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| | asian tealeaf's profile:my name is ling. I live in redlake, ontario. i am in a solid stable relationship with a 1 nyr old daughter. i am 30 yrs old and work in a goldmine. i love life and my whole focus is my family, and building our future. I love hunting, fishing, camping, all outdoors activities. I hate the cold winters here however. it gets to minus 40s and even lower. i love giving advice and helping people better their lives if i can. i come from a family of 9 siblings. my family is from hong kong. i have travelled the world individually and with family. i lived in israel for almost 3 yrs and speak several languages. |
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How do I tackle this problem of watching too much porn?
Q. hi cupid, am a young guy of 22. i have a serious issue that disturbed my life sometimes and trying to stop this but it's just like pouring water on the stone. I have sexual feelings whenever I see a woman naked or watch a porn movie not only that, ...
A. 20 November 2009: most men wake up with erections, this is perfectly normal. a lot of praise is due towards any man who understands he has a sexual addiction to porn, or sees porn as not the right outlet for himself. as it is porn is a real huge problem with our men ... (read in full...)
I'm uncomfortable at the thought of going to this wedding where I'll know no one.
Q. My boyfriend's best friend is getting married in 2 weeks. My boyfriend is the best man in the wedding. I don't know ANYONE, except my boyfriend. I have met his friend a couple of times, but...i don't know him extremely well, and...we have a lot of ...
A. 14 October 2009: im going to a wedding with my bf of 4 yrs to his best friends wedding, he will be the best man. i know the groom and bridew and thats it! its in 2 weeks. iwas a little reluctant too. but, my bf said to me, please come, i just want u on my arm so i ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend a little too friendly with her brother?
Q. I was just out with my girlfriend and her brother the other day. Her brother is homeschooled and a pretty physically friendly guy, but the other day when we were walking around, he had his arm around her a good part of the day, even when I had my ...
A. 13 October 2009: my friend dated this chick, who was overely friendly with her brother. he thought the same thing as u. but, his spider senses were tingling. he suspected a little more. he found out 5 yrs later into dating her she had sex with her brother a few ... (read in full...)
Was what he did during oral sex wrong?
Q. ok so my boyfriend always wants me to swallow after giving him oral sex. he says its sexy and it feels better for him. so i dont have a problem with doing this, but just last night, right when he was about to cum, he PUSHED my head down and held me ...
A. 13 October 2009: i agree. i think ur guy did something no man should ever do without discussing this beforehand. too bad, guys watch porn which objectify women rather then teach men what sex is all about. love and emotional connection between two consenting adults. ... (read in full...)
What do women want in a man? Women are so complicated!
Q. 12 October 2009: What woman wants in a man? when i was with my girlfriend, i used to love her like hell ....sometimes i used to struggle to find out that what would make her happy being with me. sometimes my wacky sense of humor would leave her ...
A. 12 October 2009: EVERY woman is different. indeed, unique by nature.we might all be women, but, like a box of fine chocalates, u never know what u will get. however, women desire men with mental stability, job security, most women dont want to rob ur wallet, we ... (read in full...)
He's mad at me...should I make first contact or let him do it?
Q. When your guy is really mad at you .... Do you think the no contact thing is the best way to go? is it best to wait for him to call even when you were at fault? (and you know he is angry) Or do you think you should call and push for resolut...
A. 7 October 2009: its a tough call, because guys can be just as complicated as girls. a lot of men want the room to breathe, a little "space" to cool off. on the other hand, some guys will expet you to come to them with an apology, if you were in the wrong. so ... (read in full...)
Was this rape? He's acting like nothing happened....
Q. Last night me and my bf were having sex he was behind me when he stuck his finger in my anus. He has done it b4 which i dont mind as it doesnt hurt me. B4 i continue weve always had this joke bout doing it up the bum. I always said i would never do ...
