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writes:i have been keeping contact and sleeping with my ex for more 18months since we broke off. we love each other very much. however i have to broke off with him due to his unstable financial situation and his too controlling behaviour. i still sleep with him but maybe once a month to keep him by my side. About 4 months ago, i found a great new bf. he is very nice to me, good career, good income and make me feel secure but my heart still feel for my ex. My ex and i have been together for 7 years. it is really difficult to just delete someone off after so long together. The worst is I have to lie to both of them in order to have love and money. i feel miserable. i really hate myself for being selfish. i really need to make a decision between love and money.
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reader, freeme  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 You need to make a choice this week. I don't think its fair of you to date the stable guy at all. You are lying to him and he deserves better.
Your ex deserves to know where he stands.
You need to make a decision, and remove the other person from your life *completely*.
As for which decision to make? Which one can you live with? I think your relationship with the new guy is already damaged. Maybe you need to clear them both out.
This love of yours, is he a penniless poet? There is much to be said for true love. If you decide to stay with the man you ahem, LOVE, then you should do what you can to support him, and try to accept him for who he is.
If you want more out of life, prepare to sell your soul, or find someone new you can love who is also secure. But my guess is you'll go to your grave unhappy if you base your pursuits on material gain.
Can you have your cake and eat it too? Maybe not next week. But he might be out there.
In the meantime, it isn't fair to string successful guy around for his security. Do the right thing and you'll feel more fulfilled.
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 HI
although money makes the world go around you cant take it to your grave. Where as love will always be in your heart and you take it with you. Not only are you going to end up hurting these two men when they find out, your hurting yourself more. Why not take a break from both of them for a couple of weeks, give you time to think who you realy want. And when you come to that decision stick to it and move on with your life. xx
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