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I really dislike my boyfriend doing these chats on this site!

Q. Ever heard of a website called blog tv? for those who haven't, its a website where you broadcast yourself live and anyone can come watch and chat to you. Well lately my boyfriend of two years has been doing broadcasts and i thought nothing of it, ...

A. 4 June 2011: HI Dont watse another second, you need to seriously think of the consequences here! Your very young still, Have you done a pregnacy test? because if you have and it's possitive, you will really need to tell him. Do you have a family member y... (read in full...)

Should I continue trying to be his friend? Also admit I have feelings for him?

Q. Sorry this is a bit complicated: Back in January I met a guy through a friend,Lora, I didn't think much of him at first but then really got interested. We flirted for about two months before our first date; he took me out on my birthday while m...

A. 4 June 2011: HI And that is the best thing to do here hun. He will, as you know you dont flirt with someone if you just want to stay freinds. So he is starting to feel more and more comfortable with you again, just stick with it and let him come to ... (read in full...)

I'm torn between my ex and my friend!

Q. My ex is back. He is 26 and I'm 16.I love him. During our break-up I met one guy online. He is really good. He is 23. After my break-up I was depressed he helped me to get over him. But He is addicted to sex. And He love some other girl,He never to...

A. 1 June 2011: Hi yes hun, you ARE doing the right thing , you will hurt for a while it's understandable, because you have feelings for him, but feelings better being spent on someone who will love you for who you are. Get out with freinds, keep yourself... (read in full...)

I was hanging out with my friends, feeling happy, and then out of NOWHERE, my mood shifted and I was depressed. What could this be?

Q. Please please please any help will do! Can anyone make sense of this and tell me what the hell happened with me the other night and why this may of happened!?! I'd really appreciate it! I was out on a night with a big group of friends both guy...

A. 1 June 2011: HI Im not saying you have it hun, just seek proffessional advice from a Dr, My freind of 30 yrs has bipolar, and she started just the way your discribing, but many things can cause your change of mood like that. Diet no, that would not chan... (read in full...)

I can't figure out if he cheated on me or if he got this girl pregnant before we got together, and now the baby's mom wants to fight me!

Q. Okay my boyfriend and I have been dating going on a year in two months. I was going threw his phone to prove him wrong about a text that I sent him, this was back in October. We were just playing around like always and I found a text stating "I love ...

A. 31 May 2011: HI this so called man clearly has his loins at heart here. He is only interested in what he can get. and I suggest before he knocks you up to run and fast. Why would you honestly want to stay with a pathetic excuse of a man when he only wan... (read in full...)

I want to marry one of my friends, but her response to that isn't good...

Q. Hi friends plz plz plz help me, i am in big big trouble, i've a friend and now i want her as my girl friend because i want to marry with her, she is not giving me positive reply, i want her to tell her parents about me so that i may proceed but she ...

A. 31 May 2011: HI she does not want to marry you, and you have to respect that if you want her to remain your friend. 15 years is a long freindship to waste, so dont push her into something she does not want to do, or you will loose her as a freind too. ... (read in full...)

I was hanging out with my friends, feeling happy, and then out of NOWHERE, my mood shifted and I was depressed. What could this be?

A. 31 May 2011: HI did you consume an alcohol? sometimes this can have a different affect on people. If not then maybe you need to consult a Dr, you could have bipolar disorder. Which I know may sound shocking, but can be treated properly. Mnay people suffer w... (read in full...)

I'm torn between my ex and my friend!

A. 31 May 2011: HI yes just be straight with him. just say it's over!! be strong...you being tall is not a dis advantage in life at all... it's an ADVANTAGE but you cant see it. when you start to realise that you will be in a better place than you are. Do ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??

Q. My ex called me after 8 mo or so.. saying he missed hanging out with me etc. When we were dating, he was going through a custody battle, living with his mom because he was helping her out (she had back surgery) and they fought alot. We ended on a ...

A. 30 May 2011: Yeah definately weird lol. oh well he needs to sort something out, and right now im guessing his marbles lol good for you girl, you move on and let him do his own weird thing with someone else :) x ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??

