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writes:i started seeing this guy two years ago and moved in with each a week after we met, the first 8 months were great, then we split as he met somebody else, we then got back together about a year ago, but my mind was in overtime constantly thinking he is still lieing somewhere along the lines, i plucked up the courage and got in toach with this other girl who advised me that she knows he is with me but she has still been seeing him for a year and a half, i confrunted my partner who broke down in tears, he no longer see's this girl and wants to spend his life with me, i really do love and care for him but im building hate inside me everyday for him and still believe there is more lies to still come from the past that i cant face what should i do he is my first seroius BF and my first love and i really do love him but i just dont know what to do please help me.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (3 October 2007):
 Calling the other woman was a bad idea. You never know if what she says is the truth, or just a lie to break you up. Did he admit to what she told you? Has he still been seeing her? If he admitted that he is still seeing her, you'd probably be wise to just end the relationship, as he obviously still has feelings for her and can't decide whom he wants to be with. BUT if he denied it, then believe him. If you're still worried, look for signs. Where does he spend all his time? With you? When would he have time to see her? At work? At lunch? You have to think logically and not jump to conclusions out of anger or jealousy. You are upset because he found someone else during your break up. As long as he didn't continue to see her after you guys got back together, she is history. You have to let it go and stop being suspicious until you have proof. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2007): I went through the same thing, and to be honest. As long as this girl makes hereself available for him, he is going to deal with her. Men have this thing called an ego, and what she is doing right now is feeding it. The girl is a real problem for you both, and you better believe if you break up with him she is going to be right there to take your place as this is her plan.... Be wise... and follow your instinct.. Good Luck... You are going to need it.
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