I'm the bread winner in the relationship, couldn't my b/f at least be good at sex?
Q. Back in high school, my boyfriend was the quintessential nerdy fat kid whereas I was the shy punk chick. Now a days, he is still a bigger fellow compared to my still smaller physique. He's 6'1" and 250 lbs whereas I'm 5'3" and 115 lbs. But he is the ...
A. 29 December 2011: Exercise.. 30 min cardio 3 times a week 140-150 target heart rate reasonable for your bf's size along with 30 min resistance training preferably high reps with all exercises he chooses... to get that blood circulating more and energy level up.... (read in full...)
Do guys find black hair attractive in girls?
Q. i know this is a random question but i just want to see what everyones opinion was, mostly from a guys perspective. Of course a lot of guys like or "love" blondes then theres the burnettes and red heads. what about the girls with black hair? in my ...
A. 29 December 2011: As long as its not the gel soaked straightened goth like hair Im okay. Black hair can be very nice definitely.... (read in full...)
My Bf thought I was a virgin, because I lied. But someone sent a pix to him disproving that. How do I fix this?
Q. Please don't judge me, I know what I did was wrong. But when I meet my current boyfriend I couldn't believe having found such a lovely guy. Having been used by guys in the past, my previous relationship were just sex. No love at all. But this guy ...
A. 27 December 2011: Prime example of the possibilties of negative things that can happen by holding out for "love" so thank you for reassuring me of losing it at age 25 by other means. Trust is lost here because of the lying. Because of the emotion your bf has attached ... (read in full...)
He wants a BJ but I backed out of giving him one
Q. Hey ok i promised my Boyfriend I'd give him a BJ for the first time but when I got to his house and he *whiped it out* i paniced and said "i don't want us to get caught" he said i broke his promise now he is consently saying "u gonna back out of ...
A. 27 December 2011: Thats disrespectful and selfish of him. You have the right to turn down any sexual act u feel like and he needs to understand that. He possibly sounds manipulative in that hes trying to make u feel guilty by asking about keeping promises. Red flags ... (read in full...)
Sex before a relationship? Yes or No?
Q. whats everyones thoughts on having sex before relationship? yes or ney? is it lust or love? does a girl who wants sex before relationship love that person? inputs?...
A. 27 December 2011: Sexual chemistry can lead to a solid relationship because that is part of the ever so complicated idea of attraction. Physical attraction can lead to mental attraction and vice versa.... (read in full...)
I saw my boyfriend kissing another girl but I want to give him another chance. Any advice?
Q. Sorry in advance if it's long and thank you for reading. I've been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years. We're very serious and talk about marriage. Back in October we took a break because of the way I was treating him. I treated him horribly when he ...
A. 27 December 2011: If he was serious about marriage he would demonstrate that with his actions as well. His kissing of the other girl contradicts his idea of committment.... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever spent New Year's Eve alone?
Q. Hey aunts! So, I'm going through a pretty rocky phase in my life (my mom passed away last spring, I recently broke up with my 5year bf and I'm very heartbroken). Looks like I'm gonna be spending New Years Eve alone. I know it's a super loser thing ...
A. 22 December 2011: Oh yeah... many new years alone and holidays. I dont feel bad thats just the way it is and Im in my prime age here. I dont drink, not really a partier, so in the end that new years eve scene never fit me anyway. Dont be ashamed. Its totally fine.... (read in full...)
I've lost myself.....Could I be depressed?
Q. Hi all, I was wondering if anyone can help me? Over the past 12 months I've noticed some significant changes and I'm not quite sure what to do. I only turned 21 a few months ago, prior to this I was a very social person. I loved going out clubbing ...
A. 22 December 2011: Hey doll!
Yes, its very possible you have acquired a mental condition. These sound like symptoms of depression as you seem overall isolated and unmotivated to be social, which in then long term cannot be healthy. For the short term, Ive opted to i... (read in full...)
How can I be more open with my boyfriend? Is it ok to tell him to back off?
