How does a marriage survive if affection and sex have faded away?
Q. Is it very common ,that sex and affection dies down,after 25year of marriage? Does it matter,if you had a good marriage, with no big troubles with kids,or it is the same risk, 25 years is long for everyone? What happens,if people don't feel ...
A. 17 June 2011: HI
This is more common than you think, 25yrs is a long marriage and well done for getting this far . Somewhere along the line you have both got into a habbit, you know your both there for eachother so you have become reliant on this. You need... (read in full...)
Can open relationships ever work?
Q. right, so I am a bloke with a massive attraction to this girl. she gorgeous and smart and funny and lovely and SINGLE and SHE LIKES ME...well, you know that with those combination then she's gotta have a problem if shes still single, right? right. ...
A. 17 June 2011: HI
I think this girl wants her cake and eat it, and I will say the same to you as what I would say to any women, your worth much more than that. You will always be paranoid that she may fall for someone whilst sleeping with you, never su... (read in full...)
I told him that 'friends' wasn't enough, but I don't understand his response?
Q. Hi I had a crush on this guy. Since he didn't asked me out even i figured he didn't liked me back. At one point i man-ed up and told him that i liked him, that being friends wasn't enough and so we couldn't be friends anymore. It's a bit c...
A. 17 June 2011: HI
I think you man-ed up far too much, rather than telling him how you felt. You cant push someone into a corner in that way and expect them to give you an answer just like that. What he meant was you didn't even give him a chance to answer f... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed that I am into women, not men
Q. Help! i'm feeling really ashamed about my bi sexuality and liking more women, than men. I would love to be out,but i know that will never be the case when i think about being the way that i am. I feel sick, horrible. Sick to my stomach kind, like ...
A. 16 June 2011: HI
Never be ashamed of who you are, no matter if your straight, gay,bi,white,black etc etc you are the person you are meant to be. Everything happens in life for a reason, maybe if you did try with a girl you might not like it, or if you did ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says that the words "I love you" are just words to him
Q. I have been in a relationship for 7 months now First, my boyfriend has expressed through actions how much he cares for me and maybe loves me but he has not said he loves me yet. This is something he was worrying about a lot about a month ago and I ...
A. 16 June 2011: HI
Not everyone will say "I love you" , they would much rather show you, but in your case he dont seem to be showing you either. So yes you must be very disheartened by this. But please dont take it personally, Maybe he was brought up without ... (read in full...)
How do I help my fiance's wild sister?
Q. I need some advice, i don't know how to help this girl! I have known my fiance's little sister since she was 12. I am 20 now, and she is 16. Shes very wild, rude, and out of control. I have always been there for her, she comes to me for advice, ...
A. 16 June 2011: HI
This is a very sad reading :( Unfortunately you have informed her parents many times, and they either choose to ignore it, or maybe they just dont know what to do either and would rather you not keep reminding them. Either way there is... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being unreasonable and too controlling?
Q. I am really at my wits end trying to not break up with my bf of two years. This week is my grandmother's memorial service and after that I am heading on a trip with my family to put her ashes where she wanted them. I will be gone a week and a half ...
A. 15 June 2011: You really shouldn't have to explain yourself, he knows what you are going through right now, and should be taking care of you and helping out. I would honestly tell him either to start realising what effect this is having on you, and try to sort ... (read in full...)
Can I have a lasting relationship with this girl?
Q. Is it possible to have a lasting relationship with a lady who is one year younger than you. My situation is, I met this girl about 5-6 months ago we get along well and have healthy relationship upto now. I made it clear that I really love her and I ...
A. 15 June 2011: HI
if you both feel the same way about eachother then it will work, the age makes no difference. And th reason why many women choose older men is because they are mature ( but in most cases this really not true) I have dated younger men, and... (read in full...)
Anybody ever cured a sexual fetish/obsession?
Q. Has somebody ever cured an obsession? I'm talking about a sexual obsession here. Before I could understand what sex really meant, I was obsessed about this one body part. Now I'm not gonna say which part because I want the answers to be in...
A. 15 June 2011: Hi
well unless you can discribe which body part your referring to it would be difficult to help the situation. But Im sure with knowing you have this problem and admitting it, is the begining of over coming this situation. ... (read in full...)
He says I've lost my spark and am no longer interesting!
Q. So... the guy I'm interested in who knows me better than anyone (we talk all the time and he reads me like a book) says I've lost my 'spark' and I'm no longer interesting... that I never try to start conversations and I'm always boring. Admitt...
