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... Send *erinity a private message | | | *erinity's profile:I am a 32 year old female and I live in Virginia. I grew up as a military brat and I was in the Navy for 3 years, so I never really grew up in one particular area. I am open, honest and quite versitile because of my background. I have been through MANY different situations, both good and bad. I never really had anyone to talk to or to give me advice through all of the situations I've been through. So I've had to learn a lot on my own and I've learned a lot. I enjoy offering advise based on things I've learned along the way and particularly situations that I can relate to. I'm a people pleaser so I love helping people in any way that I'm able to. I especially enjoy helping teens because I know that if I had someone to explain things to me and offer me advise when I was a teen then I would have made it though a lot of situations without enduring as much pain and sorrow as I did. But they made me strong and I don't regret that part of it. If I can save one life, then I've done well. If I can help save more, then I can rest in peace when it's my time to go. God bless everyone! |
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I was going to meet my online date but he revoked the meeting. No sign of him since, do I move on?
Q. I have been online dating on and off for a few years and just haven't found that special chemistry. I emailed a guy from a dating site back in August and he finally replied just this month telling me his job kept him busy for that time of the year. ...
A. 18 March 2008: Good! I am so happy for you. Glad I could help!... (read in full...)
I was going to meet my online date but he revoked the meeting. No sign of him since, do I move on?
Q. I have been online dating on and off for a few years and just haven't found that special chemistry. I emailed a guy from a dating site back in August and he finally replied just this month telling me his job kept him busy for that time of the year. ...
A. 13 March 2008: Wonderful, congratulations!!! I think I recommended not giving up too soon. You go girl!... (read in full...)
Why can't I move on?
Q. My ex partner and I were together for 7 years then split up a year ago. He got a girlfriend straight away, almost too quick if you get my drift. He cheated on me twice in the relationship. I am still in love with him and he keeps phoning and texting ...
A. 6 February 2008: Look sweetie, I know it's hard to let go of someone you love, but look at it this way.... He cheated on you twice, he got into another relationship immediately after yours ended and he's phoning you and texting you and telling you that he still ... (read in full...)
What can I do to find out if a child is mine when the mother is unresponsive?
Q. What right's do i have regarding my ex girlfriend's child whom i'm sure i'm the father to. Honestly she wasn't my girlfriend, we'd both come out of seroius relationships and just wanted a bit of fun so it ended when she became all serious and talked ...
A. 6 February 2008: I think it's great that you want to assume responsibility for the child if it is in fact yours. Bravo!!! Have you checked with your local child services department? I would explain your situation and ask them what steps you should take to find ... (read in full...)
Is she just being friendly or could she want something more?
Q. Ok so i've known this girl for about a year now, an i went out with her sister for a little while but it was never serious an jus didn work but we're still best mates! So anyway we've always got on really well, an always talk on bebo/fac...
A. 6 February 2008: It sounds like she is definitely interested in being more that just friends. At any rate, I would still take it slow. Let things continue to grow between you two naturally, as they are. Some of the best relationships are built on friendship. ... (read in full...)
Did I say something wrong?
Q. advice needed please!!!! im not to familar with the dating scene as i have recently come out of a long term abusive relationship so i am not to familiar with how to date. theres a guy that when i drive past him (not very often) always looks at me, ...
A. 6 February 2008: You could have thrown him off when you invited him to stay in and have drinks verses going out to have drinks. Did you tell him that you smoke and that's why you didn't want to go to a Pub? Maybe he prefers to date women who don't smoke. Or maybe ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting?
Q. My fiancee lives 4 hrs away and has not talked to me or chatted with me for over a week. I haven't seen him for a month. He didn't even call me on the weekend or during weeknights. Usually we chat online, but his sister is in town for the next 2 ...
A. 6 February 2008: If you have any doubts what-so-ever I would definitely postpone the wedding until you've resolved your issues. If you feel neglected now what do you think is going to happen when you get married and he's in his "comfort zone"? You don't think he's ... (read in full...)
Do I say something to her about her fling or simply let it go?
