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writes:my boyfriend and I are starting to have sex. last time, we were having sex and when i took his thing out of mine their was white stuff all over, an I think it might be his cum, but I cum alot and it might be mine, but he said it was not him because he would have felt it. (1) Can boys feel themselves cum? and if there is a possiblity of being pregnant, (2) how long do I have to wait till I take a test? and, if you have sex (3) is there anyway to notice that you had sex? like some people say the way u walk or you get wider, things like that. I'd appreciate your help. thanks. HELP QUICKLY. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): When you say,
"1. we did use one, a little bit before, and another one after."
... did you use the condom DURING sex too?
The condom has to be on at all times while the penis is in or touching the vagina. Thus all the sperm should be caught inside the condom. Anything on the outside of the condom would be your own secretions.
Good luck and please be careful.
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reader, Nephertite  +, writes (3 July 2008):
 Aww don't get defensive sweetheart.. your age range is 13-15 and that really IS VERY YOUNG to be having sex... its not enough to just research before taking a huge step like that.. you have to be emotionally mature enough and 13-15 is still the time to be a kid and enjoy life to the max.. there will be plenty of time later on for you to explore sex and feel more confident about it and not worry about anyone finding out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question1. we did use one, a little bit before, and another one after. people, im not retared, i reserched it before, took health and sexed. i am aware of risks. 2. i wasnt very discriptive or adult of my vocabulary used. i know, i was in a hurry.3. im not trying to be rude or anything, just wanted to make people know, so they dont think im a kid having sex without knowing anything, i wouldnt make a dumb decision like tht.4. thank you for your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): "Emilyanswers" gave you excellent answers on your questions.
I just want to add this;
Part of growing up is to take responsibility for your own actions;
Sexuality is a natural and enjoyable part of life, and discovering your sexuality is a very important part of growing up. Experiencing these feelings can be difficult and confusing; BUT to start with sex so young; You need to really think carefully;
Sex is not just about the physical mechanics; like most human activities, sex has risks as well as pleasures; risks are emotional as well as physical; you have to practice safe sex; you must use a condom, not just to avoid unwanted pregnancies, but to avoid STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases) and AIDS. You should also get the birth controll pill to avoid the high risk of pregnancy.
You may feel you know a lot about sex, from magazines and films and people talking BUT I suggest you get proper education and advice on sex.
Correction: "we were having sex and when i took his thing out of mine" should be his penis out of my vagina.
My best advise to you: Pay attention at school; get good education; and get proper sex education before you experiment and have regrets later.
Best wishes.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Mate,
listen to emilya's answer. You are going to get pregnant very shortly if you continue like this. Your boyfriend will disappear very quickly when this happens believe me, and you will be on your own with a baby to support as a young girl. You education ,your future , career, all your dreams will change and your parents will have to support you.
You don't even seem to understand sex, until you do stop doing it, and when you are ready listen to what they say in sex education classes - wear a condom!!!
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reader, dangerouslove. +, writes (2 July 2008):
 May I ask why your having unprotected sex in the first place? Get yourself on the pill, or at least use a condom.
Trust me, I've been exactly where you are, having unprotected sex and all. It's not fun to panic and stress out completely before your expected period, and because your stressing out - it delays it. So then you just stress out even more, and then make yourself physically ill. Is that where you want to be? Or better yet, actually end up pregnant or getting some disease.. Who will want to have sex with you then? It doesn't sound like to me your even mature enough to be having sex, either that or you don't understand the serious consequences. Anyway, you cannot tell if you've had sex by the way you walk or look or anything like that. Though, if your mom did get suspicious, she could take you to the doctor and find out that way. That's probably unlikely though, right? other then that. Stick to protected sex, and if your period doesn't come on it's expected date then take a test, I really hope you don't end up pregnant.
Good luck
Stay well.
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reader, lexilou  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 No you wont walk differently no one can notice.
I agree you dont sound emotionally mature enough to be having sex as you neither of you fulll understand what is gowing on and this will lead to std's or unwanted pregnancy.
The white stuff could have been his sperm, doesnt sound like he actually came, trust me he would know, but he could be lying if it happened very quickly which it often does when you are having sex so young. Sometimes boys and men leak a little sperm even if they dont complete the act of sex so you could get yourself pregnant through this.
You could try the morning after pill and then wait and see if your period comes. Go and see a doctor about the pill if you are not going to stop doing this and you will still need condoms to protect against diseases.
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reader, missyanne +, writes (2 July 2008):
It sounds like he did reach orgasmn. Your secretions are typically clearer and thinner than the mans ejaculation. I would assume since you are both new at sex that you are not using safe sex procedures. PLEASE do that for your own well-being and his.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 July 2008):
1. Yes they can tell. It's called an orgasm. However they do let out tiny bits of sperm before they have orgasms. That's why you should always use a condom.
1b. If you did not use a condom and you had sex then yes you may be pregnant.
2. It depends when your next period is due. But you had sex within 72 hours ago you can go and get the morning after pill from your doctor or the hospital or the family planning clinic.
3. It's very unlikely that anyone will be able to tell you had sex, but since you did not use a condom you may get diseases, and then people may notice.
Don't have sex again until you are old enough to understand it, and when you do, USE A CONDOM. It's not difficult.
Now go and get the morning after pill.
Good Luck!! xx
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