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6 November 2009: This is a follow-up to my article on "how to get good advice" located at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-good-advice.html This time I am going to delve into the area on how to give good or better advice to those who are seeking it. ...
Playing with Statistics of Chance
No replies yet... 21 March 2009: After reading a lot of "What are my chances.." type questions, I figured I'd delve into the little aspect of statistics of chance. A guy named Aaron Levenstein once said, "Statistics are like bikinis. What they reveal is suggestive, but what they ...
How to get good advice?
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26 February 2009: You ask for someone's advice and expect to get good advice back, what do you do? You tell them your story and expect to get a good response back. Do you always get it? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. There are a variety of steps you need to consider to ...
Do these boots make my butt look big and the lies we tell.
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10 February 2009: LIES! All of us tell lies from time to time. Sometimes small innocent lies, sometimes big giant lies. Some lies save us from being yelled at by our partners and others make our partners scream at us. Why do we do it? Can we not just get by not ...
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My 19 y/o bf was texting a 12 y/o girl, now hes stopped but is dissappointed in me!!
Q. Hi, A few days ago my boyfriend who is 19 started talking to this 12 year old girl. They text each other very much and it reminds me when i started talking to him as just friends and that makes me very jealous. And the thing that makes me feel the...
A. 21 April 2006: i would question why a 19 year old guy would be txting a 12 year old girl. The frequency would leave me to believe something is happening. You may want to reconsider this relationship because I think he may just want someone young rather than ... (read in full...)
Is he insensitive for mentioning the morning after pill?
Q. Is that a common feeling that you eventually want to have a baby with the one you really love when you are in a serious relationship? My bf is 29 now, I have been dating him for 7 months. He has got a great job at Top bank in NYC. Three month...
A. 21 April 2006: It sounds to me, you do have a urge in the back of your head that you want a kid. Apparently, he may just not want one and is worrying that he will.. and there can be a few reasons for that.. just one may be that he does not want a kid. but as for ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my teacher!!
Q. I've been in love with my teacher for over a year. sometimes we spend the break together talking and when we meet (in corridors) he always talks to me but when i m close to him i feel the urge to kiss him but i resist it. I' ve finished school b...
A. 15 April 2006: I agree with the previous responders. I would tell you to let it go.. It most likely won't work and can wind up getting him and yourself in trouble down the line. And as for your update, I am having trouble finding anything in what you added that ... (read in full...)
I am in love with and doing oral stuff with my sisters bf!!!
Q. I'm really worried. My 18 year old sister has a 17 year old boyfriend who i really love. I'm more compatable with him than she is and lately we seemed to be getting on really well (i'm 14) and we're great friends. The thing is a while ago when he ...
A. 15 April 2006: this guy is realluy no good.. I would as the others put it.. forget about him and stop being with him that way. He's a cheating scum of a boyfriend..
But I would caution you some on telling your sister directly unless you feel she won't be stupi... (read in full...)
All I've done is make out with my boyfriend, so why is my period late?
Q. I usually start my period almost right on the same day each month, or the same day after my last period, I mean. Well it's been 2 days since that day now and I am flipping out. I know that isn't that long but I am really regular and I haven't been ...
A. 15 April 2006: As Angelicc has mentioned. You have no real worries even if something did happen, you may still be late for your regular period which will come. One thing I would mentioned though is that you said he fingered you.. if it was outside the clothes ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to break-up because my parents don't like him!
Q. My boyfriend and I are having some problems. He wants to break up with me because my parents don't like him. I tell him that it shouldn't matter what they think as long as I love him. What should I do?...
A. 14 April 2006: There's an old saying.. you're not marrying someone... you're marrying their family. which may be what he is thinking.. or he may think having a relationship with you and your parent that don't like him as too difficult to handle.. which if that ... (read in full...)
I love my teacher, but what should I do about it?
Q. hey.. Im 15 years old and im in love with my teacher.. I dont know what to do ..because i have a boyfriend and hes engaged.. also he is moving to another school, and today was his last dday :( i know its stupid..because im 15 and hes 25...but...
A. 14 April 2006: I agree with anon and Angelicc. you should find yourself moving on and realize he's only a crash. A) you have a bf and he's engaged..How do you feel about your bf? B) he is 25 and you are 15.. Yes 10 years is not that big of a difference in the ... (read in full...)
