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How do you keep a man happy?

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Question - (4 December 2013) 6 Answers - (Newest, 5 December 2013)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

This may be a stupid question but how do you keep a man happy? What makes a relationship work and last?

I've been with my bf for 7 months and I really care about him and don't want to lose him, I want to continue to make him happy and make our relationship work.

Our relationship for the most part is great, we both love each other and never argue or anything, but there are some times where we have some rough times, but I know that happens in all relationships.

Basically I just want some advice on how to keep a man happy and satisfied in a relationship. What are the main things they look for and appreciate in a woman/relationship? I want to know what keeps a relationship going and to make it last.

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (5 December 2013):

Definitely be yourself... But the best version if yourself that you can be.

Don't take the things he does for you for granted or he'll stop doing them.

Do nice things for him that show you care.

Never stop dating!

Never stop giving him oral! (married women are allergic to it I guess)

Don't be a pushover, and don't be clingy. Trust him if he deserves it.

I could go on forever, but men and women aren't as different as you think. With some obvious exceptions, if you would like something, he would to. If that's not true then you guys may not be very compatible with each other.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 December 2013):

When it comes to the sex thing, just be fair and use your common sense about it. So many couples have sexual problems because one partner is being completely unreasonable.

A girl has little or no willingness to have sex with her BF but then she gets angry whenever he resorts to looking at porn and jacking himself off.

Or a guy is pushy demanding sex 10+ times a week and EVERY time they are alone together. Etc.

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A female reader, Caring Aunty A Australia +, writes (4 December 2013):

Caring Aunty A agony auntI can only tell you what keeps MY MAN happy, as I asked him your question…

1. He likes that I’m an intelligent woman (i.e. what first attracted him to me) 2. Then it’s our SEX-life! 3. I don’t hold a grudge after we (seriously) argue 4. He appreciates knowing when he’s slacking off to get a reminder 5. How I keep the house tidy and organised as he doesn’t like chaos

6. How I care for him with the right diet as to his junk food habit 7. There is always a meal on the table after work (and even if we’ve been arguing) 8. We both have the same moral values, money habits and work ethic 9. I’m caring and forgiving (but not stupid!) 10. My sense of adventure and money management to fulfil our goals… and numerous more traits he appreciates

How I keep my man happy is by being myself… If he doesn’t like my ethics, as I don’t compromise on certain things; ‘he’ then can expect misery or leave happily ever after! Not that I’d be with such a man in the first place... You choose wisely to begin with. Plus it’s not all about keeping ‘a man’ happy, it has to be reciprocated so that you’re happy too, not left to run dry and be sapped of all energy.

Take Care – CAA

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A female reader, Shadow Rose United States +, writes (4 December 2013):

Shadow Rose agony auntIt all depends on your boyfriend's likes and dislikes, really. If he likes playing flag football, then don't tease him for liking it... If he likes romantic walks on the beach, then take that boy out for a romantic walk on the beach.

He'll be happy as long as you do your part in the relationship (Such as caring for him, loving him, being nice, listening, etc).

If he still isn't happy, he's got too high expectations, or maybe he's not happy for his own reasons...

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A female reader, Intrigued3000 Canada +, writes (4 December 2013):

Intrigued3000 agony auntGreat sex

Great conversations

Not being too clingy or demanding. Giving him his space when he needs it.

Being comfortable in your own skin. Being your own person, and not having to rely on him for validation

Accepting / Understanding / Liking who he is without trying to change him

Great friendship

Great food

...to name a few;)

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (4 December 2013):

So_Very_Confused agony auntsince it's going to be different for every man (truly it is) the BEST thing to do is be true to yourself. Be yourself and keep yourself happy.

The key to longevity in a relationship is communication.

Learn to talk to him and ask him what he wants/needs. Also communicate to him what you want/need.

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