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How to give better advice..

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6 November 2009: This is a follow-up to my article on "how to get good advice" located at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-good-advice.html This time I am going to delve into the area on how to give good or better advice to those who are seeking it. ...

Playing with Statistics of Chance

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21 March 2009: After reading a lot of "What are my chances.." type questions, I figured I'd delve into the little aspect of statistics of chance. A guy named Aaron Levenstein once said, "Statistics are like bikinis. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they ...

How to get good advice?

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26 February 2009: You ask for someone's advice and expect to get good advice back, what do you do? You tell them your story and expect to get a good response back. Do you always get it? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. There are a variety of steps you need to consider to ...

Do these boots make my butt look big and the lies we tell.

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10 February 2009: LIES! All of us tell lies from time to time. Sometimes small innocent lies, sometimes big giant lies. Some lies save us from being yelled at by our partners and others make our partners scream at us. Why do we do it? Can we not just get by not ...

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I think I'm sterile and have questions

Q.   I am 19 years old. I know I am young but my boyfriend and I who have been together on and off. Have sex regularly sometimes twice a day. He almost always cums inside of me. Not saying that we want a baby so young or nothings its just we know how ...

A.   22 February 2009: You are still too young to worry about being sterile. Some people can take a very long time before they are successful at becoming pregnant while others like my wife got pregnant on our first try. You say that you think that you may be sterile,... (read in full...)

Can the doctor say I'm not a virgin?

Q.   Okay so I'm 13, I'm a virgin but my hymen ripped from being fingered and also "fist" by my boyfriend, I think it ripped because I was bleeding after he fingered me. Since I really am, still a virgin, Can my doctor say that I'm not a virgin since my ...

A.   22 February 2009: I think it would have ripped with the fisting.. Are 13 year olds really doing that nowadays?? but anyways, like it has been said.. The hymen can be broken in a variety of different ways that don't even involve anything sexual. But if you are ... (read in full...)

She's on the Pill, so can I go without a johnny?

Q.   hey guys bit of a sex question here.......wasnt really told this in school lol . errr my GF is on the pill that apparently makes her 95% less likely to get pregnant or somit, she finished her period like 4 days ago, she recons its nearly impossibl...

A.   10 February 2009: Recommended: Both for a variety of reasons, one being STD's and not all forms of protection are 100% effective. If you accept those risks, then it is yours and her decision to go bareback. For a little story, I once had an ex who was on the p... (read in full...)

Why are condoms called johnny's?

Q.   this may come across as a daft question, but what is the reason for condoms being nicknamed "johnny"? ...

A.   10 February 2009: other possible names: Rubbers, love gloves, raincoats, jimmie hat, sheathes, goalie(though it can be the diaphram as well and will most likely be mentioned when you get pregnant while using protection "Looks like one got past the goalie")... (read in full...)

Is he a player who likes everybody, should I just move on?

Q.   okay, so im 14 years old, and i met this guy at the movies, and wen we met we clicked pretty well. the only problem was, he was one of my acquaintances' ex. but she cheated on him so he didnt like her very much at the time i met him. but they still ...

A.   10 February 2009: Well I think he may have liked you but felt that the chase was too hard. I mean if you never picked up the phone to talk, he might have thought you didn't like him.... (read in full...)

He went running back to his ex!

Q.   my boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years i paid for his car and help him financially. his ex girlfriend called and said she want him back and he went back to her. she doesnt even know about me. but i still love him n cant get over him what...

A.   10 February 2009: Next time when you buy your boyfriend a car make sure the license plates say "ILove*insertyourname* or have plenty of stickers exclaiming that. but well.. I'm sorry but there is not much to do except hope he comes back to you if you still love him. ... (read in full...)

Do guys tell each other EVERYTHING about their sex life?

Q.   I am not talking about guys that are in serious commited relationships but I guess like the guys who party and go to bars. Do they tell their buddies *everything* when it comes to sex? Like "this girl was good in bed, that girl sucked, this girl was ...

A.   10 February 2009: Well I will probably say that a lot of guys will tell a lot about their sex life, but a lot of time it needs to be taken with a grain of salt because it's never how it was.. it's always embellished one way or the other. ... (read in full...)

Has he lost interest already?