I know it's weird to think constantly about my history teacher, but how would I stop?
Q. Well lately I have been constantly thinking about my history teacher. He's gorgeous, and sweet, funny... I know it's so wierd but I can't stop thinking about him as hard as I try. And I can't tell my friends. I don't know what to do? How do you ...
A. 14 April 2006: I never had a crush on any of my teachers.. none of them were pretty. They were the typical older grey haired teachers..
but i would recommend to just remind yourself that nothing will happen because it can't or isn't suppose to but that is a dif... (read in full...)
While we were having sex my period started.. gross i know but does this count?
Q. lol oh god this is so wierd and im totally confused!!! i was at a party and hooked up with this guy and we started having sex (as in definate penetration occured) but then disgustingly enuf my period started and we had to stop (obviously!) - hes now ...
A. 14 April 2006: I'm going to have to disagree a bit with Angelicc here... er add something.. Don't listen to a guy who doesn't want to commit to you. He doesn't want to commit to the fact that he had sex with you. He could have just stuck his penis in and then took ... (read in full...)
She absolutely refuses to use contreception and won't let me wear a condom!
Q. My Girlfriend refuses to take the any form of contraception OR let me use a condom. It takes much of the pleasure out of sex for me as I am constantly thinking about preventing orgasm inside her. She has let me use a condom on a few occasions ...
A. 13 April 2006: I would say you are a lucky guy.. if you wanted a kid.. because it does sound that she is trying to get pregnant.. which if you are not ready for.. I'd run away while you can. or just stop having sex with her until you are ready to have a kid. Don't ... (read in full...)
My ex is back and pregnant, saying she'll have another abortion. Is she playing me?
Q. My ex girlfreind left me in July last year. She just went off to Cyprus for two weeks and sent me a text telling me it was over. I was down so much I was treated for depression. Then I've just got back on track and she's back, telling me she love...
A. 11 April 2006: Exactly what Angelicc and danielle said. I wouldn't give her a second chance. It's not going to be worth the pain you'd suffer if she breaks it off again which i would say that there is a high chance for. I could see if she left on more amicable ... (read in full...)
A guy friend wants to sleep with me, "just once", even though he's involved with my cousin...
Q. Hi, I'm a female in my late twenties. One of my guy friends had a crush on me and is now in a long distance relationship with my cuz. Problem is, he told me he likes me and now he wants to sleep with me for some reason. According to him, he wants ...
A. 11 April 2006: Just once? hmm.. I don't think he likes you if he only wants to have sex with you....just once. and then you also have to keep in mind that he is in a relationship with your cousin.. not that it would matter if she wasn't your cousin. I would say ... (read in full...)
I want my two friends to get together. They're made for each other! But how do I get them started?
Q. I asked a guy in his late 20's about a female friend and he blushed and seemed to get genuinely shy and embarrassed - is this a sign he likes her? I think she should go for it but she doesn't think he is interested in her but I think the fact t...
A. 11 April 2006: Well are they both currently looking for a relationship? if you feel they would be great together, I wouldn;t see why you wouldn't push them together.. Though I am curious what you think she'd do that is stupid?
But there are some sneaky ways of ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend, and I really didn't mean to. Why did I do it and what do I do next?
Q. I feel so messed up really, and I really don’t know what to think. This might be long, and maybe no one would read it, but I always find things better when I am able to write them down. Well the thing is that I have been with my boyfriend now for ...
A. 11 April 2006: This situation is a big one. I hope you know how badly this will hurt Axe if he finds out. Imagine someone with 1 cookie... they show you the cookie and you want it but they don't let you have it.. days go by... weeks go by.. and finally they give ... (read in full...)
Late-night tutor, or...?
Q. Should I be worried about my bf tutoring some girl at one in the morning at college?...
A. 11 April 2006: At 1am I don't believe there is anything to be worried about unless it's a everynight thing. But you should talk to your bf and tell him how you feel. If he respects you he'll fix things to make you comfortable. if you are really uncomfortable, I ... (read in full...)
I'm not interested in a threesome, either with a girl or another guy, but my girlfriend thinks it's a great idea!
Q. I am 20 and my girlfriend is 21. Recently she has been suggesting to me that we should have a threesome; she has said she wants to see me kissing and getting intimate with another man. I asked her why, and she said to me that she thinks most men...