A. 15 June 2011: HI
a true friend will always say it as it is offend or please, thats why we know would could ask them for advice and get a honest answer. Maybe you are in a rutt right now and just cant be bothered to do much, we all get those times. Why dont... (read in full...)
How do I get past the breakup if there is no hope of us getting together again?
Q. So I have been broken up with my ex girlfriend for about 2 weeks now. We are both 15 btw. She called me 2 weeks ago (right before summer break) saying that she didn't feel ready for a relationship. This was a complete shock and broke my heart. ...
A. 15 June 2011: HI
I Think you are a very mature and caring young man, but maybe she is not ready for that kind of committed relationship like you are, your both so very young with a whole life ahead of you. Maybe she just wants to be young and carefree... (read in full...)
She asks for cuddles, does that mean she likes me?
Q. I like a girl in my collage called "Laura". We started talking on the 16th of May and she cuddled me for some reason, I felt a warm feeling after that (I had not cuddled anyone before her for 5 months), we then started to talk in which I found out ...
A. 15 June 2011: woah woah woh you told her she WAS NOT beautiful??? yes a very big mistake, but can be corrected. When you see her next just tell her the truth, that you like her and that she is beautiful, you just said that because you was scared of how you were ... (read in full...)
Am I being a pest to my married friend?
Q. I am reasonably friendly with a female work colleague and we do tend to get on well and have good conversations, saying hello and smiling at each other at work, and occasionally having the odd short discussion. She always smiles when we do run i...
A. 15 June 2011: HI
If you think your being a pest to her then slow it down a bit, let her come to you for discussions, she may say hey everyhing ok, we have not spoke for a while, then you can say well i didn't want to be a pest and laugh, she will tell you... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being unreasonable and too controlling?
Q. I am really at my wits end trying to not break up with my bf of two years. This week is my grandmother's memorial service and after that I am heading on a trip with my family to put her ashes where she wanted them. I will be gone a week and a half ...
A. 15 June 2011: HI
he is a definate control freak, who you would be far better off well shot of. How selfish and inconciderate this man is, your dealing with all the emotions of your late relatives funeral and all he can think about is himself, when he shoul... (read in full...)
I want her to stop holding back and be interested!
Q. Well I met this girl on a free dating website and we hit it off pretty well, we emailed everyday and after about a week she gave me her number and wanted to be friends on facebook. We both know what we are looking for in partners and she seems to ...
A. 15 June 2011: HI
you cant make someone feel for you in the way you do for them, they will only do that when they are ready too. As she has already told you she likes to take things slow, if you really do like her then she will see that by your being pa... (read in full...)
Torn between love and security (money).
Q. i have been keeping contact and sleeping with my ex for more 18months since we broke off. we love each other very much. however i have to broke off with him due to his unstable financial situation and his too controlling behaviour. i still sleep ...
A. 15 June 2011: HI
although money makes the world go around you cant take it to your grave. Where as love will always be in your heart and you take it with you. Not only are you going to end up hurting these two men when they find out, your hurting yourself... (read in full...)
I'm impatient. Is it usually this difficult to get a guy's attention?
Q. Hi! I've decided to ask for advice here because I'm sure there's someone who has gone through this. I like a boy from my school. I'm not trying to make him notice me because we already know each other but I've never thought it would be that hard to g...
A. 14 June 2011: HI
have you thought he may be feeling just like you are right now? One of you need to ask the other out before you both get into a habbit of avoiding the issue. Its the 21st century ASK HIM OUT FOR A DATE lol xx... (read in full...)
I was giving my husband a blow job and my son walked in on us!!
Q. So.. I was having a rather pleasant time pleasuring my man... yes BJ ... we have been together 20 years - married for 14 and have 2 young children.. 2 and 5 yrs. We had not closed our door as we tend not too because we can generally hear o...
A. 14 June 2011: Hi
He wont remember this his 5, Just next make sure you KNOW his asleep for sure before you start anything in future. I am sure we have all had an lets say awkward moment when it comes to the sex thang lol Just never mention it again, infact h... (read in full...)
Love letters?
Q. Are love letters effective when it comes to letting a guy know that you are interested in him, or is it a childish or high school act? Just wondering. Thanks ...
A. 14 June 2011: HI I think it is BETTER writing a letter, or a romantic poem, than emails or texts, people forget how now days and it's a shame. My ex always loved me writing letters and poems to him, infact we were speaking about it the other day, and he still has ... (read in full...)
She creeps me out but I like her!
Q. I started this day camp for a week and I met this girl. I'm getting a big crush on her, I talk to her often and can't stop thinking about her. Two days later, I started to notice she laughs almost everything I say, its getting a little creepy. She ...
