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writes:i am in a comitted long distance relationship since one year and one month...i have two problems and don't know how to tackle it.its going to be long so anybody who is patient can go through this.thanks in advance:-)i really love my bf and even he loves the most.1)the first problem is that in my class there's a guy he tries to touch my hand through any reason say if he's helping me through a sum or we are playing table tennis etc...and i don't know why i touch his hand.maybe because i get attracted at that time.but i don't want to tell my bf cuz i don't know what he will think.2)second problem is that my bf has a close friend who lives with him in a house but different rooms....my bf introduced me to him in april.but at that time his close friend didn't knew that i and my bf are in a relationship.so he used to ping me up every now and then!then in june he came to knew about us...he behaved a bit weird but then everything became normal.then in august ie yesterday he proposd me!!!!and asked if i have the same feelings...and i said i love him as a best friend thats it.but he calls me sexy..and pings me up every now and then and it has become irritating.i don't want to say cuz he's already frustated with his life due to family problem and wants to commit suicide!!!moreover we both talk nonveg,we are very friendly...but now i am confused.how to ignore him?cuz i also like talking with him but it irritates me when he pings me a lot....and..should i discuss this with my bf or not??cuz i and my bf promised each other that we will never hide nething.what to do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhey thnks for ur replies...ya i am going to discuss..
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Do you really love your boyfriend. Because you said you're in a "committed relationship" with him. That commitment means, by its very definition, that you will stay true to him and push away other men that want you. If you would rather be with someone else, you HAVE TO break it off with your boyfriend first. I know it's rough, but you need to pick one of the three guys and focus only on him. If you keep going as you are now, one day your boyfriend will notice the flirting with other guys and it will not be fun for anyone.
And if you decide to stay with your boyfriend, you need to tell him that these other men are interested in you. If you don't, he'll find out sooner or later anyway and wonder why you were hiding it from him and wonder what else you might be hiding.
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reader, Leah--x  +, writes (4 August 2010):
I completely agree with the above answer. If you want to maintain a relationship with someone you must be honest and not keep things from one another. Think how you'd feel if you found out he'd been hiding this from you. Exactly.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (4 August 2010):
 If you love your boyfriend, do you really think you have a choice other than firmly telling the other two gentlemen that you are not interested and cutting them off completely? I'm sure you're enjoying the attention, but this sort of thing is best ended if you want to maintain your relationship with your guy.
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