Q. hey people just wanted to know what to do...i've been with my gf for about a year now we do hava good relationship..but there's a few things that bother me and im worried it may effect our relationship..we gave our vrginity to each other.. I ke...
A. 6 February 2008: I would just let it go. Everyone has a past and she's already told you about the encounter. Does it really matter who it was? Maybe she's embarrassed about it. If you guys have a good relationship I wouldn't ruin it by causing trust issues due ... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me because I look like his sister?
Q. Hey, so.. i found out this guy called (A) fancies me a while back and i was a bit suprised but it never really bothered me and i still get people coming up to me today saying i think (A) has a thing for you. I don't really find him attractive so ...
A. 6 February 2008: Too vague to tell. But if you're not interested in dating him, why bother wondering about it?... (read in full...)
How do I know if its right or wrong?
Q. How do I know a relationship is right or wrong? I've been with the same girl for 10 years, never felt the urge to cheat or stray, and still don't. However, I would be lying if I said things have been smooth. Sometimes things are rough, in th...
A. 5 February 2008: Measure with your heart.
Weigh out the pro's and con's here. You've been together for 10 years and other than the occasional argument caused from friction, things seem to be good. That's great! Every healthy relationship is going to have ups... (read in full...)
A guy asked me out, but I don't want to date him. How can I reject him without upseting him?
Q. this guy has asked me out. i told him that i would think about it, but i dont want to go out with him. i just want to be friends, thats it. but i feel if i dont say yes hes going to be upset and cry i cant handle that from him. i like him as a ...
A. 5 February 2008: I used to be the same way. I didn't ever want to reject anyone or hurt their feelings so I always gave in when I really didn't want to. I found myself in more predicimates because of it. If I went out with them when I didn't want to then not only ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend, but I am attracted to someone else. Do I move on?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 3.5 years, but it has been rocky for the last year. He is constantly too busy to spend time with me, and when we get together he is usually too tired to do anything. I get so frustrated and lonely, and question ...
A. 5 February 2008: I don't see what the problem would be with considering a relationship with this other guy once you've ended your current relationship. What would be wrong is if you persue an emotional/physical relationship with him before you end things with your ... (read in full...)
Redhair and pale skin, Why do we get picked on?
Q. Me and brother (twin) both get picked on because of our red hair and pale skin. It's been like this for a couple years. But no matter what we do, people still ask us dumb questions about why we are so pale all the time. Why is that?...
A. 5 February 2008: Because they are immature. This is a tough age for you, kids your age don't realize that there is nothing wrong with being a little different. My niece has curly light auburn hair, green eyes, and fair skin and she's absolutely beautiful but some ... (read in full...)
I am developed for my age, I get teased, how should I react?
Q. umm.. Might need help from agony moms. Well I'm still 12 but my breast are huge and everyone's teasing me about them, and I can't take it anymore what should I do?...
A. 5 February 2008: Just be thankful that you have them love. Don't listen to what other people say. The girls are probably just jealous and the boys just don't understand. I'm sorry that they are being rude by picking at you, that's the hardest part to deal with. ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to fake an orgasim?
Q. is it bad to fake an orgasim... even if doesnt know you are?...
A. 4 February 2008: I really think it depends on the situation here. I myself have faked orgasisms on occasions. Once was simply to try and speed up the encounter with a guy who ended up being really lousy in bed. He said he wouldn't stop until he knew I was ... (read in full...)
If people only find love when their NOT LOOKING how does anyone ever find love?
Q. Dear cupids. I just have to say I love this site its awesome. Just a love question (sigh is there any other kind. My question is that "if people only find love when their NOT LOOKING how does anyone ever find love????? surly one of the two people h...
A. 4 February 2008: Different people find love in all different kinds of ways. Some find it when they're not looking, some find it when they are looking, sometimes love just drops into their laps. It varies so much from person to person, relationship to relationship, ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my step-daughter!!! What do I do?
Q. ive fallen in love with my stepdaughter and dont know what to do...
A. 4 February 2008: A little more information would be helpful to give you adequate advice. But in a nut shell.........this kind of circumstance it's not viewed as being politically correct. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to get frustrated because of her "system" when it comes to unprotected sex?