Q. Hi everyone, I have a fairly new boyfriend (about 4 months together, although we've known each other for about 2 years), and I'm having trouble figuring out how much I need to share with him. I grew up with a lot of problems at home, and I'm stil...
A. 16 December 2011: You're entitled to privacy doll. It is your family business, not necessarily his. If you're not comfortable in telling, do not tell him. Instead inform a mentor or older person like cindy on here, she's a great parent and can help assist, Im sure. ... (read in full...)
Losing my virginity.....what do I need for my first time? How do I make sure I last long enough?
Q. Okay so when I was 16 I promised myself myself if I was 21 and still a virgin that I would lose it to someone of that year. Well here it is 6 years later and its come to the unfortunate time that I was dreading and excited for. This girl who I ...
A. 15 December 2011: Lucky duck lol I was never offered but managed to still lose it at the pathetic age of 25. My advice. Dont beat off for at least two days. Bring rubbers shell expect u to be inexperienced which is fine man so if u want ti build confidence work on ... (read in full...)
How does one prepare for being fingered?
Q. Preparation for being fingered? I know im supposed to shower and everything, but anything else to smell nice and stuff down there?...
A. 15 December 2011: Shaved is always a plus. Showering is fine.... (read in full...)
He's frustrated. I'm unhappy. What could be causing my Bf to suddenly get erectile dysfunction? It's never happened before.
Q. My and I boyfriend have been together for 4 months now, and recently we've had a problem with him staying hard during sex. I'm on birth control so we never use condoms but it's just so weird because during foreplay or oral sex he stays full on hard...
A. 15 December 2011: Assuming he has no medical condition, Deadeyedick hits it. I agree with what he states.... (read in full...)
(( Guys )) What is your definition of a "hot" girl or woman??
Q. Hi! My boyfriend uses this term quite often (when talking about women.) He even said he thought I was "hot" when we met. Honestly, I was shocked because I never considered myself being that and was never called that by anyone in the past. I am an ...
A. 15 December 2011: As a 26 year old male, Id like to consider myself, in terms of physical attraction, non-discriminatory. For me, it varies what I find "hot" really especially with older women. Although recently, Ive enjoyed the petite type and fit. In terms of a ... (read in full...)
Being told you shouldn't be angry...does that work for ANYONE?
Q. i feel like everytime i have a disagreement with my boyfriend we don't so much try to work through a disagreement as much as he tries to explain it away . He says his side of whatevers going on, and basically concludes that therefore, I shouldn't be ...
A. 15 December 2011: Yes, perhaps your schedules are stressful enough and that his attitude is temporary until the stress from school diminishes. If this sort of thing happens all the time, then there is a maturity issue in the relationship.... (read in full...)
Feeling Of No Self Worth...Advice?
Q. Ok so I don't really think I'm asking a question just randomnly ranting. But I am a 19 year old girl. I just feel like there is no purpose in this world for me. I don't have a job or going to college. I dropped out of college in November 2010 ...
A. 7 December 2011: I have no judgment against prostitution and am not ignorant when it comes to the profession. Some women Ive been with in that capacity i can sense have troubled pasts in some form or another. Ive never given advice to any of them however here I ... (read in full...)
Finally found someone I connect with on an intellectual level, as well as an intimate level...but he just so happens to be my literature professor. How do I go about starting a relationship with him?
Q. I've always been a hopeless romantic, but I love the feeling I get when I find someone that I enjoy talking to in an intellectual sense as well as on a more intimate level. Recently, I've met someone that has inspired me in so many ways I cant even ...
A. 7 December 2011: This is fantastic however to my knowledge a teacher cannot develop a personal relationship with a student for risky reasons i e cheating grades, favoritism, etc or even unfairness. Id wait til youre not his student and play it safe, then connect ... (read in full...)
How can I prevent myself from being put into the friend zone?
Q. Why am I always considered a "friend" and just that? What can I do to make girls actually like me more than a friend?...