A. 30 May 2011: HI wow not really sure he even knows what he wants. Well yeah Leave him to it then. You have better things to do than wait on a man who knows not what he wants. Next time he asks you out just say, geez after last time thanks but no thanks, ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??

A. 29 May 2011: Hi maybe he felt your anxiety about meeting, and didn't want to scare you off, after all it's been a while, and as you say, feelings held for a long time can harbour underlining issues. Rather than concern yourself now, let him come to you. ... (read in full...)

Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??

A. 29 May 2011: HI I think your doing the right thing, just take it slow. people deal with stress differently, and maybe with his mum having back surgery, and probally demanding he do all sorts because she couldn't at the time, he was completey stressed out... (read in full...)

I really dislike my boyfriend doing these chats on this site!

A. 29 May 2011: HI That is such a shame, and a let down. Well his not going to like it, but your going to have to confront him on this, if he is intending on sleeping with this girl, It maybe his just saying all this to her to get her to stay on the site wit... (read in full...)

I think he's going to leave me, what do I do??

Q. What do you do when your pretty sure the love of your life is going to leave you? Im worried that im going to resort to drinking to not feal pain. hes been the love of my life for so long the only one i ever been able to count on the only one who i ...

A. 28 May 2011: HI And this is why he will go, you need to stop being dependant on him, start doing your owns things, going places without him, give him some breathing space, then he may just turn things around and stay. Turning to Drink wont take away any pain... (read in full...)

I really dislike my boyfriend doing these chats on this site!

A. 28 May 2011: HI your BF is on a ego trip, he loves and craves the attention. But your right I dont think you have anything to worry about, his asked you to join in, maybe you should, so these women can see he is quite happy with you, and is only on there to make... (read in full...)

Any tips on performing oral sex with a small tongue and a sensitive partner??

Q. so me and my gf had oral sex... i have a really short and small tongue... i can't seem to please her really well... she says her clitoris is too sensitive... when ever i try to lick it she cant take it... even if im being slow, soft , and gentle she ...

A. 28 May 2011: HI the size of your tongue is not the issue here, if she is megga sensitive there, then it's going to be a tricky one. ok well what you could try is, NOT going straight for the obvious, go all around it, slowly, gentle but not too gentle. And then... (read in full...)

Is it weird that my ex calls me after 8 months, says he misses me??

A. 28 May 2011: HI Unless you want to get back with him, I would cancel going. This man wants you back, and he really loves you still. You saying you will go will only get his hopes up, and it could end with a nasty row.I dont think it's weird no, you obvi... (read in full...)

My friends set me up! Why?

Q. My best "friends" set me up one day because I was grouchy. What they did was have one of them text me and ask if I was mad at another friend, then reported back to the other friend. I didn't expect it to go the way it did. I said, "It was really g*y ...

A. 28 May 2011: HI Why do you put up with this? your obviously lacking confidence, so you need to feel part of something and put up with it, rather than just being yourself, these girls are childish, immature, and back stabbing. You dont need to put up with ... (read in full...)

How do I put all of these feelings behind me without cutting her out?

Q. alright, long question here: ok so about 6 months ago i had told this girl whom i had been really good friends with for about 2 years that i liked her as more than a friend and she was super cool about it but she told me that she liked someone else ...

A. 28 May 2011: HI It's great you had the courage to tell her in the first place, but as she has made it clear from the start it's only freindship she wants with you, It's now going always be on her mind that you wanted more. Which will make her feel a little diff... (read in full...)

Am I allowed to get waxed?

Q. Basically, I'm a sixteen year old girl and I want to have my vagina waxed because lots of the girls I am friends with in the sixth form have had it done and their boyfriends love it, I'd probably prefer getting a wax because I'm guessing it looks ...

A. 28 May 2011: HI yes but with parental consent. How ever this is quite a drastic thing for you to be getting at your age? also its quite painful the first few times, and when it does start to grow back, you will be very very itchy down there. Why not try just gett... (read in full...)

Why does my bf want me to call him "daddy" during sex???

