I'm going to the club without my boyfriend, am I doing anything wrong?
Q. me and bf have been together for 2 years, in the past couple of months he has decided he no longer wants to go clubbing. i still enjoy going out and dancing, i really enjoy dancing with him but he says he will no longer go. we came to an agreement ...
A. 26 March 2010: By going along with your boyfriends unfair requests, you are colluding with him. You are giving him the impression that his controlling and paranoid behaviour is OK, when it's clearly not. Everyone here has said in one way or another that your ... (read in full...)
Ladies... Fingers in your mouth during "passion". Yes or no?
Q. Lets say you are in the heat of the moment and he is being very passionate during sex..... Do you find it a turn on when your partner puts one or two fingers in your mouth to suck on? Or do you find it a bit weird? Of course, this is all duri...
A. 26 March 2010: Not for me personally, but suggest it to your girl, you never know she might also find it a turn on. I know some people like having their fingers sucked on, which can be a turn on during foreplay. Ask her how she feels about it. Even if she finds it ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my mother to drive me two hours away?
Q. Ok so ive just started dating this guy ive known him for 7 months i went 2 go visit him last weekend he lives 2 hrs away....now this is where it gets difficult. I do not have a car but my mom has let me used her car before, but what i need help on ...
A. 25 March 2010: I don't mean to be rude or cause offence, but I just want to present my opposing view to rhythmandblues2's advice.
I think that all long distance relationship do not work, is a sweeping generalisation. I have been in a LDR with my partner now for ... (read in full...)
How should I let my b/f know that a friend is coming to stay?
Q. I have a question regarding a friend that is coming to visit me in a couple months that is a male and I want to know if thats ok since I have a boyfriend. I don't have many male friends. This friend in particular I have known for over 13 years, h...
A. 25 March 2010: If he's only staying one night it should be absolutely fine. I think you may be worried about what your boyfriend will think because you did once have a big crush on him. You might have moved on, as has he, but those feelings will always be there. ... (read in full...)
Worried that I may have went too far with my cousin!
Q. My cousin and I went out drinking together, alone. We are both in our early 20s (he is slightly older and I have always looked up to him). We got utterly smashed and some of the night is hazy, but I'm almost positive I remember everything (I never ...
A. 24 March 2010: I'd say, try not to read too much into it and just forget about it. Nothing wrong or out of order happened. Its not actually illegal for cousins to be romantically involved in many countries. But, for obvious reasons, its morally and ethically ... (read in full...)
How should I let my b/f know that a friend is coming to stay?
Q. I have a question regarding a friend that is coming to visit me in a couple months that is a male and I want to know if thats ok since I have a boyfriend. I don't have many male friends. This friend in particular I have known for over 13 years, h...
A. 24 March 2010: Just be open with him. Say "you know my friend "......" who I've known fir years etc, (if you've never spoken about him before, tell your boyfriend about him so he knows the score, knows he's an old friend nothing more etc) .... he's coming to town ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is addicted to porn and I hate it...but I don't know why.
Q. My girlfriend has been addicted to porn since before we got togeather but told me she had stopped at the beginning of the relationship. I recently found out that shes been watching porn behind my back, this really pisses me off... Im not even quite ...
A. 24 March 2010: I just want to say what a lovely guy you sound. It shows what a decent human being you are that yoiu are concerned about your partner's psyche by not watching porn when you are in a relationship. I think that's remarkable and wonderful.
The thin... (read in full...)
Do you think my ex would change if I were to go back to her?
Q. Hi all, i really need some help here !! I split up with my girlfriend of 9 months about 6 weeks ago and we've had a really tough time since saying some really nasty things to each other. She finished with me becuase she said she wasn't happy an...
A. 24 March 2010: If you truely loved your ex you wouldn't want to give it a go with this new woman. This should tell you it's over with your ex. You may still care for her, but your feelings aren't pure.
As for the new girl. How do you feel about being with a girl... (read in full...)
How can I convince my mother to drive me two hours away?