A. 13 June 2011: HI
This girl is in love with you, she curls her hair and stares at you because she thinks your awsome, she laughs at everything you say because she wants you to know she is soooo very interested in all you have to say and thinks your funny, t... (read in full...)
We want to get matching tattoos any suggestions?
Q. My fiance and I were thinking of tattoo ideas, and we are stumped. We have ideas, but we want to know some of your guys and dolls to make sure that we like ours. Haha. Yeah, we're lame. ANYWAY,There is just one little issue i have..he still has his ...
A. 11 June 2011: HI
Well having his ex name on his arm is part of his history, so you cant really make him have it covered or removed. I would think twice about having a tattoo as once there it will never go, and if you two dont work out, you will always have tha... (read in full...)
Paranoid about a "psychic's" prediction....
Q. To make a long story short, A psychic told me some things. It was just for fun I wasn't trying to find out real life answers... Then she tells me that my bf already has or will meet some girl. She described a petite blonde and said she is personab...
A. 11 June 2011: HI
there are some that are very good at what they do, I wouldn't call them freaks because of there talents. However a real psychic wouldn't be wasting there time on silly predictions as the one your discribing. As one of the other aunts sa... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is paranoid she is pregnant even though she is a virgin!
Q. My girlfriend is driving me crazy! She thinks she is pregnant even though we never had sex and she is a virgin! About 4 months ago we messed around and these are the 2 reasons why she is worried: 1: I put on a condom and then started to fi...
A. 11 June 2011: HI
if she beleives she is then she can still get the symptoms of pregnancy. ( its called a phantom pregnancy) Where the body believes its carrying a child, because she does. After what you have discribed she cant possibly be pregnant... (read in full...)
I bring girl into my social circle now she puts the kibosh to my relationship. No What?
Q. So I like an incoming sophomore. I'm an incoming senior. He's only a year younger than me though, since I'm a grade higher than I should be. Anyways we were talking and stuff and things were going great! We were at our state champion party (our ...
A. 11 June 2011: HI
well my guess is , is that if this guy was quick to believe this girl, without talking to you then he is not worth it. Some people you just cant help, and this girl has obviously took being a nobody as you say to a somebody very serious... (read in full...)
Is this just a glitch in our relationship or should I worry?
Q. Hey, I need some help to work out how I feel about my bf - when I'm not with him, I miss him, and think how much I love him; but lately, when I spend time with him, I find myself getting bored and irritated, and I'm not sure if this is normal or if ...
A. 4 June 2011: HI
He is NOT a good guy hun. And you DEFINAETLY desreve better, how you could forgive being in bed with two of his freinds fathoms me. He is using you, and I feel your not ready for a relationship after an 8 yr one, even after 15 months a... (read in full...)
Falling for my best friend but my heart loves another too!
Q. hey there im stuck in a mess with my best friend and my heart ive been in love with someone for 3years but dosent know, my best friends dose me and him have got very close and the more im with him the more i like him, the problem is should i...
A. 4 June 2011: HI
just go for it, he obviously gets aroused by your presence, so you do something to him:) why ait, go with the flow,things happen for reason xx... (read in full...)
I love my guy but we fight a lot and he doesn't seem to care. What should I do?
Q. HI....its wid great pain i type this..my guy and me are in love since a yr and quarter and for recent months we are in frequent fights about him being so careless to me.i talked a lot several times to him but nothin changed.problem is he seems ...
A. 4 June 2011: Hi
well just sort of understood that, but I think maybe his realised that things are getting serious , and his not quite ready for the full on thing just yet, but if he didn't want to be with you he would have gone. Give him some space , let hi... (read in full...)
I'm really fond of her. How do I go about this without losing our friendship?
Q. I am 18 and interested in a girl who has joined our friendship group [the same age]. She is quite flirty, especially the second time we all went out together, where she was keen to dance get quite close. Nothing has happened, although I pecked her ...
A. 4 June 2011: Hi
some girls are naturally flirty and do not know it, they think they are just being fun, and everyone is enjoying the moment, so I wouldn't read into it just yet, wait a while and see if anything else will come of it. Although I can see your... (read in full...)
Girl I like was really quiet on our date. What does this mean?
Q. Hi cupid, This girl told me she liked me by saying that as long as I'm at her party than that's all that matters. So because I liked her as well I decided to ask her out. We went to the cinema and for something to eat. She was really quiet whi...
A. 4 June 2011: Hi
she probally dont know what to say, as I said nerves lol, give it time, time will only tell, and if no then well at least you gave it your best xx... (read in full...)
Did she start having a crush/feelings?
