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6 November 2009: This is a follow-up to my article on "how to get good advice" located at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-good-advice.html This time I am going to delve into the area on how to give good or better advice to those who are seeking it. ...
Playing with Statistics of Chance
No replies yet... 21 March 2009: After reading a lot of "What are my chances.." type questions, I figured I'd delve into the little aspect of statistics of chance. A guy named Aaron Levenstein once said, "Statistics are like bikinis. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they ...
How to get good advice?
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26 February 2009: You ask for someone's advice and expect to get good advice back, what do you do? You tell them your story and expect to get a good response back. Do you always get it? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. There are a variety of steps you need to consider to ...
Do these boots make my butt look big and the lies we tell.
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10 February 2009: LIES! All of us tell lies from time to time. Sometimes small innocent lies, sometimes big giant lies. Some lies save us from being yelled at by our partners and others make our partners scream at us. Why do we do it? Can we not just get by not ...
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Hes angry and feels that because I moved back home Im taking away his baby!!
Q. My boyfriend and I are going to have a baby. He and I live about 4 hrs apart. I moved in with him so we could be together and he had a good job. I missed my home and family too much so about a month after I left I came back home. He is mad ...
A. 3 October 2006: A lot of details may be missing from your post to really tell, but you also need to see maybe where he is coming from.. From what I do see, he does what to be with you and you leaving is saying that you'd rather be with your family rather than the ... (read in full...)
Poor Ratings Query
Q. Can anyone tell me why I have such poor ratings?? I thought I was giving good advice. Please answer....
A. 28 September 2006: What are you guys talking about? Ratings mean everything!! :) j/k I wouldnt worry about your ratings at all.. What one person may deem as excellent advice another may deem as horrible advice based on their feelings.. You can make some people happy ... (read in full...)
We have loads in common..I like her..she likes me. One problem..the age gap. What should I do?
Q. ok where do i start i think i really like this girl, we have loads in common we get along like strawberrys and cream and i also think she likes me a lot aswell. 2 problems 1 - shes my good friends sister and 2 -there is a age differance she is 16 ...
A. 28 September 2006: 19 and 16 is not an age gap at all.. it is fairly legal in most places to begin with and many laws are stated in a way that if a within a certain age range has sex it's not illegal which 3 years is not much typically in the eyes of the law... ... (read in full...)
She told me she didnt fancy me, we havent had sex for ages, but said she wants to stay and work it out!!!
Q. hi, i have been with my girlfriend now for 1 .5 years, we do have to odd argument here and there.. but other than that wer fine. now i was getting quite worried recently, cuz we aint done the dirty for ages.. months in fact and wer both under 2...
A. 28 September 2006: There is always hope... and you have to decide if there is in your relationship.. My relationship has been similiar to yours where we haven't had sex for ages and things seemed to be falling apart.. but recently things have been improving in all ... (read in full...)
He fingered me after he masturbated...Can I get pregnant???
Q. some one fingered me after they had just masturbated, could i get pregnant? the next day i came on my period but i heard about some one who had still got pregnant this way so i just wanted to check. ...
A. 2 September 2006: It's possible.. highly unlikely.. it can be hard as is for a lot of people to get pregnant.. but just be careful when it comes to semen and your vagina. especially if you don't want to be a mother yet.... (read in full...)
I look so young for my age...any way I can make myself look older?
Q. I need help, asap. The thing is, I look really young for my age. I'm 19, 20 in November and I still get asked for ID. Most of the time I even get asked ID for a 15 rated movie. When I got to clubs it's really embarrassing to be stopped infront of ...
A. 2 September 2006: Don't fret this too much.. like everyone has been saying... it'll be a blessing later :) I'm 28 and still get carded for cigs and alcohol on occasion... but i bet the harsher part would be on your boyfriend if you had one that looked older.. People ... (read in full...)
I lie a lot and it affects us
Q. I need help learning how to get my girlfriend of a year and a month's trust back. You see I am a chronic liar,I tell lies over things like seeing old female friends on the street (Non romantic) friends and calling them to see if they want to meet ...