Q.   I kissed one of my friends room mates two nights in a row last week. He wanted to have sex and started touching my boobs, and put my hand down his pants but I stopped him and left. My friend told me that the next night, he tried to do something with ...

A.   10 February 2009: Something tells me you should keep your relationship with him to these awkward moments together and don't take it further. Unless you want a wham-bam-thank you ma'am kind of affairs. He's just trolling for sex from the sounds of it. If he was ... (read in full...)

My online friend suddenly disappeared leaving me worried for weeks, what should I do?

Q.   I have a really good friend who lives right outside NYC, about an hour and a half away from where I am at. We used to chat online through AIM/Skype/etc (almost) every single day, and we both really liked each other, and we were very close to ...

A.   10 February 2009: Calm down.. relax.. breathe.. breathe... breathe.. Patience my poor internet acquaintance. Well i would relax a little bit on your internet friend. she may just be busy with other things right now that are taking up her time.. In the end, you will ... (read in full...)

My wife wants to use money that we don't have to help her family, I'm sick of it, please help?

Q.   I am 39 this year. Have 4 children and a caring and lovely wife whom I have been married to just on 10 years. She if Filipino and I am Australian chinese. I used to work 2 - 3 jobs just to pay bills. Now I work one job, but work all day and night. ...

A.   10 February 2009: My question is.. is she supporting her family for show? or is she supporting her family out of love and care? I have a feeling you entered this marriage knowing that she would be sending money back to the Philippines. You should have expected that ... (read in full...)

Does too much wetness in a girls vagina gross guys out when they finger you?

Q.   Does too much wetness in a girls vagina gross guys out when they finger you? I'm talkinga bout a 16 year old boy....

A.   10 February 2009: To answer the question how it was asked.. In the eyes of a 16 year old guy.. It may gross them out, but if it does well i'd recommend finding a different 16 year old guy that of course you love and are ready to be sexual with and not forced into it. ... (read in full...)

Now it only takes 5 minutes! Why?

Q.   In the beginning of me and my girl friends relationship! When we was having sex it would take me hours to actually cum! But now it only takes me but 5 mins! We have the same amount of sex and we still use condoms! Why is it that now it happens so ...

A.   10 February 2009: Stop thinking about it too much. That could be a good cause of it. Well, to answer this, What are you doing different? (you can still have the same frequency of sex and usage of condoms and still be doing something different) Did anything drastic ... (read in full...)

Losing my V-card on V-day, I'm so scared and nervous, please help!

Q.   well ive been going out with my boyfriend for like 4 months now and im a virgin, we have been talking about having sex lately hes 19 and im 16. weve talked about having sex on valentines day which is like 4 days away, i need some advice really on ...

A.   10 February 2009: Valentine's Day is a great romantic day. Don't let it go to your head and make a haste judgement just because you think it would be great to lose your virginity on such a romantic day. Remember, You have only been seeing him for 4 months now. Ask ... (read in full...)

Could someone please tell me what is up with my relationships?

Q.   Question: I had 2 flings the past year that i was crazy about. So heres the pattern: 1.They chase hard 2. they get me 3. I fall for them ...eventually it becomes sexual 4. I think of them and want to get a lil serious 5. they get distant...

A.   10 February 2009: They want the sex.. of course. You continue this cycle by doing the same steps.. Stop doing the same steps.. Maybe stop going for the ones who chase hard... or just maybe stop having sex with them until they become serious with you. Why do they ... (read in full...)

Could I have gotten pregnant after having unprotected sex, the first time we had sex??

Q.   i am 16 yrs old i had sex about a month ago..my bf took of the condom i remember him stoping several times inside me with out a condom..it was my first time..2 days after i did it i stared an early period it only last about4 or 5 days then i just ...

A.   10 February 2009: Yes you can get pregnant. sex can make your pregnant.. Unprotected sex is even more riskier. As far as the heart goes, it does not take months for the heart to develop. The heart should start beating before 1 month.. If you don't feel, see or sense ... (read in full...)

Will my chances of concieving be greater as I've had antibiotics?

Q.   Hey there, a quick question. Me and my boyfriend have just decided to try for a baby. Last Friday I started penicillin for tonsilitus, one day after that on the Saturday I finished my pack of contraceptives, I finished my pencillin on Friday and ...

