How can I change my look?
Q. im fed up of the way i look, i no beauty is on the inside an everythin i dont mean like that...i mean, i look the same everyday and every night (when dressed up to go out). the only thing that ever looks different is my clothes, i try to chang...
A. 10 February 2010: Hi again!
Just another idea I thought of. If you want to know how to apply make up in a different way to usual, try youtube! There are loads of videos of really great beauticians and other people showing you how to apply make up and syle your hair... (read in full...)
How can I change my look?
Q. im fed up of the way i look, i no beauty is on the inside an everythin i dont mean like that...i mean, i look the same everyday and every night (when dressed up to go out). the only thing that ever looks different is my clothes, i try to chang...
A. 10 February 2010: Hi.
Maybe try some totally different clothes. Take a friend shopping who you think has good taste in clothes and a good sense of style. Ask her to help you pick a new wardrobe. It's always good to get a second opinion.
You say that you wear dif... (read in full...)
Low sex drive. Is it normal for a 40 year old man to only want sex once every 2 weeks?
Q. Hi there. My boyfriend has low sex drive due to a hard job, hours playing computer games and being tired. And he puts off having sex because he says he is worried about his performance and letting me down. He is 40 years old and says his sex driv...
A. 10 February 2010: Hey.
Don't worry about rambling, I totally ramble on. I just start typing and I've written an essay before I notice!
I know what you mean about communication and it being pity sex, or making him do it out of obligation. I feel like this which is... (read in full...)
How would I go about turning on my shy and bi best friend?
Q. What does another girl do to turn you on or warm you up? I'm bi curious but not sure how to get my bestfriend who his bi curious too to warm up to me? We have always talked about messing around but we've never done it. Should I start by rubbing her ...
A. 9 February 2010: Hi
I'm not experienced other than kissing girls before. But, you say you've spoken about it so you know shes open to it. Perhaps when you speak to her suggest casually and playfully that you'd like something to happen between you and her when you ... (read in full...)
I seem to "cum" throughout the day. Is this normal?
Q. im a girl, i seem to 'cum' throughout the day making a mess in my undies. its very annoying and im wondering if it is normal or if i should get it checked out ? :/...
A. 9 February 2010: If you simply mean you get a kind of sticky discharge in your pants every day this is more than likely 100% normal. The only time you should worry is if this discharge changes suddenly in colour or produces a bad smell. Also if there are other ... (read in full...)
I am confused about orgasms.
Q. me and my bf r confused about orgasm..last month he fingered fast and i moaned with excitement(the excitement was at its height)..and sudddenly there was some jelly like substance...is this known as orgasm?and how to self masturbate?and how to ...
A. 9 February 2010: Hi there.
An orgasm is when you reach the hight of excitment, the muscles in your vagina contract and spasm, which sends endorphins round your body and feels like a wave of pleasure running from your groin around your whole body. You will know when... (read in full...)
Low sex drive. Is it normal for a 40 year old man to only want sex once every 2 weeks?
Q. Hi there. My boyfriend has low sex drive due to a hard job, hours playing computer games and being tired. And he puts off having sex because he says he is worried about his performance and letting me down. He is 40 years old and says his sex driv...
A. 9 February 2010: Aw thank you anonymous person. I know exactly how you feel. That is the sort of behaviour my boyfriend has. He'll stay up all night playing games so when he comes to bed he just wants to sleep because he's so tired.
I sometimes wonder if he's just... (read in full...)
Help! What does this dream signify?
Q. i was wondering if anyone could interpret this dream for me? i would really like to know what it means i was at a playground i don't know why cause im 15 but it was only me and this other girl that i happen to like. in real life i am shy but ...
A. 9 February 2010: I think it could mean that you are coming into a carefree time in your life. You are at a playground which symbolises fun, and a child like, carefree happyness. I think you are beginning to feel more at ease with yourself.
I read tarot and fort... (read in full...)
I really don't know how to move things forward with him or how he even feels about me?
Q. I find it incredible how one person can have such a massive impact on your life. I really want to be with someone so much, I have done nothing but think aboout him since our date. The thing is, i'm just not sure how this older man feels about me! ...
