I can't believe that no one remembers my birthday
Q. So I'll be 45 in two days. My kids are grown, and I've been dating this guy for 2 years. He has 3 kids; 13, 15, 21. I am currently staying with him until I close on my house (he wanted me to live with him, but the house is too small and I just ...
A. 8 March 2010: Aw I'm glad your story had a happy ending. See, some people just get dates mixed up and don't mean to forget those important days. I'm glad you got your birthday achknowledge and hope you had a great day :)... (read in full...)
I can't believe that no one remembers my birthday
Q. So I'll be 45 in two days. My kids are grown, and I've been dating this guy for 2 years. He has 3 kids; 13, 15, 21. I am currently staying with him until I close on my house (he wanted me to live with him, but the house is too small and I just ...
A. 6 March 2010: When they were prepairing for the party did you say its your birthday too? It wasn't acknowledged, but when they were discussing having a joint party, did you say 'hey, its my birthday in that week too! why dont we have it as my party too?' ... (read in full...)
I can't believe that no one remembers my birthday
Q. So I'll be 45 in two days. My kids are grown, and I've been dating this guy for 2 years. He has 3 kids; 13, 15, 21. I am currently staying with him until I close on my house (he wanted me to live with him, but the house is too small and I just ...
A. 5 March 2010: Did you mention it was your birthday? Its possible he genuinely forgot, as in hadn't made a mantal note when your birthday is and just assumed you'd bring it up near the time. I'm bad with dates myself so I know this isnt meant in a bad way. I just ... (read in full...)
Always on the outside and lonely...
Q. I seem to be a failure in everything I do try. I realise it cant be everyone else's fault all the time it has to be me, I dont know where I go wrong. I was brought up in children's homes with no family, my marriage failed, every time I joined a ...
A. 5 March 2010: I'm sorry to hear you feel this way. I'm quite a shy person so I know how lonely it can feel when you feel you don't have any friends and when you are a new person or an outsider. I think people who are settled socially and have a good group of ... (read in full...)
Penis panic!!!
Q. Hi, i am an 18 year old lad and i am a bit worried about what i have seen on my penis. When i pull my forskin back there are little red dots on my bell end and ive never had this before so am just wondering if there is anything wrong? I dont sleep ...
A. 5 March 2010: Don't panic!
This could be something simple, not nessasarily an STD.
It could also be Psoriasis which are red blotches or bumps in the skin, (usually the head of the penis as you said) that can be itchy and painful. My boyfriend gets it after to... (read in full...)
I acted on emotions and now regret leaving. How should I get him back?
Q. I've been dating this guy over a year. Yes we're not completely perfect couple but never had arguments but recently both of us were under so much stress. I would say that I'm logical person but emotional. Recently I've been realizing that our ...
A. 5 March 2010: Was he dating her when you were together? I'm really sorry to hear this, it must be horrible for you to find this out.
Draw a line under your relationship and move on. It's the best thing you can do. It will be hard for you, as you obviously real... (read in full...)
I acted on emotions and now regret leaving. How should I get him back?
Q. I've been dating this guy over a year. Yes we're not completely perfect couple but never had arguments but recently both of us were under so much stress. I would say that I'm logical person but emotional. Recently I've been realizing that our ...
A. 3 March 2010: Then take the higher ground and call him first, appologise. You say you realise you shouldn't have gotten upset and wanted to work out your problems. Extend the olive branch first. If you wait, or hint that you can move on, you are only playing ... (read in full...)
Can I be friends with a girl who is older than I am?
Q. He cupid, i want to ask some question here. i met a girl on the internet. we shares pictures to each other and also share mobile number. she have a good work and i have a good work too. she was born in 1985 and i was born in 1987. now we are ...
A. 3 March 2010: Yes it is absolutely possible. She is only 2 years older, that's not much at all. Go for it!... (read in full...)
How do you seduce a man who has gone off sex?
Q. How do you seduce a man who has gone off sex? I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years. Our relationship is on/off in nature as I spend half of my time away for my studies. I think this affects our sex life as he takes a while to get use...
