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writes:hi,i love my male friend alot, and we spend loads of time together. he has asked me out before but i made it clear to him that i just wanted to be friends. i love getting close to him but when he asks me out i freeze and run.lately he has started to fancy another girl, im getting jealous! i love spending time with him and im scared he will spend all his time with her instead of me!i dont know if i fancy him. everyone said we should go out and im with him all the time. he makes me feel different than any other boy.but on the other hand i cant even imagin myself kissing him! whats goin on?and what should i do about this other girl?please help
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reader, tux  +, writes (27 March 2006):
 There's a lot of things you can do... all of which are illegal and I would never recommend.
but on the legal side, well there's really not much you can do about the other girl. and in the end, he problaly will see her more than you and of course turn to you for advice. That's the bad part.
But the question here is.. are you jealous because you are sensing you won't be able to spend time with him? or are you jealous because you like him?
I'm guessing it's the first one seeing you don't picture yourself kissing him. but then that's hard to say. I could be wrong.
Here's my advice.
If you dont like him more than friends, then you are going to have to accept it and let him be happy. Friends don't make friends miserable. in this case, there will be plenty of other girls to steal his time from you.
If you do like him more than friends, if it's not too late as in he is already dating the girl.. I'm stumped. you could possibly talk to him about it but then now it's a bit riskier in a sense that a) he fancies another girl which would just confuse the poor soul a lot or b) your friendship may not be the same, though if you date him you risk that same thing.
If they are dating now, I wouldn't interfere.
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