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writes:I really need some advice about my ex boyfriend.We broke up around 5 months or so ago. We just recently started being in contact. For about a week texting everyday.He has had a girlfriend since we broke up. And i just recently got a new boyfriend.He's still with her and im still with my boyfriend. But he says things to me like...he wants to be mature and give my boyfriend a chance just like he got one then he said maybe i can get mine again one day but i want to prove things to you.Then he says..i know i never told you enough but your my first love and i'll always compare everyone to you and us. Its just been a whole bunch of stuff like he says does he do this like i do..does he know you like i do and stuff. And do you and him do the same things. Everytime we talk he brings stuff like that up and he says maybe when were both single we can start over i just want to start over.So we were in pretty constant contact..and he moved but i guess i was near by his house because i told him where i was and he said thats right by where i live! And then he was like will you stay there if i run by. I was like yeah. So i did.It was kinda an awkward thing, and then he texted me after i left i was only there for longer then like 10 minutes. But he texted me and said i dont think we should talk until both of us are out of relationships because when we see eachother we dont know how to act any other (like in a relationship w/ eachother) and im not trying to be shady and just trying to be mature about this.So ever since then we haven't talked. My question is how do i regain control of the situation its almost like if he comes back and texts me this stuff i talk to him back and then if he feels its going to far or he starts feeling shady bcuz he has a girlfriend he breaks contact. Should i not call or text back next time he contacts me?My other question is if he really feels this way about me and just everything, why does he still have a girlfriend, why doesn't he break up with her? or is it like a comfort thing. While we were talking he would tell me its not the same with her, so why do guys do that? I dont want to break up his relationship but if he is saying this stuff to me y does he stay with her?
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reader, raiders +, writes (7 May 2010):
 1. Should i not call or text back next time he contacts me?
(a.) as long as you both are in a relationship NO....
2. he still have a girlfriend, why doesn't he break up with her?
(a.) He could have had feeling for you but is unsure to break with her because he might have a connection with her and must really like her......
3. is it like a comfort thing. While we were talking he would tell me its not the same with her?
(a.) but he has a girlfriend that all that should matter, and whose to say who he feel comfortable with her or you...
4. so why do guys do that?
(a.) most guys like the idea of feeling superior and womanizers, and un replaceable and their ego is struck when they realize in not true and that a wife/girlfriend can move on.......
5. I dont want to break up his relationship--
(a.) than don't
6. if he is saying this stuff to me y does he stay with her?
(a.) because that is his girlfriend and unless he is planning on really really leaving her he might want you to be his girlfriend on the side......
Good luck I hope I was able to help you answer some of your questions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok..i still need an answer to my questions.
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reader, raiders +, writes (6 May 2010):
You two broke for a reason and you and him should leave your relationship in the past...Its good that he stopped himself and remembered that he has a girlfriend and if he thought he and you might cheat it was better that he made a u turn. Don't worry so much of what he thinks worry about what your boyfriend might think if you and your ex started talking I'm pretty sure he would not like it bit. You and him had a relationship and I think its to soon for you two to be just friends. Keep your distance and loose communication with him. Your boyfriend should be the one running in your head so don't put thoughts on what your ex is thinking....
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