A. 3 March 2010: Thanks for your answers guys, they mean a lot.
I have tried just going for it, but often he knows what I'm after and he just says I'm too tired etc. Even if I just brush my hand against his crotch he's like nooo I'm not in the mood etc. He just assu... (read in full...)
She said I was a boring skank! Why would my best friend do that?
Q. my best friend called me a boring skan.k cos i said i wont get drunk and sleep with strangers when we go on holiday. i took off our marriage on face book.. she called me pathetic and started swearing at me,calling me a weirdo, fool, stupid..al...
A. 3 March 2010: To be honest, she sounds really childish! Who you sleep with is your choice and shouldn't have anything to do with her.
If I were you I'd leave it. If she really is a true best friend she will appologise and get in touch.
Perhaps as it's her birt... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my husband likes a woman at work
Q. Im worried that my husband likes a women at work. he drives a truck at a company and she works in the office, he always says that the girls are fat and unattractive because I do ask who works in the office and if any of those girls talk to him and ...
A. 3 March 2010: Hi.
I can see why you're angry. Why would he talk about the women at his work all being fat and unattractive when one of them is clearly not? I'd try not to jump to conclusions though, he could have been afraid of your reaction if he said one girl... (read in full...)
My old friend is leaving his wife for me, but I don't want to be known as a homewrecker
Q. Ok, when I was a senior in high school my best friend was a guy named "Jay". We were inseparable, we both kinda had a crush on each other but neither wanted to ruin the friendship that we had. All through college we stayed close friends and then...
A. 2 March 2010: If you choose to be with this man, you will be destroying the life this woman has made with him in becoming his wife. But on the other hand you will also be saving her from a man who obviously doesnt care about her enough to remain faithful. Even if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not interested in having sex with me anymore!
Q. How do you seduce a man who has gone off sex? I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years but our relationship is on/off in nature as I spend half of my time away for my studies. I think this affects our sex life as he takes a while to get used ...
A. 2 March 2010: Well, he's not 'young' per say, he's 40. So age is a factor. Men's libedo's decrease with age and he has a physical job. I have thought about him not being 'that into me' but he protests this is not the case and we're still together after all this ... (read in full...)
Period comes twice a month.
Q. I have my period twice a month, what should i do? ...
A. 1 March 2010: This may settle down over time as you're still a teenager but it could be something more serious like poly cystic overies. To be on the safe side visit your doctor and they can give you the best advice. You can ask to speak to a female doctor/nurse ... (read in full...)
I don't think I have ever had an orgasm. What do they feel like?
Q. hey I am 19 and still a virgin and well Ihave never had an orgasm. Well I think I have never had an orgasm i have been turned on and wet but no mind blowing pleasure or anything, I have tried to mastubate and to use toys and to masturbate / use toys ...
A. 1 March 2010: Hi there. It sounds like you have never actually had an orgasm. As most people will tell you, you will know when you've had an orgasm. An orgasm is when you reach the height of excitement, the muscles in your vagina contract and spasm uncontroll... (read in full...)
I'm not sure I can go through with this pregnancy because I don't want to be a single mum with 2 kids to 2 different fathers
Q. I find myself in a tricky situation. Im 7 wks pregnant to a guy ive been with for 5 months hes loves me totally but im not sure i feel the same.i feel something but not sure what. Getting pregnant has been a shock an accident. Ive been single for 3 ...
A. 1 March 2010: Hi there.
This is a tough decision as you only have a short time to decide if you want an abortion. You really have to look inside yourself and search your soul to make your decision.
You have only known your boyfriend for a relatively short am... (read in full...)
Concerned by same-sex masturbation fantasies
Q. Thinking of being with woman in a relationship feels wrong. Thinking of actually doing anything with woman feels wrong! But when i masterbate i think of woman. I dont want to be a lesbian or bisexual, but does this mean i am ?? I'd never actually do ...