A. 8 February 2010: How long ago did you last speak? How long ago was the date? It's good that he's laid back if that's what you like in a man. It could just be that he's a busy person and doesn't have a lot of time to call people. I guess the best thing to do would be ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend more interested in computer games than me. Help!
Q. Hi guys! I have a problem with asking for what I want in my relationship. My boyfriend is a lovely person, I love him very much. He loves video games. He plays online shooters with a bunch of friends. My problem is he does this a lot. I feel as t...
A. 7 February 2010: Thanks for your reply FatherlyAdvice. I think the gaming has been around a lot longer than I have. He had lots of past girfriends. One who he said used to want him to watch all the soaps with her which he found rediculous because he hates soaps. H... (read in full...)
Boyfriend more interested in computer games than me. Help!
Q. Hi guys! I have a problem with asking for what I want in my relationship. My boyfriend is a lovely person, I love him very much. He loves video games. He plays online shooters with a bunch of friends. My problem is he does this a lot. I feel as t...
A. 7 February 2010: Thanks for your answers guys!
Salamancia, I don't have a problem with doing other things, I'm quite happy doing my own thing. The problem is that I only see my boyfriend every 2 months or so for a few weeks or just a week sometimes. He has got into... (read in full...)
Will out age difference make a difference?
Q. Hi im nina, I just have a question, my bf and i were togetehr for a year and we were doing fine but im just worried, well in these past days I've been thinking about it, about our age differences. Im 18 and he's 27. I met him when i was 17 and he w...
A. 7 February 2010: Hi.
As others have said age doesn't matter, its how you feel about someone that matters and your relationship together. My boyfriend is 40 and I'm 24. At first I was worried about the age gap of 16 years, but we've been together nearly 2 years and ... (read in full...)
Sex is not working out for us. Why is that?
Q. well im fat and me and this girl went to have sex... it was my first time but not her first... she was tight but not tight tight... but she hadnt had sex in like a month... she was on top and we couldnt get it in... i couldnt get fully har...
A. 7 February 2010: These things happen the first time you have sex. It took me and my first boyfriend, who was also a virgin, a few attempts before we got it right. Don't worry about it! It could be self esteem issues as mentioned. If you're worrying too much about ... (read in full...)
Have to go swimming but have my period!
Q. Hello. I have a minor problem that isn't life changing but it currently feels like a big problem! Tomorrow I have to go swimming. I really have no choice in it. But I woke up this morning and my period had started unexpectedly. I don't know what ...
A. 7 February 2010: Hi there.
Do you have an older female you can talk to about this? Your mum, sister, aunt or a good friend? Tell them about your situation and I'm sure they'll be happy to tell you about tampons and will probably give you some, or ask them to go with... (read in full...)
He's letting our relationship slide because he has to have at least 6 hours of gaming a day
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for over 2 years. he has recently got back into n online game, world of warcraft. he plays non stop all day - i mean wake up at 8am to play and play till 12am, if i am at his house he will play from around...
A. 6 February 2010: Hi.
I have this problem. My boyfriend loves(or is addicted to) online shooter games and plays with a group of online friends. I have the same problem. When I'm there(I'm at Uni half the year) and if we're not going out or I can't think of some... (read in full...)
Heartache over different sex drives - what to do?
Q. My partner and I love each other very much and have been together for a number of years BUT keep experiencing quite a bit of heartache due to differing sex drives. I have a very high sex drive and could easily have sex every day while he enjoys ...
A. 4 February 2010: Hi.
I have this exact same problem. I love my bf very much and we have a great relationship apart from having completely different sex drives. I really wish I knew the answer. It feels awful that something like this can ruin such a good rela... (read in full...)
Advice needed. How can I be as hot as a porn star!!!?
Q. How can I be as hot as a porn star? I already act the part - well, no, I don't ACT, I really do enjoy sex and I'm very open to everything my boyfriend likes or wants to try. I never say no until I've tried it (except for threesomes, I wouldn't like ...
A. 3 February 2010: You sound like you have a great body. Hell, I'd love to be 132 pounds and only have cellulite when I stand up. Also big boobs sag with age. I have big ones and they already droop in my 20s, consider yourself lucky, you'll be perky for years. Everyo... (read in full...)