A.   8 February 2009: If you need advice on conceiving, search the web.. There are a lot of good resources out there from reputable sites like webmd, medicinenet and others that hand out their tips for free as opposed to having to pay for a book that was most likely ... (read in full...)

Pregnant from bj?

Q.   I gave my boyfriend a blow job, and I'm afriad I may be pregnant because the sperm got on my hands. i waited about 30 mins before i went to the rest room though. what should i do?...

A.   8 February 2009: What did you do with your hands after you got the sperm on them? But I doubt anything happened unless you did more than just give him a BJ.... (read in full...)

Pregnant a possibility?

Q.   hello everyone, I had sex in november and i had my period 2 weeks afterwards and i had one december but it was late! i didn't have one in january which really concerns me. i've looked up symptoms for pregnacy and i dont really have any. i ...

A.   8 February 2009: You had sex in November... Did you also have sex in December or January as well? Maybe the protected variety this time? Just asking.. because it could have happened during a different encounter other than the one in november.. It's already ... (read in full...)

Could I be pregnant from his naked rubbing?

Q.   My boyfriend and I recently had sex. We used a condom, but I just realized that he rubbed himself against me while neither of us were wearing clothes and he didn't have the condom on yet. Could I be pregnant?...

A.   8 February 2009: Good advice ArmyMedic, but it should be.. If there's touching involved with certain parts, a condom is required at all times otheriwse no admittance. But chances are slim... but slight chance.. very slight.. keep us posted. ... (read in full...)

Did anyone get pregnant on the first try?

Q.   Okay this is a really dumb question but I'm very superstitous! I got pregnant the first time my husband and I tried with the help of an ovulation kit. I keep thinking that it was too easy and that something about this pregnancy has to go wrong, ...

A.   8 February 2009: Congratulations.. and yes people do get pregnant on their first try. My fiance got pregnant on our first time.. and we didn't even use an ovulation kit. though, she's only in her 6th week.... (read in full...)

He pulled out, could I still be pregnant?

Q.   Okayy. I had sex with this guy...he didnt cum inside me he pulled out...but now im kinda scared that i could be pregnaunt...because i thought my period was gunna start at anytime....and it still hasnt...do you guys think im pregnaunt??...

A.   8 February 2009: You can be pregnant. The withdrawal method is not a good form of contraceptive and when you said he pulled out.. he could have still released more than just pre-cum before he pulled out. You can have a good amount of ejaculation come out.. ... (read in full...)

Strange circumstances and I'm pregnant, should I tell the boyfriend?

Q.   Last week i and my boy friend went to a party where i was given a soft drink and i fell unconsious and the next morning when i woke up i found my self on my boy friends bed. on that day we broke up and are'nt speaking to each other but since tw...

A.   8 February 2009: Chances are that you were pregnant before the party. As far as the party goes.. one does not simply drink a soda and go unconscious without either being drugged or having some sort of diabetic reaction. I'd say most likely it was the first, ... (read in full...)

Pregnant sister to have 2nd abortion in 2 years!

Q.   My sisters pregnant and going to have her second abortion in two years, im furious with her and dont want to have anything to do with her, its only because her boyfriend dont like kids. Its their fault and i think they should grow up and start ...

A.   8 February 2009: Abortion does not equal Birth Control. I'm not going to get preachy about abortion. Even if you are on the pro-abortion side of things. What your sister is doing is wrong. She is using abortion as a contraceptive. I think bitterblue is a little o... (read in full...)

I had sex with the ex to mess with her head!

Q.   Split up with my ex girlfrnd of 5 years last year. I always fancied her, and because i was young i put her on a pedastal and chased her for ages, she finaly gave me a shot and we were happy at first. I got a house and we lived 2gether for a year. ...

A.   8 February 2009: Please explain how anyone thinks that having sex with their ex plays any sort of mind game on them? The only game I can see is that it'll make them think they still have a chance with you or just gives them ammo to break up the current relationship ... (read in full...)

TOOK THE MINI BIRTH CONTROL, NOW I THINK I'M PREGNANT

Q.   Hi i am 16 years old and my boyfriend and i have been involved in a loving, commited relationship for almost 3 years now. We are quite sensible so we have agreed not to have full penatrative sex untill we are both out of school. He is 17. I went on ...

