No strings attached, how to stop being so casual?
Q. Have you ever seen the movie 'no strings attached?' Well, Natalie Portmans character is me! I'm afraid of commitment and 26 years old. I am pressured by my wonderful, caring but extremely traditional south Asian parents to get married. This makes me ...
A. 23 December 2012: Youre with these men to fill some emotional void but once u realize that void is filled only temporarily u run away from it fearing it could last longer. Id say u need to do some serious reflection on ur past relationships so u can move on. ... (read in full...)
The affair was supposed to be just about sex!! He says it's getting too serious.
Q. This is probably a very old problem but I am married having a relationship with a married man off and on for the past 4 months. The relationship was under the understanding of just sex. I have been able to keep my marriage separate from anything ...
A. 23 December 2012: Wow really? Yes stay away. The guy has a conscience n im sure the only reason he comes back is for sexual pleasure.... (read in full...)
Does it sound like this girl could be interested in me?
Q. I'm an 18 yr old high school senior male in high school. I saw this mexican girl looking at me one time when we were in passing periods and I looked back at her and didn't look away until she did, but then she had like an irritated/dirty look on her ...
A. 22 December 2012: Okay excellent when u make eye contact with women n hold til they look away this tells them u r dominant n masculine. Its a turn on. Approach her n talk n maintain that eye contact n key in in body language too dont fidget be nervous face her n ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he is 50% happy with me but I don't satisfy him sexually like his ex did. Should I have a threesome with them to make him happy?
Q. I purposed an idea to my boyfriend a couple of days ago. The idea having a threesome with him and his ex. Sounds bizarre, good thing I slept on it and really thought about how it will impact the relationship and everyone involved lives. Question ...
A. 19 December 2012: This guy is all talk and rubbish talk. A threesome is a horrible idea. The whole time you will be competing with her and comparing. It will stir emotions greater. How do you trust a guy after what he did with her? Wise up and wake up.... (read in full...)
How do I get a date or a girlfriend without coming off as being desperate?
Q. So I'm not first to have this issue and I'm sure I won't be the last. I'm 29, and I've had only one real relationship. That was back when I was 21 and it lasted 3 months. Since then I have "dated" two women. By dated I mean that nothing ever was ...
A. 18 December 2012: Read man n read more. Theres a psychological formula to attracting women. Know it. Apply it. Read david de angelo and neil strausse bokos on dating and attracting women. Practice eye contact with your lady friends and showing confident body lang... (read in full...)
What's your opinion about "Nice Guys Finish Last?"
Q. Hey there dearcupid girls. Hope your having a great time right now and being prepared for the holidays. Anyway, I just have one question. Why is it that like I'm treating girls so nice that they won't be my girlfriend or like me more then just ...
A. 17 December 2012: Listen to red up there. Excellent advice.... (read in full...)
Why do men prefer light skinned girls?
Q. Most people say I'm really pretty and I have no trouble getting the Guy I want. But I'm Spanish and Mexican American, though my skin color is brown but not dark brown. I always hear guys mention they prefer light skinned girls. Is there anything ...
A. 13 December 2012: F@@@ that. I love all colors of women even when men make fun of me for doing so. Thats shallow disrespectful n arguably discriminatory. Hang with diff ppl.... (read in full...)
FWB: I've been in one before. But why is my new FWB guy so into cuddling afterwards?
Q. Dear Cupid, So lately i've been in a friends with benefits sort of situation. I know this sounds really weird but I met this guy online and we had talked about getting together for a couple months now... well we finally we made time and we have...
A. 13 December 2012: Hes wanting more than just friends.... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's mind when he watches porn?
Q. Can some actually explain to us women what happens when watching porn? Does it make the man feel like he is having sex with the woman on the screen? Apparently I am told they are not watching it to pretend they are the man in the video. I am ...
A. 13 December 2012: Porn for the win. Its about creating fantasy cause its exciting.... (read in full...)
Is attraction usually mutual (meaning it is unspoken between 2 people) or am I looking too hard for signs?
Q. I am so emotionally confused right now. I am married to a man I love, but I am mentally attracted to someone else. I am not sure what to make of this man's actions. I was once taking a long walk and he was driving in the neighbourhood. His car slow...
A. 13 December 2012: Attraction isnt a choice.... (read in full...)
Out of control PMS, I've tried EVERYTHING, please help me!
Q. I'm at my wits end here and really need some advice. I am a 25 year old woman. I'm generally a happy person who enjoys life. But the week (sometimes 2 weeks) before my period I feel as though I go absolutely INSANE! I'm extremely angry, depr...
A. 13 December 2012: Have u tried a counselor?... (read in full...)
I caught my wife exchanging explicit pictures on her cell phone, is divorce imminent?
