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6 November 2009: This is a follow-up to my article on "how to get good advice" located at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-good-advice.html This time I am going to delve into the area on how to give good or better advice to those who are seeking it. ...
Playing with Statistics of Chance
No replies yet... 21 March 2009: After reading a lot of "What are my chances.." type questions, I figured I'd delve into the little aspect of statistics of chance. A guy named Aaron Levenstein once said, "Statistics are like bikinis. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they ...
How to get good advice?
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26 February 2009: You ask for someone's advice and expect to get good advice back, what do you do? You tell them your story and expect to get a good response back. Do you always get it? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. There are a variety of steps you need to consider to ...
Do these boots make my butt look big and the lies we tell.
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10 February 2009: LIES! All of us tell lies from time to time. Sometimes small innocent lies, sometimes big giant lies. Some lies save us from being yelled at by our partners and others make our partners scream at us. Why do we do it? Can we not just get by not ...
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Should we break up? He seems to think we should..what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and three months. We have been living together for a little less than a year. Lately we have been having stupid fights and arguing. He recently told me that he is unhappy and not sure that he still ...
A. 28 March 2006: Here's the hard part. Give him time. Be patient. Here's a pretty good quote.. "Love is always patient and kind, it is never jealous. Love is never boastful nor conceited, it is never rude or selfish it does not take offense and is not resentful.Love ... (read in full...)
My dad is cheating on my stepmum..I want to tell her but fear ruining everything! What should I do?
Q. ok this is long, i apologize: i found out my dad cheated on my stepmom, and not only lied to her but to me and my siblings a lot as well. he cheated with a girl (who used to be my friend) who is a month younger. i found out and confronted them both, ...
A. 28 March 2006: You are in a hard spot. A) Do you tell on your father to your step mom. or b) just keep quiet? It's hard to go against blood. a lot of it because you normally know them longer. But what your dad did was wrong. Not only did he cheat on his wife but ... (read in full...)
So upset that my gf moved out-sleepless night, drinking, just totally down all the time. Advice needed!
Q. Hi all. Was with my girlfriend/fiancee for nearly 2 years. The last few months have been hard, my business isnt doing as well as it did in the past and money seems to be getting tighter every month. I knew all this was happening and have been pr...
A. 28 March 2006: This is a tough situation. There's a lot of things that can harm a relationship. Financial stress is a big one. Unfornately, you took it out on her even if it wasn't her fault and made her feel hurt. Hopefully the two of you can talk tommorrow and ... (read in full...)
He lied to me alot to get me, he changed, but I think things are back to normal. Should I stay?
Q. I'm not sure I love the guy I am with (I'll call him H)... we have been together for almost a year now and have elaborate plans for our future together. The problem is I'm not sure I love H! You see, H is not the kind of guy that I would want to ...
A. 27 March 2006: It sounds to me you are looking for someone to tell you to leave which if that is what you really want, do it. all that you have said are perfect reasons why you should problaly think about moving on. though the family thing is hard since he has no ... (read in full...)
Met a guy, had a great night, and as I drop him off he leans in and gives me a nice big... Handshake!?
Q. I met this guy at a party a while back. We immediatly started arguing then towards the end of the night got along great. We exchanged emails and flirted over msn and decided to hang out 1 on 1. So we went for food and shopping etc and when i dropped ...
A. 27 March 2006: a few more beers may help too. but chances are is he may have what the others have said. may have just didnt want to make that first move on the first date because of shyness or other reasons. He may have been smacked too many times for giving his ... (read in full...)
He's my friend and he likes another girl..I'm getting jealous and what can I do about this other girl?
Q. hi, i love my male friend alot, and we spend loads of time together. he has asked me out before but i made it clear to him that i just wanted to be friends. i love getting close to him but when he asks me out i freeze and run. lately he has sta...
A. 27 March 2006: There's a lot of things you can do... all of which are illegal and I would never recommend.
but on the legal side, well there's really not much you can do about the other girl. and in the end, he problaly will see her more than you and of cours... (read in full...)
Should I act on this dream?
Q. Is it a good idea to act on something based on what I dreamt last night? I am keen on this guy but haven't done anything about it because I'm not sure if he likes me and I'm not sure if it really is a good idea because we are friends and I wo...
A. 27 March 2006: people say we have dreams for a variety of reasons and a lot of different meanings. I would say go for it though that does carry the inherent risk of losing a good friend. but then you always may gain an excellent lover. Sometimes being friends ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was grabbing my boobs, is this wrong?
Q. I am 15 and I am going out with my first bf. My Mom has told me about boys but the other night when we were kissing he put his hand on one of my boobs but I moved it away. A little bit later he did it again and this time he squeezed and I told him ...