A. 3 October 2009: i think u should put a strap-on on, and pierce is anal cavity, when he screams in pain, and says no, stop, tell him, oh, i thought u were joking, i thought this was fun! even if u were joking, his first instinct should of been to pull out, and ask ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to want more from my wife sexually?
Q. Dear All, My wife and I have been married for 20 years have a great family, work hard. I love my wife very much, bu I have been very depressed and want more from our sex life. When it comes to iniating sex, I am the one to do it, and when I d...
A. 13 September 2009: It's not wrong to want your wife to initiate sexual foreplay etc, but it is expecting TOO MUCH if you're asking her to swallow or bust in her mouth. yecch! dude, have you ever had a guy bust in your mouth? obviously not, but it's a disgusting ... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to not want my wife to see naked men?
Q. My wife went to school for massage therapy. She was in childcare, but not certified, so not making much money,, and wasn't happy. She's now working in a massage place. Not a seedy place with oriental showers and the such you might think of, ...
A. 26 August 2009: if its not a rub and tug, who cares dude? shes a professional masage therapist. a masseusse is different. they give the happy endings. so why r u being so anal about it? do u go to strip bars? do u fancy looking at naked women? do u look at porn? ... (read in full...)
Had sex with her, but she lied about her age - shes underage but now wants it every time we meet. What should I do?
Q. I'm 18 and she's 15 ... i really like her but she's fairly sexually aggressive and it's illegal ... what should i do? i mean she's not only in it for sex but she loves it ... she had told me she was 16 at the beginning and i apparently did something ...
A. 26 August 2009: too young for the big bulls. why mess with the calves when u have heifers in the pasture waiting to be serviced? she lied. okay. not ur fault. now shes turned into a horny nympho. uh. RUN!! with all ur might. she will grow and meet a guy her age. ... (read in full...)
Sometimes I yearn for the single life and the thrill of a first kiss
Q. I am in a committed relationship, but at times I still want to see other girls, I still want to be in single life, and have that thrill of the first kiss. Sometimes I feel like my current girlfriend doesn't even appreciate me. What do I do?...
A. 26 August 2009: u miss the thrill of the hunt. but u need to ask urself, what would u be giving up, to have all that? thats the question posed to u. and if ur not happy with ur gf, then communicate to her and both of u make a conscious effort to make things better! ... (read in full...)
Does this supplement have any bad side effects?
Q. Hey guys! You have helped me with different things for quite sometime=]. I have a new question for you all. I have been trying to get big mucles. I dropped by GNC one today and they introduced me to a TEST BOOSTER that is 100% Natural, it...
A. 21 August 2009: why dont u just workout naturally as ur body releases testosterone naturally on its own. a lot of males get into the hype of BIGGER IS BETTER" all around. lets face it. if we gals wanted rock hard wed cuddle a log. its the quicker but, lazier way of ... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair just to get sex?
Q. I need some help. My husband and I have been together for 7 years (married for 2). My husband doesn't want to have sex. I always try but he is never interested. I rarely have the courage to talk to him but when I do he either says he doesn't ...
A. 17 July 2009: i knew a guy who suddenly as well lost interest in sex, but that was because hed had an affair and contracted a venereal disease and did not want the wife to find out so he simply avoide her sexually. check him out.... (read in full...)
I'm 16, she's just 14 and I'm falling hard!
Q. Hey i just turned 16. i went to a party a few nights ago and met a very nice girl. very mature acting just being part of the crowd. little did i know she is only 13 and turning 14. she suprised everyone at the bonfire with her age, i mean nobody ...
A. 4 July 2009: too young in my opinion, u should date a gal at least ur age...but if uwere 20 and she was 18 then it would not be soo bad. but no matter how mature she seems, 13 yr old girls still go thru the things that girls there age do. she is also
going thru... (read in full...)
Can homosexuals practice tantric sex?
Q. Is tantric sex only for heterosexuals? can lesbians/gays practise tantric sex? any guidance? i dont wish to buy any books or videos.......
A. 4 July 2009: of course!! its all about connecting passionately and intimately with ur lover, be it man or woman. so go ahead, get some head, and "connect"!... (read in full...)