A. 9 April 2006: You shouldnt have to do anything you are uncomfortable with just as well as she shouldn't have to do anything she is unconfortable with. If she doesn't like it, then she's with the wrong guy.
I don't understand the infatuation with guy in seeing 2... (read in full...)
OK, what's a "honey dip"? Is that a good thing or should I be insulted?
Q. My boyfreind said I was his honey dip...Does anyone know what that means? I sorta find it insulting cuz a friend said it's a girl they can call anytime for a booty call and then go home without having any ties to her. Does anyone know if that's ...
A. 9 April 2006: I personally looked that up online... google is a wonderful tool. so is the urban dictionary. But to me it sounds like it's a good thing. But i guess different people can define it differently as maybe your friend is seeing it as that which the ... (read in full...)
My BF's ex trapped him into fathering her child, so what's to say she won't go even further?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about a year now. A few months into the relationship he told me he had gotten another girl pregnant. (she was an X but they had broken up years before, and she went into the military and came home on leave) To mak...
A. 9 April 2006: A girl doesn't trap a guy into having a kid. We all know what the consequences of sex can be. A kid is one of them and it doesn't matter how much protection you use, there is still that chance. but as for your bf's ex..
It sounds to me you are ... (read in full...)
Can make-up sex really help a relationship?
Q. Random question...does make up sex actually work? I'm kind of being evil and scheming here, but there's a guy i like who has a gf. Their relationship is going through a rough patch, and he accidentally told me that they had an argument, which he ...
A. 8 April 2006: Make-up sex can help things. Though I don't believe it's used to fix a problem. It's just to smooth out the relationship after a fight. not to cover up the fight.... (read in full...)
I get on so well with my professor... What should I do?
Q. Hello, I have a genuine liking for one of my professors. She is a psychology professor and we have SO MUCH in common. We like the same colors, we wear the same colored clothing (alot of black and brown and dark green), we eat the same foods, we have ...
A. 7 April 2006: Stay away. Not only would you be hurting her husband but also her kids. and you may find yourself bored with her in the end. It sounds great to have so much in common but that may be more of a thorn in the side of the relationship than anything ... (read in full...)
I am no longer physically attracted to my gf but I do love her! I don't want to lose her...any ideas?
Q. I love my girlfriend, but am no longer in love with her. I want more than anything to be with her forever but feel that its impossible because im no longer in love with her. The problem is im no longer physically attracted to her. Any ideas, i dont ...
A. 7 April 2006: The only thing I can say is you need to talk to her and explain what you are feeling. If you aren't in love with her in the sense you want to be romantically involved I would let her move on. You'd end up wasting your and her time if you don't ... (read in full...)
Decided to keep the baby but now I'm having 2nd thoughts... Is adoption the answer?
Q. Im in a right pickle. Im having a baby in a few weeks and the baby's dad left me as soon as he knew I was pregnant, telling me to get rid of it. I was sure things would be ok, that id manage on my own, but now he has started saying he wants to see ...
A. 7 April 2006: You are definately in a pickle. That guy has been a jerk and right now he doesn't deserve to be called the baby's dad. He's just a guy that donated his seed. By no mean do I believe you need to have him around during birth or in the few weeks ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm not good enough to meet all his requirements! How do I shake these feelings?
Q. hi i really need help with my jealous problem ! im so self consious of my boyfriends ex ! i know they were only together for a month and a half and we've been for 8months but it still annoys me how she was able to sleep over and i cant, and how him ...
A. 7 April 2006: Well answer this. Who is he with now? You or her? and who was with him longer? you or her? I wouldn't rush it.. apparently you got a great thing going and he doesnt want to rush it. Apparently the other relationship went to quick and crashed and he ... (read in full...)
Her ex bf sent her roses and she purposely hid that from me! What should I do?
Q. thank you everyone answering my questions prior to this one. i really appreciate it even if i don't have the time to show it. my girlfriend saw her ex boyfriend on our first week going out with me. he gave her a dozen roses. she borrowed my came...
A. 7 April 2006: It sounds like me that she still isn't over her ex and she is not being fair to you or any other guy she'd date. She seems happy to see her ex.. and seems to want to compare any guy she sees with him. But the problem is not with her ex, but her.. if ... (read in full...)