Q. I'm sorry for the long post, just bear with me: I have been dating a great girl for about 7 months now, we are both very much in love, and i honestly believe that she is the best thing that has ever happened to me. She comes from a small...
A. 4 February 2008: Her "system" is based on the possibility of getting pregnant but what about STD's? It is still possible to get pregnant with her "system" but chances are more likely of getting HIV or AIDS!!!... (read in full...)
I pampered him all weekend and now I'm being blocked!?!
Q. My boyfriend and I have had troubles so we decided to slow down, I used to live with him but I moved out because we both needed our space. Well on the weekend I went to go visit him, had the time of my life, but I gave him money, bought him ...
A. 4 February 2008: Sounds kind of odd to me. Are you sure he hasn't been seeing both of you? If you can't contact him via phone or e-mail why don't you try going by his house and asking him what's going on in person?... (read in full...)
I love my girfriend, but I'm very shy! How can I get past my shyness?
Q. hello i really love my girlfriend she wants 2 kiss and hug but im too shy does this mean im frigid??? if it does how can i get over it ?? because i realy want 2 its just i cant....
A. 4 February 2008: No sweetheart, it doesn't mean your frigid. It's just that you are young and it's quite normal to be shy at your age. Don't let her pressure you if you're not comfortable with kissing and hugging yet. Let her know that you care about her but ... (read in full...)
I'm 21 and she's 17... Is this okay?
Q. hi ppl i think im in love with a 17 yr old and im 21. do you reckon that its an ok thing or is it too much of a gap for anything to work. its been built on friendship and we've just got closer and closer. please help thanks...
A. 4 February 2008: When I was 17 I dated a 21yr old and the age differnce was perfect. No offense but it's been said that women tend to mature earlier than men. It would have worked out fine but he couldn't seem to keep his "willie" in his pants. If you two are ... (read in full...)
What are the symptoms of Diabetes?
Q. The other day a friend and I were talking and I said I was always tired and thirsty. She said I might have diabetes because her dad is the same and he has to go ever year for a test to check. Does any body know what the symptoms are?...
A. 4 February 2008: Diabetes Symptoms
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Diabetes often goes undiagnosed because many of its symptoms seem so harmless. Recent studies indicate that the early detection of diabetes symp... (read in full...)
I was going to meet my online date but he revoked the meeting. No sign of him since, do I move on?
Q. I have been online dating on and off for a few years and just haven't found that special chemistry. I emailed a guy from a dating site back in August and he finally replied just this month telling me his job kept him busy for that time of the year. ...
A. 31 January 2008: I would give it a little bit of time before you give up. If he really did lose his job then that could be why he's not available right now. He's probably an emotional wreck with the fear of finding a new job and loss of income and probably feeling ... (read in full...)
I have two men on the go at the moment. Any insight into this?
Q. I have found myself in a situation where I have two men in love with me, both of which are younger than myself. I am petite, successful, educated and attractive, look many years younger than my age (41). I do not feel comfortable with having two ...
A. 31 January 2008: You say you prefer 1 man at a time yet you've been carrying on with two. Now you are at a point where you feel you need to choose only one without devistating the other. That's something you should have considered before you become physically and ... (read in full...)
I have two men on the go at the moment. Any insight into this?
Q. I have found myself in a situation where I have two men in love with me, both of which are younger than myself. I am petite, successful, educated and attractive, look many years younger than my age (41). I do not feel comfortable with having two ...
A. 31 January 2008: Hmmm, sounds like a tough decision. I think you need to try and look at long term here. Which one do you think you'd be most comfortable spending the rest of your life with? I assume they don't know about eachother but who says you need to chose ... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't want sex with me anymore...
Q. I am 23yr old and i have been with my fiance for 4yrs. Over the last year or so he has become less and less interested in sex with me all he wants is handjobs. I understand that this might be something he is into but it just seems its all about him, ...
A. 31 January 2008: Hmmm, I would definitely reconsider marriage at this point. He's already cheated on you and he would rather have hand jobs then make love to you? What kind of future do you think you're in for? Has he ever even bothered to tell you why he prefers ... (read in full...)
