My boyfriend is beginning to think I am not attracted to him, anymore! What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend has a high sex drive and i dont, which makes it hard to want sex as often as he does. Im an very emotionally and physically attracted to him, but somedays i just dont feel like having sex, as to him he wants to have sex at least once ...
A. 30 January 2012: Reassure him youre attracted to him but do not have as high a sex drive as him. Compromise perhaps with oral? Or dates or some other activity together. ... (read in full...)
Asked her out on a 2nd date by text and there was no reply! Feeling a bit awkward, so how do I deal with this?
Q. I went on a date with a girl from work. I liked her and I text her the day after asking for a second date. I have recieved no reply over a week later. I can take this and i know it happens. the problem is that im likely to see her at work. we...
A. 30 January 2012: Face to face is better man. A text is implied woosiness and women hate that cause it shows lack of confidence. I say respectfully pal. Good luck.... (read in full...)
I constantly worry that my loved ones are going to die.
Q. I constantly worry that my loved ones are going to die. For instance, if I have not heard from them, I worry that something bad has happened to them. Or, if they have to fly somewhere, I worry so much about their safety. This stressful, obsessive ...
A. 27 January 2012: Hey doll you just need reassurance from them they will do what they can to help their own safety.. over time this should help you worry less. Death is a natural part of life mind you so it is normal you care about their safety but obsessing over it ... (read in full...)
My child and I want to move in with him...so will he ever do the work on his home as he promised?
Q. Not sure how to start or explain this one, been on here before and got great advice from you agony aunts and uncles, so i am hoping that you can advice me on this one. I am in LDR which been with him for nearly 3 years, we are committed loyal and ...
A. 27 January 2012: Bring it up next time in convo and get an honest status from him about where he is at with the plans. Dont assume anything or accuse (which im sure you wouldnt) just telling that to you. Building a house is a huge task and to do it alone financially ... (read in full...)
How do I get over my teacher?
Q. I have a problem... D: when I started my music lessons not so long after started fancying my teacher to the point where I got a huge crush on him or whatever. Knowing that it wouldn't work out (even thought I am 18) I forced myself to snap out of ...
A. 27 January 2012: Yes, I see nothing here. Glad you posted doll. Bit of logic here: One youre a student, and hes a teacher. This implies only a professional relationship, not personal. So, dont make it one. And the other, you said it yourself, he is not interested in ... (read in full...)
Should I drop all my male friends?
Q. I have a bf who I love to pieces... but I still talk to all of my ex's, I think it kinds of bother him in a way... he brung it up before but I told him it nothing to worry about. I have never cheated in any of my relationships. I really dont ...
A. 27 January 2012: Male friends are okay. Logically, exe's shouldnt be in contact with you unless you two have a child together. Make sure to go over rules and boundaries together about male/female friends so each knows what they can and cannot do with them while the ... (read in full...)
What would make a man in love still want to talk to other girls?
Q. I am in a LDR of 11/2 months. When we met my boyfriend started talking about serious plans for our future like marriage and kids but he wanted to get his financial situation together. Two months down the line, I found out he was still talking to...
A. 27 January 2012: To be quite logical (and absolutely nothing against you) he is unconsciously keeping his options open probably because of the distance issue. LDRs rarely work out among others and also amongst myself. Personally, I think theyre a waste of time. ... (read in full...)
Too much friction when I'm on top!
Q. When me and my boyfriend have sex we seem to have a friction problem he does not shave, but I do shave and any time I am on top he will eventually say ouch from feeling the friction. It usually happens even if I am cleanly shaven ,but defiantly when ...
A. 27 January 2012: yeah if he shaved too.. should be much better experience. Right now its like riding sawdust I bet so just have him trim the wood area a lil more :-)... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hates animals and wants to get rid of my dogs!
Q. My boyfriend off and on for the past 6, years wants me to give away my dog who is 9 and my rescue puppy who is 3 then find a job in his state and move in with him he moved away 5 years agao and we stay in touch meeting when we could in talking ...