Q. I caught my wife exchanging explicit pictures on her cell phone she says she has no attraction to this man it was purely an emotional connection I don't know if I will ever be able to trust her again children are involved is divorce imminent?...
A. 12 December 2012: Thats bs about emotions shes also sexually attracted. Shes wanting to end it but wont take initiative directly instead she sneaks. End this seems like shes done anyway.... (read in full...)
My B/f cant keep his erection on during sex!
Q. Hey guys soo my boyfriend and I started having sex a 4 or 5 months ago. We've been consistent , maybe having sex like every other week on average... More or less. The thing is his boner sometimes just randomly go down randomly during sex, and we ...
A. 6 December 2012: Performance anxiety looks stress have all been issues ive faced. My root cause was looks so ive worked on that. He has something on his mind. Ask him. Its prob embarassing so pry it out of him.... (read in full...)
Great girlfriend but emotionally demanding and has temper, what to do?
Q. Hi, I just need a bit of advice about my girlfriend whom I have been dating for 9 months. She's a great girl and we have very strong physical attraction to each other. We got sexual very early on in the relationship and still enjoying an active sex ...
A. 29 November 2012: This woman is miserable bc u fail to stay calm n wear the pants. Bust her balls when she gets upset n complains vs losing it. She will see who is boss and know her place. Granted u should help her as much as u can when shes ill she shouldnt hold ... (read in full...)
What is going on with this guy, and why am I wasting time on him when there are other guys who put out more effort?
Q. Back in June this guy I knew vaguely from high school started talking to me. We ended up going out now and then over the summer and eventually hooked up. Everyone warned me he was kind of weird, that he wasn't the type to want to have a girlfriend ...
A. 29 November 2012: Yea hes not making u a priority and women love being number one in a mans life so u chase bc that attracts u. In addition he demonstrates self confidence by showing u he isnt needy n doesnt need to see u to be happy hence boys time. This also shows ... (read in full...)
I've been having passionate dreams about a man I know from school.
Q. Hi all, for the past month or so I have been having dreams about this man I see at school. It has been 6 months since we met, and I do not know a whole lot about him. Sometimes we make small talk in between classes, but that's it. I have noticed ...
A. 29 November 2012: Go after this guy. Talk to him more. Ask him out.... (read in full...)
All the girls go for my good looking friend instead of me!
Q. A friend of mine is the total opposite of me. He is 6'2 with blond hair and has stunning looks and he works out. I'm 5'8, work out and play sports, but don't look stunning like he does. I've been told I am handsome by older family and that is it. ...
A. 15 November 2012: Women at any age go for looks first man.. but real women will see the personality is important as well. If I were you.. adapt... learn what he does to attract women with his personality. He's a jerk? wrong. Hes not nice.. he prob teases, creates ... (read in full...)
My first experiences with sex were horrible, and now I'm having intimacy issues.
Q. My first relationship seems to have scarred me in a lot of ways. At first I thought I was just weird but now that I am in another relationship I am scared by how much it is effecting mine and my boyfriend's life. Our sex life is so boring. With ...
A. 9 November 2012: I think u need reassurance from ur bf that he has good intention. You need hugs kisses n passionate intimacy so u feel safe n secure. Id talk to a counselor if needed as this is serious it seems. Sex at a young age proves difficult for some since ... (read in full...)
Why wouldnt he want me to "finish the job"?
Q. My boyfriend and I are both close to being 18 and have been dating for 1 year in a few days. I have given him multiple hand and blow jobs and will never let me finish. I completey love him and nothing would ever change that so im confused why he ...
A. 9 November 2012: Thats probably a respect thing. He may find finishing would demean u in some way. If i were i u id whisper something dirty in his mouth about finishing n if he objects talk about it. Take some initiative but if he doesnt like it talk to him.... (read in full...)
How can I try giving b/f a rim job?
Q. How do I know if my boyfriend wants a rim job and how do I do it? We have a great intercourse relationship we always change things up, but sometimes when I give him blowjobs I get The feeling that he wants me to lick his ass he has done it to me...
A. 9 November 2012: One up to the prostate massage idea.. :)
Doubt he wants ur tongue there he would ask.... (read in full...)
Will my boyfriend break up with me because of my religion?
Q. I'm really worried that my boyfriend will break up with me when he finds out my religion! He's Christian, I'm muslim. There are alot of stereotypes about Muslims that we're all terrorists and I fear he might think I'm like everybody else! Please h...
A. 9 November 2012: Dont assume he thinks negatively of u. In the long term religion views matter for compatibility as thats been my experience so breaking up is not a bad thing to do logically.... (read in full...)