A. 7 December 2011: Attraction isnt a choice. If you do not attract women right away, they will more than likely never develop an attraction for you thus leaving you in friend zone. Start here: if youre a nice guy, stop it. Shame on you. Women see that as soft and ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for my immature boyfriend to grow up?
Q. My boyfriend is REALLY immature. He's my age (19), and although it was a lot worse a year ago, I don't think I can deal with it anymore. He farts, he burps, he makes stupid comments/jokes. He doesn't take anything I say seriously (when I want to ...
A. 7 December 2011: Life experiences make a man mature doll. This boy has yet to compile such experiences which is why he is acting immaturely. In my opinion, he isnt worth waiting for and you should find someone who is on more your level.... (read in full...)
Can you teach someone how to love?
Q. We are all damaged in some way or another. My boyfriend has suffered some tragedy in his life. He lost his father early on. His mother has abandoned him on several occasions. He has some social awkwardness issues and has very few close friends ...
A. 7 December 2011: Interesting and refreshing post doll. Has he tried counseling? I have some barriers myself with women and for good reason however in his case I feel its different. Perhaps he's closed off because he is scared to lose you through death? I dont think ... (read in full...)
"Momma's boy" - attractive or not to women?
Q. Want to get some feedback from women here... I grew up without a father so my mother had to be both parents in a way. As a result, I've always been a "Momma's boy". She's not protective or invasive in my personal life we just have a very solid and ...
A. 2 December 2011: Thank you all for your feedback. Very well appreciated. No, I do not live with her as some of you asked. I have a healthy relationship with her and we discuss a lot and maintain solid communication. She misses cooking for me so she sends me these ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend sexually fantasizes about one of her ex partners.
Q. Hello, I'm a 25 year old male. I've been dating this girl for the past 3 months and things have been going great. Our sex life is absolutely fantastic as well. Yesterday, I was on her computer looking something up and I ended up looking at her h...
A. 1 December 2011: Confront her man. However, do it with as little emotion as possible. You want a constructive conversation. Just ask her straight out, communication is a must. Ask her what was going on and do not accuse her of anything, let her explain. If she's ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy throw it all away for a random one night hook up?
Q. This may be a brad question, but it just doesn't make sense to me why a guy would cheat on a good girl that hes been with for a few years. I was absolutely good to him. Im as sincere as they get. Im honestly the type of girlfriend most guys are ...
A. 1 December 2011: He's insecure doll. He lacks significant self-confidence otherwise he would thrive the relationship with you and work towards a future. His random one nighter has no excuses, be it alcohol, friends influence, etc. His behavior is typical whereas ... (read in full...)
How can I approach an attractive girl? Fear of Rejection.
Q. There is a girl in my class who in see at least twice a week who seems really polite and quiet but I don't know how to approach her. As I'm afraid of being rejected. She once approached me and a couple of friends and asked in a very polite manner ...
A. 30 November 2011: Dude approach her when shes alone and DO NOT say jack s*** about her looks. She knows shes attractive she doesnt need another guy to kiss her arse. Your approach? Tease her. Break the ice by sending her a neg which isnt a compliment or put down. You ... (read in full...)
How can I best support her? She says she feels smothered. Now she only wants companionship.
Q. I'm a 56 year old male in a relationship with a 54 year old divorced women. She was raped repeatedly when she was 15 , by her step father. She also suffered other trauma through the years. Ex husband hit her with a belt, ex boy friend infected...
A. 25 November 2011: This woman more than likely still has some unresolved psychological issues after all these years. That is a lot to go thru. I think she should talk to a counselor and whatever choice she decides to do, support her.... (read in full...)
My sex drive is too high! How do I stop it?
Q. I have a severe problem that I can't seem to get rid of. I have a very high sex drive and I hate it! It seems as though no matter how much me and my husband fool around, or how much I masturbate that I always feel like I'm horny and need to get off ...
A. 21 November 2011: Pump iron. Thatll wear u out lol... (read in full...)
I really liked him, but after kissing him my attraction and everything towards him has gone! How?
