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6 November 2009: This is a follow-up to my article on "how to get good advice" located at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-good-advice.html This time I am going to delve into the area on how to give good or better advice to those who are seeking it. ...
Playing with Statistics of Chance
No replies yet... 21 March 2009: After reading a lot of "What are my chances.." type questions, I figured I'd delve into the little aspect of statistics of chance. A guy named Aaron Levenstein once said, "Statistics are like bikinis. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they ...
How to get good advice?
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26 February 2009: You ask for someone's advice and expect to get good advice back, what do you do? You tell them your story and expect to get a good response back. Do you always get it? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. There are a variety of steps you need to consider to ...
Do these boots make my butt look big and the lies we tell.
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10 February 2009: LIES! All of us tell lies from time to time. Sometimes small innocent lies, sometimes big giant lies. Some lies save us from being yelled at by our partners and others make our partners scream at us. Why do we do it? Can we not just get by not ...
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Tubes tied, should I were a condom?
Q. my girlfriend has her tubes both cut and burned. she has no std's and is disease free. should i were protection?? she had them cut about 11yrs ago....
A. 15 March 2009: How old are you and how old is she? I'm guessing you are either dating an much older woman or labeled your age young or have a girlfriend that got her tubes tied at a very very young age.
Either way, If you are for certain that she exactly ... (read in full...)
How could she be friends with the girl who cheated with her boyfriend?
Q. Okay so my best friend in the world has had the worst luck. Her boyfriend cheated on her with her best friend. And I'm the one who supported her who was with her when she cryied and no she's friends with that bitch agin. How how is that possible it ...
A. 15 March 2009: Maybe she's waiting for that fourth strike?
But I think you need to reassess your friendship with this girl.. She is making bad choices and continues to do them. Next time, I would just not be at her side to get sympathy.. Let her cry her eyes... (read in full...)
Who is the daddy?
Q. I had sex with my ex boyf for the VERY LAST time during the middle of a period - he came inside me before I had a chance to tell him not to!! he told me he thought there was less risk of getting me pregnant and hope I didn't mind..and cos I was on a ...
A. 15 March 2009: I would say you have a 93% chance that it's the new bf's baby if in fact you are pregnant. You do have less chances of conceiving if you have sex during your period, although you still can.. If you had sex with the new guy when your calendar said ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to be friends with this married man?
Q. This friendship is long distance, I met him in a duty mission ( GI) he did in my home town. He was stationed in Korea back then. We met two times only and it was for business. We are keeping in touch since then ( 2 years ago) non stop by email. T...
A. 11 March 2009: Simple test for people in this situation..
If it gets to a point where you are doing something in which you'd *only* do with someone you want to date, then it's probably bad.
Simple friendships are not bad. If it is strictly platonic and doe... (read in full...)
Advice please: To shave or not to shave?
Q. My fren recommended me to shave my vagina and if possible wax it so that sex feels better. Is it really true? Cuz' i feel too naked walking around like that....
A. 11 March 2009: I really never understood the completely shaven look.. I'm not looking for a girl that hasn't hit puberty yet.. I want to see some hair down there personally. But in the end, you do what is comfortable for yourself.. ... (read in full...)
The good ones are taken. How do I find a girl?
Q. im 14 and im looking for a girlfriend seems as everyone is taken ,how do i find a girl....
A. 11 March 2009: You are 14... you have a long way to go.. I'm sure everyone is certainly not taken, but just the ones that you wish to be with.. But don't fret and don't settle.. You have plenty of time ahead of you to find a girlfriend and will probably get plenty ... (read in full...)
Sick and inappropriate prank makes me want to divorce him!
Q. I was told by the army 4 weeks ago that my husband was killed in Iraq. I became depressed, and started over-eating, and constantly crying, wishing he'd come back. However, I was sickened to find out the whole thing was a hoax about a week ag...
A. 11 March 2009: I'm sorry, but I am having trouble following this...
AT one point, you stated "the entire call was a hoax." and that the "The Army told me that the call was made from their base and it was "extremely vile".