A. 27 January 2012: Keep the dogs, off... I mean dispose of the bf ;)... (read in full...)
Lack of sex a reason to break up?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for just over two years. She recently moved in with me about five months ago. Prior to moving in, she would come over to my place on weekends. We’d snuggle before bed and have sex at least once a week. Now that ...
A. 26 January 2012: Well man if you have your needs you have your needs and you need to get them met. Ethically, you should break the relationship off to do so. Granted you have a solid relationship, sex aside, if you feel something is driving you to be unfaithful or ... (read in full...)
I'm shy around new guys, and a friend is trying to set me up
Q. My friend is trying to set me up with one of her friends from college, we havent met yet but he seems like a nice guy from what my friend has told me. The problem is, i'm ridiculously shy around new people, especially guys and would like some advice ...
A. 26 January 2012: Put you and him in an activity you both like to do but can both have a chance to talk. This will help you be more comfortable cause youre in a more comfortable environment.... (read in full...)
Just learned that my wife cheated while we were engaged
Q. I just found out my wife cheated on me when we were engaged. I'm really confused about what to do. Part of me wants to just leave and get a divorce, but my wife and I have been married for more than 10 years and 3 children. My trust in her is ...
A. 26 January 2012: Hey pal!
Yeah this is frightening news. Counseling would be a great option... Ive never done marriage but believe me I have issues, just look at the questions I post on here. You wouldnt be calling your wife a slut in public, thats quite an exag... (read in full...)
I've been sleeping with a boy who has a G/f and I'm starting to like him
Q. Hey, I know this is wrong but iv been sleeping with this boy which has a gf. We have been meeting up now and then for the last 4 months, and I admit it is just sex, but I'm starting to like him. I know it's wrong and shouldn't have done it but...
A. 26 January 2012: yeah stop seeing him immediately. youre getting yourself into emotional trouble.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got a lapdance at a strip club and now I am struggling to deal with this, am I just being silly?
Q. My boyfriend went to see strippers and has got a private lapdance on a number of occasions. Im finding it hard to deal with, I feel inadequate and dont feel comfortable having sex at the moment. I just feel he'l compare the way I look to the ...
A. 26 January 2012: No youre not being silly. This is a legitimate concern and your feelings about it are valid. State to him you dont feel he is respecting your relationship when he is engaging in this behavior and state what insecurities it brings you.... (read in full...)
Why do I keep feeling so sick whenever I go out drinking?
Q. Hey I seem to have a bit of a problem that affects me going out and enjoying myself, not sure if anyone else has had the same problem but I've receieved comments about it. Everytime I go out drinking I get so far and feel the need to throw up, and...
A. 26 January 2012: Maybe youre allergic to alcohol?... (read in full...)
In a strange place with no way back so I gave him oral, and now he hasn't contacted me. How do I forget? How do I make sure this never happens again?
Q. I went through my childhood and most of my teen years being made fun of, and because of that I often feel ugly and fat and unworthy of being loved. I met a guy a few weeks ago who made me feel beautiful and he took me out for the day it was great ...
A. 26 January 2012: A wise soul once told me to not stress about the things I cannot control. I cant control some of the looks I get in public for whatever reason or why some idiot who works for delta would go on a racist rant about arabs. Like yourself, you could ... (read in full...)
Our living situation is getting to my wife. I endure her regular tantrums. Do I change our whole lifestyle and income due to her whim?
Q. I am 41 and I have been married to my wife for 19 years. We have no children. We bought this house in a large suburb (120K people) 10 years ago. It's near the mountains and we get a lot of wildlife. There are lots of trees, too, and you'd never know...
A. 26 January 2012: No man. Youre woman isnt normal. She's short tempered, spoiled as all hell, and very sensitive and emotional with issues that do not require her to be so sensitive and emotional for her point to be understood. Shes getting upset over pettiness. It ... (read in full...)