Q. Am I being silly here, I met this guy about three weeks ago and was attracted straight away, we had small talk whenever we saw each other but I didn't really think he liked me. Well last saturday I decided to just talk to him more than small talk ...
A. 17 November 2011: Yeah you didnt have feelings for him to begin with... just a brief infatuation. Now, since he likes you the "chase" is over therefore your interest in him will be completely lost. Let him down gently then the obvious next step is to move forward.... (read in full...)
Never had an orgasm
Q. Hello, out there. I am a 26 year old female. I have never had an orgasm, either clitorally, or vaginally. I have tried on my own for years, and with my husband, but I just can't do it. Has anyone else had this problem, and does anyone have any ...
A. 17 November 2011: This sounds psychological. Any rape experiences? (God forbid).. or history of abuse? Youre possibly making it a goal to orgasm and then putting pressure on yourself to do it. Ive had some experiences with that and I hate it cause the women were so ... (read in full...)
My marriage isn't working, I'm involved with a married woman and I cant even divorce my wife and be with her, because she says her husband is abusive and will harm us both.
Q. I am 38 and I have been married for 19 years to a woman 2 years older than I am. My marriage has been difficult. We even separated for a year 10 years ago. Our sex life is poor and we have some really deep issues that we cannot compromise on. One ...
A. 17 November 2011: Your infidelity has cost you greatly here. Have you and your wife tried counseling to resolve your compromise issues? In regards to miss 20 something fun bags... assuming what she states about an abusive lover AND shes deciding to stay with him... (read in full...)
I lied about my age to this 27 year old guy whom I've been seeing. Said I was 20, when I'm actually 18. Now what?
Q. im 18 and im seeing a 27 yr. old, i lied to him about my age and said i was 20, but were really starting to click and hes going to ask me to be his girlfriend soon because hes REALLY into me. I want to tell him before we get any more serious because ...
A. 17 November 2011: If he's uneasy about the age difference, then he wont display confidence in the relationship. Shame on you for lying. Honesty is key to any successful friendship or intimate relationship. The fact, you, yourself lied, isnt right. Now, come clean and ... (read in full...)
I don't like my step-daughters!
Q. I don't care for my step Daughters.. It's not that we don't get along or that they treat me badly but the way they treat their father (my husband). There Mother wasn't in their lives much when they were kids and their father did everythi...
A. 14 November 2011: Sounds like the kardashians. Spoiled and immature. They are just young n dumb i suppose. I think the best thing you can do is continue to have a great relationship with him and encourage him to continue to have patience with his daughters. He needs ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex every night, he doesn't. How can I lower my sex drive?
Q. I need some serious help, I have a very high sex drive, I want to have sex with my husband every night before bed, but he isn't the same way. Is there anyway I can lower my sex drive? I don't know what else to do, I've tried getting my husband more ...
A. 14 November 2011: How have you tried to get him more interested?! Are you spontaneous?! Towards the end of the nite wonder into the bedroom change into something extremely sexy. Low cut top with a pushup and thong a costume maybe?! N grab a toy n nice perfume. That ... (read in full...)
How can I get to know him without him thinking I'm a slut?
Q. Ok, so about 2 months ago I hooked up with this guy at a party. It was an extreme hookup... We didn't have sex but it made me seem like a really big slut. It was not like me at all. But that is besides the point. Point is that after this hookup my ...
A. 14 November 2011: Yea contact him yourself. Arrange for coffee (avoid alcohol for now) and talk to him. Have a normal.convo and tell him you are single ask his status and if you two are genuinely interested in each other youll plan a date. This is action. Dont tell ... (read in full...)
Whenever I manage to save up a bit of money, my boyfriend expects me to treat him to a big dinner
Q. Just wanted to ask, is it fair that my boyfriend expects me to pay for dinner sometimes (for the both of us) when he's the one with a pretty good, stable part time job (24hr) and I'm unemployed (because my college schedule is loaded)? I'm not tryi...