Q. My boyfriend wants me to start calling him 'daddy' during sex. Can anyone explain this? He says that it is really hot and something that will get him off. Why does he find this so hot? It's incest foreplay! It's disgusting! Has anyone done it? Why...

A. 28 May 2011: HI thats great news :) see everything always has a way of working itself out. Good luck with the future, xx... (read in full...)

I've lost attraction to my wife and fell for a co-worker

Q. Ok so yes I know I'm a p.o.s. I've come to grips with that. Here's my problem... My wife and I have been having problems, some pretty major, but we are dealing with those. Ive lost attraction to her, which I hate, and again I'm trying to get over...

A. 28 May 2011: chigirl p.o.s. means peice of s**t Listen to yourself now, your getting into a panic attack. Your not even giving this a shot! dont throw in the towel before even trying, If want this marriage to work, you have to at least try to. As yo... (read in full...)

Is she manipulating me? Does she want me back? Should I move on?

Q. My ex and I broke up about 3 months ago but decided to stay friends. The first big torpedo for us was me catching her sexting her ex- from long ago and hurting my trust. She begged for forgiveness and for us to stay friends; I caved because I stil...

A. 26 May 2011: HI She is totally taking advantage of you, and you know it! I wouldn't even bother saying to her about being friends with benifits, even just to see how she reacts, because you will just stoop to her level. Tell her to move on because you ... (read in full...)

My aunt has been rude to me ever since I didn't have any bridesmaids for my wedding.

Q. Hi. I got married 7 months ago and because between my husband and I have lots of nieces and cousins we decided not to have bridesmaids as I would have ended up with 11! Which we couldn't afford to do. We didn't want to choose just a few of th...

A. 26 May 2011: HI Your aunt sounds like a jealous, childish women. The next time she emails you anything like that again, IGNORE her, dont even bother to reply. So what if you didn't have bridesmaids!! it's not law, it's your choice, and I can see why you ... (read in full...)

He won't get a divorce till the property settlement. Am I being used?

Q. I have been dating a guy for 18 months. We dated over 25 years ago and have re-connected after he split from his wife. He is going through a property settlement with her (they are not divorced) and it will be long and protracted as it is worth a ...

A. 25 May 2011: HI this could be one of two things. 1) HIS TELLING THE TRUTH, AND OF COURSE HE WILL SPEND HIS MONEY ON HIS CHILD. MAKING YOU A MEAL IS MORE EFFECTIONATE THAN GOING OUT FOR ONE. INSTEAD OF THINKING WOW HIS CHEEP, WHY NOT THINK WOW HIS MAKING M... (read in full...)

He loves me. He loves me not? why is he confusing me like this?

Q. I am really confused and i dont know what to do! It 's about my ex and I. He told me he loved me and would never let me go and we dated for a while. Then he told me that he wasnt the one for me but the one who is, will be a very lucky man, and brok...

A. 25 May 2011: HI sounds like he is using you big time. when his in love with you, his not seeing anyone else, but then he see's someone else and breaks it off with you. I would tell him to get lost if he does it again xx... (read in full...)

Is my husband interested in anal or just shy?

Q. I initiated anal sex with my husband, we tried twice but could not get it right, then the third time we did, but once again I initiated it. Afterwards he said that it does'nt bug him and that he does not worry about it. I wan't to try it again but I ...

A. 25 May 2011: HI as he seems to be not so interested as you are, im guessing he does not like this. Not all men do! Some people feel that is an outty not a innie if you catch my drift? dont keep on at him about it, because it could ruin your sex life. It... (read in full...)

My insecurity and paranoia are ruining our relationship!

Q. Hi, I need some help with my insecurity. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now and I am paranoid about him cheating on me. I have never caught him with another girl, the only things are making me paranoid is that a while back i did see an ...

A. 25 May 2011: HI The important thing is , is that you recognise it's your paranoia, and jelousy that is causing problems, thats the start of getting this sorted. What you need to try first is, the next time he goes out, switch your phone off so your not... (read in full...)

Can a narcissist and a co-dependent person have a relationship that works?

Q. Hi. I am a co-dependent person. For those who do not know what this is, it is a person who feels the need to please other people in order to get his own validation. I have had treatment for this but still ahve strong codependent tendencies. Last...