Is it fair for me to chase after this sweet guy knowing I don't really want him?
Q. Right now, I'm facing a connundrum. I'm a college student so most people want to tell me to focus on school and not a relationship. But I'm under so much pressure I feel like I need someone I can lean on and trust and who isn't looking for forever ...
A. 25 January 2012: Sweet guy needs to learn how to attract women first. Do NOT go after him as hes utterly pathetic as I once was. As for the two bozos who wear a deer t shirt to the gym that states "hunting for tail"? forget them. Ignore them. If sex is all they ... (read in full...)
My friend plans on using her boyfriend as a meal ticket!
Q. This isn't about me but a friend. She's the same age as me, 20, and a sophomore education major. However she sees her boyfriend as a meal ticket and doesn't think she will work after graduation. She actually believes she will get married within the ...
A. 25 January 2012: man what a brod. call her out. tell her, respectfully, she needs to get with reality and realize fairness and that relationships are two way streets. For the long term, if she only takes, the husband will likely get angry, have resentment, and her ... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have threesomes and I don't want to!
Q. I am married and have been married for almost 3 years now but my husband kept wanting me to sleep with girls so he can watch I was ok with that then he started wanting to do the full threesome and I was sceptical about it but felt I had to to keep ...
A. 25 January 2012: Selfish he is and arguably manipulative. He needs to respect your emotions and understand that you tried it, didnt like it, and wont do it again. He needs to respect that. If not, he doesnt deserve you.... (read in full...)
If I drink energy drinks can I have sex multiple times?
Q. Hello. Me and my girlfriend are going on a trip to New York City and she been making comments like having sex all the time multiple times a day on this trip. It's only days, I'm a little nervous I won't perform okay. She is 31 and I'm 20 and a...
A. 25 January 2012: Not true. I take 800-1000mg of pure caffeine on my eca stacks and when I get out of the gym, I feel like I could plow a brod four times. Im caffeine sensitive and get tons and tons of energy, and mood enhancement. It is the ultimate drug for me and ... (read in full...)
This guy used me and I dropped him out of my life. Then why am I feeling jealous about his one-night stand?
Q. Coming up 2 years ago I fell head over heels for this guy I knew through a mutual friend. We became best friends so quickly and we had an amazing bond. He began purposely leading me on and generally finding fun in messing with my head. But I was ...
A. 25 January 2012: Guy A is an a**hole and I should whip a jump rope at his dome. Guy B sounds like the set. Therefore, tell Guy A to go f*** himself and drown in an alligator pool of chlamydia all while blocking him and breaking off all contact. ... (read in full...)
Now that I'm being noticed should I go for it and have sex as much as possible?
Q. American rapper Mike Jones has a song (censored version) where he says "Back then they didn’t want me, Now I’m hot, they all on me"...I feel like I’m living a similar situation and it’s confusing me as to how to proceed/live (if that makes any ...
A. 25 January 2012: Dude... you and me. We are buds. My transformation is nearly complete and it was inspired partly well, to gain more attention from women. Im done paying for them, seriously. This was the drastic action I had to take and its f****** paying off. I ... (read in full...)
Trying to gain confidence by understanding sexual experience but I feel lost
Q. Sex is very casual for some an almost everyday thing...something most are used to whereas Im not. So, by constantly getting action (vagina or otherwise) and then some idiot comes along with no or little experience, doesnt a woman think "I do this ...
A. 24 January 2012: Thanks for the response ladies. Well appreciated and understood. If I was ever with a girl, she wouldnt know about my sexual past. Even if Id been with 9 "normal" women, its not relevant to our future but my developed confidence is, which is what I ... (read in full...)
I just cant seem to like girls my age!
Q. So in a weird flip of the coin i have recently started seeing older women. I am 24 and im seeing a lady who is 34 and another who is 42. i have fooled around with a lady who was 63 last week. i really dont know what it is. i find them attractive and ...