Q. Ok so ive just started dating this guy ive known him for 7 months i went 2 go visit him last weekend he lives 2 hrs away....now this is where it gets difficult. I do not have a car but my mom has let me used her car before, but what i need help on ...
A. 24 March 2010: I agree with Angzw. If you're mum is unwilling to drive you there, there are other means of transport. If your boyfriend has offered to pay gas, surely he will pay for a train or coach ticket? It will be less hassle for your mum. Why not just ask ... (read in full...)
What can I do to be able to be affectionate with the one I like.
Q. Since the age of 9 until the age of 14 one of my neighbors would force me to kiss him and he would rub my legs. He does not do it any more but now I cannot allow guys to touch me or I become anxious. It bothers me because I would like to be ...
A. 22 March 2010: This was sexual abuse. He touched you inappropriatly in a way that you were uncomfortable with. He crossed your boundaries and took advantage of you as you were an innocent child. Because of this, whenever you think of being affectionate with the ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to be more attractive physically or am I just too old to be considered attractive?
Q. I would like to hear a sincere answer. Not a mean one, but a sincere one. I've been feeling very depressed about my age and my appearance lately. I feel like I'm very plain and unattractive and I want SO BADLY to be attractive and desir...
A. 22 March 2010: Just wanted to say, Helen Moren was menat to be Helen Miren lol... (read in full...)
Why do we hurt even if we're in love?
Q. Why is it that even if you and the person you are with are in love why does it still hurt ? i just try to understand that but i can't. i know he love's me. but why do we go through all the thing's we do ?...
A. 22 March 2010: A truly profound question. From going on this website it's clear that, even after we've found our prince charming, sleeping beauty, soulmate or person of our dreams, we're still not content. Relationships are a sheer joy during the so called ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to be more attractive physically or am I just too old to be considered attractive?
Q. I would like to hear a sincere answer. Not a mean one, but a sincere one. I've been feeling very depressed about my age and my appearance lately. I feel like I'm very plain and unattractive and I want SO BADLY to be attractive and desir...
A. 22 March 2010: You need to love and accept yourself, before someone will love you. It is possible for someone to be loved when they don't have a high self esteem, but if you really believe what you have wrote here than this may come across to potential suitors. If ... (read in full...)
I feel like the years are passing me by and I'm missing out...
Q. Hi Everyone, I hope you can help. I am a 24 year old female and my bf is a 39 year old male. He is perhaps the best bf ever; loyal, loving, thoughtful and very mature. However, I have a problem with where we are in our lives. At the moment I live ...
A. 20 March 2010: What about your friends from uni? Why don't you ask if any of them would like to go out sometime? Why don't you go with your friends who go travelling? I'm sure, if he is a decent understanding guy, who wants you to be happy, he will be happy for ... (read in full...)
My mum and dad are breaking up and I'm in shock!
Q. I'm 21 years old, and despite my age, the news today that my mum is leaving my dad (after 34 years) is really hurting me. My mum said that she can't take any more and she deserves better - and that she waited until I was old enough for it not to ...
A. 18 March 2010: Aw don't feel that its worng to feel sad about it because of your age. Your parents divorcing is a major change, especially if they're been married all your life and your family is close nit. It's going to be a complete shock and it will affect you ... (read in full...)
Tempted to sleep around with a lot of men, as I have a high sex drive! Will I regret doing this?
Q. I would like some advice from fellow adult females. I have just got out of a long relationship and don't want to get into another one for a good while. I have a high sex drive and miss that aspect of relationships. At present, I am tempted to sleep ...
A. 17 March 2010: I think, if you are a sexually curious person there is nothing wrong with experiencing sex with multiple partners. I think there still IS somewhat of a double standard. Women who have had a large amount of sexual partners are labled sluts and ... (read in full...)
I can only reach orgasm with my boyfriend during intercourse. Is this normal?
Q. is this normal, i can only reach orgasm during intercourse, but no matter how hard i try i can never reach orgasm when my boyfriend gives me oral and with his hands, but if im alone and i masturbate myself i can reach it easily. why is this?...
