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... Send *erinity a private message | | | *erinity's profile:I am a 32 year old female and I live in Virginia. I grew up as a military brat and I was in the Navy for 3 years, so I never really grew up in one particular area. I am open, honest and quite versitile because of my background. I have been through MANY different situations, both good and bad. I never really had anyone to talk to or to give me advice through all of the situations I've been through. So I've had to learn a lot on my own and I've learned a lot. I enjoy offering advise based on things I've learned along the way and particularly situations that I can relate to. I'm a people pleaser so I love helping people in any way that I'm able to. I especially enjoy helping teens because I know that if I had someone to explain things to me and offer me advise when I was a teen then I would have made it though a lot of situations without enduring as much pain and sorrow as I did. But they made me strong and I don't regret that part of it. If I can save one life, then I've done well. If I can help save more, then I can rest in peace when it's my time to go. God bless everyone! |
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I have all the qualities you would want in a friend and in an employee.So why am I having job problems?
Q. In the past 7 years I've had the career from HELL. I would love to know if there are any of you out there who have had similar experiences. At the moment, I feel ashamed of myself and that this has all been my own fault somehow. After finishin...
A. 16 January 2008: Normally I wouldn't even think about reading a post this long, but you actually kept my interest through the whole thing. It really sucks that you've had to endure all the hardships that you've endured by trying to make an honest living. You sound ... (read in full...)
How do you come to terms with the decisions you've made in life?
Q. How do you come to terms with the decisions you've made in life? I got married at 19 because my mother died suddenly and I had no direction in my life. By age 23, I realized I had made a mistake. My husband and I had nothing in common. He was moody ...
A. 16 January 2008: First of all, we all sin (Isaiah 53:6 "We all, like sheep, have gone astray, each of us has turned to his own way" and Romans 3:23 "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God").
The fact that you recognize your sin and feel badly ab... (read in full...)
She hates me and puts the whole family through hell! What is happening to my sister?
Q. I am completely confused about this, I was wondering if someone can give me some ideas about why this is happening. Four years ago my sister had an abusive relationship and shortly afterwards she developed an eating disorder. She almost died from...
A. 16 January 2008: Well, good luck hon. You seem so sweet and I would hate for your sister to change you into a bitter person because of her weaknesses. If she won't get help and your parents won't make her then you should really consider moving out. You're the ... (read in full...)
Am I being a bitch by saying mean things about her?
Q. ok i am 14 and i really like this boy but he claims too love another girl. we have meet once and he said i was good looking and i am a nice girl. i thought i would go on the girl "he claims love" myspace to see what she looks like shes not ugly bu...
A. 16 January 2008: Just because you like him doesn't mean he should drop this other girl like a hot potato. Who cares what she's like and what she looks like. You shouldn't talk bad about people, especially if you don't even know them. You're mad at her because you ... (read in full...)
She hates me and puts the whole family through hell! What is happening to my sister?
Q. I am completely confused about this, I was wondering if someone can give me some ideas about why this is happening. Four years ago my sister had an abusive relationship and shortly afterwards she developed an eating disorder. She almost died from...
A. 15 January 2008: Sounds to me like she definitly has a personality disorder. She needs help and I think it would be best if you had her hospitalized. She may resent you for it but it seems like she resents you now, for no reason. When she gets the help she needs ... (read in full...)
MArriage troublesI I need love 'preserver' to stay afloat, Please help
Q. I've been with my wife from the time I graduated high school and I am turning 25 in April. We used to be the couple that everyone spoke about, we were both in great shape, we were very intimate and wild. Over the 7 years we have been together my ...
A. 15 January 2008: Do you have any children? Has she ever been checked out for depression? There are several issues that could be going on with her including depression, chemical imbalance thyroid problems. There are too many possibilities to guess what it could ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can get rid of the hurt?
Q. my bf and i only broke up a month ago and he already moved on and askin for some girl's fone number!! i couldnt believe this after everything we went through. I still cant seem to move on from him and still have strong feelings for him even though ...