A. 6 August 2006: You can stop lying for one.. but that's the obvious. you need to be truthful to her.. if there isnt a reason to lie about something, then you should tell it as it is... if there is a reason to lie about it, then you shouldn't be placing yourself in ... (read in full...)
To shave or not to shave...now THAT is the question!
Q. Do men prefer a shaved woman or not?...
A. 5 August 2006: Personally I could care less.. though a wild outgrowth of hair can be bad.. But my girl has more problems with me doing anything with her if she hasn't shaved.. Go figure that one out.... (read in full...)
If we're broken up and she doesn't want a relationship with me, why is she kissing me still?
Q. Have been broken with my GF of two months for two weeks (she initiated the split). It has been tough because I really fell hard for her. We agreed to start over as friends, even though I'd much rather be her BF again. She sent me a message this ...
A. 5 August 2006: You need to figure out whether she wants to be back with you or not.. if she doesn't and continues kissing you, she's just leading you on. in that case, you're better off staying away from her because you will not be able to let her go and you will ... (read in full...)
What can I do to keep him sexually interested?
Q. How can I keep my boyfrind sexually interested in me?...
A. 5 August 2006: I dont know you're boyfriend.. but normally dressing sexy helps once in awhile.. Going commando might work as well. ;) personally I like the feel of being touch.. Nothing like a touch of a woman caresssing me gently anywhere... but i do have my ... (read in full...)
I'm self-conscious about my appearance and I need some opinions!
Q. I am very self conscious. To put it bluntly, I hate how I look. Any guy who has ever taken the time to get to know me really likes my personality, but they never like me for anything more than a "friend" and it's eating me up inside. I know I'...
A. 5 August 2006: 1) I will not mislead you here. Looks are a lot of what people look at.. I will not mislead you more... Looks are what are just perceived differently by different people. A lot of things can be done in this department. Wear what looks good on you. ... (read in full...)
My mum thinks this guy only wants me for sex, but I'm sure he doesn't!
Q. Hi, I'm feeling really confused at the moment. I've liked this boy for over a year, but I've never spoken to him and we met on the streets. I was chuffed when he asked me for my digits today. Problem is, he's 22 and I'm much younger then him, and...
A. 25 July 2006: BTW how much younger? Him being only 22 and you are saying you are much younger.. if I had to take a guess.. I would say 14.. but then that is only a guess.. which your mom may have some concern.. but I guess by the way your mom is speaking to you ... (read in full...)
Will guys care that I have braces? Are they worth it?
Q. I have a pretty bad overbite, and at the end of next month i will be getting braces. But i am really worried that once i get them i am never going to have a boyfriend. And that may sound weird, but it's the decideing factor in weither i am going to ...
A. 20 July 2006: Dont worry about braces.. teeth problaly isn't what most guys look at or for anyways.. and if they are and don't date you because of the braces.. they are not worth it and will be regretting it when you have straight teeth later in life and they are ... (read in full...)
After 7 months, my BF came clean and told me he used to date someone who was pregnant!
Q. My boyfriend after 7 months he told me that before he met me, he was dating this women for 4 weeks and that she was 8 months pregnant. I feel that he should have told me from the beginning of our relationship. I feel that he's been lying to me the w...
A. 19 July 2006: I'm slightly confused here on your standpoint on this. Maybe it's because I'm coming from a male standpoint here.. But what does it matter who he dated in the past whether they are pregnant, with kid or not? Now if it was *his* kid, it would be a ... (read in full...)
He's 26 and I'm 17...Is he too old for me?
Q. im 17 and recently ive been getting close to a 26 year old who ive known for all my life, he has a girlfriend but they're breaking up, do you think hes too old for me? and hes cheated on her in the past so does that mean he'll cheat on me? help!!...
A. 18 July 2006: I wouldn't worry too much about the age thing on this one...
The thing worrisome here is the fact that he has cheated before and is getting close to another girl while still "dating" another without breaking up with her.. There is no such thing ha... (read in full...)