BUT THEN, you state, "two men in suit... (read in full...)
Divorce and why????
Q. A few days ago i attended a church function. Next to me was a young lay of about 21years. We talked had so much fun.After a while she went to get something from her car. Her aunt who was sitting next to me leaned over and said "do you know her ...
A. 9 March 2009: I say her aunt should stick a sock into her piehole. She shouldn't be spreading around something that should be private like that. Silly Gossip Ladies..
But as far as reasons of divorce, I think you are oversimplifying it too much to a point th... (read in full...)
I'm with the baby's father, not much in common, and I'm thinking of my ex
Q. Well hello everyone! My name is amber and im gonna be twenty years old...and Im gonna be a Mommy. I met the baby's father about six months ago..we found out that i was pregnant just a few weeks into our relationship.. At the begining of our ...
A. 9 March 2009: I have a few questions I guess.. Do you expect to be sitting around 24/7 and having a conversation? If that were the case, a lot of relationships will fail because eventually you'd run out of things to say. You may need to start to stop being afraid ... (read in full...)
He just won't take the hint that I'm not interested, what do I do?
Q. Hi there, I recently went away on vacation for a week to another city about 2 hours way from where I live. I stayed with my best friend, and the frst night I was there, I went out clubbing and met her cousin. I was completely drunk and ended up ...
A. 9 March 2009: You need to just tell him that you are not interested in him.. and ignore all the rest of his communications. If he continues, you can always change your number. Other thing, i'm debating on, is maybe send him a link to a website that tells you what ... (read in full...)
He's giving me a car for my birthday and wants sex, does my ex-husband want me back?
Q. I am currently separated and have been for almost a year. My husband left me last March saying he wasn't in love with me anymore and needed space. The past year has been painful but i've manage to be strong for the sake of our 5 year old daughter we ...
A. 9 March 2009: Booty call?
But beyond that, there can be a variety of reasons, 1) he may feel guilty for leaving you.. 2) he may want you back.. 3) He just wants a booty call..
Plenty of good explanations are out there, just a matter of finding which on... (read in full...)
Is it back for him if I touch his penis after he comes?
Q. when you are having intercourse with a guy and he orgasms, do you keep going if you haven't come or do you have to get off of him immediately? i heard that if you touch the penis after he comes, then it hurts him because it is so sensitive at that ...
A. 9 March 2009: It's not true, at least not in my case.. In fact sometimes I orgasm and then continue going, although normally after a guy orgasms he become flaccid. i've never had it hurt afterwards if touched again. Only thing I've had after orgasm was that it ... (read in full...)
What does she classify as sex?
Q. My wife and I have been married for 1 year and we dated for 2 years before we got married. We were both virgins and we were saving ourselves for marriage. We both cherrished our virginitys and think its something special. We gave our virginitys ...
A. 8 March 2009: Definitions may be subject to interpretation. Some people's definition is not the same as everyone elses.. Though I do know how the majority defines it.
But if you really love her, perhaps you should just leave the past in the past. ... (read in full...)
Husband has no fashion sense and doesn't care
Q. I'm 26 and my husband's 29, and we've got a 5-year-old son who's in primary school now. We've been together for 4 years and married for 2 years. My husband used to dress well but now he puts no effort into getting dressed. I'm not saying he can't ...
A. 7 March 2009: As far as his outer dress code, I think you are screwed on this one. Honestly, I think we all should dress how we want, what we are comfortable in. You can talk to him if you want, but realize that he may take offense that you are trying to change ... (read in full...)
Desperate to have a baby and willing to have sex with anyone to get one
Q. I have a problem, and would love to get some advice/help with it. Thanks!! Okay! I'm single and want a baby so badly that I'm willing to have sex with anyone and then be a single parent. The only problem is, I don't want'a deal with the pa...
A. 7 March 2009: You need to calm your feelings and not act this out. It's not good for you nor will it be good for the child. I'm not saying single parenting cannot be done, but it is tough. A) you will struggle with taking care of your child, of course you can ... (read in full...)