Mothers.. When should I stop breastfeeding my child?
Q. At what age should I stop breast feeding my child? I'm about to be a new mom, and some have told me 3 months, others have told me 3 years. I just want some honest opinions from women who have already had children and weaned them. Thanks for any...
A. 30 January 2008: I breast fed both of my children and I think the best time to stop breast feeding is when they start cutting teeth. I personally don't agree with breast feeding after 1 year. Once your child begins eating solid foods there is no need for breast ... (read in full...)
My 3-month old is acting hungry but wont eat Why???
Q. My 3 month old hasnt eaten but maybe 6-10 ounces today. SHe normally eats around 30-40 oz. per day. SHe is crying and acting like she is hungry (rooting) but she just sits there with the bottle in her mouth. Any ideas? ...
A. 30 January 2008: Are her bowel movements regular? She could be constipated or gassy, I would keep an eye on that. Try rubbing her belly gently in small clockwise circles, this helps push the air through her intestines. I would give it a day or two, if she ... (read in full...)
Can you REALLY spoil an Infant????
Q. Everyone i have met says you cannot spoil a baby, and all the magazines say it too. But the only way i can get my 3 monht old daughter to stop crying is to hold her. If i let her cry she falls asleep after an hour or two (i check on her every 5-10 ...
A. 30 January 2008: I've heard the same thing but I still held my babies until they fell asleep and then I'd put them in their beds. When they're that little I don't really thing it has a long term effect on them. I couldn't stand to hear my babies cry, it would knot ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends best friend makes me horny!
Q. hey people.... i really need help... basically,theres this boy iv liked for SOO long,and he knows it,,but now im going out with his best friend,he doesnt know about this,and at school he comes up to me ,,,and touches my but and stuff,,and it ma...
A. 29 January 2008: Wow! First I would suggest breaking up with your boyfriend. It's not O.K. to F__k your boyfriends friends, no matter how much you want to. If you complete step #1 then just him that you don't want to date him either and that you just want to ... (read in full...)
I am shy and reserved, what are my chances for dating?
Q. Hi. I'm a very shy and reserved 29 year old male. I have always found it extremely difficult to relate to members of the opposite gender, despite having been told I'm good looking. I've longed for the day when I'd have the self confidence to a...
A. 29 January 2008: I think there is someone for everyone. There is nothing wrong with being shy and reserved, you just need to find someone with the same qualities so you are compatible. Most shy, reserved women are not going to post an ad in the classifieds or hang ... (read in full...)
How do you find the balance between loving too much, or not enough?
Q. How does one find the balance? I recently heard a theory that if you show women you love them too much, all you do is chase them away. But at the same time, if you don't show then you love them, they will feel unwanted. What the f--k is tha...
A. 29 January 2008: Don't change yourself to accomodate a theory. If you are they type to express your feelings, then do it! If you change the way you were built to opperate, then your not going to attract the women that you are compatible with.
So often times I'... (read in full...)
She won't speak to me now and I am confused and lonely. Advice?
Q. i met a lady in september 07, in two weeks she was wanting to get married, took her mom and daughter dress shopping, told my mom we were getting married , set the date and everything,we spent every day of the next 3 months together,I wanted to slow ...
A. 28 January 2008: Let her go. She's obviously not being honest with you and you want it to work out so much that your willing to believe anything she tells you. Think about it, her "ex" was drunk so she had to take him home? That means they were out together. ... (read in full...)
He says he only got married to me because I was pregnant. How can I deal with this pain?
Q. I am 25 years old and have been married since November 2006 to the man I loved, thinking he loved me. I was about a months pregnant at the time. Throughout the whole of our marriage he has been distant and uncommunicative for the most part. I hav...
A. 28 January 2008: I'm very sorry to hear about your situation. It is heart breaking but........life is not always easy. And that's a big reason why it's so precious. Many of life/s best rewards are possible only because you must work your way through difficult ... (read in full...)
Is he cheating or was he really just joking??
Q. My boyfriend of over two years likes to play jokes a lot. Recently, however, his jokes have included telling me he has been: 1. seeing someone from his gym for a few months and they really like each alot, then saying just kidding. 2. he is ...