A. 11 January 2008: Yes sweetie, I have an idea. Move on!!!! You're only setting yourself up for more heartache and the grieving process is only going to start all over again. He hurt you once already, shame on him. If he hurts you again shame on you. Your parents ... (read in full...)
I feel so alone, and like nobody pays attention to me. I can't stop crying. What can I do?
Q. Recently, I've started feeling depressed quite a lot. Just a few nights ago, I couldn't stop crying, and I didn't see the point in my life. I'm in a relationship with a really great guy, but when we argue, or something comes between us, then I j...
A. 10 January 2008: Life is not always easy and that is a major reason why it is so precious. Many of life's best rewards are possible only because you must work your way throught difficult challenges to get to them. If everything in life were easy, there would be no ... (read in full...)
What do women need to hear?
Q. I really need your help here women! I know we men love to hear few things during sex such as moaning of the woman, complimenting our tool size, or how good it feels inside....but what about women? What do women love to hear during sex? I would...
A. 10 January 2008: I'm not sure if you were addressing me as far as the "dirty talk" question or not, but if you were, I classify the first example I wrote as dirty talk. I think the "average" woman would fall into the second example. It depends on how reserved or ... (read in full...)
What do women need to hear?
Q. I really need your help here women! I know we men love to hear few things during sex such as moaning of the woman, complimenting our tool size, or how good it feels inside....but what about women? What do women love to hear during sex? I would...
A. 10 January 2008: I think it depends on the girl. If you are having sex with a girl who tends to be more open and exotic then a little bit of dirty talk along with compliments goes a long way. Such as: Damn, you are so sexy and beautiful and you have the hot... (read in full...)
I dumped him over his smoking. Was I being too harsh?
Q. My boyfriend made a big song and dance about quitting smoking because i'm very anti it. He said things along the lines of: you're my inspiration for quitting, i quit for you, etc. All lovey dovey stuff. But then a few weeks later we're at his mate's ...
A. 10 January 2008: Well, it's definitely not right for him to sneak behind your back. But, if he was a smoker when you started dating and you accepted it then, I don't think it's really fair that you hold it against him now. It sounds like he wants to quit, for you. ... (read in full...)
What did his gesture mean?
Q. I don't know if i am being paranoid, that's why i need you guys to help me out please!! I was chilling out with my boyfriend at his friend's place. At one point i was playing with the dog when i heard my guy tell his friend, 'I had a----- that's why ...
A. 10 January 2008: Sounds to me like he was talking about a blow job. ... (read in full...)
Which is hotter - blonde or brunette?
Q. A bit of a survey here... Are girls hotter as blondes? or brunettes? I would love to know your personal preferance... thnx xoxo ...
A. 10 January 2008: It's not the color of the hair that matters. There are many beautiful women with all different hair colors. But true beauty comes from within. ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend might be cheating on me
Q. hey guys, i have suspisions that my gf is cheating.. i hate to that but i cant help it. been dating for about 2 years now and shes being so weird lately.. everytime i ask to see her phone, she has to delete her msg's first. she always goes with...
A. 9 January 2008: I completely agree with Phil. Be firm and let her go. She is being selfish and immature and she's playing with your emotions. Don't let her get the best of you. Honesty is very important in a relationship and I think I've got more honesty in my ... (read in full...)
My mother is making my life hell
Q. hi, i'm 13, and my mum is honestly after my life. she beats me up when she likes, she abusses me, then asks me to forgive her, well what does she think i can forgive her so esily. And the thing i hate most is i get beaten up mostly just cause of my ...
A. 7 January 2008: Is she bi-polar? Does she have borderline personality disorder? That's not normal behavior for any mother. Kind of sounds like she may have some deeper issues going on. Do you and your brother have the same father? Is your mom a single mom? ... (read in full...)
My best friend is unhappy in her marriage and her husband won't seek professional help, what can I do for them?
Q. My best friend is like a sister to me, and we have been close for nearly 20 years. She got married 4 years ago to who seemed to be the world's most perfect man. She recently disclosed that she has been hiding the fact that she is really unhappy in h...
A. 7 January 2008: Thank you sweetie. I hope it helps! Take care as well.... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can get rid of the hurt?