A. 1 March 2010: This fantasy does not actually mean that you are a lesbian, and you don't have to feel dirty or wrong for thinking it.
It could be that the girl in your fantasy is yourself, in the thrid person. As if you are imagining what you would like to happ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome shyness?
Q. I'm a really shy person when i don't know people very well, and often find it awkward and don't know what to say, I've heard that this has come off to others as me thinking I am too good to talk to those people but it's not that at all, how can I ...
A. 28 February 2010: Hi there. I know exactly what you are going through. I too have struggled with shyness all my life and often feel misunderstood by people. I often find it impossible to speak to people I dont know and talking infront of groups is like torture, I ... (read in full...)
Can anyone help me overcome anxiety?
Q. I have had anxiety for as long as I remember.I tend to anaylise the details of things that have happened months... even years ago, i tend to worry about the fact ive messed up in some way even if i know deep down theres nothing ive done wrong at any ...
A. 28 February 2010: I kind of know where you're coming from. I have stuggled with anxiety and depression for some time. Sometimes life is good but then it swings back round to me becoming depressed again. I think that just some people, and some personalities, have a ... (read in full...)
My mum is offering me money NOT to have sex. What should I do?
Q. i really love this guy i know for 2 years. i want to have sex with him, he does too. but my problem is that my mom will give me $950 if i keep it till i'm 17 or 18. wat should i do?...
A. 28 February 2010: At the end of the day it's your decision. Your mum is just trying to protect you but I dont think you should be bribed into doing what she wants for you. You have to make your own decisions and mistakes in life. On the other hand you are still ef... (read in full...)
We are mis-matched in terms of height, can we still have sex?
Q. my height is 5'3 and my bf is 6'2 can we have sex??? if so how????...
A. 28 February 2010: Height doesn't matter when you're horizontal :)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has other girls listed as 'my baby'. He said it means nothing.
Q. What do you do if you asked your new boyfriend about him having girls number under my baby that isnt you and his reply was that it doesnt mean anything to him?...
A. 28 February 2010: It could be an ex girlfriend that he forgot he had called my baby. But if it is he should have been honest with you instead of making a lame excuse. I'd demand an explanation. Tell him you trust him but... you dont call someone 'my baby' for no ... (read in full...)
Why is sex the key to a relationship?
Q. Why is sex the key to a relationship?...
A. 28 February 2010: Sex is not the key, but it is an important element to a sexual relationship. A couple can still be a strong fullfilled couple and not have sex at all, if that is what both parties want. There are couples who are completely celebate out of choice and ... (read in full...)
Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 27 February 2010: I think I agree with Beingblack's post the most. But are men really incapable of being aroused from a fantasy? I thought everybody fantasised. I just thought that men are more 'pervy' in general than women. They like to look and watch, whereas for a ... (read in full...)
Can I purchase the pill even though I'm only fifteen?
Q. hey guys im 15 and in a month im 16 and have been with my boyfriend (16 years of age) for over a year. were not planning to have sex until im legal and we have talked about all the precautions. i was just wondering if u could go on the pill/imp...
A. 24 February 2010: Hi there.
I think they will do. I'm positive they will if you have a parent with you, I'm pretty sure they will without a parent if you're under 16, but definatly with one. As your mum is so understanding you could aske her to go with you? If she ... (read in full...)
Why is it only the mans biology that's considered when discussing porn in relationships?
Q. Okay, so there's lots of questions here about men and porn, and relationships being destroyed over it. But what i'd really like to know here, is why it's only mens feelings and biology considered? So men are more sexually driven than women, they are ...
A. 24 February 2010: What annoys me most about porn is how derogatory and sleezy most of it is. I'm a woman and from time to time I like to look at porn. I see no harm in it. Ok if a man does this all the time and it affects his sexual relationship with his girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Size, growth and virginity?
Q. Hi, I'm 16 and have a 7.5 inch penis with a 5.5 inch girth/circumference. I know there has been a ton of questions like this asked across the web and I know a lot of them are just people trying to get self gratification, but I feel I must ask my ...