A. 17 March 2010: Girl, you're lucky! I'd love to be able to reach orgasm from intercourse! Don't worry about being normal, everyone works differently. You can learn to orgasm from different techniques. I recently found out how to orgasm with my boyfriend's hands, ... (read in full...)
Our home life is fantastic but our sex life never improved despite trying everything, what can I do?
Q. I'm 30 and I have been with my 25 year old girlfriend for 2 years. The sex has never been good for me at all, my partner orgasms 2/3 times when we do have sex and she is very easy to please. I can orgasm but its difficult and I have to be very ...
A. 17 March 2010: Gosh. I have a similar situation, kind of. I'm in a wonderful relationship with a man I get on with on so many levels. I love him to pieces and we laugh so much together and understand each other. Plus he's a really decent guy and lovely person. T... (read in full...)
Suddenly secretive...
Q. My girlfriend is suddenly claiming that I don't give her enough space and seems secretive about her email should I be worried? I on the other hand have always been an open book, i don't care who is behind me as I write email or anything else. She ...
A. 17 March 2010: Perhaps take her at her word, for now. I'm assuming she has some form of cancer as you say she is having chemotherapy. She may be going through a lot of emotional turmoil, which could explain her need for space. It could be her way of dealing with ... (read in full...)
How do I become more sexual towards my boyfriend who I'm still attracted to?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 16 months and we don't have sex very often anymore. We waited to have sex at first and when we did finally do it, it hurt me physically but i still enjoyed it because i was so in love with him. after about a ...
A. 17 March 2010: It sounds to me like you need to feel emotionally close to someone for you to enjoy being sexually intimate with him. Try to spend some time getting to know each other romantically again. Things can get a little stale when you live together for a ... (read in full...)
Is lesbian sex sexual intercourse???
Q. Is lesbian sex sexual intercourse? That is, can a women still be a virgin after 'having sex' with another woman?...
A. 10 March 2010: Well, you've a virgin in the sense that you havn't had penetrative sex with a man. But you're not a virgin in the sense of being innocent and not had sex. Making love/sex is still making love with a man or woman.... (read in full...)
How do you decide which problems are worth getting through and which you can't handle?
Q. I have a question but don't want to go much in detail so I hope it will be enough information for a response. In every relationship there are problems. How do you decide which problems are worth getting through and which you can't handle. It is hard ...
A. 10 March 2010: Yes in my experience, there are always going to be issues with a relationship long term, that you have to work on. But that's what makes it interesting! If you agreed on everything, it'd be too easy! And become dull. You need a partner who has some ... (read in full...)
How effective is the pill "microgynon 30" ?
Q. hi guys, just a question about the pill im on.. im on microgynon 30 and i was just wondering how effective it is? when my doctor put me on it, i asked her if my partner and i still need to use condoms, and she said that as long as im taking the pill ...
A. 10 March 2010: Yes, I think it's something like 99.7% effective. SO for the great majority of women it's effective, if taken right. Just make sure you read the instruction manual thoroughly. It can be made less effective if you're taking some medications.
N... (read in full...)
I felt like a complete twat!!!
Q. I met this guy through a friend of mine, ive only sopken 2 him on facebook and from what we have spoken about he seems a really nice guy, the reason why my friend said add him was because he was single, Anyway since then we chat on fb every day ...
A. 9 March 2010: Hey. Don't feel like a twat. You were just talking to him, you couldn't have know he was seeing someone. I'd leave thinking about him as a romantic possibility for now, as he has said he's seeing someone. But there's no harm in still talking to him, ... (read in full...)
Is an orgasm worth all the hype???
Q. okay, I know this is a bit of a weird question, but its really bugging me!! anyway, I was wondering, if you haven't had an orgasm, do you think that its doable to comprehend what it feels like? Because, I'm 18 and my boyfriend and I haven't done a...
