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How to give better advice..

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6 November 2009: This is a follow-up to my article on "how to get good advice" located at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-good-advice.html This time I am going to delve into the area on how to give good or better advice to those who are seeking it. ...

Playing with Statistics of Chance

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21 March 2009: After reading a lot of "What are my chances.." type questions, I figured I'd delve into the little aspect of statistics of chance. A guy named Aaron Levenstein once said, "Statistics are like bikinis. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they ...

How to get good advice?

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26 February 2009: You ask for someone's advice and expect to get good advice back, what do you do? You tell them your story and expect to get a good response back. Do you always get it? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. There are a variety of steps you need to consider to ...

Do these boots make my butt look big and the lies we tell.

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10 February 2009: LIES! All of us tell lies from time to time. Sometimes small innocent lies, sometimes big giant lies. Some lies save us from being yelled at by our partners and others make our partners scream at us. Why do we do it? Can we not just get by not ...

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I've been sneaking around having sex with him and now I want his baby

Q.   I have been having sex with this guy, who has a kid who I believe is around the age of 4 or 5 with a woman and he is an excellent father, the kid likes him better than the mother. He is not married to her but still lives with her he has been living ...

A.   25 March 2009: "he wants it to stay like that so he can keep getting more. so what does that mean exactly?" It means that he wants to continue having you for sex while he probably is getting some from her as well. You need to re-read what you just wrote and figu... (read in full...)

What do I do to make her leave him and me alone?

Q.   ok im 17 and i'm pregnant. my boyfriend of 2 years who got me pregnant is 28 and there is a huge problem and it's not the age gap its his ex girlfriend. he has a 3 year old daughter by his ex girlfriend and his 3 year old daughter looks nothing ...

A.   24 March 2009: If he doesn't believe that the kid is his, then you need to get him to take a dna test. If it's his, then you are stuck with his babymama drama... If it's not his, then you can get her out of your life. I would also recommend moving. This ... (read in full...)

Husband wants me to have family in room when I give birth...im not so keen..

Q.   Hi, im preganant and baby due in august. Me and my husband are both thrilled but theres 1 aspect im not happy with.... I am having a hospital birth and so far a vaginal birth which is all good but my husband wants his parents and possibly som...

A.   24 March 2009: I would say that you should do what is more comfortable to you.. You will most likely be in a lot of pain and any more uncomfortableness is probably not good.. but on the other hand, you might be in so much pain that you might not notice anyone else ... (read in full...)

I'm 15 years old and I'm pregnant from a 20 yo....will he go to jail ??

Q.   im 15 years old and im pregnant from a 20 year old....will he go to jail ?? i mean when i have the baby i'm going to be past 16 ..could he still go to jail?...

A.   24 March 2009: It depends what state you are in.. Most states age of consent is 16 with a 3 year window.. some states even have 18 as age of consent. If you have the baby past 16 it would not matter because he'd have to had sex with you while you were 15. Also ... (read in full...)

We're "on a break", then he joked we were "Friends with Benefits" ???

Q.   2 weeks ago my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I went "on a break". It was his idea since we had been spending too much time together and arguing a lot more than normal. A few days later I asked what he meant by "break" and he said it was that we were ...

A.   24 March 2009: I think he mentally has already broken up with you. He is just keeping you around for the fun. Either that or he is playing games with you and seeing as other aunts said by seeing how far he can push you. My philosophy is if they want to play games, ... (read in full...)

I've been sneaking around having sex with him and now I want his baby

Q.   I have been having sex with this guy, who has a kid who I believe is around the age of 4 or 5 with a woman and he is an excellent father, the kid likes him better than the mother. He is not married to her but still lives with her he has been living ...

A.   24 March 2009: So if you only see him for sex when the other girl is at work and the kid is in school for 3 hours.. if you get pregnant, when will he have time for your child? It sure does not sound like a great situation to bring a child into this world.. ... (read in full...)

Is she using him till I get older?

Q.   my ex gf is showing me signs that she loves me but dosent want to say it.she shows me her brest and underwear after she dumped me.she was going to but on a sexy maid outfit,give me a lap dance and kiss me on her b day in her room.she told some of ...

