Inexperienced! Hand jobs...oral...how do I do this?
Q. There is this great guy I know he's really sweet and cute.I've always liked him and I never thought he could possibly like me back.The other night our group went out to a nightclub and we got left alone together.He asked me to look at him and ...
A. 22 February 2012: Really its all about communication. Eye contact smiling some dirty talk. Stroke him spit lube lotion. Prepare for it. Thats even hotter. Buy a small bottle of ky n keep it with u while youre with him. This way youll be ready and also have the ... (read in full...)
Do you guys give up if the girl don't kiss u in the first date?
Q. I really want Male opinions PLease! ..I met this guy not too long ago, we exchanged numbers and since then we keep txting back and forth...finally we met yesterday for a dinner. He brought me two gifts.. I didnt expect for that! After dinner we were ...
A. 22 February 2012: He was prob expecting a kiss cause u accepted his gifts. Im certain because he didnt receive affection in return hes upset vs u kissing on first date.... (read in full...)
Why don't men want to talk on the phone?
Q. I'm finding this so common with men I meet now, they refuse to talk on the phone. I met a great guy, we went out on 2 dates and had a blast together but we only communicate via text. At one point, I gave him a call but he didn't answer. When I heard ...
A. 22 February 2012: Stay away from guys like that. Really it implies they lack social skills and maturity.... (read in full...)
He ended it because he couldnt cope with other men looking at me, and then in the 7 days we were apart he got a new girlfriend!
Q. Thanks in advance for any advice given! I am in a sad place right now and really could do with some opinions from a mans point of view and also a womans if you have been in the same situation. Up until a couple of weeks ago I was dating a guy...
A. 22 February 2012: I think this guy is insecure as hell. Hes in a sense putting u down by making up the other woman and blaming u for men staring. He does not know how to deal with that so he backs out. Really thats petty. If some guy looked at my lady id walk up to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has suddenly gone crazy over my male friend being at the party with me and now he is ignoring me! What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 2 and half years. And I love him more than words can say. He has the potential to be an amazing partner, friend, lover, etc. But, he has put me through a lot in a short amount of time. Everything from ...
A. 20 February 2012: Trust. Any reason why he shouldnt trust you?... (read in full...)
He acted interested but now he's not. Should I ask him to hang out tonight?
Q. Please read i need help! Sorry its a little long but i need to tell the whole story. So i met this guy while out with my friends. Hes someone i went to school with but never talked to until now. He said he wanted.to take me out but we didnt exchan...
A. 19 February 2012: Call him and ask him what his intentions are with you. Since he fooled around with you already, its possible he got what he wanted and will ignore you from here on out. If he doesnt respond, he more than likely used you. If he continues contact, he ... (read in full...)
He's quiet and not very demonstrative, but does it sound like he may be interested?
Q. I'm into one of my friends here at college, and he's an odd boy but I'm an odd girl so it works out. :) He's very quiet, and doesn't seem to be touchy-feely at all, and it's hard to read him, but I'm wondering if he is interested or is considering ...
A. 19 February 2012: My guess is this guy lacks confidence in his approach to women which isnt necessarily bad however it could also mean he is not a good communicator. This is certainly a possibility. From what I read, yeah he is interested. ask him out on a formal ... (read in full...)
Why am I still sleeping with this married woman despite knowing that out "relationship" is headed nowhere?
Q. I can't believe that it is still going on after four years! I posted a question regarding this affair a while back when I thought this whole ordeal was finally coming to an end, but it isn't. We stared flirting, going to lunch. etc., back in th...
A. 19 February 2012: Dude get rid of this brod. Sounds like pure trouble in the end and heartache. If you have the chance to play the field do it, you dont sounds like a desperate guy so date a few if you want. Careful about the husband cause if he's as big as me or ... (read in full...)
I'm insecure about my penis size and terrified of being called "small". Is it okay to want a woman who doesn't have a past so that she don't compare my size to others?
Q. Im a 21 year old virgin guy and lately ive been trying to figure out what I want in a girlfriend before I know for sure that im ready to have sex. While trying to figured things out for myself ive realized something. I have female friends that joke ...
A. 19 February 2012: Hey man!
I totally get you on this. Yes, thats fine. In fact, I encourage it because not only are you possibly eliminating your current fear, youre also eliminating past relationship issues the woman may have that are unaddressed. You get a clea... (read in full...)
He texts me and then no contact for days. Is this a guy game?
Q. Alright... so I met this guy at work. I work days, he works the night shift. We only see each other if I work late. So, we're friends on Facebook, we text, we message, we even talk when we see each other at work on occasion. He told me he really l...
A. 17 February 2012: Calm down.
He could be 1) embarassed about how he stated his feelings for you 2) busy 3) intentionally ignoring you to keep you interested in his unpredictable behavior. The last one is a tread carefully area cause a guy shouldnt mess with a girl... (read in full...)