Q. I think young ppl tend to make lots of mistakes especially when it comes to dating. Well I was on chat and before I even met this girl I used this hot surfer male model photos. She thought it was me. The whole time she'd flirt and even compliment ...
A. 4 June 2011: HI
no she was just furious because you lied to her, It's never a good thing to try and be someone your not, to impress girls.Just send her a private message, apologise, tell her she will not here from you again, and just except this as a learni... (read in full...)
Ever since I started dressing more like a woman, thus guy I like began looking at me like a sex object. Why??
Q. Hi people, I've got this stupid problem that shouldn't really be a problem but I don't know..Well, when I was a young girl like..13 I used to dress up, like really take pride in my appearance and people would notice me. One day I heard a bunch of ...
A. 4 June 2011: HI
I dont think he meant anything to drastic, probally thought he would flatter your ego. But you have took it in the wrong way bcause of how these girls made you feel. Try being yourself and give a c**P what other people think!! you know who... (read in full...)
Should I try to rekindle an old love or just stay in my comfort zone?
Q. Warning: it's kind of a long story/soap opera..... I have this ex boyfriend. He's Jamaican...like, he was born and grew up in Jamaica, and he's older than me, two things that made my mother very suspicious and disapproving of our friendsh...
A. 4 June 2011: HI
The way I see it is you love this guy still right? Then dont let what your family think about being with a black guy ruin your chances of real happiness. Your an adult now, and to be blunt your family aren't going to be here for ever, wh... (read in full...)
Girl I like was really quiet on our date. What does this mean?
Q. Hi cupid, This girl told me she liked me by saying that as long as I'm at her party than that's all that matters. So because I liked her as well I decided to ask her out. We went to the cinema and for something to eat. She was really quiet whi...
A. 4 June 2011: HI
sounds like she was really nervous. Sometimes when a girl likes a boy so much they get all butterflies in their stomach ( which is probally why she was holding hers ) lol and when we get like that, we find it hard to think of anything to talk... (read in full...)
I really dislike my boyfriend doing these chats on this site!
Q. Ever heard of a website called blog tv? for those who haven't, its a website where you broadcast yourself live and anyone can come watch and chat to you. Well lately my boyfriend of two years has been doing broadcasts and i thought nothing of it, ...
A. 4 June 2011: HI
Dont watse another second, you need to seriously think of the consequences here! Your very young still, Have you done a pregnacy test? because if you have and it's possitive, you will really need to tell him. Do you have a family member y... (read in full...)
Should I continue trying to be his friend? Also admit I have feelings for him?
Q. Sorry this is a bit complicated: Back in January I met a guy through a friend,Lora, I didn't think much of him at first but then really got interested. We flirted for about two months before our first date; he took me out on my birthday while m...
A. 4 June 2011: HI
And that is the best thing to do here hun.
He will, as you know you dont flirt with someone if you just want to stay freinds. So he is starting to feel more and more comfortable with you again, just stick with it and let him come to ... (read in full...)
Is it normal if you don't kiss on every date?
Q. Hello, I was wondering if someone could help me out with a couple of questions since I don't date much. 1) Is it normal if the girl I'm seeing doesn't want to kiss or be kissed in every single date? (Assuming the date was a GOOD one.) I mean whe...
A. 2 June 2011: HI
And your freinds are right. She will start to feel like she is there to just amuse you untill you finally say yes she's worth it, or something better comes along. I wouldn'y hang around either, or kiss and make out with a guy who doesn't ... (read in full...)
Would a girl not like me if I was friends with her ex?
Q. So their is this girl i have liked for a long time. She has had a boyfriend though up to a little of a month ago. During that time period I got to know her real well and found out we have a lot in common. During that time I am pretty sure she had a ...
A. 2 June 2011: HI
I dont think she would want to now date you if thats what you mean? Not that she dont like you, but if you and her ex are now freinds, she wont appreciate that, and will find it hard to move on from him if he is around. However you wont tru... (read in full...)
I'm torn between my ex and my friend!
Q. My ex is back. He is 26 and I'm 16.I love him. During our break-up I met one guy online. He is really good. He is 23. After my break-up I was depressed he helped me to get over him. But He is addicted to sex. And He love some other girl,He never to...
A. 1 June 2011: Hi
yes hun, you ARE doing the right thing , you will hurt for a while it's understandable, because you have feelings for him, but feelings better being spent on someone who will love you for who you are. Get out with freinds, keep yourself... (read in full...)
I was hanging out with my friends, feeling happy, and then out of NOWHERE, my mood shifted and I was depressed. What could this be?