A.   24 March 2009: My question is to ask you, why do you still want to be with her? I personally would stay away from girls who are playing these kind of mindgames. That is what these are.. she wants attention and loves when you give it to her.. That's all I can see ... (read in full...)

I've been sneaking around having sex with him and now I want his baby

Q.   I have been having sex with this guy, who has a kid who I believe is around the age of 4 or 5 with a woman and he is an excellent father, the kid likes him better than the mother. He is not married to her but still lives with her he has been living ...

A.   24 March 2009: Do you really think he is good father material? I would have a hard time believing that because he is probably spending a lot of time going out on dates with you and drinking with his buddies, not to mention the time at work, than to really take ... (read in full...)

How could things change this quickly? Is there someone else?

Q.   my boyfriend broke up with me after being engaged, telling me he loves me every day, that i am going to be his wife soon, met his mother and he spoke of meeting his other relatives too. out of the blue he says its over, that he has issues, that we ...

A.   24 March 2009: Maybe it could be this new woman... Maybe he had an affair with her and now she is blackmailing him to leave you? There can be lots of reasons that he could do this, and you already picked out the most obvious.. Only real way is to let him tell you ... (read in full...)

I was too drunk to remember what I'd done!!!

Q.   I'm 14, my sister is 15. She's dating a 16 year old who has a 14 year old sister, 24 year old brother and a 26 year old step brother. My sister's bf had a massive birthday party for his 16th and I was invited as I'm friends with his younger her ...

A.   23 March 2009: This is why one should not drink alcohol until they are in a drunken stupor because when they wake up they will find themselves in bad place.. You should have not consumed any alcohol or should have said no when they kept on offering you more. ... (read in full...)

Does Enzite REALLY work?

Q.   Is there any way to make your penis larger. I hear about things like enzite and all these others that make it bigger but do they really work? Do you have to keep taking them to keep it big, does it just make your erection big, or does it make your ...

A.   23 March 2009: I'll sell you some great sugar-pills that will make you believe that your tool is performing better and will charge you half the price of Enzyte. ;) I tried these before(free) and it worked for me in a sense, but it was more mental and nothing ... (read in full...)

My husband became suddenly impotent. Any ideas why and what can be done?

Q.   Hi, I;m really looking foreword,to see your take on my situation... This is about my husband. So we live together 25 years ago, and a few years ago ,my husband went limp suddenly in a middle of an intercourse. It never happened before. We just sto...

A.   23 March 2009: I would see a different doctor.. losing erection mid-coitus and not being able to get it back up is not good. There has to be a reason for it whether it is just mental or physical. If it's physical than it means something is wrong with the blood ... (read in full...)

13 year age difference an acceptable age gap?

Q.   Once both parties are legal, is 13 years an acceptable age gap? Some people say it's gross or awkward, but my parents had an age difference of 14 years (they ended up getting divorced, but not because of that...). WHat do you think?...

A.   23 March 2009: I'm not going to pass judgement here, but most people will believe that this is wrong and that people 16 or 17 cannot make up their own minds and make their own judgement.. I'm not that foolish to believe that a 16 cannot make a good decision.. ... (read in full...)

3 days after period unprotected sex..pregnant?

Q.   I got my period this month.I had unprotected sex 3 days later.He cumed. but I didin't feel any cum go in me.Could I be pregnant?...

A.   21 March 2009: Statistically speaking, chances of getting pregnant at that time of your cycle is low. Keep in mind that the word to focus on is LOW.. I'm going to assume because I don't know the actual stat but lets say that 5%(which is a low chance) of girls get ... (read in full...)

Should I stay with her?

Q.   well its about my girlfriend, she has a hard time expressing her feelings, we talk but have a different sense of humor, i cant ask a serious question without getting a “your mom” joke, and i dont really understand her cause her mom doesnt let us ...

A.   21 March 2009: I think you need a more compelling reason to stay with her beyond "You don't want to be alone." To me it sounds like you have a lot of reason to leave her, but only one not too.. and the one reason to not leave her, is not a good reason. All I am ... (read in full...)

Small penis confusion... need guidance asap

Q.   okay, so im embarassed to tell my friend so im trusting this website will help me out, im gonna get straight to the question. ive had sex with 2 guys, im guessing both of them were 2-3 inches long erect. after about 5 min of having sex i lite...