A. 24 February 2010: Hi there.
First of all, the average size of a flacid penis is between 3 and 4 inches with the average erect penis being between 6 and 7 inches. So already your penis is 'above average'. So you really don't need to worry in that department.
It is... (read in full...)
How do I stop the desire to go further-or at least tame it?
Q. Dear Aunties, I have yet another question: my bf and I have been together 10 months of the past year and a half, on and off. Since we last got back together it's been more than 4 months--a record for us (I'm afraid of long-term relation...
A. 24 February 2010: Hi there.
This is a very tricky situation as when you fall for someone, you'll naturally want to be physically intimate with them.
If you are sure of your religious and moral boundaries then you do not have to cross them. Make it very clear to... (read in full...)
I'm not ready to kiss him yet, how do I show him how I feel without making it too awkward?
Q. I'm 14 and he's 15. We go to different school and I've really only seen him 5 times. We have a lot of mutual friends that we do hang out with. When he did ask me out, he tried to kiss me. I told him not today, but I have a feeling that the next ...
A. 24 February 2010: If you don't want to say it, maybe if he tries to kiss you, turn your head and give him your cheek to kiss. Then just say you'd really like to kiss him but you'd like to get to know him better first. Unless he's a selfish guy, he'll respect your ... (read in full...)
My online guy says he loves me all the time, how can I know he's being sincere?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship with a guy I met online. I have met him in person and it's completely amazing how much we get a long. He said he loved me even before we met (talking for a few months, phone webcam) and I kind of took it with ...
A. 24 February 2010: Hey there.
I know what you mean. Sometimes if you say it too much it loses meaning. But everyone has a different way of using those 3 words. Some say it in passing or just as a complement. For others they only ever say it when they truely feel conn... (read in full...)
I still can't accept the fact my ex left me for someone else!
Q. In know the reason why I can't get over my ex is that he preoccupies my mind. I have tried to to do other stuff, meet people, went on a vacation and spent cash on shopping. But when I am about to sleep and when I wake up, I feel so depressed to ...
A. 24 February 2010: Hi there.
I can totally understand how much you you must be feeling. You must have loved this man deeply and he betrayed you in the most hurtful way, by cheating on you and choosing his lover over you. In my opinion what he did showed complete self... (read in full...)
"You never date your rebound..." Is that right?
Q. I just broke up with my muslim boyfriend and I am now talking to someone else but we are not in a relationship but we have a very good friendship something I never had with my past relationship... I want to know should I see other people before I ...
A. 22 February 2010: If you really like this person and if you feel you are ready for another relationship right now, then go for it. Rebounds are when people get with someone after a serious relationship, just because they feel lonely and miss their ex. You dont sound ... (read in full...)
Guys turn me on, am I gay?
Q. I'm a 15 year old guy, and I'm pretty much only turned on by gay porn, or pictures of naked guys. I used to watch straight porn and when I was 12 I messed around with a girl (we gave each other handjobs and even tried to have sex once) and enjoyed ...
A. 22 February 2010: Hey.
Try not to worry about this too much. Lots of people get turned on and are attracted to men and women at different times in their lives. You dont need to label yourself gay, straight or bi, or anything if you dont want to. You are just 15 so y... (read in full...)
I feel like I cant be bothered anymore, has anyone else ever felt like this?
Q. i have just had enough with the struggle that is life. i've had enough of the constant frustrations and disappointments in life. i can't be bothered anymore. has anyone felt like this? how did you deal with it? how did you move on and start ...
A. 16 February 2010: Hey hun. I'm sorry you're going through this. I have been through severe depression before for 4 months, and have had many other periods of depression so I know you must feel. I know also that everybody will experience the thoughts that you are ... (read in full...)
How do I improve this situation? My boyfriend is not giving me any time!
Q. well...umm im in a committed long distance relationship.its going to be almost 8months.i remember that the first 3months my bf used to go crazy with me.he used to text me a lot and even call.but now it seems as a dream.i know its not possible to be ...