A.   5 January 2009: Odds say are that you aren't.. but like a lot have already mentioned.. there still remains that chance that the odds are not correct. If there was genital contact... some sperm may have got into the canal to reach its goal of fertilizing your egg.. ... (read in full...)

He ejaculated near vagina can I be pregnant?

Q.   Hi i am a mother of 2 and happly married (6yrs) We are planning on a 3ed child for next year. We currently use condoms for protection which has worked the past 6yrs...BUT THEN IT HAPPEND...the condom ripped...he wasent inside me when it happened...

A.   5 January 2009: Chances are slim.. but there can be a chance.. a small chance... But I would not be stressed over it..... (read in full...)

Should I play around like this after the fact that I don't want to have oral?

Q.   I told him at the beginning of our relationship that there would be no oral, but then I said I would do it with him this week. I don't know what to do. I don't feel comfortable doing that, and I'm a minor, and he is an adult. Should I play around l...

A.   5 January 2009: You have the right to change your mind all you want.. If he is upset about your decision, then I think you should think about even seeing him. I think there is more to this story than you are saying... I have a feeling that he is constant... (read in full...)

How old does a 15 year old woman have to be to have sex with her 18 year old boyfriend without legal consiquences?

Q.   How old does a 15 year old woman have to be to have sex with her 18 year old boyfriend without legal consiquences?...

A.   5 January 2009: A 15 year old will be legal for a 18 year old always when the 15 year old is 18, which is impossible considering that a 15 year old will always be a 15 year old.. When they turn 16, they cease to be a 15 year old. But as far as when it will be ... (read in full...)

He asked me if I have had sex, and when the answer was yes he stopped texting!

Q.   Hello Cupiters! Okay, I started talking to this one guy..he's 26. Just by phone and text..we still haven't met because I think it's still too soon. I want to give it a lil more time since I met him thru an online dating site. Anyways, it's b...

A.   13 December 2008: If he just asked "Have you gone all the way with a guy?" I would say that he is not looking to save his virginity for marriage. I think he's just trolling for a virgin to deflower or an easy date. IF he asked, "are you a virgin?" Tha... (read in full...)

What visual characteristics are guys attracted to?

Q.   What are some visual characteristics that get guys attention in a good way? Such as clothing, hair, make-up etc. What are guys attracted to? more skin/ hair down-up etc. I know to be myself... just asking for opinions that can help.. that I m...

A.   12 December 2008: Well perhaps you can get a list and find the averages of everything, because guys are different.. Some guys want girls to dress in sexy dresses and pile makeup on their faces.. other guys just want someone more down-to-earth and simple looki... (read in full...)

Is a man's orgasm more intense when he cums inside his partner?

Q.   This a rather silly question but maybe the answer will resolve a dispute between my bf and I. Is a man's orgasm more intense when he cums inside his partner? I've been with my bf for over 2 years. I never refuse him sex. I don't make him wear a ...

A.   12 December 2008: Well I will start by saying this... You are asking if he is making it up for his own selfish reasons.... My question is.... Are you asking that to justify your own selfish reasons to make him finish outside of you? Sorry, but that is just a pet ... (read in full...)

Where are all the decent men who don't lie? Do they exist?

Q.   Where are all the decent men who don't lie? Do they exist? If they do where would they be or how do I find them?...

A.   11 December 2008: Good remarks DiovanLestat. It's nice to know that you also realize that not all women are angels themselves. But like most people have said, if you are always catching guppies while fishing for trout, find a different spot to fish. On another ... (read in full...)

I'm falling in love with my friends-with-benefits!

Q.   I think I am falling in love with my friends w/benefits. I picked him as my FWB because I didn't see any future with him because he has 3 kids and 2 exwife at 28years old. We are compatible in every way and have the best of time when we are ...

A.   11 December 2008: When playing with close to the edge, you are bound to fall eventually. Which is why Friends with benefits can be dificult, because one side falls for the other which just creates more awkwardness.. or both decide to go for it and well find out it ... (read in full...)

Should I give my virginty to him in one sided love?

Q.   I love my boyfriend. But he does not loves me. He says he just likes me as a good friend. He wants to have sex with me. Should I give my virginty to him in one sided love?...