He looks 10 years older than he really is and we get odd looks from people.Should I still date him?
Q. Hi everybody...ok to get to the point. There is this one guy I know who is very sweet and caring. I am 19 and he is 25, which isnt a problem at all except for one thing. He looks like hes 35(he dresses older, he is losing his hair already, etc..)but ...
A. 7 April 2006: Why should you worry about what other people think? They are not dating him and if your parents got to know him i'm sure they'd be fine with it. If they didn't like him, it would be for other reasons. I wouldn't worry about this. There's a lot of ... (read in full...)
I can't really tell what signal he is sending me. Can you help?
Q. i was meant to treat a guy out cos i owe him..then he canceled on me and he didn't tell me why.. i then found out it's cos his friend couldn't make it, but usually he would still come out alone with me! (i only expected it to be just us two anyway, ...
A. 6 April 2006: I agree with Kelly on this. Though one thing that may have gone unnoticed is I think perhaps he was actually trying to set you up with his friend which could be a possibility which may explain his friend calling you. He may just fancy you. But then ... (read in full...)
Isn't there an unwritten rule that one's best friend doesn't date one's ex bf? Advice needed.
Q. Okay well I am 14 and I used to date this boy a few years ago and I've known him for so long and we are quite good mates. He text my best mate and she fancies him and now he fancies her back. But it's really upsetting me because she fancies loads of ...
A. 6 April 2006: I think that rule has been through a game of telephone turned into a falsehood. What the real rule is "Friends don't date their friend's boy/girlfriends." not their ex's. Though if a friend were to date their friend's ex I believe the polite way ... (read in full...)
Why does he get to be jealous and possessive, but he's also cheated on me?
Q. I need help! I've been with my man for over a year now. He cheated on me several times in the past. I forgave him because he said he'd stop. I believe him only because he's honest and tells me everything. He even admitted with his own mouth he...
A. 6 April 2006: Ask yourself. Is all this worth it to you? And do you trust him enough to believe he won't turn one of these crushes into something more? Him being jealous and possesive can be concerning as well.. and he seems to use emotions to manipulate you into ... (read in full...)
I lied about my past, but now we're not together, what can I do?
Q. I lied to my ex even though it was in the past there was ALOT i've done with guys that i didn't tell him but we weren't together and it still bothers him because he thinks its important to know the past. He says he will never get over everything ...
A. 6 April 2006: If you want to tell him all about your sexual past that of course is your business.. If he wanted to know about it then he should be able to tell with it. To me, he *is* the one overreacting on this. To me it sounds like you just didn't go into ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my bf takes photographs of strange women in skirts?
Q. My boyfriend takes photographs of strangers (women) going to work, because he likes women in skirts? Should I be worried, he also looks at women on the internet in nice underwear, that i was not so bothered about until i found the other photographs ...
A. 6 April 2006: I would be concerned. Obviously he has an addiction. He's addicted to seeing women in skirts and panties. As for legality, it's hard because laws vary from place to place.. I think what harsh was thinking about was problaly what's called ... (read in full...)
Suddenly, he stops calling and starts making excuses. What's happening with this guy?
Q. I am 22 years old and I met this nice guy at a wedding.I gave him my phone number and we started calling each other, all of a sudden he stopped calling me and he started to make excuses, but he is still telling me he misses me and that I captured ...
A. 6 April 2006: It's a possibility he's afraid of maybe where things are heading for some odd reason. Or the other possibility is he may not want to hurt your feelings.. Either way you need to talk to him and ask him what's going on.. Communication is key. It will ... (read in full...)
Our son wants to work at McDonalds for the rest of his life!!!
Q. I am worried about my 18-year-old son. He is at university, and I am worried about his lack of ambition after he leaves. He is doing very well academically; however, when I asked him what he wants to do when he leaves, he said he wants to work at M...
A. 4 April 2006: McDonalds isnt that bad of a place to work at. but well not exactly a job many parents want to see their kids at the rest of their life. But in my belief, it's best to do a job that you love rather than just working a job because you make money at ... (read in full...)
Together a week and 17 and pregnant already, what to do!?
Q. My girlfreind today had a pregnancy test. She is positive. What am i to do? We have established that we have to make a decision as a couple and not as individuals because i was asking her what she wants? Shes 17 and we've only been going out f...
