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reader, The Realist  +, writes (29 January 2011):
 You're right, I wouldn't say that you are in love with him but I know you love him in the sense that you still care about him even though you two can't be together and you are not attracted him.
Now you say that you didn't love him at the beginning of the relationship which is fine, it happens but now you need to learn that if you don't have feelings for the person then there is no point dating them. One should never try to learn to love later.
Either way it's over now and you can learn from this and move on to someone who you want to be with.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (29 January 2011):
 maybe your life feels a bit empty without him. arrange nice things with your other friends that you can look forward to doing. its not nice to lose people from your life and that's the same whether its a friend or boyfriend. its natural to be upset
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reader, island_babe  +, writes (29 January 2011):
island_babe is verified as being by the original poster of the question I don't love him. How can I love somebody if I didn't have feelings for him in the begining of our relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): You love him that's why.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): hey look don't think that thing ante going well . you really cant love someone that you don't have feeling for . don't let life get in the way you will find someone new in life have a new start and a new life forget about the old one and have a new life you very can't help not loving him or have feeling for him sorry i can't help any-more i wish i could good lucky xx
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reader, jameswantsafriend  +, writes (29 January 2011):
I have some similar kind of experience after ten years of relation i i finally broke up it was worth it if some one can not understand u then how can she love u but i still have feelings for her i do not feel good but i know if i get some one better than her i can forget all about that which i spent half of my life which was of no use. i hope this experiance of me will give u some help. god bless
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reader, The Realist +, writes (29 January 2011):
I think that it is caused just by being alone for the moment. Just knowing that he isn't there could create these feeling whether you still wanted to be him or not. The important thing is that the feelings will pass and that you know that your world isn't actually crashing down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2011): Breaking up hurts even for the person doing the breaking up. It is natural for u to feel the way you do. You are still going through the break up motions, the loss, the seperation, no longer breaking contact with that person who was so important to you, the learning to be alone again. All that.
I broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago. And even though I feel like I am better off I am still very hurt. I miss him.
Day by day. Little by little you will feel better. Just hang in there and be strong.
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reader, PatientlyWaiting1 +, writes (29 January 2011):
Because it is a change in your life. He may have immeadiately began to treat you differently after the breakup. You were use to him being there. But, do not go back to him because once you do, the old feelings will come back of you not liking him because you really don't.
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (29 January 2011):
If you don't know the answer I don't reckon you will find it here. May be you do have feelings for him, or may be you were just used to him.
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