A.   11 December 2008: If you really have to ask this question here, I think you know the answer.. You really don't want to do it. If you did, you wouldn't have doubts about doing it. I could go on about how you'd probably regret it afterwards when he stops talking to you ... (read in full...)

Was I too young, was I actually raped?

Q.   Well..during the summer this past summer I lost my virginity to who is now my ex boyfriend..But I was only 14 and I wanted to know if that was a little to early...Also my other thing is..I never told him I was ready and i never told him to ...

A.   8 December 2008: Friend Tom has a point.. which I overlooked a bit.. By the sense of it.. I have my money on the fact that he is over 18.. I'm saying 22.. BUt anyways, if you dont want to do something, just tell them no... if they wish to continue without ... (read in full...)

I was beat up and filmed, I don't know what to do as now they plan to humiliate me publicly!

Q.   i dnt kno what to do with my life sometimes i think is it worth me living! ive been through a lot of stress this pass year and even though ive cut certain people out of my life the ones who cause me to be depressed and hurt they're still ge...

A.   8 December 2008: Let them put it up on Facebook/youtube and such and sit back and wait for the charges on them to start flying from the police. You should not feel ashamed or humiliated because of being ambushed and beat up by a bunch of so-called friends.... (read in full...)

After listening to my manager's confession I'm so depressed, are all men cheaters like him?

Q.   Hey friends! I am unmarried and working in a bank. I have good terms with my manager.He is a big flirt. I have seen many girls pleases him to get hike or promotion.He is married. One day i asked him that why you do all this. How can you touch so...

A.   8 December 2008: All males are like this as much as all girls sleep with these kind of guys with no attachment. You are failing to see the other side of this problem.. The girls are willing to pleasure him. Are all girls like that? No.. Just as much as not all ... (read in full...)

We are scheduled to get married, do you think we are ready?

Q.   my fiance just got back from iraq. he had been there a year. when he left we had been fighting and had been seperated. he came back 10 days before he left for iraq when our son was born. he is back but now wants to pretend like he never left me when ...

A.   8 December 2008: I really don't think you are moving on from the fact that he left before. I think you should hold off on a date for marriage until you are for certain that you can move on from that and want to be with him. It's your choice if you want to give him ... (read in full...)

Was I too young, was I actually raped?

Q.   Well..during the summer this past summer I lost my virginity to who is now my ex boyfriend..But I was only 14 and I wanted to know if that was a little to early...Also my other thing is..I never told him I was ready and i never told him to ...

A.   8 December 2008: Too young? I would say yes... as far as you being raped.. Not stopping him or not saying stop is giving him consent. You can say that you were too intimidated by him, but he could also say that you did not say or do anything to say that you did not ... (read in full...)

She gave me an STD, now I don't know whether to stay or leave.

Q.   I just recently found out that the (only) girl I've been seeing and having sex with for the past couple months gave me an std; doctor was called and said that I tested positive. Recently our condom broke so I'm guessing that's when it happened. I ...

A.   8 December 2008: I think you are making a good choice.. If she is guilt tripping you about it.. I would say you are better off walking away. I had an ex like that and she got an std and blamed me for cheating(I wasn't) and giving it to her. Low and behold, I get ... (read in full...)

My daughter is ill and I am afraid I will lose my new job if I take care of her! What do I do?

Q.   There's a very strong possibilty my 11 yr old daughter is going to be too ill to go to school on monday, might have to take her to the docs, we have been up since 3am, i think she has this chest infection, temperature, fluey type thing going round. ...

A.   7 December 2008: I would personally talk to your boss about it. Maybe he can make an arrangement for you with this. Maybe allow you to bring your phone with you during this time. I would say be honest and up front with him. It's worse to have a lying employee.... (read in full...)

She gave me an STD, now I don't know whether to stay or leave.

Q.   I just recently found out that the (only) girl I've been seeing and having sex with for the past couple months gave me an std; doctor was called and said that I tested positive. Recently our condom broke so I'm guessing that's when it happened. I ...

A.   6 December 2008: If you love her, stay with her. It's not like she cheated on you and then infected you, which would make it a different story. ON another note: Keep in mind that you can get STD's via oral sex as well.. I know a lot of people don't protect ... (read in full...)

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