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writes:this guy has asked me out. i told him that i would think about it, but i dont want to go out with him. i just want to be friends, thats it. but i feel if i dont say yes hes going to be upset and cry i cant handle that from him. i like him as a friend. and i am friends with his ex gf, so i dont wanna hurt her as well. help me please xx
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reader, Escalaya  +, writes (5 February 2008):
 The best thing to do, hun, is be honest. Don't tell him he's an uninteresting, ugly wop. Or anything of the sort, just let him know you don't feel for him like that, he'll be a little sad, but I doubt he'll cry.
Honesty is always the best way.
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reader, Serinity +, writes (5 February 2008):
 I used to be the same way. I didn't ever want to reject anyone or hurt their feelings so I always gave in when I really didn't want to. I found myself in more predicimates because of it. If I went out with them when I didn't want to then not only was I giving them a sense of hope but I also had to eventually hurt them more by breaking it off. I understand how you feel about it, but it would be best if you just be honest with him from the begining. Tell him that you value his friendship but you are not ready for a relationship and/or committment. It might hurt him a little, but it will hurt him more if you give him false hope and then shoot him down later. Good luck sweetie!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): i was in a similar situation except i was the guy, i dont know all the details but you have to be honest with him and tell him exactly how you feel, trust me it will hurt him a lot more if you don't come clean, be his friend and maybe someday you will develop feelings for him or he may just lose interest
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