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writes:hi..ive got a man who is married with kids.. but i love him so much. im much jealous everytime he is with his family.. i feel he doesnt love me anymore.. dearcupid i really love this guy. what should i do... this situation is really hurting me.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Hi
What a nightmare!
I dont really think there is anything anyone can say. Its not gonna get any easier thats for sure.
Of course you will feel jealous of his family, so why sell yourself that short?
Surely its more favourable to have someone thats devoted to you and you alone?
Where is this heading thats the question. It doesnt sound promising for you or his wife and kids and obviously they are the innocent ones in this?
He may well love you, but its highly unlikely you will come out of this with the prize.
Hope it works out, but you know the only answer really.
Good luck.
C xxxx
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Of course it's hurting you now, but count on the pain to only get worse. You are wasting your life. Tell the user to take a hike. You have no future in this relationship. End it, learn from it, and vow to never again get involved with a married man.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Get out now. If you feel he doesn't love you, it's pretty certain he doesn't, but is only using you to re-charge his male ego, or re-capture his youth. Put yourself in the shoes of the other woman (his wife). How would you feel? you've given birth to his children, and he's sneaking around behind your back seeing another woman. Not a pretty picture, huh? If you can't go cold turkey, then ease out of this relationship gradually. Stop being so available for him. Find other things to do, go out with your girlfriends, start dating other men. Whatever it takes to extract yourself from this relationship because it doesn't sound like it's going anywhere and you are just being used. And if you really want to know where you stand, give him an ultimatum, either he divorces his wife now (not 10 yrs. later, not after the kids are grown) otherwise he cannot see you anymore. Watch how quickly he runs back home to his wife. I'm sorry, but it's a sticky situation and rarely does it ever work out well. Good luck.
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reader, CLHLCRS +, writes (11 October 2007):
forget him. if he leaves his family then maybe something could happen but don't be responsible for forcing him to leave and breaking up the family. chances are he will never leave anyway, why would he opt for having one woman when he can have 2?
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reader, rockelle +, writes (11 October 2007):
 Miss, the siuation is not hurting you. You are hurting you. You shouldn't have ever gotten involved with a man with a wife and children. You are jealous when he is with his family, Are you crazy? That is where he belongs. Save yourself a ton of headaches and leave this man alone. Not only because it is hurting you, but because it is the right thing to do. If you stay in this situation the hurt will be even greater for you and the innocent people involved also...His wife and children.
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