can move on. If you love someone, you only let them go if they know how you feel but they do not feel ... (read in full...)
Can he forget what happened?
Q. I was partying with common friend of mine and my boyfriend.I got late so stayed at his place.But he started kissing me.I pushed him away and i didn't do anything.But he was trying to kiss me that i couldn't resist and i kissed him back for a very ...
A. 12 November 2010: If it is guilt that burdens you, I suggest that you continue loving your boyfriend. Show him how much you love him and when you prove to yourself that you can love him completely, he will see it too and he will trust you again.
When you kiss him... (read in full...)
It is so close to our wedding but we both have doubts! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I was in love with a guy.We are in relationship since 2yrs now.We decided to get married.He used to do all lovely things to me.Very caring,Affectinate,Not at all aggressive and all.Everything was so smooth and going pretty well. Suddenly ...
A. 12 November 2010: Is it possible for you to postpone the wedding for now? Talk to each other about it. Does he still want her? Tell him that he should not marry you if he still wants her because you want him to love you because he wishes to, not because everyone ... (read in full...)
Is there any end to our sufferings?
Q. Hi there.. I am a 19 yrs old girl. I need your help and prayers. I need your time. Plz help me. I am surrounded with so many problems that i've forgotten myself. My mother died when i was small. After that, we are suffering continunusly. My father...
A. 12 November 2010: I pray that god watches over you. I am sorry that I cannot be of any more help.
I must urge you, do not lose hope. Anything is possible as long as you keep striving for happiness. This is not the end. You will smile in the end. You will be happy... (read in full...)
My ex tried to use me........
Q. My ex tried to use me,i hadnt heard from him for 4 years,but 3 weeks ago i had a message from him,i had a coffee with him,then he trys it on,i refused and said its best to stay friends,i spoke to him a few days ago through email and asked him what ...
A. 12 November 2010: Not all men are like this. He is one of the foolish, one of the shameless. A lot of men respect women and seek nothing but love. NOTHING but love. On this very website there are posts by men complaining that no matter how nice they are, no matter ... (read in full...)
I get anxious when I talk to my boyfriend and have a hard time trusting him
Q. I'm getting anxious feelings every time I speak to/think about my boyfriend? A good example to give is this one that's happening right now. I'm on the phone to him, and I'm so happy that I'm talking to him as we've just come back from a holiday...
A. 12 November 2010: Why does he not take you out to other places that do not consist of sexually ravenous men. Did his friend not report against those Congolese men? I am pretty sure that being forced to get fingered counts as sexual assault. Why does he even surround ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to kiss him!
Q. anyone answer (mostly guys) !!!! so , me and my boyfriend have been dating a while now ... I want to kiss him butt I'm scared . he's like 4-5 inches shorter than me , and he's really hyper ... ALL THE TIME . I want to let him know I love him and I ...
A. 12 November 2010: You could do one of two things. Tell him you wish to speak to him alone and kiss him, OR, the very next time you see him, wrap your arms around him and kiss him. Do not mind the energy and do not mind the height. Just kiss him and tell him you love ... (read in full...)
I think my marriage is dead.
Q. I'm a 46 year old woman in a 24-year-old loveless marriage. I should say it's loveless on my side only. My husband loves me dearly and would do anything for me. But I don't love him anymore. I tried to leave him a year ago, but lost my nerve and got ...
A. 12 November 2010: You stopped feeling love and yet you still show care. It will hurt but you have to leave him. You are already hurting him by remaining in a marriage you have no interest in. When he shows love towards you, you cannot reciprocate and when he tells ... (read in full...)
When I see a guy flirting with my girlfriend I want to punch him!
Q. I absolutly 100% until infinity and beyond love my best friend she means the world to me and I want to tell her but dont want to mess up our relationship every time I see a guy flirting with her I want to punch him right in the face! I try to talk ...
A. 12 November 2010: YES! You should absolutely tell her! It does not need to ruin your friendship, if she does not feel the same way you can simply carry on as if you never told her. Just be honest with her!
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
She loves me, she hates me, I'm confused!
Q. There is a girl at my school who I like alot. She hates me alot. She rides the same bus as me. She always sits on my lap for the bus ride even if there are empty seats on the bus. If she falls asleep her head is in my neck. When we get to school she ...
A. 12 November 2010: Does she know you like her? Maybe if you told her it would change things. She definitely feels comfortable enough around you so either she really likes you as a friend or she really likes you the way you like her and she is angry that you do not ... (read in full...)