He cheats and lies and stays at her house all the time... how can I get him to be nicer?
Q. Last summer my 22 yr old fiance cheated on me with a 28 yr old whore i say that because she screwed him on a couch with a 4 yr old watching. my fiance and i have a 2 yr old and 5 days after i found out he was cheating i found out i was pregnant ...
A. 7 June 2009: sorry dear. i think u know what needs to be done here. he will reoffend sooner than later, if not with other girls. u can stay and be miserable, for the sake of the kids or break free and make ur family of kids and u happy once more, full of ... (read in full...)
I want a threesome and my wife feels it too
Q. I am a normal guy, with a good professional career in Banglore. I fantasize a lot about sharing my wife with other men in a threesome fashion, and also about watching her have sex with other men. It has become such a strong part of my sexual life ...
A. 4 June 2009: dude, people have MANY varieties of fantasies, but, we NEVER will know the true outcome of how we will feel after its been done, until, well, the deeds been done. i know many couples who experimented because they had such fetishes, and, sadly ... (read in full...)
What do you think is the common things you have to think about before losing your Virginity?
Q. What do you think is the common things you have to think about before losing your Virginity? Ive heard that most people really regret it. all my friends lost theres on a one-night stand and they all agree that they would love to go back in time,...
A. 1 June 2009: i was 16 married off to a man who was 22 i lost my virginity to this man. i hated him, never loved him, felt like i had been raped. he was murdered in 1997 in new york, long island with a friend of his and now, at 32 yrs old, having found my ... (read in full...)
How do I know he won't cheat again?
Q. I have been with my boyfreind for 4 yrs broken up for some short times but we always manage to work it out.i love him and he wants to get married how do i know hes for real and he has cheated before but i got thru it, one of my good freinds says ...
A. 29 May 2009: once hes cheated, either u place blind trust in his word, or always question him. as the saying goes, once a cheater always one, and trick me once shame on u, trick me twice shame on me! so..ultimately, the choice is urs. in my belief, once u ... (read in full...)
He tells me he cares, but he doesn't think there is any future for us, what is the problem, I am confused?
Q. Hiya!! Could someone please help me as I feel so confused! I am 45 and my boyfriend is 50 we have been together for about 3 months now. but have know eachother for about 2 years, We went on holiday for a week and had a great time, Since we got back ...
A. 29 May 2009: what hes trying to say is, in male language that is soft to the touch and wont hurt u as much is, he feels he does not have what he feels u need, he wants to offer more to u, but in his mind he feels u deserve better. i know this because i went thru ... (read in full...)
Is it okay too have sex with a girl you don't really like, when you like someone else?
Q. is it okay too have sex with a girl you dont really like when you like someone else ?...
A. 28 May 2009: ABSOLUTELY NOT!!! unless u both have agreed that u are friends with benefits, what u are doing is going to scar this girls heart for life, so quit while ur ahead and go for the girl u think u like. ... (read in full...)
He's 16 and I'm 13, we have never met...
Q. Here's the thing, I was dating this guy, who is 3 years older than me via the internet and we had arranged to meet and that, it just never happened. Is this too dangerous for me to be doing? I really like him, and he says he loves me, like properly ...
A. 28 May 2009: even if u two had met, and gotten along and all, im afraid that there is a large enough age gap between u two, if u were older, like 19 and he was still 5 yrs older, itd probably be ok, as u would have matured enough in growth etc to take on such a ... (read in full...)
Hurt, my husband has left. Was it the porn or his family?
Q. I feel so hurt because my husband stopped loving me. And what hurts the most is that we have children together. I told him it was his porn or us meaning his family. And I want to know was I wrong to make him decide porn or us?he is using me and I ...
A. 27 May 2009: Assuming he might of had an addiction, in my opinion, if a man jerks to porn and knows it grieves his partner, then he should stop. As it only does more harm in the relationship. However, that being said, most women need to realize a lot of men jerk ... (read in full...)