A.   20 March 2009: I find it hard to believe that you were able to find 2 guys to have sex with that both had the penis size of around 2-3" erect. That is a bit below the average size... ... (read in full...)

Is he cheating on me with my sister? Should I leave?

Q.   Is he cheating on me? Lately my fiance has been selfish. I was sick for example; this entire week and couldn't even get off the couch. I asked if he could please take our daughter with him to the gym. He said "it was too much of a hassle" when I ...

A.   20 March 2009: I know a lot of gyms do have daycare centers.. I really don't think a gym daycare center is a good place for a 8 month old. You are relying on a group of strangers to take care of your 8 month old daughter at a gym. If it was an actual daycare ... (read in full...)

Wedding disaster???

Q.   Huge problem with my wedding!!!!! I come from a very conservative family and they are paying for my wedding. They have invited many of their high profile friends and I feel like it is about showing off their money and not about my guy and I. My guy ...

A.   20 March 2009: I would say.. It's your wedding.. Do you want your groom to do this mock strip tease? If you don't mind, I would let your parents know to what kind of party and celebration, you would like, because it is not their wedding, it is yours...... (read in full...)

Trust issues. Please please help.

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have just had an argument. It was about trust. She says I don't trust her... and she's right. We've been together for 18 months now but for about 4 months I have become suspicious of her. Without going into detail I ac...

A.   20 March 2009: Well did she see that guy that she said she didn't go see? I think you'd be correct to have mistrust in her if she did.. But why is her seeing this guy so bad enough that she'd hide it from you? But trust is a touchy subject in any relation... (read in full...)

Why is my mom so strict all of a sudden?

Q.   There's this guy (Yeah, really original). Any ways, he's ten years older than me, he's 26. His parents are really good friends with mine. The biggest secret I have kept from my parents was not telling them I had started dating him when I was 1...

A.   19 March 2009: I have a feeling it's because you have kept that secret from them and now they don't trust you. They may have said they were fine with it, but now they might be worrying that you are doing stuff with him and will end up pregnant and him running ... (read in full...)

She always wants something new!

Q.   how can i satisfy my girlfriend in bed? i am a lesbian! because everytime my gf and i having sex she always wanted me to do something new to her pussy to make cum.....??????? ...

A.   19 March 2009: I would say do exactly what she is telling you to do. She probably knows her body more than you know it and how it is feeling during that time. Personally when I was pleasuring a girl, I would listen and notice how they were reacting to what I w... (read in full...)

Is he cheating on me with my sister? Should I leave?

Q.   Is he cheating on me? Lately my fiance has been selfish. I was sick for example; this entire week and couldn't even get off the couch. I asked if he could please take our daughter with him to the gym. He said "it was too much of a hassle" when I ...

A.   19 March 2009: You wanted him to take your 8 month old baby to the gym with him?? I would say that he is right to say no to that. Personally, that would be too much of a hassle and risk. Maybe if she was 3 or 4 and the gym had a nursery, but I wouldn't bring a 8 ... (read in full...)

He's saying our son isn't his..I don't have time for his bullshit

Q.   My kids dad and I aren't seeing eye to eye. We were suppose to get married unfortunately, it didn't happen. We are in and out of a relationship. I recently gave birth to our son on February 26. He wasn't around during my pregnancy. He d...

A.   19 March 2009: I like to always remember there are two sides to every story. Was there any reason that made him think that your son wasn't his? Personally, I do feel that you probably didn't and that he is one giant tool. He, like other posters, have said is ... (read in full...)

Could use a shoulder to lean on

Q.   First of all..... Holy shit. Where to begin... I left my job for another in another overseas. My fiancee ( almost 6 years together) had wanted us to end up there eventually... Sacrifices had to be made in order to achieve this. Let m...

A.   19 March 2009: Wow asian tealeaf.. That's a novel I fully agree with. :) Very well spoken on this situation. I think you need to focus on yourself right now. Don't let her wandering eye get to you. You deserve better. She basically said it herself.. She's ve... (read in full...)

His kids treat me poorly and ignore me

Q.   hi, im 23 years old and i have been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years, he is 42 years old. my situation is that my boyfriend has been married twice and has 2 kids who are 16 and 18 years old. of course my parents do not approve for starters. m...