Q. Please please please any help will do! Can anyone make sense of this and tell me what the hell happened with me the other night and why this may of happened!?! I'd really appreciate it! I was out on a night with a big group of friends both guy...
A. 1 June 2011: HI
Im not saying you have it hun, just seek proffessional advice from a Dr, My freind of 30 yrs has bipolar, and she started just the way your discribing, but many things can cause your change of mood like that. Diet no, that would not chan... (read in full...)
My girlfriend stayed out for the night and told me she had to share a bed with another man! This is unacceptable to me. What does everyone else think?
Q. My partner went on a night out with her work mates and missed the late train back. See was with two females and 1 male - so they got a family room at a hotel. When she got back the next morning she told me she had to share a bed with the male...
A. 31 May 2011: HI
I think you should tell her to go and continue to lay in the bed with him, and move on. If my man said I had to sleep in the bed with a women, I would wear his balls as a hat .......trust me she is playing you for a fool. Find a REAL wom... (read in full...)
I can't figure out if he cheated on me or if he got this girl pregnant before we got together, and now the baby's mom wants to fight me!
Q. Okay my boyfriend and I have been dating going on a year in two months. I was going threw his phone to prove him wrong about a text that I sent him, this was back in October. We were just playing around like always and I found a text stating "I love ...
A. 31 May 2011: HI
this so called man clearly has his loins at heart here. He is only interested in what he can get. and I suggest before he knocks you up to run and fast. Why would you honestly want to stay with a pathetic excuse of a man when he only wan... (read in full...)
I was hanging out with my friends, feeling happy, and then out of NOWHERE, my mood shifted and I was depressed. What could this be?
Q. Please please please any help will do! Can anyone make sense of this and tell me what the hell happened with me the other night and why this may of happened!?! I'd really appreciate it! I was out on a night with a big group of friends both guy...
A. 31 May 2011: HI
did you consume an alcohol? sometimes this can have a different affect on people. If not then maybe you need to consult a Dr, you could have bipolar disorder. Which I know may sound shocking, but can be treated properly. Mnay people suffer w... (read in full...)
I'm torn between my ex and my friend!
Q. My ex is back. He is 26 and I'm 16.I love him. During our break-up I met one guy online. He is really good. He is 23. After my break-up I was depressed he helped me to get over him. But He is addicted to sex. And He love some other girl,He never to...
A. 31 May 2011: HI
yes just be straight with him. just say it's over!! be strong...you being tall is not a dis advantage in life at all... it's an ADVANTAGE but you cant see it. when you start to realise that you will be in a better place than you are. Do ... (read in full...)
I really dislike my boyfriend doing these chats on this site!
Q. Ever heard of a website called blog tv? for those who haven't, its a website where you broadcast yourself live and anyone can come watch and chat to you. Well lately my boyfriend of two years has been doing broadcasts and i thought nothing of it, ...
A. 29 May 2011: HI
That is such a shame, and a let down. Well his not going to like it, but your going to have to confront him on this, if he is intending on sleeping with this girl, It maybe his just saying all this to her to get her to stay on the site wit... (read in full...)
I really dislike my boyfriend doing these chats on this site!
Q. Ever heard of a website called blog tv? for those who haven't, its a website where you broadcast yourself live and anyone can come watch and chat to you. Well lately my boyfriend of two years has been doing broadcasts and i thought nothing of it, ...
A. 28 May 2011: HI your BF is on a ego trip, he loves and craves the attention. But your right I dont think you have anything to worry about, his asked you to join in, maybe you should, so these women can see he is quite happy with you, and is only on there to make... (read in full...)
Should I continue trying to be his friend? Also admit I have feelings for him?
Q. Sorry this is a bit complicated: Back in January I met a guy through a friend,Lora, I didn't think much of him at first but then really got interested. We flirted for about two months before our first date; he took me out on my birthday while m...
A. 25 May 2011: Hi
I wouldn't tell him your feelings just yet. Just continue to be freinds if you can for now. He was obviously hurt by his ex, and when he first got with you it probally scared him, as he dont wont to feel that pain again. My guess is his f... (read in full...)
I'm torn between my ex and my friend!
Q. My ex is back. He is 26 and I'm 16.I love him. During our break-up I met one guy online. He is really good. He is 23. After my break-up I was depressed he helped me to get over him. But He is addicted to sex. And He love some other girl,He never to...
A. 25 May 2011: Hi
I would suggest you date neither of them. They are both players, your just falling for their charm, because you dont like to be alone.You would rather have someone than no one...For starters no man of 26 is interested in a 16yr old oth... (read in full...)
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