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I think he's cheating because he doesn't answer my calls

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Question - (9 May 2010) 6 Answers - (Newest, 9 May 2010)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

So if you call you boyfriend after you come back from shopping, he doesn't pick up when you call the first two times and it barley rings 4 times, you wait a while and call a third time and the other time it rings 5times..

I'm pretty sure he ignored my call the first two times, so I have a feeling he's cheating on me because this has been happening lately, 2 times before. What do I do?

I'm in a long distance relationship.? Todays his day off of work, and he should be aware I was going to call back.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (9 May 2010):

He's either cheating or he doesn't give a damn. Either way, it sounds like this is coming to an end.

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (9 May 2010):

raiders agony auntYour young and I guess and this behavior is acceptable as you grow older you will learn how to deal with these situations and would know how to handle stuff like this...Good Luck!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2010):

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I guess it bothered me knowing I called and he knew I would call, he said he left his phone home and went shopping too with his step brother and step mom, reason being I called more than once was because he tells me he doesnt hear the phone sometimes. Anywho, I ended up falling asleep and he called me I missed his call. Then he doesnt pick up when I call him and ends up calling 2 hours later? What a night.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2010):

I don't think that is enough "evidence" to speculate that he is cheating. If you had just gotten back from shopping I assume it was pretty early in the day. Maybe he was busy, out with friends, watching sports or just in the middle of something and couldn't answer.

The fact that you call him so predictably (you say he should be aware that you were going to call at that time), and you keep calling again and again even after he didn't pick up, are both bad signs on your part. Call ONCE. Otherwise it is annoying and you become a nuisance. He is your boyfriend but he is also a human being, an individual, let him be, and treat him with respect. I personally hate it when people blow up my phone. It is one of my biggest pet peeves.

And generally you shouldn't be so predictable when you call. If he is expecting your call everyday at the hour and on the hour, where is the fun in that? I mean what do you guys even talk about? What did you have to say to him that was so important when you got home from shopping that you felt the need to blow up his phone?

Only you know whether he is the type to cheat or not and certainly long distance relationships aren't conducive to fidelity, however, if two people are in love they will make it work.

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (9 May 2010):

Laura1318 agony auntYour intuitions could be correct but you need concrete proof that he is cheating ,otherwise it would be a travesty of justice.

You can confront him about not answering your phone and listen to his answer .You maybe able to feel if he is cheating on you.

If you cannot find any concrete proof or feel him out ,you will have to give him the benefits of doubt.

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A female reader, raiders United States +, writes (9 May 2010):

raiders agony auntI think before you jump into any conclusion you might want to ask him whats going on why is he not answering your calls. He might be busy or had plans that you were unaware of. There could be so many reason to why he did not answer the phone so give him the benefit of the doubt and ask him yourself.

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