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anonymous
writes:i went to turkey a few weeks ago with my family. my sister who is 14 gave her msn addy to a bar man. when we got back he asked to marry her in a few years time. when she tries to explain she doesnt want to (by saying your too old for me, we hardly know each other etc) he begins to look sad on webcam as if she were the love of his life! he also wants her to go back and see him next year. in turkey do people get married hardly knowing each other or is he just after a uk passport? what should she do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2008): Sadly this is not an unusual situation - a little net research will throw up hundreds (thousands?) of identical stories ranging from very young girls like your sister to even older women in their late 50's and 60's. The one common theme (apart from the handsome young foreign gentleman)is that it comes to a sad ending, with either the lady losing all of her money (and often her home and everything else she has)or the guy getting a passport to the country and then ditching the wife. Some of these men even have wives and children in their own country that they "forget" to mention.I have seen this happen with my neice when she was 15 and on holiday in Turkey, although she was sensible enough to keep the guys (yes there were more than one, all declaring how beautiful she was, that they loved her at first sight, that they wanted to marry her) at bay.Do some research, show your sister the darker side of these men and their intentions and then get her to block and then delete this sleaze from her msn.
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reader, no_issues  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 Not knowing each other is hardly a disqualification for marriage. However her not wanting to is.
Why is she still talking to someone who wants her to marry him, when she doesn't want to?
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reader, lexilou +, writes (2 July 2008):
 He probably has hundreds of girls msn details and is begging them all to marry him.
Block him and tell her to wait to meet a nice young man who doesnt see her as a meal ticket, she's only 14 for goodness sake and Im sure she doesnt want to marry a penniless waiter when she turns 16. This man is a parastite x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 July 2008):
He could be after a passport, or he could just like teenaged girls.
How many other girls does he see over the summer in his bar? Probably thousands. How many of them does he look sad at on MSN? Probably a few dozen.
She's only 14 so he must be a bit strange to keep contacting her like this.
Tell her to block him. If you gut tells you something is dodgy with him then you are probably right. It's women's intuition.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (2 July 2008):
 It sounds pretty suspect to me. He met her what, once, twice? And now he wants to marry her? Definitely suss, especially since she's underage.
I'd say block him and be done with it.
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