Is it bad of me to want to do more with him?
Q. me and my bf have been going out out for two months, but the most we have done is hug once - when he asked me out - and been to the cinema with his friends. Is it bad of me to want to do more with him? it's starting to feel as if we are more like ...
A. 3 February 2010: Hi. It's not bad of you to want to be more affectionate with your bf, it's natural when you like someone. In a way its good that he's not being pushy and trying to move to quickly with you, but 2 months with just a hug must be a bit frustrat... (read in full...)
How can someone get over someone?
Q. How can someone get over someone when it hurts really bad? I'm in deep pain.. I hurt and I feel my life is on hold. I just miss him all the time and he doesn't want to even talk to me. He doesn't respond to my calls or texts.. He took advantage of ...
A. 3 February 2010: Hi.
It's really hard when you feel like you do, but try to remember that your feelings will change in time and you will get over this. Try to take your mind off him to pass the time quicker. Spend time with your friends and do things you enjoy. Have... (read in full...)
Your average sized guy...
Q. How are us average sized guys meant to reconcile the fact that the average sized girl can take more than 50% volume of dick that we have? Our goal is to give maximum sexual pleasure, and in almost all cases, bigger is better (up to a point) (don...
A. 13 December 2009: Unfortunately dicks come in all shapes n sizes, most 'average'. It is true, most girls can accomodate a larger cock than what is the average and it is generally assumed that bigger is better, as it gives more pleasure etc. But unfortunateky our ... (read in full...)
Anyone have a fretish for premature ejaculators?
Q. Hi, I was wondering if there were any girls here who get turned on when a guy prematurely ejaculates? And even like teasing him for it? From intercourse I used to last between 3-6 minutes maybe. However, when I was getting a lapdance a few y...
A. 13 December 2009: Yeah its great that you enjoy premature ejeculation and get your kicks from it, rather than feeling bad about it. Just remember, if you're with a girl(who isn't a stripper), that she wants to enjoy sex too. It's cool if you pleasure her as well and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a baby and spends time with the baby Mama!
Q. Hi, I been with my boyfriend for close to 3yrs there is a big age difference between us but I love him very much. Anyway about 1yr ago he cheated on me and got another woman pregnant that hurted my soul because although I'm older then he is it still ...
A. 13 December 2009: I really feel for you hun. Of course it's going to hurt that he cheated on you, no matter what the age gap, that doesn't matter. It must hur even more that he got her pregnant and now he will have to have some sort of relationship with her for the ... (read in full...)
How would I date an amputee without making him feel uncomfortable?
Q. I moved into a new place and caught a glimpse of a guy who is lives few blocks away. I was very drawn to him. Only on the fourth time i saw him completely to realise he didn't have an arm. I was shattered! i was hurt and felt like throwing up. I ...
A. 11 November 2009: Hi there. Why is it an issue for you that he doesn't have an arm? If he did have both his arms what would you do? Would you just go and talk to the guy? It shouldn't make a difference if you're attracted to him. Th guy has to live without his arm ... (read in full...)
Should I indulge her rape fantasies?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been going through some rough times lately, and things look to be going downhill fast, no matter what I do. She's 8 months pregnant and I know her hormones are raging, so I've put my selfish needs aside in an attemp t...
A. 11 November 2009: I think for a woman the fantasy of rape is a VERY common one. It is for myself and I've heard an read in magazines and research articles that it is a very common sexual fantasy. It's not as dark and "crazy" as it may seem. It's got nothing to do ... (read in full...)
Dating an older man who won't come to visit me!
Q. Hi guys! I'm in a long distance relationship of 1 and a half years now, with a wonderful man I really adore. He's 40 and I'm 24, big gap but we get on great and he makes me laugh all the time. Basically, I have to go away to uni for approx 6 mon...
A. 11 November 2009: Thanks guys.
I think eyeswideopen your point is probably part of it, I know he does worry about how he'll be percieved by my younger friends as well when I know most of them think he's a lovely really funny guy and they want him to come out. I don'... (read in full...)
Dating an older man who won't come to visit me!