A. 20 January 2012: Dude older women are the biz. I, myself, mix well with them. Why? Same reason as you. I dont find a lot of conversations stimulating with women my age. they drink, they f***, repeat. Older women have more life experiences that we can learn from and ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to cry tears of joy or is it too much too soon?
Q. Ive been dating a guy for only a few months now, and i can honestly admit i love 100% everything about him and hes amazing and treats me with the most respect and supports me Sometimes i feel so happy when im alone, i cry in tears of happiness that ...
A. 19 January 2012: tears of joy are always positive!... (read in full...)
Are there women and men that think (like me) that oral sex is not romantic ?
Q. u can`t feel the emotional connection with ur lover , i know that it feels good but not that good to me i`d rather have sex i`m talking about a loving,tender relathionship not a one night stand u can`t look in their eyes and feel the connect...
A. 19 January 2012: I once went down a girl for over an hour. Ill boast about it cause I never enjoyed it as much as I did with her cause I took my time... made it passionate and she thought it was romantic for a one time thing.... (read in full...)
I'm not an Alpha Male but do I still have a chance with Women?
Q. I have the most bizzar issue in the world of dating and I am certian that I am the only heterosexual male who has encountered this. I've been very successful but I was alway thought of in a negative light by my family so I have never really seen ...
A. 19 January 2012: hey pal, any prior relationship issues? or even friendships that have shaken your confidence? You sound like the set man. Give women a chance as they clearly sound like they are interested in you. And if your personality is what you feel you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend all of a sudden making new friends and it bothers me
Q. So my boyfriend and I are on a break. Anyway, before, he'd never really make any new friends especially girls. Now all of a sudden he went out for his friend's 21st birthday and he added on Facebook 2 of the girls that were there. I got a little ...
A. 19 January 2012: Ive dealt with jealousy myself. Bam. Im with a woman and thats it. any other guy that looks at her, i tell them to eff off. Simply put, I hang around men and know what most are like so I get possessive and protective. However, I am able to tell when ... (read in full...)
Older male cannot understand what's happening!
Q. Hi, I am 62 and change. Exactly 1 year ago I met a woman 14 years younger in a retraining program. She chased me, and even when I tried to point out the age difference, she insisted it was not important. We've been seeing each other several ti...
A. 19 January 2012: I think she made that comment about being different to mean that she isnt ready to live together just yet. If not that, its something else. I get the feeling she didnt communicate everything to you man. Re establish contact and try to talk to her. ... (read in full...)
College g/f asked a guy to hook up while drunk
Q. I met my girlfriend towards the end of my junior year. She was a senior at the time and I was nervous about getting attatched because she would be leaving for college. After hanging out everyday in the summer i started to really like her and I ...
A. 19 January 2012: Yeah man Id be irate. In fact, this woman would be out my door. Thats me however. I have no tolerance for this kind of thing at all. If youre the forgiving type, youll need to rebuild trust and a good way to start that is by compromising with her ... (read in full...)
Why it is that I keep losing my head/cool whenever I like a guy?
Q. Dear People, I am a 24 year old woman and I have never been in a serious, committed relationship. My previous encounters with boys have been a result of unrequited feelings. One was a fling I guess you could call it and the other two couldn't wor...
A. 18 January 2012: Hi!
Yes. Make sure youre communicating your thoughts to this guy. Let him know about your insecurities so he can reassure you and help you with confidence.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend says she needs time and space, what does it mean?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for about a month and a half and everything was going perfect she seemed very happy and said I give her butterflies when ever I kiss her. We rarely argued and she also said she never wants to lose me because we ...
A. 18 January 2012: Time and space is never a good thing man. More than likely her emotions are confused and as a result she feels its prob not the best thing for you guys to be together.... (read in full...)
Guys, is it a deal breaker for you if your girlfriend hates blow jobs?
