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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Hey I have worked at my job for 14 years. When I started working there I enjoyed it a lot. My supervisor was very nice and he would encourage us to work together as a team. We all got alone very well on the shift we worked which was at a prison. After working with him for two years he resigned and I found out after coming from vacation. When I entered briefing we were introduced to the new supervisor whom I worked with on a previous job. Every thing changed. She made me miserable. She was 16 years older than me but she always caused confusion. She loved being real loud and talking about people. I was kind of quiet and I didn't care much about gossiping. We worked with men and somehow she could turn them against me. They would all go outside and laugh and talk about me. I hated going to work and I tried to changed shifts but it was denied. I suffered under her supervision for 9 years but with prayer I made it. She's no longer there but now I'm having trouble from two other women. I know you all may not believe me but what I'm getting ready to say is true. I have done nothing to these women, as a matter of fact I helped one of them get her job there. Shortly after she started working there she told me one of the other ladies would just pick at her every day. I never said anything about the lady who would bother her but I listened because at times we all need someone to talk to. I never repeated what she said because I don't like trouble. She also borrow money from me. The other lady well we would sometimes go out and do kareokee and sometimes if she didn't have money I would pay for her food. I'm going to call them lady#1 and lady#2. Lady# 1 hardly likes anybody and doesn't want you to either if you are her friend. Well a couple of days every week they will make some stupid smart remark talking about me on the sly. I'm in my 40s I don't have time for this foolishness. I put up with this in elementary school; I'm to old for this but I'm getting tired of it and I'm feeling like telling these clowns off. Lady #1 is 59 and lady#2 is in her 30s.This is been going on about 4 months now how should I handle this? Thanks in advance for your help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2013): Thanks everyone for the advice. I don't hang out with these women. I stop doing kareokee with lady #2 over a year ago and I've never hung out with lady #1 and our only conversation is work.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (27 November 2013):
 I would advise that you not be a "friend" to either of them. Continue to be professional and civil with them in the workplace, but stop hanging out with them after work and stop lending them money. Treat them like you would a colleague that you're not friends with. Be polite, talk to them only when it concerns work related stuff and strive to be the best professional you can be. Find good friends / a support system outside of the workplace, so that when you have a bad day at work, you can bitch about it with someone and not be afraid that it will affect professional life.
You survived 14 years in this workplace, so you must be doing something right. Stay the course and observe quietly from a distance how these two ladies will eventually turn on each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2013): Truthfully if you have already tried being civil to no avail, then I suggest u kill them. With kindness that is. It's hard to do but in the long run you're doing yourself a GREAT favor and your building character about yourself. Pray for them as u did that prior supervisor. Hopefully it doesn't take 9 years to rectify. Kindness does kills. Be genuine and care. Of course u could report them and have people thinking it's u then others turn against u or it gets worse. There's a reason why the Bible says love your enemies. I'm not that much of a Christian I just seen first hand how kindness can baffle those who dislike u. It'll confuse them and anger them and then it'll intrigue them. U already seem like such a strong person and I hope u cope well. Just vent about it whenever it bothers u on here. It's better to talk about it so that u can rest at night. Don't let these ladies raise your blood pressure or cause u anxiety.
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