I know he is married and I should leave him alone but I can't
Q. In love with a married man.I know he is married but he doesn't always wear his wedding ring. He hasn't worn it in months. He has stared at me often, called me baby and made it obvious that he is attracted to me. The last day of work before break he ...
A. 8 November 2012: Yea leave him be til he divorces and he says he is ready for a new relationship. Sounds like ur hormones are more at work here than logic. Get that together. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend not give foreplay but looks at porn?
Q. I stopped having sex with my boyfriend because he is selfish when it comes to giving. Now I seen on his phone under history that he has been looking at live webcams. Why is this happening? I can't get him to go down on me for long or even have him ...
A. 8 November 2012: person12345 hit the nail on the head. definitely a selfish guy... and there are men out there who love oral and foreplay.. trust me ;)... (read in full...)
What the hell is wrong with my rich celebrity brother? Have the drugs affected him so badly that he has lost his ability to be rational?
Q. Its ridiculous the way my brother lies. He has become a complete lying machine. He is extremely rich, handsome and a celebrity. His marriage with his wife is utterly awful. Since they dated, he cheated on her openly. He did drugs and weed and his ...
A. 7 November 2012: Hes got some self confidence issues. He cheats because hes not psychologically fulfilled in some way. He does need some professional help.so he can properly mature. Not a good scenario. Encourage him to get help thats about all u can do or talk to ... (read in full...)
What the hell is wrong with my rich celebrity brother? Have the drugs affected him so badly that he has lost his ability to be rational?
Q. Its ridiculous the way my brother lies. He has become a complete lying machine. He is extremely rich, handsome and a celebrity. His marriage with his wife is utterly awful. Since they dated, he cheated on her openly. He did drugs and weed and his ...
A. 7 November 2012: Hes got some self confidence issues. He cheats because hes not psychologically fulfilled in some way. He does need some professional help.so he can properly mature. Not a good scenario. Encourage him to get help thats about all u can do or talk to ... (read in full...)
Girls seem to like me as a friend. So why can't I convert any of my friends into a Genuine Girl friend?
Q. I’ll be turning 27 soon and have never had any sort of romantic relationship with a woman. I just can’t seem to figure this out. From what I hear from friends and family I should have no problem attracting women. I’m told that I’m an attractiv...
A. 2 November 2012: I wont sit here n blow sunshine up ur butt pal. You need to learn how to attract women. Thats it.. in a nutshell. Theres a formula to it. Read books on women psychology n start with david de angelos attraction isnt a choice. You're not a bad guy ... (read in full...)
Vitamin supplements that could help improve my memory?
Q. Hey everyone, Just a heads up its not a relationship question,but they are so many wise people out here,so I thought I would reach out to you guys.. So I have a very very important and life changing exam in december,and I'm putting in a lot of work...
A. 30 October 2012: omega 3. 2 grams a day.... (read in full...)
Random girls? no problem. So why do I have semi-ED with girls I really like ?
Q. Hello everyone, i have this lil problem thats driving me crazy :( here is the situation, its about premature ejaculation but the thing is , it never happens to me with random girls that i randomly pick up at clubs and bars. i can last as long as ...
A. 30 October 2012: Could be a few issues man... perhaps youre more conscious about ur body with women that matter than women who dont? so this causes you to not perform well. Maybe booze gets you going and you dont have it in you when youre not with random women? id ... (read in full...)
Why is it that he only really talks to me when he's horny?
Q. Hey guys so my boyfriend and I and I have been going out for a little over 2 months. Something that I noticed in our relationship is that he only really talks to me when he's horny. I try to make conversation with him but he always runs that...
A. 30 October 2012: im pretty sure hes just using u for his own pleasure. shame on him.... (read in full...)
Am I bad for faking orgasms with my boyfriend?
Q. I am a 26(F) with my boyfriend 25(M). We haven't been dating a super long time, but we fell in love and got very close very fast. He is wonderful, and I love the shit out of him and would do most anything for him. I can totally picture myself being ...
A. 30 October 2012: naughty naughty. tell him. he needs to know bc he wants to satisfy you sexually and with u holding info from him you will suffer from that forever cause there is no communication. be honest. he will be upset im sure. his confidence may take a hit ... (read in full...)
Guys please: Considering that I'm a 20 year old virgin, the question is, am I doing something wrong?
Q. I am 20 years old and still a virgin. I should also start by pointing out that I'm not fat or ugly, in fact I'm blonde with big boobs (both of which are real), a small waist and really good skin (I swear I'm not super up myself). I've dated (bu...
A. 30 October 2012: Hiya doll. No definitely not a turn off. In fact, I think it speaks good of your character if you have morals like that. The reason why prudish men go after you is bc they sense you are shy, inexperienced with men, and inexperienced with mens pe... (read in full...)