Does this mean he is over me?
Q. So i think im going a little over board with this, it started out at christmas time. i got him a few gifts he said thank you and that was it he gave me nothing in return i was hurt but at least got a thank you so i got over it, now valentines just ...
A. 17 February 2012: Relationships are two way streets. This guy doesnt seem to understand that. He shouldnt just take. V day is a BS holiday anyway however if u got him something he should return it too. Thats just protocol.... (read in full...)
I'm feeling really pressured to lose my virginity!
Q. so here's the deal.. literally everyone my age is having sex but me.. (I'am 16) I haven't done anything with a guy, all I've done is kiss, all the guys I've went out with, all want one thing! and when I don't give it to them they break it off. I ...
A. 17 February 2012: Yeah wait. youre still young. Id say forget what other ppl think but I adapted.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has had several threesomes and hook ups in her past: liberal open-minded girl or just a slut?
Q. Well, I know this topic comes up a lot but here I go anyways: I'm dating this girl for the last 5 months. She has been always open about her attitude about sex, and admitted to me that she has had a lot of threesomes, hook ups and ongoing on and o...
A. 17 February 2012: Hey pal!
Alrite man Im def open minded too and have problems dealing with pasts of other women so what did I do? went and made a past of mine so I dont judge. I dont encourage the same as I dealt with some unique circumstances but with this girl... (read in full...)
Is there really another girl? Or is this guy just saying that?
Q. I'm starting to like this guy in my class and I'm not sure if he has the same feelings towards me. First off we have ALOT in common, he's always asking what my plans are for the weekend, he also invites me to go out to a Bon fire but I already have ...
A. 16 February 2012: Theres plenty of guys I know who tell women they are obligated to hang with other chicks simply because it makes them look more valuable vs some idiot who gives a certain woman priority. This doesnt make him trustworthy or not. In fact, that kind of ... (read in full...)
Our sex life isn't working out very equitably
Q. I know I'm a dick for getting frustrated about this and I know that it's my fault, but I don't know what to do. I consider myself pretty good when it comes to sex. I've only had sex with my girlfriend, but I'm usually able to make her cum lik...
A. 16 February 2012: yea calm things down. dont make orgasm a goal and try doing other things besides sex. Foreplay, kissing, handjobs, titjobs, dont get me going ill go on and on. Heck, spend more time cuddling and making out and do it in crazy places. Dont plan sex, ... (read in full...)
Why is it that men stare at me all the time but almost never smile or speak?
Q. How am I to understand how a man feels when he looks at you if he won't even give you a little smile? Yesterday I was grocery shopping and passed a really good looking man in my aisle. When I saw him, he was already looking at me. He was alone. W...
A. 16 February 2012: If you ask me it could mean many things.. like one reader said window shopping, or heck, maybe they were just practicing eye contact. Worse case, the guy was undressing you with his eyes. Guys should have more balls when it comes to talking to women ... (read in full...)
Are these actions totally fine or are they a little inappropriate?
Q. I'm not sure what to think about some of my bf's interactions with women/female friends. First of all I want to say that I'm not an overly jealous person but I'm very perceptive. My bf is a very outgoing and chatty person. He's the kind of guy who ...
A. 16 February 2012: Yeah talk to him. I sense hes wanting to play the field.... (read in full...)
Bf does not pay attention to my breasts...but he does look at those of other women!
Q. I have a wonderful boyfriend (we have been together for almost a year now.) Our sex life is pretty great except for one thing... I get upset because he doesn't take my top off during sex and doesn't pay attention to my boobs. I admit that i am ...
A. 16 February 2012: Hey! Head up. Ill be truthfully honest here. I prefer bigger breasts on a woman yet if i see a woman who has nice ones that go with the figure she has i still go wild. I dated a girl for over 5 and a half years with ur same size. For myself she ... (read in full...)
I think of him as cuddly, but I don't want to insult him
Q. I hope I dont insult ppl in the process of asking if I'm being insulting XD To the overweight community: (ja im sure ive already insulted everyone) All my life ive been really tiny... high metabolism or w/e but ive been kinda skinny... And I w...
A. 14 February 2012: Nah not offensive. ... (read in full...)
Does romantic sex appeal to men ?
Q. we women mostly (at least in my case) want slow sensual sex that lasts un hour or more with steady rythm and cuddling ,kissing ,sweet words and mutual participation but my experience showed me that men want the opposite , has i always chosen t...
A. 14 February 2012: I love passion. You have my vote :)... (read in full...)
He said me breaking up with him was the best Valentines gift ever! I know he doesn't want me, but I still feel like I made a mistake by breaking up with him....
Q. Dear cupid i am in love with a guy for 2 years. He knows that and we are in fwb. He is not seeing anyone and im not either. But he never introduced me as his gf. I am his friend, thats all he wanted from me, but i want more. I told him today i...
