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writes:dear readers,i would like some female help or a male opinion on this one.if my boyfriend doesnt like to talk on the phone very much should i just wait for him to call me?he loves me and i know that, but i just love talking to him on the phone and he prefers to either c me in person which is hard cus he lives ages away from me or just talk for a little bit. he always seems to have better things to do? what should i do? should i give him some space? confused. Reply to this Question
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (29 January 2011):
 Oh, I see well personally I still prefer to stay off the phone but if I really want to talk to the person then I will. How often do you call him? It might help to not talk as much on the phone for now and then he should build up the urge to talk to you. If not then he might not be the right one for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear Realist,My boyfriend and I are in a situation where he cannot use skype. I would like to use it, but he is in college and is not allowed to. From a guys point of view, Do most guys not like to talk for very long on the phone?
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reader, The Realist +, writes (29 January 2011):
I think you should save all the important things that you want to tell him till you can see him in person and try to stay off the phone as much (but not totally). I don't really like to talk on the phone much either, I find it to be awkward.
I know it can be tough but maybe you could use something like skype so that you can actually see each other. That might help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDear anonymouos female reader,There isn't normally awkward silences in our phone calls, but sometimes we don't know what to talk about. Even though we should probably get off the phone when we get to that point, I still want to talk even when I think the conversation has run its course. He lives about 400km away from me, so I don't get to see him when we want to, and talking on the phone is our only means of communication, so it upsets me when all he wants to do is hang out with his mates. The thing is, I know he loves me and I love me, so it shouldnt be a major problem, but it upsets me and I get angry when I probably shouldnt. I'm not sure what stance I should take in this situation? Any answers welcome.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): Some people just don't like talking on the phone. Personally, I HATE it, and I'm a girl, so I break that stereotype lol. I would much rather see the person in real life or text them. It's personal preference. Maybe he's just uncomfortable talking on the phone or doesn't know what to say. Are there a lot of awkward pauses when you guys converse? Talking on the phone can put pressure on some people and sometimes they won't know what to talk about. Or are you mainly the one who is talking when you have your conversations? If you are constantly talking to avoid those awkward pauses then maybe he feels like he can't get a word in edgewise so he would rather just see you in person. I don't think you need to give him space because you say that he likes to see you in person rather than talk on the phone. If it's really bothering you, then just ask him why, but I don't think it should be too big of a concern in your relationship.
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