Opinions please. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. I am in love with a girl who was once divorced. I am single..i love her so much that i can't stay without her. I hid this fact from my family that she had an ex. I am planning to get married to her. But i feel sometimes that she gets sad when she ...
A. 27 May 2009: does she know u want to marry her? perhaps she feels sorrow and longing for something she desires. or she herself has a "fairytale" fantasy of what she wishes in a relationship. perhaps u might be misinterpreting that she just wants to have sex over ... (read in full...)
He's gone home to his wife and isn't talking to me. Why?
Q. I have a boyfriend right now that I live with him already for 8 months, at the beginning he already told me that he had a cold-heart, he don't give a dump to the feeling of others, but I love this guy so I did my best to have a good relationship ...
A. 25 May 2009: sweety, bluntly put, when he was in ur country, he had needs, basic primal carnal needs, and u were there to fulfill them.as he has no "wedding vows" to u, he has no obligations so to speak, with u. although he has cheated with his wife, he will go ... (read in full...)
My husband has assured me he didnt have an affair, but I am still worried.
Q. I came to know from my relative that my hubby is having affair with a young lady, after that we had discussion, He promised me that it was not true he has been blamed, He even promised he well never that young lady. He said how can a young girl like ...
A. 25 May 2009: need more info, but, its wel known age does not necessarily have to play a factor, while she may be young and all, would that stop a man from having sex with her? unless shes incredibly young or underage, itd would not stop a lot of men from doing ... (read in full...)
I don't want to, but I keep snooping around in his personal things. How do I stop?
Q. He's honest and great, but how should i stop being so clingy with my boyfriend and snooping around his phone as well as e-mails? I know this is a big turn off for guys, what should i just know or keep in mind so that i don't have the urge to do ...
A. 25 May 2009: as soon as i met my bf 4 yrs ago, he and i hit it off so well, immediatly he was passing me his cellphone passwords, his email passwords, etc, because he felt he had nothing to hide from me. feeling out of sorts with this, i would tell him i was ... (read in full...)
What do you think? Is chivalry really dead or do gentlemen still exits?
Q. I am a big fan of classic period dramas and books such as Pride and Prejudice and North and South. I love how women are treated in this era and how men are respectable gentlemen. I know i am not alone in this thought and that many women love ...
A. 25 May 2009: women are the ones to blame mostly for the lack of chivalry in todays world, or our society. feminism, has attacked men for years, with women moaning and groaning about their "rights" and that their just as able bodied as men. so men backed off and ... (read in full...)
Raped and now pregnant
Q. Hi. I have a very difficult problem,Around 2 months ago I was raped. Now he is in jail and facing many years but although I am happy about that, I'm very depressed. Last week I found out I was pregnant. And I know it was by him because not o...
A. 25 May 2009: its a HARD and most difficult situation for many, but for myself, there would be no hesitation nor debate. i would of had an abortion, only because for one, if i kept the innocent child, id always be reminded of its father, the rapist, as it would ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my hatred of my small boobs?
Q. I'm so disappointed with my body. With my breasts actually. They're small. However, I'm not "athletic". I'm not fat, but I'm not a skinny, long-bodied beauty. I'm medium framed, huge hips, most of the fat goes there, actually. I've always been ...
A. 23 May 2009: im a 32 a cup. i have to shop in the childrens section to get training bras, i went to victorias secret a few months ago. i love getting my lingerie from there. i needed to be fitted for some bras and they told me ever so politely, u are a minus a ... (read in full...)
How can I lose weight quickly???
Q. What is a good way to lose weigth fast? I want to lose 30 pounds in 40 days any ideas?...
A. 23 May 2009: rule of thumb. treat ur stomach like a big container. imagine it partitioned into 3 parts. fill it 1/3 water, 1/3 food and 1/3 air. this is one of the best ways to start. then, a low carb diet should be followed. carbs dont break down properly and ... (read in full...)
Who is right here?