A. 14 February 2012: Before u start a fwb make sure your emotions r in check. Enuff said.... (read in full...)
I am against drinking but b/f has started to drink! How do I deal with this?
Q. I was wondering, how much action i should take or not take with my boyfriend and alcohol. hear me out. I was raised in a very religious home, i have never even SEEN alcohol outside of TV/ads/in the store. In highschool, I never was around t...
A. 12 February 2012: As long as hes responsible non.violent and a good decision maker u should accept his choice. I hate booze too and can be a turn off but some women like men can still do it responsibly and have a good time.... (read in full...)
I feel like I don't deserve my girlfriend because I'm constantly thinking about dating other girls!
Q. I think I do not deserve my girlfriend. I consistently have thoughts of what it would be like to date a different person. I constantly tell some girls that I wish I could date them, but that that would involve me breaking up with my beautiful angel. ...
A. 9 February 2012: Dude total sign to split and date other women. Youre naturally curious and still young. Have some fun. Id tell your GF your feelings about this. She'll get all emotional but stay calm. Explain to her logically its the wrong time for you to settle ... (read in full...)
Au naturale...
Q. I read in a newspaper recently that a lot of women are beginning to stay 'natural' i.e no shaving their arm pits, etc, I am wondering what readers of 'dearcupid.org think about that suggestion....
A. 9 February 2012: You must be reading the Sasquatch daily cause man, every woman Ive been with shaves everything. Nothing wrong with natural tits or legs or whatever but nah man, big turnoff when the brod aint groomed.... (read in full...)
He's twice my age, has children and has asked me out. I've accepted but where do I go from here?
Q. Oh my gosh. So today at work I was talking to the man who is twice my age and who I am interested in and he has admitted to being attracted to me as well...., and he asked me on a date!! (Reminder: he has been married for 18 years and currentl...
A. 9 February 2012: This sounds like a disaster waiting to happen. One, he's in the middle of a divorce so his emotions may or not be in check. Two, older men can be creeps. He may or may not be but involving alcohol on the first date (let alone any date) is setting ... (read in full...)
Why do people assume I lack self esteem?
Q. I have been told by many people that I lack confidence or self esteem over the years but I don't even see that in myself. I like who I am, I think I'm a funny, smart person, and am a great catch as a partner. I've appreciated my journey and I ap...
A. 6 February 2012: Hey doll. Nonverbal communication is big amongst women and a key to an impression. As a bigger guy im well aware of this. Your mindset sounds great. Work on developing confident body language including facial expressions and tone of voice. That ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has no hygiene and no self esteem! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. One of the problems I have with our relationship is that over the past couple of years he has turned into an epic slob. He doesn't just leave a disaster wherever he goes-- He does not brush his ...
A. 6 February 2012: Youre absolutely going down a one way street here. Relationships are two ways. Your BF is taking both his mental and physical health for granted. Two things he should be thankful for make that three... his GF as well. His denial of wanting to talk ... (read in full...)
No double standard - I just want one off sex
Q. I'd like advice about meeting with a guy I met online. To lead up to this question, I must explain I've only been in long lasting relationships since I was 15. I've never really been single. My ex cheated on me last month and I'm still upset, but my ...
A. 3 February 2012: Meet him in person first to get a genuine feel for him. Meet for coffee or drinks. Anyone can b anyone online so its a risk and even riskier for attractive women since there are some men who prey on them online. Be careful as im unable to be your ... (read in full...)
My Mexican neighbors have made life hell for us. Do I just suck it up and ignore them as I have been doing, or do I stand up and nag them back?
Q. Hey, this isn't really much of a relationship question but I don't know where to ask this. I really dislike confrontation and it makes me nervous because I start getting so angry I start crying and it's unstoppable. I live in an apartment. I...
A. 2 February 2012: Well let the police know about their antics and why u feel things r hostile. If things escalate youll have a report. You could move as well. Youre doing great with calmness. Maintain it.... (read in full...)
I need motivation, how to lose weight?
Q. What are good weight loss exercises for over weight people? I physically can't do regular push ups so I'm trying to find new things I can do that will still work. I'm currently on weight watchers, but I feel I need more motivation... Any help would ...
A. 2 February 2012: I'll tell you right now... focus on nutrition. That is more than half the battle. 5 meals no day.. strictly. Water and green tea for beverages, absolutely nothing sugared. Think of sugar as a white death. Plain oats, eggs, spinach, balsamic vinegar, ... (read in full...)
I feel ugly, and I need ways to cope!
Q. I'm in such emotional pain right now, because I think am so ugly. Nobody ever tells me I'm pretty, I am just really plain, and today I realized I'm deformed. I tried on several tight dresses, and my hips are just too big... if I fit into a dress ...