I like my pregnant friend
Q. okay well im 15...i am kind of an outgoing guy with the girls but idk how to ask one out. I have one friend that i like and i feel she likes me too...but im not sure because today i saw her with another guy flirting and it hurt me alot! also she is ...
A. 7 March 2009: Personally, I never liked the idea of dating a girl with a kid, even up until the age of 30. I love kids and all and I have one on the way with my wife now, But I never liked the idea of raising someone else's kid. I've caught flak a few times with ... (read in full...)
Like me? or just trying to get into my pants?
Q. Ok, So I like one of my guy friends. He supposedly likes me back..but i don't believe him. Well we've been making out for almost 2 months now.. this week we went a little too far. He showed me his penis and he touched my boobs. The touching happens ...
A. 7 March 2009: I would that i think he is just trying to get into your pants and maybe your BFF's pants as well.. I would be worried about having a relationship with a guy that would have sexually touch your friend as well.... (read in full...)
Help, I might be pregnant!
Q. Ok so ive had sex about 4 times three with condom 1 without. I know it was wrong not to use one but we did anyways im not going to explain why i didnt use one. :What is the chances of me getting pregnant if I didnt go off but he did... :We dont ...
A. 6 March 2009: You can get pregnant whether or not you go off or not.. all it takes is for him to go off. As far as your chances, it's pretty low unless you are like my wife who got pregnant the first time we got intimate. So it can happen. ... (read in full...)
Does wearing specs mean I'm a geek?
Q. Whats your view as society on people who wear spectacles.? Recently i moved in to a new college and i am taking science and math classes. people call me a geek. Should i stop wearing them???...
A. 6 March 2009: Being a geek is not a bad thing.. We need to stop letting it be a bad thing. I mean we are in an age where everyone has a computer and a lot of nerds and geeks from the 80's and 90's have made a lot of money because of what they did. In this economy ... (read in full...)
Why do I miss him? He treated me like crap!
Q. My ex and I have been broken up for 2 years. He cheated on me and has been with that girl since we broke up. He did some horrible things to me, aside from the cheating, his best friend raped me and wasn't on my side, he spread rumors about me in my ...
A. 5 March 2009: Tip: Buy a sheet of posterboard, some bright, good-sized markers and one good-sized black marker.. Take the said materials and write in big, bold, bright letters the word "NO!!!" Then flip it over.... Take the black marker and write the words, "This ... (read in full...)
Highschool girlfriends
Q. Alright so i was in highscool 2 years ago. Senior year all is nice popular doing mma keeping in shape. I find this girl she was 16 i was 18 we became friends. After months we decided to start a relationship. Everything was going nice took her to ...
A. 5 March 2009: Staying optomistic is the way to stay. Do not categorize all women by the actions of a few. In the end, all women will leave you until you find that one that doesn't. Enhoy the hunt while you can. (I'm saying this to both guys and gals)
As fa... (read in full...)
Fallen for my FWB!
Q. I've got myself into a bit of a situation and i don't know what to do. It's a bit complicated... i've been seeing this guy for about 2 months now. It's was kind of 'friends with benefits'. I used to go round his in the evenings and 'chill'. B...
A. 5 March 2009: This is one reason why not to have Friends With Benefits, one of the parties is bound to fall for the other and in the end and someone is bound to get hurt. I would be cautious because yes it can be a honest I love you or it can be a I love you for ... (read in full...)
He wants me to smoke weed with him before we have sex... what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend wants to have sex with me but he also wants me to smoke WEED with him before we do it so I can get high. I don't know if I should because I'm worried that if he gets high he'll forget to put a condom on and I might get pregnent. What ...
A. 5 March 2009: Why didn't you put on the condom????
Because I got high, because I got high, because I got high...
But you shouldn't do anything you don't want to.. If you don't want to get high beforehand don't.
But anyways as for pot.. No matter how many... (read in full...)
I feel as if I'm deceiving my boyfriend by not telling him about my friend.