A. 16 February 2010: Hun, long distance relationships are hard. I'm in one myself and sometimes you feel like you're drifting apart simply because you don't see each other much, and the only contact is via phone, online or text message. When people have been together... (read in full...)
Does the hurt and pain EVER go away or at least ease?
Q. It's me again, Well we went out for valentines dinner on Saturday night and it had to happen. I mentioned I suppose I'd be getting a poxy bunch of flowers as usual rather than a heart necklace (like he bought 9 years ago for some woman he got clo...
A. 15 February 2010: Hi there.
I can see why you're upset. It must be very hurtful to find out your husband(or long term partner) has been having an affair of any kind. It would be awful to find he's bought another woman a heart necklace when he doesn't go to that effo... (read in full...)
Boys and sex. What is it these days?
Q. Why are boys SOO obsessive about sex? It's like a must have for them! I have been asked for it a couple of times, but I'm only 13. Im definitely not having sex until I'm at least 17 and I when I've found someone I love and trust to loose my ...
A. 15 February 2010: Hi there.
I like your attitude :)
The thing is with guys, is that when they're young they feel they have to have sex as soon as possible with as many girls as possible. They're not all like this but it can be a general trend for young guys to behav... (read in full...)
How should I express myself?
Q. I'm a heterosexual straight guy who loves women and everything associated with them but lately there has been a guy who has me interested. we are best friends and we talk all the time( aim ) etc we go to the same school and we trust each other. im ...
A. 15 February 2010: Hi there.
You have 2 choices. You can continue as things are and not let on about your true feeling. You would stay friends but you'd have to repress your true feelings which could lead to deep unhappyness if your feelings for him grow.
Or you can ... (read in full...)
Selfish sister???
Q. I just want to see if anyone else finds my older sister as selfish and thoughtless as I do? Basically, shes 35 and has her own family - 2 kids and a husband, nice home etc. Im 26 and about to have my first baby. For as long as I can remember, my...
A. 14 February 2010: Unfortuantly not everyone places the same value on family as you do. To some people family comes above all others, whereas others feel close friends are more important. There's that saying that friends are the new family in modern times. It used to ... (read in full...)
Will my army love come back for me?
Q. I am not really sure I want to be writing for advice. Reality is, the more people discourage me, the more strongly I feel they are wrong. I am completely aware of how unlogical everything is about to sound. Something I have had a hard time facing...
A. 12 February 2010: Hi.
It could be that this guy is 'the one' if you believe that each person has only one person they can have true love and a deep connection with. I personally believe from my experience that there are people who you have an intense connection with... (read in full...)
Another teacher crush!
Q. OK, I want help so that I can get over this crush of mine. It is really bothering me, because firstly I only want to be friendly! And secondly this GUY (obvious wasn't it?) is a TEACHER. I can't fancy a teacher! It will ruin me! I don't want to ...
A. 10 February 2010: Hi there.
Don't worry about being attracted to a teacher or an older man. Sometimes you will just get crushes and attractions to people for no apparent reason at all! It can seem completely random and inappropriate who you are attracted to, like... (read in full...)
How can I change my look?
Q. im fed up of the way i look, i no beauty is on the inside an everythin i dont mean like that...i mean, i look the same everyday and every night (when dressed up to go out). the only thing that ever looks different is my clothes, i try to chang...
A. 10 February 2010: Hi again!
Just another idea I thought of. If you want to know how to apply make up in a different way to usual, try youtube! There are loads of videos of really great beauticians and other people showing you how to apply make up and syle your hair... (read in full...)
How can I change my look?
Q. im fed up of the way i look, i no beauty is on the inside an everythin i dont mean like that...i mean, i look the same everyday and every night (when dressed up to go out). the only thing that ever looks different is my clothes, i try to chang...
A. 10 February 2010: Hi.
Maybe try some totally different clothes. Take a friend shopping who you think has good taste in clothes and a good sense of style. Ask her to help you pick a new wardrobe. It's always good to get a second opinion.
You say that you wear dif... (read in full...)
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