Keen on my friend. Should I say so?
Q. I'm starting to fancy a friend, but I don't know what to do. I don't want to ruin a friendship but at the same time I don't want to let the oppertunity disappear. What do you think? What should I say/do?...
A. 18 July 2006: What you are in is a big dilemma that many people find themselves in... a quandary is more like it. Yes it could work the best for you.. or it can be the worst for you.. or you may even try it out and end up just okay.. You have to listen to your ... (read in full...)
Are a few extra pounds on their girlfriend a big deal for guys?
Q. I am currently overweight for my height. About thirty pounds. Here is my question. Is this really a big deal for guys when you are being intimate? After my last breakup I have shyed away from dating for this reason. I KNOW that there will be some ...
A. 17 July 2006: Some meat on the bones is not a bad thing... My gf is "overweight" but I really don't think she is.. she looks great the way she is.. and of course everyone else does as well.. I wouldn't worry much.. ... (read in full...)
I am having unprotected sex at 13!
Q. i am 13 years old and last nite i had sex wid my bf for only about 20 seconds widout protection i finished my period 21 days ago is there a chance i mite be pregnant? is there any pills i can take now to stop it?? plz plz plz help me!!! ...
A. 16 July 2006: exactly what Dr Pysch said... Always remember how worried you are and not to repeat this mistake unless you want to have a baby(hopefully I do hope that is not the case). you are still young and have plenty of time for other things before you get ... (read in full...)
He wore protection but could I be pregnant?
Q. well me and my partner were having sex and he was wearing a condom but the thing is that he didn't cum. and that was in january i got my period throughout the other months.. i missed june can i be pregnet!!?...
A. 9 July 2006: I would beshocked personally if you were and the last time you had sex with your boyfriend was in January.. I'm shocked only that the last time was in january.. Did you guys take an oath to wait? But I doubt you are unless you had sex in June too.. ... (read in full...)
I really love him and am prepared to move interstate to be with him, but surely he should be the one thats prepared to move ?
Q. I am totaly in love with one of my best friends. We have been friends for about 2 years now and in the last 6 months we have become emotionaly very close and i've grown dependent on him. I have feelings for him as in more then just a friend. The pr...
A. 21 June 2006: You say he hasn't proposed to do the same. my thought is maybe because he feels that you will and that you have no issues with it. Have you talked to him about your issues on moving far away? You should be able to talk to him about your concerns on ... (read in full...)
Been trying to fall pregnant, but no luck after a year! What's next?
Q. Hello I'm 18 and I want to have a baby. I would like to know if anyone knows what I have to go through to get pregnant. I have been trying for about a year and no baby. What dr. do I go see? What can help my chances? I have been with my boyfriend ...
A. 21 June 2006: Have more unprotected sex..
but if you feel that you are having trouble conceiving, nsee your doc and get a checkup. but keep in mind that just because you've been trying for a year now unsuccessfully, doesn't mean you are not fertile, you may ... (read in full...)
Could I still have an STD?
Q. I've been with my g-friend for 3 years. She's been tested for std's and is clean. Could I still have anything?...
A. 21 June 2006: I'm assuming you have been having sex with her.. particularly unprotected sex. Yes it is still a possibility that you may be infected with an STD that you have just yet to pass on to her. I would stop and get tested to make sure. As it has been ... (read in full...)
She lies all the time and my trust for her is shaky. What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend of 3 years lies to me about almost everything. She's lied to me about her family, her past and even the most trivial of things like her exam results and where she stayed on her damn holiday!! I find it difficult to believe a word t...
A. 18 June 2006: Trust is very important in a relationship. If you cannot trust her then it'll only lead to pain in the future. If she lies as much as you say she does even over trivial things, I would pack my bags because this is not going to go anywhere. You'll ... (read in full...)
She told me how she cheated on her long term boyfriend, now I'm wondering if she will do this to me...