A.   19 March 2009: I completely agree with Old_Guy. It's going to be hard for you to have any kind of good standing with them. You could be 2 years younger than their dad and they could still treat you like that because they feel that you are trying to be their ... (read in full...)

I'm embarrassed that I haven't had sex yet

Q.   Well to start things off, I am a 22 year old virgin. It is very hard living in a day and age where all your friends talk about sex and their recent conquests and you have no idea what it is about. I have been told that I am a pretty attractive guy ...

A.   19 March 2009: I wouldn't call BS on this being fake. You are ignoring that the fact that he could have been in high school in the United States, but went up north into Canada for college. This question did originate in Canada. I know we do have issues here and ... (read in full...)

Afraid he'll cheat on me again after easily forgiving him

Q.   My boyfriend of 3 years cheated on me after we had a huge fight a few months ago. He told me right away and I forgave him. A week ago he asked me to marry him and I said yes, but now Im afraid that since I forgave him so easily he will do it again. ...

A.   19 March 2009: It seems to me that the best solution is to wait to get married. As hard as it sounds, you are not ready. This doubt in the back of your head is going to eat you alive. You are going to start wondering and thinking that he is out cheating on you ... (read in full...)

I lied that I had sex and now she doesn't trust me

Q.   Ok, the other day I did the dumbest thing ever. My girlfriend and I both 18 want to have sex with eachother and we are both virgins. But she asked me if I have been with any other girls and I wanted to seem like a player so I told her ive actually ...

A.   19 March 2009: It's been a long day since I saw girls impressed by the number of girls that a boy sleeps with.. The only ones that would be impressed would be those who have slept with a lot themselves, mainly because after having that many, they desire someone ... (read in full...)

Pregnancy mabye?

Q.   I think im pregnant but im not sure. I started my period today. I thought it was strange because me and my boyfriend have been going at it everyday for the last two weeks. (I know there is only a 25% chance of getting pregnant without using a ...

A.   18 March 2009: I get the feeling that you are trying to get pregnant. If that is the case, I would recommend rethinking it and make sure you are ready to have a child, if you already don't have one on the way. You might think you are ready, but can you take care ... (read in full...)

Can a man have sex and not feel anything for the woman?

Q.   Can a man have sex with a woman if he feels nothing for her or will he always have some sort of attraction? When men have affairs they tend to say its "just sex" - but surely it must be "just sex" with some sort of attraction?...

A.   17 March 2009: Before everyone says that when it comes to sex, men only think of it as sex, is a huge misconception. Some men may feel like that but not all men.. Just as much as some women may do the same and have what amounts to "just sex". Some people h... (read in full...)

My ex-husband wants to be bed partners with me

Q.   I recently divorced after 13 years of marriage. My ex-husband was seeing someone, according to him they broke up. He tells me he is still in love with me, and has asked if we could be bed partners since he was not seeing anyone. He called me ...

A.   17 March 2009: I would say that you should not give in or see him on a dating level. IMO, he is looking for a BOOTY CALL and that is it. He wants to satisfy his needs and is only appearing to try to fill your needs to fill his. How long will it be before he runs ... (read in full...)

Is she pregnant? Cum on my finger was inside her

Q.   okay..so i was fingering my girl and she was giving me a handjob..i cummed on her stomach..i touched the cum with one of my fingers..and then after that..i toook lots of tissues and cleaned it up..i think this took like 2-3 minutes..and after sme ...

A.   17 March 2009: Have you guys been doing any other than that instance? I mean there is a chance of her getting pregnant that way and at that time, but it's relatively not that high. Did you guys do anything about a week or two ago? But only way to really t... (read in full...)

Bump after unprotected sex 3 weeks ago..pregnant?

Q.   Hi, im 15 and 3 week ago i had sex for the first time, and we didnt use protection, i know it was stupid not to, but now ive started putting on weight, to form a sort of bump on my stomach, and people have started asking if im pregnant, and i keep ...

A.   17 March 2009: You wouldn't get a baby bump so soon.. My wife is very petite and didn't start to get any kind of pregnancy bump until the 2nd month. 3 weeks in is too early for a pregnancy bump.. it's either your period coming or you're putting on weight from ... (read in full...)