A. 28 January 2008: Look at it this way. Even if he is joking about it........why? Especially if he loves you, why on earth why would he joke about something like that to "hurt" you? My first thought is that maybe he's trying to tell you in a jokingly manner to see ... (read in full...)
I found messages between my husband and his ex on the internet,he went out with her, I can't get over the hurt
Q. I need advise on somthing that is tearing me apart. I have been happily married for 8 years and my husband and i have a great life together. I will get to the point, he has been using Facebook for the past couple of months and comes home an...
A. 28 January 2008: I hear so often (and have been through it myself) how a spouse (no offense to anyone, but mostly men) are only truly sorry for something they've done when they get caught. Sure he's deeply sorry and devestated, because he got caught! Do you think ... (read in full...)
Whats the best way to handle pain? How can you deal with more than one serious painful subject?
Q. What is the best way to handle pain? How can yu deal,with more than one serious painful subject ,if your life seems to go that way?What should You say to yourself if all doors seem to close and you feel so alone with your pain. I feel ,i want to ...
A. 26 January 2008: Life is not always easy and that's a major reason why it is so precious. Many of life's best rewards are possible only because you must work your way through the difficult challenges that come your way and appreciate them. A life of total ease and ... (read in full...)
Pregnant, homeless and confused....
Q. I was 5 months pregnant when my Husband asked me to leave our home because he said he was miserable due to our fighting and bickering. We used to fight about fidelity issues on my behalf. Prior to me getting pregnant, he said he was over those ...
A. 26 January 2008: If it's peaceful and loving where you are and your parents are welcoming you into their home, then why not stay? You're pregnant, why even risk it?!? The last think you need is the stress from an insecure husband. ... (read in full...)
I don't want the abortion...But they're all pressuring me!
Q. I'm 17 and 8-9 weeks pregnant. I have my first midwife appointment on the 25th February. My boyfriend and parents are basically forcing me into an abortion that I don't want because I KNOW that after it I will be a wreck. Sure abortion is for ...
A. 26 January 2008: http://www.teenbreaks.com/ The important thing that you need to remember here sweetheart is that it's your choice, and ONLY your choice. I know your family and friends want to give you their opinions and that's fine. But in the end you need to ... (read in full...)
We have had threesome's but he doesn't want to be part of a MFM threesome.
Q. My husband and i have had threesomes with women and he performed with no problems and was not shy or anything. He has no problems with me having sex with other men. I want to have a threesome where i am the object of attention from two men and ...
A. 25 January 2008: My first husband and I had a very open sexual relationship. It started out as fantasy and role playing (which is where I though it would stop) but then he started looking at swinger sites and would constantly bring up the possibility of meeting up ... (read in full...)
I am scared to lose him!
Q. me and this guy really like each other but were not going out at the moment because he is under massive stress having to do with a very, very bad childhood and now he is having to deal with some issues. but he has assurred me that he does like me ...
A. 24 January 2008: It sounds like he is under enough stress. If you love him so much, why would you want to cause him anymore stress by scaring him about losing you? That seems kind of selfish don't you think? The best way to keep this guy interested in you is to ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being more selfish before I lose the man I love??
Q. I really cant understand why my boyfriend puts up with me. I am 20 and we have been together for 4years. Our relationship has always been really good except we split up for 3months 2years ago because he was joining the army, I didnt feel that it ...
A. 24 January 2008: No offense, but you're the one saying that your being stupid and selfish and you even realize it afterward right? So you are already aware of the problem, now correct it. Stop being so selfish and immature and grow up. Think about his feelings ... (read in full...)
I have all the qualities you would want in a friend and in an employee.So why am I having job problems?
Q. In the past 7 years I've had the career from HELL. I would love to know if there are any of you out there who have had similar experiences. At the moment, I feel ashamed of myself and that this has all been my own fault somehow. After finishin...
A. 16 January 2008: Normally I wouldn't even think about reading a post this long, but you actually kept my interest through the whole thing. It really sucks that you've had to endure all the hardships that you've endured by trying to make an honest living. You sound ... (read in full...)
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