A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I have a stepson, 12, who is constantly touching me, rubbing against me and begging to kiss my feet. We don't live together, but this is very disturbing, even on weekends. I alerted his father about this, but he is living in denial, thinking that this is just a phase. The boy is probably a high functioning autist or something like that, but has never been diagnosed, as parents pretend he is fine. He has only one friend, otherwise interacts with only family members, has had difficulties with learning and anger issues. Normally he just watches TV and plays video games, like other kids, but sometimes he gets into phases when he obsessively approaches me every time his father looks away. Even though I told him that this was inappropriate and he was not supposed to do this, he is doing it again and again. His father does nothing to stop this - he thinks we should pretend everything is ok and the kid will "outgrow" this "phase". I started avoiding my stepson, making up things to do away from home on weekends and making sure he has as little opportunity as possible to get close to me. I really don't know what to do, he is only a kid and I know he doesn't want to hurt anyone, but will this just go away? I think that my husband is hoping that things will get sorted out by themselwes and he fears that acting on this might make things worse for the kid. Any ideas?
View related questions:
video games Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Dylan McK  +, writes (19 July 2009):
 2 words 'oedipus complex'
A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): Don't ignore it, that kid sounds like he has serious mental issues. If you let this go on he's only going to think its acceptable. Worse still if this continues he's only going to get bigger and stronger, what will you do when this phase moves from touching and kissing your feet to something more serious. He could rape you. I hate to say it so plainly but your asking for trouble if you don't nip this in the bud. It's wrong that this child should be allowed to do something socially unaccpetable. What if he was hitting or punching you? Is that just a phase too?
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2009): I have no clue wut this would be but i would really push for him to have a theripist
...............................
A
male
reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (4 July 2009):
 WOW!
I really feel for your plight. Having a stepson is hard enough as it is, but when he exhibits fetish behaviors at 12 and dad thinks its a phase, you got a whole mess of trouble.
I think you need to really put your foot down with your husband to get your stepson some professional help. You say he hasn't been diagnosed with anything, but for your hubby to put his head in the sand while this behavior goes on is mind boggling.
The only thing you can do is lay down the law that unless your hubby gets the child to a doctor that you wont be allowing the child in the house. I am sure this must be a terribly uncomfortable siuation, having junior wanting to kiss your feet when his dad's out of the room. I could understand it at a younger age(under 10)....but at 12? There is no advice here that is going to help you more than seeing a credible medical professional in your area about this
If your hubby cant understand that this is not normal at 12, then I suggest he get some counseling as well.
...............................
|