Q. Hello! My and my girlfriend have been together for about a year. We're very close and share everything. This, i have discovered, is a very bad idea. She has recently told me about the time (when she was 17, we are now both mid 20s) when she ch...
A. 15 June 2006: What's in the past is in the past though that does not mean history cannot repeat itself. It may not repeat itself. It's best to figure out if you can handle this new found truth. I'm not necessarily a believer in the "once a cheater, always a ... (read in full...)
I keep thinking he's going to run off with someone else...what can I do?
Q. I'm completly paranoid that my boyfriend is going to run off with another woman cause he's had quite a few ladies in the past. no matter how many times he tells me he loves me it means nothing....
A. 15 June 2006: You can chain him to your bed and throw away the key.
But why do you feel paranoid for? Just because he has had a lot of girls in the past does not mean he will run off with another. Of course, it can always happen and we must accept that it could... (read in full...)
Would you get with a pregnant woman (question for men)
Q. question for men.would you ever want to be with a women that is pregnant but with someone elses child.if u met a girl and she told u she was pregnant would u be put off...
A. 15 June 2006: Personally, I wouldn't because i'd be too upset the kid isn't mine. I have too big of an urge to father my own child rather than play father to another. I'm childless and right now I would rather be with the same. But that is just me. I'm sure there ... (read in full...)
He said if I get pregnant again..he would leave or make me miscarry. Should I leave him?
Q. i have a partner who is 19 i have a two month child with him and i ask a hyperthetical question on what would he choose happiness or family he asked me and i choose happiness but he didnt answer so does he really love me as much as he should? also ...
A. 9 June 2006: Egads! Did he really mean that? I would say run.. but maybe he is just stressed out about the new child.. but that response is disturbing. ... (read in full...)
I want to stay secret with our mutual friend, but I also want to know what my Ex is up to!
Q. Right, this is my situation, I've written in several times pertaining to my breakup from my ex. I haven't contacted him or sent emails nor texts to regain my dignity and self respect, and it's so damn hard, it feels like months. I'm trying to r...
A. 9 June 2006: There are 2 options here...
Option 1: You can tell your mutual friend not to discuss anything about you to him and trust they won't.
Option 2: You can stop talking to them.
Both have there pluses and minuses. Option 1, there is a risk that... (read in full...)
What kind of penis would women rather have?
Q. What is it that women prefer when having sex with a man? A long penis is or a thick one (in diameter)?...
A. 9 June 2006: This has been so reassuring.. :) but to me the best sex I have had has been with girls I really cared about and loved.. It's amazing how much emotions can affect how you feel during sex. I believe I've watched programs where they say women are more ... (read in full...)
He said he would pull out, now I am late
Q. hi everyone, my boyfriend lives far away and he was down a couple wks ago, we had unprotected sex as he said he would pull out(definently not a smart idea) he has now gone home and I am 5 days late...should I wait it out before telling him? or ...
A. 9 June 2006: Well first I will say.. do not worry too much.. You are only 5 days late. You first need to take a pregnancy test to see if it's a late because of pregnancy or just arriving late.
Second.. The "pull-out" method is not a good method... He may very... (read in full...)
Found a condom wrapper, of a type we don't use. Does it mean something?
Q. I need some advice about something I found the other day in my boyfriends room. I was looking for something I'd lost and found a part of a condom wrapper, a type we've never used before. We've been together almost a year. He is untidy but surel...
A. 7 June 2006: I agree with the first "female reader, anonymous". Though, I wouldn't put too much weight on the "takes awhile for a reason" part though. I can take a few moments before I answer my girlfriend sometimes even though what I do say is what happened.. ... (read in full...)
Sex whilst on a period... what do you think?
Q. do all guys hate/dont mind sleeping with a girl when she has her period? im always extra horny at this time and although i try to not let anything happen i cant resist my boyfriends roaming hands at this time, i even forget its that time off the ...