Q. Hi guys! I'm in a long distance relationship of 1 and a half years now, with a wonderful man I really adore. He's 40 and I'm 24, big gap but we get on great and he makes me laugh all the time. Basically, I have to go away to uni for approx 6 mon...
A. 11 November 2009: I bother with him because I love him. I don't take it that personally that he hasn't come over because that's the only issue really. Everything is is mostly great, we talk every day.
Can anyone give me advice on how to explain how I feel about this... (read in full...)
How can I learn to communicate better with my boyfriend?
Q. Hi Guys, I recently started going out (i think...!) with one of my very good friends, and I guess that means things are changing (obviously and hopefully). I (surprisingly, as I'm a girl) have lots of trouble talking, like properly TALKING about fe...
A. 11 November 2009: Take it one day at a time. Don't feel you have to tell him everything all at once or explain yourself to him. Tell him what you feel comfortable sharing and the more you tell him, the more you'll feel comfortable sharing. If he's a good guy he'll be ... (read in full...)
Dating an older man who won't come to visit me!
Q. Hi guys! I'm in a long distance relationship of 1 and a half years now, with a wonderful man I really adore. He's 40 and I'm 24, big gap but we get on great and he makes me laugh all the time. Basically, I have to go away to uni for approx 6 mon...
A. 11 November 2009: Thanks for your answers. I guess the reason why he's not come over is because where he lives is my home so I guess he assumes I'm going to come back over anyway, not just to see him. But I have gone back every holiday, even for a week when if I ... (read in full...)
What would the symptoms be of pregnancy 2-3 weeks into it?
Q. what would the symptoms be of pregnancy 2-3 weeks into it? any at all? its about 4 days before im supposed to get my period and my nipples are sore, pains in my sides and lower abdomen and insideeee my vagina and im crying all the time sometimes ...
A. 11 November 2009: Hi hun.
I think symtoms will be different for everyone. I think things like nausea, breast tenderness, tiredness and faintness are common.
If you have had unprotected sex there is every possibility that you are pregnant. Don't beat yourself... (read in full...)
How can I lose a lot of weight before Christmas?
Q. Okay i need help my boyfriend lives 2000 miles away and i am going to see him just after christmas the only problem is i haven't seen him in six months and since then i have put on alot of weight and i want to loose weight for seeing him because i ...
A. 11 November 2009: Hi! Yeh like the others I'd advise joining a slimming group. I've joined Slimming World but Weight Watchers also works just as well. Slimming groups are great for support and for keeping you motivated and on track. It's easier to give up if you're o... (read in full...)
Torn between 2 girls, part of me wants them both but know I can't do that!
Q. Hello all, I'm really in need of some impartial advice. I am 24 and I have been going out with a girl for over 3 and a half years now. Due to our locations and the hours we work we have only been able to see eachother once a week for the whole time ...
A. 17 September 2009: Well I have some time on my hands so I've read it. Only you can make this decision. To me it sounds like your relationship with your girlfriend may have ran it's course. You say you have cheated on her a few times and now you've started something ... (read in full...)
Should I stay or should I go?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 7 years(we are both 26). We bought a house 3 years ago and until 12 months ago were happy as ever. 6 months ago I began mentioning that I thought it was time we got engaged. He always changed the ...
A. 17 September 2009: Have you asked him what he wants from life? What are his opinions on marriage and children? You can't assume that because you have been together for years and becasue you want marriage and children in the next 2 years that he feels the same. Not ... (read in full...)
Wife goes bi to straight... now I'm lost.
Q. I am married. and yet i find myself wondering about other woman. I have these fantasies i guess you could call them, and my wife isnt able to make them happen. She doesnt fit the act. What should i do? Before we got married, we talked of having a ...
A. 2 September 2009: Well then you should not have got married. If you dont want to be with the same person your whole life, marriage is not for you. Simples. In this day and age you don't need to marry to have a good committed relationship with someone. Marriage is for ... (read in full...)
I want to get her something that will show her I love her
Q. I want to get my girlfriend something that says I love you and I'll do anything to prove it. There is no special ocasion I just want to get her something. She's 14 so nothing sexual. I buy her flowers every now and then so I can't get her that. My ...