A. 27 March 2006: I would be cautious with this guy and what you do next. Yes it may have felt good, but you do need to have boundaries especially at a young age. I has been mentioned prior.. My fear is that if you let him continue this, he will continue to push the ... (read in full...)
My friends hooked me up with this girl but I don't think shes over her ex. Please help!!
Q. Hello there. In need of some help and advice! I'm 16 years old btw. Basically, my friends introduced me to this girl and we hooked up and now we been seeing each other for a week or so, But...she just broke up with her exboyfriend of 2 years (on a...
A. 27 March 2006: Hopeful gave some good advice.
But it does sound like she wants to move on and she may still need that space. And being young doesnt help much either. Experience is a wonderful teacher. but definately have a little chat with her about it. My g... (read in full...)
He's cheated on previous gf's in his past and I can't shake the feeling he'll do the same to me. Can cheaters change?
Q. I'm 20 and my bf is 35. We have been together for almost 2 years and were best friends before for 1 year. The age gap is usually not an issue and we are so happy together but I have a problem with his past. He has been very open and honest about his ...
A. 27 March 2006: I would be cautious on this guy. Like the previous reader I have my doubts, though my reasoning was a bit different on why he told you the "truth". He may just be telling you that to make you think he could be trusted. I'm guessing the previous ... (read in full...)
I work six days a week while my partner lays in bed. Am I being taken advantage of?
Q. I feel like I am being used, I work 6 days a week whilst my partner stays home. Sometimes she is still in bed when I get home from work. We do not sleep together anymore, she stays up all night watching television and smoking dope. I also do the s...
A. 27 March 2006: Yes I do feel you are being taken advantage of. Easy answer for you is to move on.
Harder answer:
To me, it sounds like she has a *minor* drug problem. That can be tough for you. From the sound of it, she is in love with her drug more than yo... (read in full...)
Should we break up? He seems to think we should..what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 1 year and three months. We have been living together for a little less than a year. Lately we have been having stupid fights and arguing. He recently told me that he is unhappy and not sure that he still ...
A. 27 March 2006: Sometimes you need to take a step back to go forward. Do not worry about taking this step back in the relationship, worry more about the outcome of it.
A) It will work out and find out it *was* better to be living together.
B) It will fail and... (read in full...)
How soon should after being dumped should you start dating?
Q. Hi, i was just wondering how soon is appropriate to start seeing someone else after spliting up with a long-term boyfriend. I am in position where, my boyfriend dumped me about 2 weeks ago (after 3 yrs) and a male friend of mine has told me that he ...
A. 27 March 2006: The answer to this question can be elusive. Often, I think it depends on the person and how they feel about their previous relationship. But from the sounds of it, you may want to back off a bit before moving forward. I'd wait and make sure that ... (read in full...)
My bf seems to not care about me anymore..what can I do to improve our relationship?
Q. me and my fiancee of 4 years are 2 months pregnancy.we are in a distance relationship, he is in africa and i am in europe.but all of a sudden he has changed.he seems not to care anymore about me, he goes partying until morning, but b4 the pregnancy ...
A. 27 March 2006: My first thought would be move to Africa. Long Distance Relationships can be tough. Now add in the pregnancy. That's tough. He may be stressed out about it and wants to relieve it by partying..
What is in order is going to have to communic... (read in full...)
I'm too ugly to have a boyfriend!
Q. Ive never had a boyfreind and Im 13 Im so afraid Im ugly. Even if I did have one I wouldnt be able to tell my parents they dont trust me. Pleas help me!...
A. 27 March 2006: Well first I will say this. You are only 13 and have many years ahead of you to have boyfriends. Boyfriends/girlfriends can come and go. Perhaps you should try to concentrate on your friends some more and let the rest work itself out.
It's ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about his weird phone habits!?
Q. I have a question. Okay, here's the situation. My boyfriend is pretty good, I'd say our relationship is pretty healthy, we respect each other and have separate interests and friends, encourage each other, etc. He cares for me when I don't feel wel...
A. 27 March 2006: What I read would lead me to believe that he is checking up on you and not trusting you.. but thats if he actually says that is exactly what you said he said.
if he says "Ok let me call you at home because I want to make sure you are there." ... (read in full...)
Sex, sex, sex. Sex. Sexsex. That's all he wants to talk about, and I'm SICK of it!
Q. I have a problem My boyfriend and I have been together 2 months. He seems to have a very high sex drive. We haven't had sex yet as i want to wait, but my problem is, i want to talk about things in our relationship and how much i love him and thi...