A. 17 May 2006: Personally, I have no problem with it. But it does really depend on yourself and your boyfriend. and he should be on the same page as you are in knowing that you are on your period so he has the choice. My girlfriend typically doesnt like being ... (read in full...)
Please reply here if you're on MySpace!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here. If you have a MySpace account post a "yes" and let me know your profile name, either reply to this post or do send me a private mail (click my username, then send private mail from there). I'm doing a surv...
A. 9 May 2006: http://www.myspace.com/flyingace... (read in full...)
He keeps touching my panty... Will this lose me my virginity?
Q. Hi Dear, I never had sex with my boyfriend, but sometimes he's touching my panty with his hands or fingers, but he never enter it. So with touching panty, will my virginilty get finished? I know, it's stupid question, but still i'm asking. ...
A. 7 May 2006: No by this act alone you do not lose your virginity... though it can eventually lead to that if you are not careful. be careful.... (read in full...)
What is my "sweaty" date doing in the toilet?
Q. Everytime me and my new bf go on a date to a restaurant he does the same thing. Well as soon as were seated; he looks uncomfortable and then excuses himself to go to the bathroom. He's usually in there for about 10 minutes; and then we he comes ...
A. 3 May 2006: You might want to ask him.. he may have just done exactly what he excused himself to do.. using the restroom. which seems odd to do at the beginning, but he may just be making room for the food.... (read in full...)
Shes really popular and im scared to ask her out!!
Q. I fancy this girl who is really popular. We speak alot on msn and at school but i never see her outside of school. she likes me as a friend but i want to be more than a friend. I have a feeling though that my mate who is really good looking ...
A. 30 April 2006: If you really want to take this further than friends, you are going to have to move forward. You never know what will happen until you actually move forward. Yes, she could say no, but she could also say yes. May it be ackward if she says no ... (read in full...)
My friend asks guys out I want for herself!!
Q. How can i get boyfriend if my friend whenever i tell her who i like goes and asks him out for herself?...
A. 30 April 2006: What a friend! *smirk* You could be evil and tell her you like some ogre :) but well you're best not to consider her a friend enough to tell her who you like. You need to learn from this. The lesson is not to tell her who you really like. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is catholic and won't sex before marriage because of it. I don't feel the same.
Q. Hi, My girlfriend and i (both 20) have been together for just over 3 years now and we've hit a pretty big problem. She is Catholic and has a problem with sex before marriage. I am not Catholic so right now in the relationship my feelings are tell...
A. 23 April 2006: When she changes her mind, she basically is being torn between what her body wants and want her beliefs want. Her beliefs won out. It's not that she didn't love you and didnt want to take the relationship further. It's just that you wanted to skip a ... (read in full...)
Could I have gotten pregnant through blowing him without a condom?
Q. My boy friend and i regually have oral sex...now i did it last nite without a condom is it possible i am pregnant?...
A. 23 April 2006: Well It is technically a YEs although chances are pretty slim.. There is a lot of hoops for you to get pregnant.
First and foremost, you have to be at a certain time in your cycle in which you are fertile and there has to be a viable egg.
... (read in full...)
Why don't they like "me" for "me" and not my hotbod?
Q. Why do guys never seem to like me for me?? All they seem intrested in is my body becuase they think i'm "hot"! (Female, 19)...
A. 21 April 2006: A lot of it is because guys and people in general can be stupid. My question though is... Is it all guys that think of you that way or is it just the guys you tend to like in that way that do? I will not lie that looks do matter as well.. but one ... (read in full...)
My 19 y/o bf was texting a 12 y/o girl, now hes stopped but is dissappointed in me!!
Q. Hi, A few days ago my boyfriend who is 19 started talking to this 12 year old girl. They text each other very much and it reminds me when i started talking to him as just friends and that makes me very jealous. And the thing that makes me feel the...
A. 21 April 2006: i would question why a 19 year old guy would be txting a 12 year old girl. The frequency would leave me to believe something is happening. You may want to reconsider this relationship because I think he may just want someone young rather than ... (read in full...)
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