A. 14 November 2011: He is arguably manipulative here. You have ur frugality thats allowed n he should respect that. If he was smart he would admire your financial management rather than acting like an idiot.... (read in full...)
Why do guys feels the need to brag?
Q. Why do guys brag? He was a party boy and obviously I didn't give him anything sex-related/making out related to brag about. so... when people asked why we hung out around one another...he said that I hung around him and even the police couldn't...
A. 14 November 2011: Yes hes immature. Guys brag because they mistake bragging for confidence a trait they know women desire. You obviously caught that and know hes a tool. ... (read in full...)
Have I loved him or strung him along? Do I wait for him now or try and move on?
Q. So I've got an issue, and I'm not sure what to do. Really quick five year history... When I was 16 I was in a relationship with a guy. His mother passed away two months into our relationship, and I helped him as best I could through that. A year ...
A. 12 November 2011: Yeah jealous you are of this girl. That comes from having a previous reltshp with him so dont let that emotion drive any decision.Dont wait for this guy life is damn short. Its been five years anyway. Move on. ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend but have a major crush on another boy! Please help!
Q. Hi! Okay, I'm having an issue. There's this boy. Let's call him Tom. I used to be bestfriends with his sister and I used to have a MAJJOR crush on him. I was like IN LOVE with Tom. I thought he felt the same about me, but then people spread rumors ...
A. 12 November 2011: You need to break the relationship off and date. Youre not ready for a committment... except to twilight.
Regards... (read in full...)
How do I get over it? Nothing hurts more than realizing she meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to her.
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend 2 months ago. It was my fault we broke up. I take full responsibility. I was drunk went on the computer and talked to this girl inappropriately and she looked through my stuff and found the conversation. We broke up and ...
A. 12 November 2011: Chill man. Yes u made a mistake n manned up. Now ill tell u something. Its for the better u were off on the wrong foot with her anyhow. Ill save u possible years of anger n frustration. Do not treat women like gold yet dont treat them like dirt. ... (read in full...)
I want to go back to being straight. But I'm confused that I may be bi-sexual? How can I be sure I will end up with a girl?
Q. hello everyone. i'm 31 year-old, male and i'm confused if i'm a bisexual man, gay, or still straight man. i've been into a relationship with a guy for 6 years. we started as friends became close and we just love each other. he gave me extra atte...
A. 11 November 2011: Yeah get counseling. There are tricks here to pick up women. Its not hard. Just subtle hints women throw out in public to say hey i think your're hot come get my number. The segregation here is good and isnt. Your situation is one example of why i... (read in full...)
Am I asking too much for handmade birthday cards from my grandsons?
Q. I have two sons, 32 and 30 years old and I have two grandchildren, one is 4 and other is 1 year old. It was my birthday today 11/11/11. Earlier this week I asked my sons to make, with my grandchildren, a birthday card for me with the date 11/11/11 ...
A. 11 November 2011: No you werent asking too much doll. That was quite vacant of them. Treat urself to something soon. Happy belated birthday :)... (read in full...)
Boyfriend admitted to one-night stand!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years confessed yesterday that few weeks back he had an one night stand, he was heavely drunk and didn't realise what he was getting into. I really dont understand how he could he say since he was drunk he didnt know what ...
A. 11 November 2011: Confused? Dont let that feeling keep u interested in him. Hes a cheating a**hole who deserves my 130 dumbbells dropped on his face. Rid urself of him. Is it that hard of a decision?!... (read in full...)
Boyfriend admitted to one-night stand!
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years confessed yesterday that few weeks back he had an one night stand, he was heavely drunk and didn't realise what he was getting into. I really dont understand how he could he say since he was drunk he didnt know what ...
A. 10 November 2011: He lacks maturity and respect for you. His honesty is a plus however his very poor decision to drink and to put himself at risk of such a liberal fiasco, outweighs his honesty and apology. Now, trust is broken. You will begin to question and worry ... (read in full...)
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