Q. I am in a very loving relationship with my boyfriend of six years. We live together and have a six month old son. Our relationship got off to a terrible start but we've worked through it all. A few months ago a guy I met while doing a business...
A. 5 March 2009: If you still want to be with your boyfriend, You may not want to hear this.....
But I think you are better off not communicating with your male friend. When he says, he'll never act on his feelings, it is a lie. If you and your bf broke up tomor... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if I want to experiment sexually with a woman?
Q. Is it cheating if I want to experiment sexually with a woman? My boyfriend said it's cheating even if it's just for experimentation. I on the other hand have no problem with him experimenting with a man if he so chooses. What do you think? ...
A. 5 March 2009: I always hated when people thought it wasn't cheating if they had sexual relations with a member of the same sex.. I've dated a couple of girls who were bi and had a few cases where it was brought up. But in the end, if you are off with someone ... (read in full...)
Should I start a new chapter in my life?
Q. I am 22 years old and i have been married for almost 3 years. My husband is 24. We have 2 kids together, a 3yr old and a 5 month old. I don't know if i still love him. He is a good father and provider.He does not cheat on me. But to me he is not ...
A. 5 March 2009: You need to talk to him! Learn how to communicate, it is important to a relationship. From the way you wrote, it does not sound like you have brought this up to him before and he is probably walking around like nothing is wrong or he feels that you ... (read in full...)
2 months pregnant but look like 5 months! Will this change his feelings?
Q. I have had two other kids and now my new love and I are having a third baby and our* first. I have always been very small and went back to the same but this time I am like two months pregnant and look nearly five. I haven't gained much weight but my ...
A. 5 March 2009: My wife is 12 weeks pregnant and has a nice growing belly :) I love it. It's a pretty good sized bump on her otherwise small frame. But I wouldn't worry too much. If he doesn't like it and leaves you.. it would be due to more than just that you have ... (read in full...)
Spermicide harmful to baby?
Q. My bf and I have been having sex and only using spermicide(the foam). I found out today I'm 2 months pregnant and I was wondering if the spermicide we've been using could have caused harm to the baby? ...
A. 5 March 2009: I think you are fine.. although I would still watch out for STD's. AIDS can go between mother and fetus. Mother/child can have problems if their blood types don't match. Just as well as the baby can catch things on the way out like herpes. ... (read in full...)
Why can girls turn down sex but guys cant?
Q. Dear Cupid, Why is it that if a girl turns down sex with someone she just met it is seen as normal, but if a guy turns down sex then the girl gets really upset and/or thinks that he is gay? I dont like sleeping with girls I dont know properly but ...
A. 5 March 2009: Where can I find these girls??? I won't to know.. .... so I can stay clear.
These girls have issues. just as guys who call girls sluts and whores after they reject them. As far as these girls go, you are better off leaving them alone and not gett... (read in full...)
I told him no but should I give him a chance?
Q. So I'm new to a skewl n this boy likes me n I like him.but since I'm new I had 2 do my research.n I asked teachers n the other girls n without a thought said noooooooo.mayb its because he's a thug but should I give him a chance?...
A. 5 March 2009: Describe Thug..... (read in full...)
How do I give the perfect blowjob?
Q. Hiya could anyone give advise on how do give the perfect blow job? X...
A. 5 March 2009: Perfect? mmm.. Is there a bad way to do it?
Practice and communication like Martini said, but I will also say... RELAX! Don't worry about it because if you are stressing about it.. it's horrible.... (read in full...)
How can I stop getting turned on by naked men?
Q. im in high school and im not bisexual but i get turned on when i see a naked men. i have swimming classes and most of the guys get naked in the locker room and i wanted to know if any one knows a way that can stop me from getting turned on? ...
A. 5 March 2009: Well it could be that you are trying to keep yourself from getting aroused in which leads to it getting aroused.. it's part of Murphy's Law in a way.. If you want it to get aroused it won't, but if you don't it will.... (read in full...)
How do guys stay so skinny?
Q. Obviously I know everyone is different but the majority of men are so skinny. I exercise a lot and watch what I eat but I cant seem to lose weight and so many of my guy friends eat absolute crap and never exercise and they are sticks! Its just not ...