Do guys like it when girls ask them out?
Q. Me and this guy have hung out a few times. We made out after a night a drinking. ( we have hung out after ) I like him, I feel he likes me too. I made a comment how I would never go for a guy I work with, but would break the rule for him. Should I ...
A. 12 November 2010: Personally I would not mind if a girl asked me out. In the end it does not matter who asks who if both people are going to end up in the same place anyway.
Go ahead and ask him if you feel that he reciprocates those feelings.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
Should I pay my mom back?
Q. Hey. I need some advice. Ok. So I get food stamps 200 to help out. I'm 19 and @ the time I was job less. So before I got my food stamps my mom was payin my phone bill ( 98.00 ) and she told me to sign up for food stamps, so she can save som...
A. 12 November 2010: Your mother has been very generous already, why should you not pay her back? You need to seriously look for another job in order to maintain a stable amount of income. If you have anything of value that you do not need anymore, I suggest you sell it ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend cries every night on the phone
Q. i have a girlfreind of 3 years and every night she crys on the phone. i have to ask her what wrong she doesnt tell me. she then goes on to be very nasty to me what can i do.. i feel i need to help but im so so emotionaly drained. i have tried ...
A. 12 November 2010: Just be honest with her. Tell her that it is emotionally and physically exhausting for you to be her emotional stress toy. Tell her that you are there for her and you are willing to help her but she has to let you know what sort of issue hounds her ... (read in full...)
What is the deal with my ex? Why does he keep tossing me around like this?
Q. I had my first boyfriend this summer. We were together for two months and then he dumped me. A lot of people say it isn't such a big deal or what not, but I still had all these feelings for him. It took me a long time to get over him. And it seemed ...
A. 12 November 2010: It is strange that he would invite you to dinner after this. He does seem to want your friendship though and I think he picked up on your hinting that everything was not alright and you did not really wish to have anything to do with him. Maybe that ... (read in full...)
I'm disturbed by the fact that my girlfriend had a lot of sexual partners before me
Q. Hi, I am a 22 year old male and I'm currently with my girlfriend of 4 months. She is 18 years old. We have been having regular sex since we were together, and I love her very much. In fact, I love her more than anyone I've ever been with. Unti...
A. 12 November 2010: Everything that happened in the past made her the woman you love and she is with you now. Appreciate that. She is a new woman with you.
I think Odds explained it all perfectly. But I strongly suggest trying to overcome this before you think of... (read in full...)
Why are his parents being so extreme?
Q. I have a problem that is becoming too much for me to handle. I'm dating a boy a year and couple months younger than me, i'm 17 and he's 16. We've been together for almost a year now. I'm from a foreign country although have been in my current ...
A. 12 November 2010: Try and talk to his parents. Let them know that you have all the best intentions for everyone. You love your boyfriend and he loves you but you do not wish for him to carry this relationship as a secret on his shoulders, you do not wish for his ... (read in full...)
Why would he try to be "friends" after a nasty break up?
Q. Why would a guy who broke up with me after a couple months of dating (and was rather nasty about it) want to still be friends. He continues to text me to just say "hi" even though I've told him I am not interested in a friendship with him. It's only ...
A. 12 November 2010: I doubt he is over you. He probably regrets breaking up with you. The more you try to push him away, the more he will try to talk to you. I suggest ignoring him. One day he will get the message.
I hope that helps.... (read in full...)
What to do when love is one sided?
Q. My husband I are married 10 years. We have had our ups and downs. Most of our marriage has been ups. Within the past year and a half I feel like everything is one sided. I really do everything in our lives. He works at his job, but that is all. ...
A. 12 November 2010: If he tells you that you are emotional, tell him that he is right. You are emotional but that is reasonable. Why is he so emotionless? Why does he feel no empathy towards your stress? You are his wife not his servant, make him see that. If he yells, ... (read in full...)
Confused!! Am I in love with the other man, am I seeking attention or should I just try making my marriage work?
Q. What do i do? I need some major advice cus im so confused. First of all im a 21 yr old wife ive been married for about 3 1/2 yrs now and we have a 2 1/2 yr old daughter. I admit i have a problem with cheating emotionally. I mean first of all i got ...
A. 12 November 2010: Talk to your husband and tell him that this marriage just does not feel right at all. You say he loves you and yet he will not indulge you in your interests or concerns? If he loves you, he has to prove it because right now you are not feeling much ... (read in full...)