Am I drinking to the point where my caffeine intake is too high? I've switched to black tea now. is that better for my health?
Q. I used to buy coffee from [biggest coffee chain in America] every day. I got hooked on the caffeine. The expenses were adding up so I switched to black tea by the same company which was cheaper. Now I buy black tea in bulk from supermarkets (10...
A. 28 October 2012: Caffeine is a stimulant and I use it solely for exercise and encourage the same. Take it in pill form it is way cheaper than coffee and will cut back expenses. Black tea has many benefits however I would say ur addiction could lead to other ... (read in full...)
Hubby won't get healthy for his own sake!
Q. My husband used to be in very great shape (he was in the military.) But for the past several years, he's pretty much doubled his size (he's now 350 lbs.) He was working full-time until a couple of months ago, but now all he does is sleep all day - ...
A. 27 October 2012: Ill recommend a supplement called c4, its a preworkout and its insane. gets the motivation up and gives u clean energy and on track to a solid workout program and its extremely cheap. research it. try it. he doesnt wanna work out cause his diet ... (read in full...)
What kind of a move do you meake when you know a girl is checking you out?
Q. Hi There, I need some advise on what to do if a girl is checking you out and you are checking her out. It seems girls don't make the first move but guys should. I went into a shop earlier and the girl behind the till was very attractive and...
A. 27 October 2012: Dont listen to sage old guy.
In fact do not reference how attractive she is. she knows she is and guys tell her constantly. If that were me.. id turn around look her dead in the eye and say yea but i look better than you.. and wink. This stat... (read in full...)
I love her and can't get over her but she only thinks of me as a friend
Q. Please help me.Hai,i am loving my girl for last one year.we used to be good friends.always chats in mobile.i felt good with her.i have been in hostel for last two years.when i go to home,i see her and talks.she is near my house.all her's family know ...
A. 27 October 2012: Youve failed to attract this woman. Learn a womans psychology. Its too late to create attraction as she has already made her decision. You'll have to move on.... (read in full...)
My wife has been keeping secrets from me. What did she do in Vegas?
Q. My wife and I were in Venice sitting on a hotel balcony overlooking the Grand Canal. We were joined by 2 girls in their mid 20s and a boy about the same age. Conversation let to what our favorite city was. When my wife's turn came she stated h...
A. 26 October 2012: Wow. Yea man Ive been to Vegas and doesnt matter what age... its temptation there. Talk to her dont assume anything and dont accuse. My gut says she cheated and if she lies about it she will prob do it again anyway and thats when u catch her. good ... (read in full...)
She has a Major Crush on my boyfriend. We are both fed up with her. How do we get her to leave us alone for good
Q. My boyfriend works with a girl who loves my boyfriend. When her boyfriend broke up with her she was crying and my boyfriend listened to her and helped her. Everything was fine at that moment. But since then she has developed a major crush on my ...
A. 21 October 2012: Just say leave me alone im with someone and if she continues to harass gave her reported.... (read in full...)
Is giving a blow job to another guy cheating? My Bf is getting all worked up about what I did.
Q. This is just a quick one so you guys can help see my bf that he is over reacting. We've been going out for just over 1 year and we are very much in love. at the start of the relationship we did everything that we could possibly do both socially an...
A. 21 October 2012: Thats cheating. Hands down.... (read in full...)
Can anyone give advice about a sexy surprise for my boyfriend?
Q. I want to suprise my fiance with a sexy night. I no the obvious ideas are candles in the bedroom ect but we dont live together at the moment so i cant do anything like that. Tomorrow night were going for a meal and to the cinema then back to his and ...
A. 21 October 2012: Sexy heels n a shot glass. Figure out the rest ;)... (read in full...)
My Gf's extreme sex drive is out of control. She wants excitement. Does she need therapy? Or is there any way I can help her without breaking up - the latter would make her more vulnerable, I think
Q. Hey guys, I've resorted to reading the site here cause I've had trouble "Google-ing" my situation with any real results. So before I post the question a disclaimer here is; I don't want anyone to comment on how I shouldn't be bothered by my G's h...
A. 21 October 2012: Shes a pure sex addict man n she doesnt know how to channel her needs into just one guy as she doesnt seem to be used to it. ... (read in full...)
She ended our FWB situation because she was unsatisfied with the sex, but all the time she told me how great I was! How do I deal with this?
Q. Im shattered over here. A woman i met for intimacy is seeing another guy and is done with me because i had mental issues regarding vaginal sex. In the four times i met up with her over several months at the end of each meeting i asked if she was ...
A. 16 October 2012: Thanks for the feedback. My lipo procedure has been well thought out. My confidence will come from the outside so i can aid the inside. Counseling hasnt helped with the issues. Im lookin into hypnosis tho.... (read in full...)
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