Pregnant with Twins...can you help us decide on some names?

Q.   My husband and i were having a debate about baby names, yes i'm pregnant with twins... and i said i'd put it to a poll. please could anyone who wants to decide from the six names below which one they prefer. i'm expecting a baby boy and a baby ...

A.   16 March 2009: STAY AWAY from naming your kind Harry Peter... It doesn't go good at all together... Harry sounds too much like "hairy" and Peter is a common nickname for the male sex organ.. as far as the others.. I'd go with the other Jakob.. and ... (read in full...)

Alot of issues with my boyfriend

Q.   I have had a serious of problems with my current boyfriend that are seriously bothering me--- a couple of months ago my boyfriend and I were having sex. in the middle of it he decides to open up his computer and put on porn..after asking why he wa...

A.   16 March 2009: You can either accept his behavior or not. Right now, you have been accepting it by staying with him. I have my doubts he will change his ways. If you don't like it, then you are better off leaving him and finding someone else... (read in full...)

Problems with my Xbox friend...

Q.   I met a girl on Xbox right before valentines day. We started talking as friends then started getting more serious after we found out we were almost the same person now what I'm gunna say will make her sound like a psycho bitch but I love her so ...

A.   16 March 2009: Reading this question reminded me a lot about one of my previous relationships.. It didn't end well at all. I would say that she needs to get some help and you are not going to be able to provide that. I thought I could do that with my ex, but well ... (read in full...)

I want to work from home... anyone ever did this before?

Q.   Hi. I really hope someone can help. I want to do some work from home, can you tell me what you think of this website ?: http://www.maverickmoneymakers.com If you don't think this one is genuine, could you please provide links to any we...

A.   16 March 2009: @GinsengMeow: A lot of what you said sounds to be like a Pyramid Scheme.. I will say good luck with those.. ;) Only way to make money there is being at the top which was started moons ago. But if it sounds too easy, it probably is not wort... (read in full...)

Work relationships???

Q.   My supervisor at work is quite young - 25, but acts like a 19 year old and doesn't even look his age. He's always making jokes, and lives the party lifestyle, except I have taken a liking to him :$, I see every tue, wed and fri and have that high ...

A.   16 March 2009: since when is 25 old for someone who is 20? I don't think 25 is old compared to a 20 year old.. now if you were 16/17 maybe.. But as far as the work relationship goes, I would tread cautiously because he is your supervisor. A lot of places f... (read in full...)

Problems with husband with wandering eye...

Q.   Hi everyone, I married last year. I have no child yet. I seriously love my husband. I want to make the perfect family. Now I am feeling so painful in my heart because I found out that he interests other girls also. He is doing the online sex ...

A.   16 March 2009: I would say that you are in a tough spot. What he basically is doing is mentally cheating on you, which I would guess would lead to physically cheat on you. Looking at other girls and talking to them can be a bit innocent but if he is out ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is balding and I don't like it

Q.   I really need help please. I love my bf as a person. I think he's great but recently he's been losing his hair and its really starting to look bad. He's tried many different hairstyles but they don't really suit him. Recently he shaved his head ...

A.   16 March 2009: If you only love your boyfriend as a person, then I think there's something more driving you away than his balding head. or his balding head is just causing it to come out into the light for you. I guess it's just part of our superficial side of our ... (read in full...)

Abusive Relationship

Q.   I am a student at united states. I am here from an Asian country. My boyfriend has been with me for three years. He hit me a year back, before I came to the US. I had broken up with him for three months at that time. But he came back and told me t...

A.   15 March 2009: Leave him ASAP. There are plenty of places out there in which you can get help and a place to stay. Contact the police and I'm sure they'd help you find a place to stay. Or you can find a women's shelter you can stay at. Just remember not to feel ... (read in full...)

Tubes tied, should I were a condom?

Q.   my girlfriend has her tubes both cut and burned. she has no std's and is disease free. should i were protection?? she had them cut about 11yrs ago....

A.   15 March 2009: How old are you and how old is she? I'm guessing you are either dating an much older woman or labeled your age young or have a girlfriend that got her tubes tied at a very very young age. Either way, If you are for certain that she exactly ... (read in full...)

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