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*ovehatejones
writes:Hello everybody.I was with this girl for about one year and eight months. I took her verginity in about five months of our relationship. A couple of months after she cheated on me. I'm not sure if we were together becouse we always use to brake up for nouthing and then make up. But the truth is I wanted to brake up wit her so it was me who was doing all the breaking up. She told me she had sex wit a guy three times while we were fighting one day n she was not sure if we were together or not. She told me that she felt that I did not want her again. After she did that I realised that I was hurting very bad n we got back together. I just want to know if I made a good decision even if I might be at fault and weather or not u think she will do it again
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reader, raiders  +, writes (7 May 2010):
 You broke up with her so in reality she didn't cheat..
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reader, lovehatejones +, writes (7 May 2010):
lovehatejones is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts been five months since she told me. I realy felt its me that pushed her to do it because I was treating her bad and I know it. But does it give her right to do it even if I am not sure that we were together at the time
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reader, ginger lover +, writes (7 May 2010):
 I'm sorry but I think you made a bad decision cuz once someone cheats on you once they'll do it again and again. And you didn't find out till she tod you so how do you know she isn't cheating now and not telling you? Soory but I'm going with you made a bad decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): She was sleeping with another guy and she didn't even know what her status with you was at the time? And we're talking about a breakup that lasted just a few days here?
Not a good sign.
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reader, raiders +, writes (6 May 2010):
well technically she did not cheat so she can't be accused of being unfaithful.
you guys seem to like the idea of breaking up and getting back together be careful because one these one of you will call the other's bluff.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): Yeah...probably...She sounds like one of those people who can't be alone. Who always have "back ups" to fall back on if it doesn't work out with you. She's just very young and still needs to mature alot. Until then, she probably will keep making mistakes and yeah she'll probably cheat on you again and say she thought you guys were on a break, when you guys simply had a little fight over who drank the last half quart of milk. I know it sounds like a am being facetious but that's how cheaters are. They will use any excuse to cheat. Its sad.
And to answer your other question, no I don't think you did the right thing in forgiving her. RULE #1 in relationships: NEVER EVER EVER forgive a cheater. It is never worth it. The ONLY exception is if plenty of time has gone by (say years and years) and that person has seriously grown up and realised where they went wrong, and you both still have a thing for each other, then it could work out...otherwise, it is not worth it...you accept it once and they will do it again and again and again, worse each time. It isn't worth it, trust me.
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