Q. my bf and i only broke up a month ago and he already moved on and askin for some girl's fone number!! i couldnt believe this after everything we went through. I still cant seem to move on from him and still have strong feelings for him even though ...
A. 4 January 2008: Hey sweetie. I went through this at your age and I know how bad it hurts. He's a big a big idiot and he broke your heart, seems like it should be pretty easy to get over right? But I know it's not easy, it's never easy when you get your heart ... (read in full...)
He has 2 kids. I'm only 17. Any advice?
Q. My ex and i broke up over two years ago and didnt speak much but suddenly started to again in the summer..I have really strong feelings for him still as i lost my virginity to him. We meet up today as im going away for a month and he asked if when ...
A. 4 January 2008: Stop wasting your time on this guy, you're just setting yourself up for heartache. You're too young to be hung up on a guy with two kids already. By that I assume this means he's quite a bit older than you? It's been 2 years already, why get ... (read in full...)
Stay together and live a lie or walk away?
Q. Here is my dilemma. Last summer I got engaged, however, we live 50 miles from one another. He comes up to me on his days off. However, for the past six months I have doubting whether this is what I really want. So much so that I have slipped up a ...
A. 4 January 2008: I think the answer is pretty obvious here. If you have already slept with somebody else then how can you possibly truly love him. Not only that but your having doubts about marrying him anyway. It's not fair to him. Whether or not you tell him ... (read in full...)
I've been married 3 years but realise I've been missing out on the single life. Should I split from him?ife.
Q. Hi there, i've been married for 3 years and after talking to my single friends I realise i'm missing out on so much fun, should I carry on with my husband or divorce him. My friends say my husband will probably leave the house to me thus ensuring ...
A. 4 January 2008: Wow, are you serious? Why did you even marry him in the first place? Certainly you can't be in love with him or you wouldn't even be suggesting something so ignorant. You're married with children and you are whining about missing out on having ... (read in full...)
My best friend is unhappy in her marriage and her husband won't seek professional help, what can I do for them?
Q. My best friend is like a sister to me, and we have been close for nearly 20 years. She got married 4 years ago to who seemed to be the world's most perfect man. She recently disclosed that she has been hiding the fact that she is really unhappy in h...
A. 4 January 2008: ALANON is a counseling group for people (mainly spouses) who are dealing with alcoholics/drug addicts. There are several ALANON web sites that you can check out that give you much more information. Just google the word ALANON. You can also find ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a urine fetish. I feel confused about our sex life.
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, This is going to sound so crazy...and I am completely embarassed to ask it but...Well, here it goes. My boyfriend and have been dating for almost a year now and we are very much in love...Also, he and I are highly sexually active. ...
A. 3 January 2008: Different people have different fetishes. If this is one of his and you want to be with him, then you need to decide now if you can accept this type of fetish. If it's not something that you can deal with then you need to address the issue now. ... (read in full...)
How do I avoid being branded a homosexual stalker?
Q. im in love with my best friend, i dont want to talk to him about it, i'm scared incase i loose a friend and be branded a stalker or somthing he's 16 and so am i, the confusing thing about it is he kissed me a few weeks ago and from then he's acted ...
A. 3 January 2008: I would suggest not acting too quickly on this matter. Does he know that you're bi-sexual? It is very likely that he is not quite sure about his sexuality at this point in his life and maybe he is testing the waters. If he is aware that you are ... (read in full...)
How should I tell my mother he proposed to me?
Q. I am 15 years old. Me and my boyfriend have been on and off for 2 years. he is 13. We now know that we ant to be together forever. Just the other day he purposed to me and i said yes. My mom doesnt know. I want to tell her but dont know how. WHAT ...
A. 3 January 2008: I would keep it to yourself for now. As I'm sure your are aware, the legal age in the U.S. is 18 years old. You may not like it, but legally you are her responsibility for 3 more years.
If you are that serious about this guy and you really t... (read in full...)
She asked me in a hypothetical manner if I'd marry her. Any thoughts?
Q. i am writng you guys cos i trust u.a while ago i wrote to you about a lady that was very close.she lives in glasgow and me in stoke.she is THE most amazing lady i have ever met.i'm 42 she 56.its only numbers.ok.yesterday. hypethetically, i think ...