Q. ok, here at home, there is a little dilemma going on between my mum and my 25 year old brother: my mum does not want my brother bringing his gf over into his bedroom because she says that them sleeping together is "sexually immoral." she says that ...
A. 23 May 2009: while to an extent i agree as long as he and her keep their sexual trysts down to a level where she cant hear, i also agree that, if he has chosen to still live under his mothers roof, he should respect her rules. after all, would u want to hear ur ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to act around women but my friends do!
Q. I don't know how to act around women. When I go to a club, I see my friends casually walk past girls in clubs, rub up against them/touch them up a little and then carry on walking as if nothing happened. Other times it'll happen when they're ...
A. 15 May 2009: sure, u can do the same as ur buddies there do, rub girls up, get a little feely with them then take em home and bang them. but, is that what ur looking for? or are u looking for a respectable girl u can have good times with that will eventually ... (read in full...)
What does cum taste like?
Q. hey guys, I was wondering what 'cum' really tastes like? I have heard on here and friends that it tastes real bad and can anyone relate what it tastes like to a certain food or something? so then at least when the time comes I will be ready, so wha...
A. 15 May 2009: BARRRRFFF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Who can advise him how to leave his wife and children for me?
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man with children. We want to be together but he is finding it very difficult to foresee a way he can leave his children. Is there any advise as to who would be the right person to talk to to help him achieve ...
A. 27 April 2009: if hes willing to abandon his children, assuming there all young, then i would question whether hes the right man to be with! u need to examine ALL avenues in this situatiion, and analyze them properly. secondly, regardless of how u two got ... (read in full...)
Backoff..I'm in a relationship
Q. how do you get someone you had an affair with to backoff because you are in a relationship??...
A. 20 April 2009: u are ur own worse enemy. star put it alll right. i think u might think twice next time u have an affair whiloe in a relationship....if ur afraid ur bf might find out.... why a one sided affair? u should just dump him, and move on. why keep hi round ... (read in full...)
I want to have plastic surgery on my breasts
Q. I know this is a very random question.... Lately i have been thinking how uncomfortable with my boobs..i want to go and have plastic surgery (stupid idea..i know) on the nipple area..so tonight i took some pictures of them to see if they are ...
A. 26 March 2009: ur still developing sweety, so its more optimal to wait to ur bodies fully done growing then, decide if u still want to. im 31 yrs, asian and very small. while a lot of guys think small breasts with nice size nipples r hot, i am not happy with my ... (read in full...)
He won't go out with me because I'm "flat chested" Grrrrr
Q. Well basically, I am 14 and I am not fully 'developed' yet. Like I haven't started my period and my boobs are basically like mosquito bites. This is because my mum developed really late. She didn't start her period til she was 16 but the annoying ...
A. 26 March 2009: ur young, the breasts will definitely come round for sure, heres a little something for u. how would this guy feel if some girl would not date him because his penis was, a little to small for her liking? OUCH! u want to hit a guys ego and ... (read in full...)
Help! Wife saw porn, I think I might lose her and my son!
Q. I have a big problem. My wife looked through the history of my laptop and saw some porn sites I had went to. I'm living a few hours away from home because of my job, and get home on the weekends. She had seen that I had searched for MILFs and a ...
A. 24 March 2009: dub dub, i have always said this to people and i will tell u the same. porn, in general, is a grey area, its a mild form of cheating but, it is u nique for every persons situaution. guys have their hangups and insecurities which sometimes make them ... (read in full...)
Jealousy inducing wife
Q. I am a married man coming into my 1st anniversary with my wife. Even though we made it this far, we have issues. I am laidback when it comes to a lot of things, but I can be jealous. It takes quite a bit I think, to bring it out though. My wife ...
A. 20 March 2009: i agree wuth u, and we all know women love to throw at men "whats good for the goose ought to be good for the gander!"
shes not following this though, eh? was she doing this before u married? or is this something new? if its new, then maybe id try ... (read in full...)
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