A. 4 April 2006: I hate to say this but I think the kid is her ex's. I think Friday is a bit too soon for anything to show. I don't see a way it could be yours unless you had sex with her before friday. maybe say a few weeks ago.
As for the pill.. it is not 100%... (read in full...)
Her boyfriend broke up with because of me, but that's not what I wanted!
Q. Hey there, I'm 17 and six months ago I got my second saturday job at a department store after leaving my first one. When I arrived I didn't know many people. After about a week there was a girl who came up to me and talked to me which I thought ...
A. 3 April 2006: Hopefully she doesn't off you. Being dead is not a pleasant experience.
But what exactly does she feel? Does she want to get back with him or not? If she does, the three of you need to have a talk and discuss what has been going on. You need to ... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't want me to have a boyfriend til I'm 18, HELP!
Q. I am a young teen well i'm uder 15.Well the problem is that my mum says i'm not allowed to see my boyfreind so the other day i sneaked out and he fingered me for the first time.It felt good and i did cum but i'm worried what my mum will say if she ...
A. 3 April 2006: It seems like her worries are warranted in this case. You may want to reasses where your actions are leading you and be careful where you are going with this.. You are leading towards sex which your mom is trying to protect you from. You are still ... (read in full...)
My boss is upset at me, but I don't have any clue why!?
Q. I'm in a difficult situation, I went out and had a few drinks with my boss one night. One thing led to another and she ended up coming back to my place, we made-out but I didn't want to take it any further just yet because we were both drunk and it ...
A. 3 April 2006: Well there are a couple of reasons for this behavior I can think of.
A) She may have realised what you two have done and is embarrassed about it and just wants to forget about it. and when she sees or hears from you it reminds her of it.
B) or... (read in full...)
I have anxiety and I don't believe I have loved my wife properly! What can I do?
Q. I'm married 16 years and have a 9 year old son. My anxiety is that I've never loved my wife properly, yet always anxious to please, desperately am trying to make it all work out happily in the end. I'm exhausted, but sick with fear of the trauma ...
A. 3 April 2006: You need to talk to your wife. Chances are you might just be pleasing her happily and you are just having insecurity that you are not. But without reasons to why you feel this way is hard to tell. What makes you think this way? ... (read in full...)
We're only 2 years apart, but my friends think I need somone older...
Q. im 14 and my boyfriends only 12 i no its not a huge age gap but it feels like it at my age . well getting to the point my friends think im wierd because the 2 years age gap and saying i should find some my own age . what should i do listen to my ...
A. 3 April 2006: If it feels right to you, then I don't see why you would like to end it just because of your friends. You are still young and you'd learn about the whole age gap.. 2 years is nothing.. You are going to see that your friends will have something to ... (read in full...)
I'm so attracted to my boss and would like to pursue my feelings. Is this possible?
Q. There is a great chemistry between me and my boss at work we flirt sometimes i catch him staring at me a lot and find him very attractive the problem being he has told a colleague that he likes me but has a problem with the fact he is my boss and he ...
A. 3 April 2006: If you want anything to become of this, look for another job and then consider him. a) you shouldn't place him in a situation where it would looks like he'd favor you over the others because this will always create bad blood in the workplace and ... (read in full...)
I found a condom after he went away on a business trip. What should I do?
Q. Hi, I've been married 2 years to someone i've been with for 11 and we a 5 year old. for the past couple of years he has had problems with depression through family problems plus he finds it hard to communicate as a result he hasn't been ver...
A. 3 April 2006: What other bag are you talking about? Is this a bag where he keeps condoms in order to use with you? If so, it may be a simple mistake. If not, I would be concerned.
Either way, you need to talk to him and explain how you feel. And I feel that you... (read in full...)
He says they're splitting up, then why does he still have his ring on?
Q. About 6 months ago a work colleague of mine, who I have fancied for 2 yrs, told me he and his wife had split up. We met up weekly, and until the beginning of Feb nothing much happened apart from the odd kiss.. One night I got drunk, was sick all ...
A. 3 April 2006: My money would be on that he is taking you for a ride. I doubt he'd long that ring so much to keep it on.. I wouldn't trust a guy who's married, who is so willing to be with someone else other than his wife. Unless of course the wife says the same ... (read in full...)
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