A. 27 March 2006: Move on is actually the way to go. A) If he loved you, he should wait. b) If he loved you, he talk about more things than just sex. It is pretty normal to want to have sex. I can see it coming up when you are intimate. But not all the time. and it ... (read in full...)
She's had sex with so many other guys, that I don't think our lovemaking could ever be as new and exciting as what she's already done...
Q. My girlfriend of three months recently told me about her sexual experience, and it's driving me insane. I knew that she'd had a lot of partners before, and I was ok with that. But when she told me about all the things she's done, it upset me. She's ...
A. 27 March 2006: That is always a big dilemma which I face as well. From the sound of it, you seem to care about how she feels, which is part of the puzzle for you to satisfy her. which of course that has a downside, you'd always ask yourself this question,"was I ... (read in full...)
Are all the compliments I get just a ploy to get me in bed??
Q. hi there. i really dont want this to sound self-obsessed, im just genuinley curious. Whenever i meet a guy, they always say im the fittest person theyve ever seen and how nice i am. i was just wondering is it just a ploy to get me in bed that they ...
A. 27 March 2006: Take compliments from a guy with a grain of salt.. if it's a good friend, it's fine.. unless they too are trying to get into your pants.
on a side note, do not ask your boyfriend how you look. either way they answer is not what you'd want to ... (read in full...)
I didn't use protection when I gave him oral sex...should I be worried?
Q. Hi, the other nite i gave oral sex to the guy i am seeing for the first time. At the time i didnt think about using protection and now im worried that i'll catch something as i really dont know him that well..... please help...
A. 27 March 2006: I don't know how much help I can give you other than by saying make sure you protect yourself next time unless you know you will be with them the rest of your life. I would use protection if you were with them for 1 year as well. So be sure you'd be ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be pregant even though my bf didn't cum??
Q. Hey, I'm 16 and me and my 19 year old bf had unprotected sex yesterday. Even though he never actually cums he was about to yesterday and he had to stop because of it anyway even tho he didn't cum I am just wonderring if I could still be pregnant? Is ...
A. 27 March 2006: I wish you the best of luck and hope the best for you. But it is possible. My gf became pregnant by this method in one try and I thought i didn't cum inside her. I would not suggest anyone to try to have unprotected sex unless they want a child even ... (read in full...)
The pills I take have a side affect..I can't cum! What should I do?
Q. hello, i have to take tablets which have a side efect: the side efect is i can't cum, is there any tablets etc i can take to make me cum. this is efecting my marriage. ...
A. 27 March 2006: You're wife isn't enjoying this? I would love to personally be able to go longer without cumming. :) but well my serious suggestion is to talk to your doctor. He/she may be able to do something to help you.. switch dose/switch medication. Remember ... (read in full...)
I'm fat, average looking, unemployed, 21 and have only had one girl interested in me... Ever! (and she was 14)
Q. What's wrong with me?? I'll admit, I'm not the best catch, im overweight (who isnt these days??) im average lookin not striking and at the mo im unemployed. Throughout my life, ive obviously had crushes, fallen for even fallen in love with som...
A. 27 March 2006: Hang in there. It's good to hear you resisted the temptation that fell in front of you. The problem with life and people is that you can never really know what another is really thinking unless they actually have told you what they are feeling.. ... (read in full...)
I've promised God I won't cheat again... But how will I cope?
Q. im a very happy married women who fell for another mans sweetness towards me,we recently got a little out of hand and ended up having sex. i can't get it out of my head because the only man i love is my husband. i could never tell him this ever. i ...
A. 27 March 2006: What a tangled web we weave... You just need to remind yourself about who you really love and each time you get a temptation that you love him and only him and that if you really loved him you won't let it happen no matter how sweet the other guy ... (read in full...)
Me and my best friends bf made love and now i'm pregnant with his kid!!
Q. I have gotten myself in to an awful mess. I didnt have a boyfriend so my best friend and her partner took me to a party. I didnt meet anyone there and my friend got so drunk we had to take her home and I helped him to put her to bed. Afterw...
A. 27 March 2006: I will say you made a poor judgement. I would be willing to excuse the first mistake due to that alcohol was a factor, but it's hard to excuse the fact you continued to see him. He merely was using you for an easy way to get off. Personally, I would ... (read in full...)
He's still with his girlfriend, but I'm the one he wants long term...
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 1 year and met him while he had a girlfriend. He is still with her but said I'm the only one he wants to be with in the long term. In a way I believe him cuz he takes risks to see me. He said he wants children...
A. 27 March 2006: This guy is laeding you on. I would be cautious with this guy and personally I problaly would not trust him. It's been 1 year and he is still with his girlfriend, that doesn't sound too much like he wants to be with you long term. If he wanted to be ... (read in full...)
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