A. 9 March 2010: Yes. Yes it is. Try masturbating and you'll find out :)... (read in full...)
Been with him for 10 years and want to get married...
Q. I need Help, I have been with My Boyfriend Almost Ten years, and I have hinted to Him For awhile that I want to Get married. He has a son that I just adore and He is know asking his dad why we are not married. I feel that it is Time for us to Get ...
A. 9 March 2010: Why not propose to him? Let him know you're serious. You really want to get married and it means a lot to you. He might think you're not that bothered as you've stayed with him unmarried for so long.
Tell him you do want to continue being with him ... (read in full...)
Sex drive help needed
Q. ok people, what im saying is i never go more than 3 days. MY QUESTION IS can you slow down a sex drive?I have a problem i need it every day. Is that normal? PS only with my fiance...
A. 9 March 2010: What's normal? If you're fiance is happy with that level of sex and if it doesn't affect your life then why do you need to slow it down? Generally, over time, sex drives will decrease. If it is a problem you could maybe try masturbating more to ... (read in full...)
I lost the love of my life; is it a mistake to marry her sister?
Q. I just got engaged to my dead girlfriends sister. She was the love of my life and shaped who I have become. she was killed when I was in my early 20s and I am now 50 . I pined for her for over 25 years, wrote endless about her, had nightly ...
A. 8 March 2010: Not nessassarily, but, you havn't said anything about your now fiance, her sister. Do you love her in her own right, or because she has a connection to the woman you loved and lost? You have to ask yourself these questions. If you are looking for ... (read in full...)
I can't believe that no one remembers my birthday
Q. So I'll be 45 in two days. My kids are grown, and I've been dating this guy for 2 years. He has 3 kids; 13, 15, 21. I am currently staying with him until I close on my house (he wanted me to live with him, but the house is too small and I just ...
A. 8 March 2010: Aw I'm glad your story had a happy ending. See, some people just get dates mixed up and don't mean to forget those important days. I'm glad you got your birthday achknowledge and hope you had a great day :)... (read in full...)
Do I have to tell the guy who gave me herpes that I now have it?
Q. Do I have to tell the guy who I believe I got herpes 1 from that I have it? It's HSV-1 ; the kind that gives people cold sores on their mouth. Well mine is on the genitals - a "gift" from his oral sex. He is the first person - the only person I ha...
A. 8 March 2010: Hmm, you can give people genital herpies if you go down on someone when you have a cold sore. It is the same virus, it can just transfer to different sensitive areas like mouth and genitals. You should never ever do it, it's very contageous! My ... (read in full...)
I need advice and please don't joke around.
Q. Ok, here is the situation. I’m 18, and currently working in IT as Server and Desktop support. I met this (most gorgeous, magnificent) woman at one of my sites. BUT she is 39 and has 2 kids! First is 11 second is 14. I’ve been through a divorce my ...
A. 8 March 2010: Hi there. I think you should go for it. You cannot know whether it is a wise or the right decision of you don't try. It is up to her how and when she introduces you into her children's lives and you will have to deal with that situation as it arise... (read in full...)
Should I continue losing weight, or leave?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We just had a son 4 months ago and we finally moved in together about a month ago. Everything seemed perfect..we get along great and work as a team. We have a lot of fun together and joke around a ...
A. 8 March 2010: At least he is trying to find out the best way to broach the subject with youand isnt just making hurtful comments. Maybe he has been thinking about not being so attracted to you but he still loves you. It can happen that you lose attraction to ... (read in full...)
Does he still even care for me or not? Should I still stay by his side and help him through tough times?
Q. We met around an year and half ago and we hit off right away, at the time, both of us were in a relationship, within 2 month, we both ended our relationship and started dating. He is a very sweet and loving guy, but he is the kind who rarely ...
A. 8 March 2010: Aw. This guy sounds lovely and you clearly care for him a lot. He's lucky to have someone like you by his side, looking out for him.
I think he does care for you but he thinks that relationships are perhaps a distraction from or shouldn't come befo... (read in full...)