A. 1 February 2012: oh man f--- that lol getting likes on fb photos aint a thing doll. You sound like a nice girl definitely and outgoing. Stick with it and dont beat yourself up about your looks. I dated a girl with a 34B and big hips!! For some guys thats sexy. Eat ... (read in full...)
First Valentines, what should I get her?
Q. I'm debating what to get my girlfriend for Valentine's day. Flowers are obvious but... what else? We have only been together for a few months. We both talk about massages and how neither of us has had one. There's a place here in town tha...
A. 1 February 2012: lmao headlamp man thats genius! Flowers are typical, shell expect that. Dont do it.... (read in full...)
My wife had no problem seeing my best friend naked! The casual way she acted around him, suggesting that MY underwear would look good on him, makes me very uncomfortable
Q. I don't think there is a problem, but my wife's behavior toward my best friend seems a little weird and it bothers me. My best friend and I are close. Since I married my wife she has also become 'TXX's friend. We are all very close, and go out toge...
A. 1 February 2012: Yeah man confront your wife. Let her know your thoughts and communicate. Its our job as men to prevent this sort of thing. Maintain a level of privacy in your home esp if you have a close friend. You dont want to risk barriers being broken down.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is angry with me for wanting to go on a diet
Q. ive been thinking about going on celebrity slim diet, my friend went on it and she lost loads of weight, so i asked her about it, and she mentioned it to my boyfriend at work and he went mad at me.. Its nice to know he likes me how i am, but this is ...
A. 1 February 2012: What you do with your body is your choice.. whether its to eat bad food (which is unattractive) or keep it in shape. Its your decision and he should support it, not try to control it. If some brod told me to stop lifting weights cause she didnt ... (read in full...)
I don't find him attractive, but I cant stop thinking about him!
Q. so ive met this guy twice and hes sweet but totally not my type. ive only met him when ive had a drink and he has too. i wouldnt say he's good looking - lets put it that way - but the first time i met him he gave me a kiss goodbye. and then the ...
A. 1 February 2012: Damn. Tough deal here. He seems like a gent who "gets it" when attracting women personality wise. He seems caring, charming, and romantic. All good qualities. Now, looks? Well in my prev experience looks were everything with women which is part of ... (read in full...)
Not as much sex now boyfriend says he wants to keep it special?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for over two years and the sex life has always been really good and frequent, usually once or twice every day. Lately he hasn't wanted it as much though, (like only 3 or four times a week) and he told me it was ...
A. 1 February 2012: lucky bastard ;)... nah he juss wants to enjoy it more with you. Its not getting dull he just doesnt want too much of a good thing... and besides holding off here and there can create some good buildup and maybe even provoke some wee creativity.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have a relationship with a man 22 years younger than me?
Q. I am in my fifties and had a boyfriend of 38 .he just dropped contact 3months ago. We saw each other occasionally.I loved him but he borriwed money and never gave it back. Is it biologically normal to have a relationship with a guy 22years younger ...
A. 1 February 2012: Yeah thats normal. Two mature adults can surely have a relationship, regardless of age difference.... (read in full...)
I think my guy is too caring!
Q. I love my boyfriend very much hes very sweet I mean he will do anything for me and I am probably being stupid but when we talk I will say to him when he goes home I miss him and he always talks about cwtching which I do enjoy but he never really ...
A. 30 January 2012: Im guessing hes embarassed about a lower sex drive. Talk him about it.... (read in full...)
My bisexual girlfriend wanted to have a threesome, but the way she worded it makes me feel bad!
Q. My girlfriend told me she fancied a girl we met, and suggested we hit on her together and potentially have a threesome. I said I wasn't interested at the moment, but the issue has been bothering me a lot since. The girl in question was seriously ...
A. 30 January 2012: Hey man. I once dated a bisexual girl and she was adventurous too and had i not been a pathetic confidence lacking 24 year old virgin things could have gone better sexually. What i learned? If u have feelings for her the threesome will be full of ... (read in full...)
He seemed interested and then did a complete 360! What happened here?
Q. I went to our employee christmas party,it was employees only so we were all sorta hanging and mingling with each other,well after a few drinks I was feeling rather comfortable with a coworker guy friend of mine. he and I actually flirted with each ...
A. 30 January 2012: He is more than likely interested in another woman and is being woos and not communicating that to you. If you want to seek genuine interest from someone ill advise to not involve alcohol. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is beginning to think I am not attracted to him, anymore! What can I do?
Q. My boyfriend has a high sex drive and i dont, which makes it hard to want sex as often as he does. Im an very emotionally and physically attracted to him, but somedays i just dont feel like having sex, as to him he wants to have sex at least once ...
A. 30 January 2012: Reassure him youre attracted to him but do not have as high a sex drive as him. Compromise perhaps with oral? Or dates or some other activity together. ... (read in full...)
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