Q. I tried giving blow jobs, it hurts, my jaws got irritated , i felt used (i knew i`m not gonna like them) and i felt bad about myself, i love sex though. so is it a deal breaker if a woman refuses to give it to her boyfriend? i never asked any men ...
A. 18 January 2012: I love to eat... and if she doesnt reciprocate, yeah I'll look elsewhere for my needs.... (read in full...)
Why do guys act hot and cold? What's the point?
Q. I don't get why guys act hot and cold. What is the point of being like this? Is this not a form of mind games? Don't get me wrong, I know it's just not guys who act hot and cold but women do it too. I just get confused when this happens though :...
A. 18 January 2012: Mixed signals are a way of men keeping women interested... so that they arent dead giveaways about what they truly think about the person. For some men they can do this naturally to attract women, for me it takes study and practice. It isnt ... (read in full...)
What is it like dating a policeman?
Q. I live in Southern California, and went to visit some friends in Las Vegas. While I was there I hit it off with a guy there who was hanging out with his friends who are also my friends. We exchanged numbers before I went home and we've been talking ...
A. 17 January 2012: Get to know this guy... is he like denzel from training day? or wesley snipes in murder at 1600? Ive donated money to policemens families after they passed away and thats sad. The job I hear is very stressful, demanding, and well, I hear also ... (read in full...)
Guys: What differentiates a woman you met in a club from being 'a bit of fun' to the 'might be girlfriend' type?
Q. When you meet a girl in a bar or club what diffrenciates her from being the girl you want to make your girlfriend, or the girl who could be some fun? I know many guys (some being friends who do this) meet girls in clubs and assume she's down to sl...
A. 17 January 2012: Interesting post here. To be very honest, I previously stereotyped all western women who went to clubs as whores. However, that stereotype changed for me over a year ago when I met a lovely irish girl. When I go to a club, I select a target. That ... (read in full...)
He wanted sex. I had my period. Finally I agreed to do it, as I was horny. But it all ended badly, with him freaking out. Was his reaction excessive disgust?
Q. This may gross some people out with I need some honest opinions... I have a fwb and we have sex on a regular basis. Well the other night he came over and I was on my period (a very light one) so I declined sex and just gave him head. Well the ...
A. 17 January 2012: holy balls (no pun intended) this guy sounds a bit manipulative and disrespectful. Forget this "Im gonna hurt his feelings" crap, it isnt logical. He wanted sex, You declined. He pressured. You gave in. He flipped out over a natural function of a ... (read in full...)
Does he deserve a second chance after he lied about wearing a condom?
Q. I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. He's nice to me, although he has a bit of a problem telling the truth. He does not like wearing protection as he says he doesn't feel anything and the rubber irritates him. I finally agreed t...
A. 17 January 2012: Whoa! Big red flag here. Bottom line Id say he doesnt at all have any respect for you as a person or your body. If he's going against your agreement of protection, that is a clear violation. He needs a real lesson in honesty here and respect.. do ... (read in full...)
Is this male coworker harrassing me???
Q. Abstract: Guy liked me from the restaurant but I turned him down he retaliates with subtle verbal insults and physical contact (his torso shoulder hitting me hard as he is passing by) and him snatching things out of my hand. So when I first sta...
A. 16 January 2012: Does this guy wear a joker shirt underneath his uniform every day at work? cause he should. mofo sounds like he's a card short of a full deck lol... he sounds quite aggressive, immature, and well, just stupid. Drop by human resources and let them be ... (read in full...)
Is he attracted to me? please help!
Q. If you were a single Mom and there was a cute guy at your office who seemed to go out of his way to stop by your desk each day and say hello, sometimes picked up lunch for you when you were working on a project; alway made a point of sitting across ...
A. 16 January 2012: Nice guys usually arent that naive esp if they wake up like me. What? This guy thinks every girl should be treated like a princess? True: If he's just being nice to them, chances are he isnt attracting these women because being nice like the way he ... (read in full...)
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