Her past bothers me a lot and I don't know what to do!
Q. Dear Cupid About two years ago I ment this girl while I was at a bar league softball game! At the time she was 19 and I was 24. I bought her a shot she bought me one back we had some small talk but I didnt have enough courage to persue her! A few we...
A. 12 November 2010: You answered your own question and quite brilliantly I might add. Yes, she is with you now and that is all that matters. We all have our secrets, many of which we are not proud of. Yes it is a part of growing up. What she has done is not so dark at ... (read in full...)
I feel as if I am a lesbian!
Q. i feel as if im a lesbian i dont really know but i have feelings for a girl...
A. 12 November 2010: Go with your feelings and see where it takes you. You feel what you feel and sometimes you cannot put a label on it. I remember feeling something towards my best friend (a guy), in the end it passed. I am sure I am straight but I cannot explain ... (read in full...)
All I want is answers to my problems with my family!
Q. How do you get over your father not wanting you then finding out he is dying and suddenly he finds you interesting, your step father of 15 years abandonds you, and the guy your mom is dating treats you like a seven year old when your 18 and you want ...
A. 12 November 2010: Personally, I would ignore my biological father completely. He abandoned you when you were very young and never bothered to get to know you or be there for you as a father should. My father did the same thing, worse still he began manipulating my ... (read in full...)
Why can't I get over my ex? It's been 3 months and I still feel the same as the day it ended!
Q. i cant get over my ex girlfriend. iv become close friends with someone else now but i cant see her as attractive even though she is good looking, and a nice person. all i do is fantassize about my ex even though she doesnt want to get back together. ...
A. 12 November 2010: Just remove yourself from her. Stop contacting her. If you see her a lot, I suggest you begin ignoring her completely. When you think of her, distract yourself from those thoughts. In the end, those feelings will fade away, just give it time.
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I love her and I'm ready for sex. Should I go ahead with it?
Q. Ok....Heres the situation me and this girl are deeply in love. We are not 18 we are both within a year of each other age wise. This past weekend we where close to having intercourse when I stopped us. The only reason I stopped us is I didn't want ...
A. 12 November 2010: No matter what we say, you are going to try and excuse yourself in order to morally excuse yourself. The law has worked countless times. What about the criminals thrown in jail for crimes they DID commit. Do not overlook that. What about the laws ... (read in full...)
Shall I let him bully me like this?
Q. Where do I start... I've been with my partner on and off for 5 years. We have a daughter together. Everything was great until I fell pregnant then the name calling started. Shortly after my daughter was born I ended an moved out. But about 1 1/2 ye...
A. 12 November 2010: You speak as though no one else can stand you. There is so much here that screams misguidance. I assure you there are people out there who love you. Your daughter for example. You are a precious jewel to all who love you and rest assured that if you ... (read in full...)
I still suck my thumb!
Q. I'm 19. It's pathetic but I still suck my thumb...a lot. The only time I won't is when my boyfriend helps me sleep, tells me stories or sings. But, when I feel too embarassed to ask or he's too tired and goes to sleep first, I do it and I get ...
A. 11 November 2010: When I read this, I could not help smiling. It is such an innocent trait and you need not feel embarrassed by it, there are worse things of course. Personally I would not see it as a childish things. Admittedly, I would find it rather odd but, it is ... (read in full...)
I love her and I'm ready for sex. Should I go ahead with it?
Q. Ok....Heres the situation me and this girl are deeply in love. We are not 18 we are both within a year of each other age wise. This past weekend we where close to having intercourse when I stopped us. The only reason I stopped us is I didn't want ...
A. 11 November 2010: Emotions is exactly what that law is based on! They know you will have the urge to have sex and they know that you will obviously fall into what you believe to be love. That is why they set that law, to ensure that you are taken care of and you grow ... (read in full...)
I love her and I'm ready for sex. Should I go ahead with it?
Q. Ok....Heres the situation me and this girl are deeply in love. We are not 18 we are both within a year of each other age wise. This past weekend we where close to having intercourse when I stopped us. The only reason I stopped us is I didn't want ...
A. 8 November 2010: You have tried to prevent hearing what you already know. No matter how much you dislike that answer, the fact of the matter is that you ARE too young. It may feel as though you are emotionally ready but you never know. Which is why you should wait ... (read in full...)
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