I'm 14, my ex wanted to stay friends, but now he is ignoring me?
Q. Hello :) Okay, long story short, me and my ex broke up about two weeks ago. I have another guy, who I like a lot, but I am not out with him, however he also likes me (please note, he is NOT a rebound, its a very long story.) My ex said first th...
A. 8 March 2010: It can be very hard for some people to remain friends after a relationship. It's impossible to really know what is going on in his head. But he has decided that he wants to completly break contact with you and move on. This might seem quite strange ... (read in full...)
Ideas for a sex bucket list?
Q. Me and my wife are looking for ideas for a sex "bucket list". We have tried sex on a beach, in a mall, a restraunt, parking garage, park , elevator , public restroom. We are looking for more things opposed to places but all ideas are welcome ...
A. 8 March 2010: lol I love your answer marriedlady!
I just wanna say be careful of a threesome. I've heard that it's hard to not let feelings get involved with having another person in your bed. It could open a huge can of worms. So think carefully before doin... (read in full...)
I love him and want to believe this is all a "joke" but it has gone too far
Q. So i have a really complex situation, and don't know what to do.. The problem is my boyfriend has been talking to another girl on skype and facebook. He tells me when he talks to her and what is said. But thats not exactly the truth. See, h...
A. 7 March 2010: Oh my gosh. How awful for you! I know everyone has given you such good, helpful advice and opinions, but here's mine as well :) You've got to leave him sweetie. Whether or not he did actually kiss her and whether he will actually have sex with her... (read in full...)
My parents have rules but my boyfriend thinks I am treated unfairly
Q. So I have a curfew. Tonight was my boyfriends birthday, so I went out. I told my parents I would be home by one, not knowing if that would happen or not. My boyfriend knows my parents are strict too, and that I had to be home. So, Im at the party ...
A. 7 March 2010: I personally think having a curfew at the age of 21 is pretty rediculous. Only because a lot of people are out living on their own at that age and at that age you are completely an adult, mentally and legally, and completely able to make your own ... (read in full...)
Can you damage yourself internally if you use a vibrator too forcefully?
Q. Can you damage yourself internally using a vibrator, may have been used to forcefully? I have had a slight achey feeling around where my left ovary is and wondered if this could be attributed to it?...
A. 6 March 2010: Yes I have had similar aches after using a vibrator too vigorously. Is it like a dull ache in your abdomen that is constant and quite sore but barable? It will go after a day or two, just take a pain killer and go about your day. If its just ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend nervous with anything sexual.
Q. I am 14 and my girl is 13 and she is scared to even look at me when i take my shirt off and we have only kissed but she is nerves about sex what do i do? ...
A. 6 March 2010: She's 13, and probably shy to look at you with your shirt off because she's nervous and inexperienced sexually. It probably brings up all kinds of feelings seeing a guy naked, or shirtless, so she looks away. Which is totally normal for a 13 year ... (read in full...)
I can't believe that no one remembers my birthday
Q. So I'll be 45 in two days. My kids are grown, and I've been dating this guy for 2 years. He has 3 kids; 13, 15, 21. I am currently staying with him until I close on my house (he wanted me to live with him, but the house is too small and I just ...
A. 6 March 2010: When they were prepairing for the party did you say its your birthday too? It wasn't acknowledged, but when they were discussing having a joint party, did you say 'hey, its my birthday in that week too! why dont we have it as my party too?' ... (read in full...)
I can't believe that no one remembers my birthday
Q. So I'll be 45 in two days. My kids are grown, and I've been dating this guy for 2 years. He has 3 kids; 13, 15, 21. I am currently staying with him until I close on my house (he wanted me to live with him, but the house is too small and I just ...
A. 5 March 2010: Did you mention it was your birthday? Its possible he genuinely forgot, as in hadn't made a mantal note when your birthday is and just assumed you'd bring it up near the time. I'm bad with dates myself so I know this isnt meant in a bad way. I just ... (read in full...)
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