A. 5 March 2009: Wait until they hit around 30 when their metabolism slows down.. But my theory is that girls obsess about their weight so much that it screws up their metabolism and BAM!
But many people have different rates of which they burn off what they eat... (read in full...)
Does this guy like me? I can't tell.
Q. I am a college student and there is this boy I recently became interested in. Last week, he had asked me to stop by and see him at work to give him some music he wanted. I saw him and we ended up talking for a while. Before I left, he asked for my ...
A. 3 March 2009: Don't be so hard on her writing style. Not everyone is an English major, nor are we writing term papers that are being graded here.. although a lot of your tips, would help us understand fully what is being asked.
I would say that he might be... (read in full...)
Father of my child wants nothing to do with his son!
Q. Well I met this guy off the net and we dated on and off for about 11 months or so. We even lived together for about 4 months and at the ending of the realationship i became pregnant. He already has 2 kids and had stated on several occasions he ...
A. 3 March 2009: Well you cannot force someone to be what they do not want to be.. You can try all you want and if you manage to force them into it, they will only do a half-butted try at it. You are going to need to let him become a father to his son on his own ... (read in full...)
Tips for getting naked, having sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two years. We are both seniors in high school. We are going to be going to different colleges I don’t know what that means to our relationship. It is not that we don’t have something special because we ...
A. 3 March 2009: Tips for getting each other naked? Take off your clothes..
But seriously, the fun way is to just make out... kiss, hug, caress each other's bodies and watch as each piece of clothing mysteriously starts to come off.
As far as making love/havi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets mad if guys flirt with me.
Q. My boyfriend gets jealous if other men hit on Me. For example, someone sent Me roses for valentines day and I didn't know from who. He got angry at Me. How is this my fault I still don't know who they were from. I went back home for 1 week once and ...
A. 2 March 2009: I worry about this relationship. I have a bad feeling that he may be getting mad at you for these things because he is the one who is guilty of doing something. He shouldn't be feeling guilty for living with his ex.. though he probably feels guilty ... (read in full...)
Torn between my mom and my dad who has major issues.
Q. My mum found out that my dad had been cheating on her although their marriage,she told him to leave he came to stay with me and my wife as he had nowhere else to go,my wife did not want him at our house because of the things he had done so i spoke ...
A. 2 March 2009: I think you need to side more with your mom on this. It's hard when someone doesn't turn out the way you think they are suppose to be, but you need to realize that until/if your dad changes, he shouldn't be with your mom nor should your mom having ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is bi and cheated on me with another man!
Q. I found a few months ago my boyfriend of 5 years is bi sexual. I found out through texts I found on his phone and pictures and also I found out through a device I installed on the computer which showed up as he been looking at gay porn sites . I ...
A. 2 March 2009: Well I think you need to figure out if you can trust him again. In the end, you need to figure out if maybe he might need to seek out a man to fulfil certain desire in his mind that you will not be able to satisfy which will just lead him to stray ... (read in full...)
3 some with bf & another male possible?
Q. Sorry for the fashionable part of the title. I have a best bf in the world we got on great and have a super sex life. I have a few secret fantasies most of which i keep secret and would never even dream of trying or suggesting to him as sometimes a ...
A. 2 March 2009: From a man's perspective, I think he may have some issues with it, just as you might if he came to you about having a threesome with another girl. I would definitely not approach him about a threesome with a girl thinking that he'll be guilted into ... (read in full...)
Things you should never say to your girlfriend
Q. We all heard of that idiot how called his gf fat and got dump. But why do we keep doing it? It could be he isn't aren't aware of how disrespectful it can be? Or could it be he just like making her cry? It could be lot of reason. So think before you ...
A. 1 March 2009: Things you shouldn't say to your boyfriend:
1. Do these jeans look fat on me?
see http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-these-boots-make-my-butt-look-big.html
2. Oh, He's just a friend.
You're not fooling us. A new guy just doesn't pop out... (read in full...)
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