A. 2 September 2009: Get her something personal, something she's talked about that she likes. It doesn't have to be big like jewellery, something personal shoes you've been listening to her and care about who she is. Does she like a kind of food or band or hobby? Get ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't like sex and can't be bothered with it!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now. He is the most wonderful boyfriend and most amazing person I've ever been with. When I'm with him I feel happy and content. I adore this guy and I hope to be with him for a long time. The problem ...
A. 15 July 2009: Thanks for your answer. I have told him I don't care if I don't orgasm. I get upset about it because I wish I could but I get really close but never all the way. I've told him that I really dont care about it and I hate the fact that my orgasm i... (read in full...)
The guy I'm seeing denied my facebook friend request!
Q. I've been casually seeing a guy for eight months. We had been friends on myspace (he added me), but I deleted my profile so about a month ago I tried to add him on facebook. He denied my request! He has over 100 friends so clearly he's not that ...
A. 15 July 2009: Hmm sounds like there's something fishy going on there. I can't think of a reason why he'd not want his current girlfriend on his friends list unless he doesn't want someone else to know he has a girlfriend. Another woman? Seems a bit odd to me. ... (read in full...)
My wife of 11 years is looking for her own apartment
Q. My wife of 11 years told me today that she was looking for an apartment. she says that she need some space and some time to know if she can be happy on her own. we have 4 kids which makes the even harder. she says that she doesn't want to get a ...
A. 15 July 2009: Hi. If your wife is a similar age to you, you must have married very young. Perhaps your wife just needs to experience being an independent woman for a while. Don't see this as a time to panic, she still wants to be your wife. Perhaps she needs to ... (read in full...)
He's stopped hitting me, but is this still abuse?
Q. Hi there, My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 1/2 years. When we first got together I got pregnant right away. He slapped me when I was 8 weeks pregnant. I miscarried at 14 weeks. I tried to get away from him but moved back in with him...
A. 15 July 2009: Sounds like you know the answer to this. But only you can make the decision to leave him. You are being emotionally manipulated and abused. You may think you love him but you deserve much better. Real love is mutual respect and appreciation. Sounds ... (read in full...)
We've been married 29 years and never fight, Is that common?
Q. me and my husand (mod note: named removed! please do not include full names in your posts) have been married for 23 years and been together for 29 years and i want to know if its common if we never fight i mean we talk about problems but really we ...
A. 15 July 2009: Yes I agree. This sounds like you have a very healthy relationship. You are able to talk through issues without getting angry over disagreements. You've very lucky. I think its to do with personalities, some clash others see eye to eye.... (read in full...)
If I don't see her again I'll go crazy
Q. I seem to have alot of problems recently anyways... I just came back from a absolutely fabulous trip to Paris and I met the most amazing person on my travels. I gave her my email but im a tad worried that Ill never hear from her and theres an even ...
A. 26 April 2009: I'm sorry you're feeling so upset and distressed over this.
My advice is that if she is worth all the heart ache you're feeling, she will contact you. You gave her your email so if she liked you she will send you an email. If you don't hear back... (read in full...)
I'm lost for sex turn ons and ready to give up... Advice Please!!!!
Q. I dated my wife for four years. She believed in no sex before marriage so we didn't have sex even though she wasn't a virgin. On our wedding night we had sex and she seemed to enjoy it. In the following months we had sex once or twice but she just...
A. 21 April 2009: I think you need to sit her down and have a really frank discussion. Tell her how you feel lonely, rejected etc. Tell her how much sex means to you. Ask her if there is a reason why she isn't interested in sex. I agree with what Star said about just ... (read in full...)
How can I learn to make our sex life fantastic and have an orgasm with him?
Q. I am in a wonderful relationship with a man I really, really adore. I am happy in every respect of the relationship, except the sexual side. I'm not really sure what the problem is. It's quite complicated so I'll try to explain it as best I can. I...
A. 22 February 2009: Thanks for your advice guys. You've given me lots of things to think about. We don't noramally take it so seriusly, we laugh and joke about it n have fun with it a lot. But he did actually say to me once, and he's made comments since, that he ... (read in full...)
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