A. 3 January 2008: I'd say, if you really feel that way about her and she opened up the door, then propose. That is ONLY if your ready for that kind of committment with this lady. You know, we don't live forever, and you may not want to let this opportunity to slip ... (read in full...)
My best friend is unhappy in her marriage and her husband won't seek professional help, what can I do for them?
Q. My best friend is like a sister to me, and we have been close for nearly 20 years. She got married 4 years ago to who seemed to be the world's most perfect man. She recently disclosed that she has been hiding the fact that she is really unhappy in h...
A. 3 January 2008: Recommend ALANON to her. It will help her to see things that she is not aware of and give her the strength and support she needs to move on with her life, with or without him. It will help her deal with her emotions and rebuild her self esteem. ... (read in full...)
How can I get over how he used to be when he was drunk?
Q. My partner was an alcoholic. He used to be abusive when he was drunk. He has now stopped drinking and is doing really well. My question is how do I forgive him for the things he used to do?? I find myself still being angry over things - especial...
A. 28 December 2007: I speak from experience when I say, it's easier said then done. I'm going through the same thing except my husband only slowed the drinking down temproarily to get me back. I forgave him for all the shit he put me through (which is WAY too much to ... (read in full...)
I'm a teacher and have formed a good online friendship with a quite mature teenager(17). Am I wrong to want to meet her - or even to be talking to her?
Q. hi there. i am a 28 year old teacher..been working near London for about 5 years.. problem is I met a girl on line about 4 months ago..she is 17 doing 'A' levels in a different school (about 100 miles away) i might add, and is quite mature.....
A. 27 December 2007: I don't know what the legal age is where you live, but in the U.S. it's 18. However, I don't think that's the issue here. Put the age difference aside and before you get emotionally involved, evaluate the situation. Mature or not she has not had ... (read in full...)
A younger lady is doing everything possible to ruin my happy home, even calling ME. What do I do?
Q. i have been married for almost 6yrs now. it has been a very happy one, blessed with two boys. recently, my hubby met a younger lady of about 21yrs. i know my hubby loves me, but this younger lady is doing everything possible to ruin my happy home. ...
A. 27 December 2007: Call the police and file a harrassment complaint. At least you will have legal documentation that she is harrassing both of you. And it will probably scare her off as well. If you can record her calls I would do that to. Document everything. ... (read in full...)
Would you let your husband go away for the weekend with a woman he fancies?
Q. I have been with my husband for eleven years now, and although things are fairly good between us, he has developed a crush on another woman. He met her on a weekend away with the boys in the middle of summer, and has been sending odd messages her...
A. 27 December 2007: Good Lord woman!
There is NO way possible I would let my husband go on a trip with a woman he clearly fancies. It's like he's already having an affair with her right under your nose. You don't have to have sex with someone to have an affair. He i... (read in full...)
I've been cautioned for assault and am terrified!
Q. I have been cautioned for assault!!!!and I am terrified!! I need to add some background. I am 52 and my fiancee of 3 years is 46( we have been together for 3.5 years). WE have had problems before that I have sought advice on here about before. ...
A. 21 December 2007: You need to leave her. Get out of this situation before you get put in jail and/or she ruins your life. You obviously love her or you would not tolerate her behavior, so it makes it hard to just walk away from the situation, I know, been there. ... (read in full...)
I had brief intercourse with a stripper during a lap dance... should I tell my wife?
Q. I’m felling real guilty about what happened to me at a strip bar. I’m a happily married man, ten years married with two kids. I go to strip bars, my wife lets me and its never been an issue. She goes out with her friends too, and admittedly been ...
A. 21 December 2007: It amazes me how all the male responses to this post act as if this is no big deal and that it's normal for this kind of situation to happen when going to a strip club. 1st of all, your wife must obviously trust you if she's going to allow you to go ... (read in full...)
I've suspected for some time now that my partner may be having a sexual affair, a couple of days ago I found some intriguing might be evidence and need advice on how to go about confronting her with this?
Q. I have been living with my girlfriend for sometime now. She is in her late thirties and very attractive. She is a director of a company and socialises a lot with business colleagues and is often away on business trips. I work as a GP in a NHS ...
A. 19 December 2007: If you really love her, I would consider trying to gather more evidence before you accuse her of having an affair. Yes, her behavior seems suspicious. Yes, it is POSSIBLE that it was semen, but how can you be 100% sure. It is normal for women to ... (read in full...)
My friend has been experiencing problems in her marriage, and now feels threatened by her husband's stunning co-worker. What can I tell my friend?
Q. A friend of mine is 45 and has been married about 18 years to her husband who is the same age, I know both real well. He is a really successful doctor and they have 2 kids(teens) together. I know their marriage isn't fantastic anymore to him for ...
A. 19 December 2007: Hmmmm, that's a tough one. I would definitely consider her a threat, especially if he is showing obvious signes of intrest in her. He is a successful doctor who has been married for 18 years and she is a beautiful (young?, I'm guessing)woman who ... (read in full...)
Why does he lie about his naked picture thing?
Q. why does my husband hide and lie about forwarding and looking at pictures of necked women?...
A. 14 December 2007: Because he doesn't want to get caught for the fear of how you might react. ... (read in full...)
What can I do about this troublesome long-distance family situation? Need ideas.
Q. Please help. This is not a question about a love or sex relationship but I really need some objective viewpoints on this one. I am a husband and father of 51 years. My wife is 50. We have a son, 26 out of the house and a daughter of 22 who still...
A. 14 December 2007: I think I'm a little confused. Why did the mother call child services? Did she call them because of what her son did or because of her reaction to the whole thing? I just can't fathom any mother jeopordizing her own childs safety and well being ... (read in full...)
I have been ignoring his calls. Am I being rude, or smart?
Q. There's a guy who I worked with for 6 yrs., and I never really liked being around him because he would throw fits and get mad for no reason, and start throwing things and punching things at work which the boss did nothing b/c he is afraid of ...
A. 13 December 2007: Absolutely keep ingoring his calls. From what it sounds like, this guy is not worth getting involved with. Even if it's just for friendship or to have someone to talk to. Your married with a child, what is there to second guess about? Not only ... (read in full...)
She's 'turned off the tap' and sleeps in the other bedroom. Can anyone help?
Q. I have been married for 6 years and have a step daughter and we have had a child who is now 17 months old. My wife has recently told me that she wants to leave me to have some time on her own. She will not say that she wants a divorce but she won't ...
A. 13 December 2007: I can't say I really blame her. She's at home with a 17 month old baby and her daughter while you are out at the Pub's and Club's trying to drink your troubles away and enjoying yourself. Just because things aren't going well with work and fina... (read in full...)
My roommate sabotages my love life
Q. I recently met a guy when I was out with some friends, including my roommate, who was one of my best friends at the time. The two of us hit it off right away, and he spent the entire night by my side, talking and joking with me. He walked me home to ...
A. 13 December 2007: Well first of all, I'm sorry, the whole situation really sucks. But as crazy as it seems right now, you should be thankful that your friend brought that side out of him before you got hurt. No, I don't think it was right for her to take a future ... (read in full...)
Is my penis too small??
Q. I am a thirteen year old boy and was wondering if my penis is to small. It's only 5inches when fully erect and 3inches when small. Is it to small?...
A. 12 December 2007: Don't worry dear, you still have 5-8 years of growing do to. Heck, I know some grown men who are your size. Can you imagine how small they were at your age? LOL - No, seriously, I think you're developing just fine for your age. I sure hope you ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to occasionally use porn?
Q. I met my wife 10 years and married for 2. I love deeply and think she is one of the most attractive women that I have ever seen. Occasionally I watch porn.By occasionally I mean I may not watch it for a few months then I may watch it say 3 or 4 tim...
A. 11 December 2007: O.K. here it goes. It's not bad to watch porn as long as your wife doesn't mind. Doing it behind her back is what is unacceptable. Hiding something from your spouse is bad enough, but being caught is even worse. Once the trust factor is broken, ... (read in full...)
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