A. 25 May 2011: HI basically NO.. because you will never be able to get yourself out of being co-dependant with a women who is self centered as she is. She will grind you down . You need to be with someone who knows respect, shows respect, and dont ask for ... (read in full...)

I don't find my wife attractive anymore

Q. Me and my wife have been living together for nine years and married for the last six we have two children the youngest is four years old throughout our relationship her weight and appearance has fluctuated. in the last few years I have found her ...

A. 25 May 2011: HI It's not trivial, because it's effecting your marriage. Im guessing she is feeling very depressed about her weight gain, so no matter how nicely you put it too her, in effectivly your telling her she is fat. She has lost her mojo, and sh... (read in full...)

Why doesn't he look at me when we have sex?

Q. Ok here goes. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months now going onto 3. There is one problem: when we have sex he closes his eyes, turns his head away, and bearly makes a sound besides breathing and a rare grunt or gasp. He's a really nice ...

A. 25 May 2011: Hi no I dont think his using you hun. quite a few men look away, and many men dont make noises when making love. Maybe he is shy to look you in the face, some guys get emmbarrassed by what their facial expression are like. Also when making s... (read in full...)

I made a big mistake while drunk. How do I move on?

Q. About 4 year ago, I went to a bar. I was 21 at the time, and pretty inexperienced when it came to any sort of physical interaction. I felt as though I needed to get out and see what I was 'missing'. I was sitting outside of a local bar on a patio,...

A. 25 May 2011: STOP obssessing RIGHT NOW!!!! This was 4 yrs ago, and as you said you were foolishly drunk. We all do stupid things from time to time, no one got hurt, and the important thing is you realised what you had done, and never done anything like that ... (read in full...)

My Mom and step-dad who I love to bits are breaking up, and I am falling apart. What can I do?

Q. Ok well my mam split up from my actual dad when i was very young because he was and still is an alcoholic. as i was young i never minded much because i didn't know what was going on. i still seen him every 2 weeks for a few hours. everything was ...

A. 25 May 2011: Hi Such pain your dealing with right now is awful, and right near your exams. Your mother is not being fair on you right now, I know she must be feeling hurt too, but she must understand that this man HAS been your dad for many years,an... (read in full...)

Should I pursue things and find out? Or let go?

Q. Okay so my typing will probably be terrible and im sorry but im on a cell phone and trying to go fast. theres this guy, his name will be tom. we became friends this year and slowly progressed to being best friends. i figured out i liked him more...

A. 25 May 2011: Hi just keep it the way it is for now, as great freindship is the foundation of a lasting love. Just be there for eachother, try to hang some more if you can. Suggest a movie night, your both still young, so when the time is right Im sure you... (read in full...)

I'm just not feeling it anymore with this relationship

Q. Ok so it's coming up to the 6 month Mark of my relationship, and I'm just not feeling it with her anymore. What first attracted me to her wa that she is really nice and sweet. But I think we don't have a lot in common. As time goes on I find myself ...

A. 25 May 2011: Hi I think your right here, I think it's run it's course. it's early day's in the relationship, so you should both still be on a high about it if your meant to be together. However if you want to try one last time, then tell her straight, sa... (read in full...)

Should I continue trying to be his friend? Also admit I have feelings for him?

A. 25 May 2011: Hi I wouldn't tell him your feelings just yet. Just continue to be freinds if you can for now. He was obviously hurt by his ex, and when he first got with you it probally scared him, as he dont wont to feel that pain again. My guess is his f... (read in full...)

Does he like her?

Q. Ok so My friend is wondering if this guy likes her so i am just coping what she told me so sorry if it dosn't make much sense, and if it dosn't just tell me and i will have her explain better. OK. Thank You for your answers. Here is what she said...

A. 25 May 2011: Hi He likes her .. so the point is does she like him? if so she should to tell him. If a guy is acting goofy with her even with his freinds about, he really likes her :) xx... (read in full...)

I'm torn between my ex and my friend!

A. 25 May 2011: Hi I would suggest you date neither of them. They are both players, your just falling for their charm, because you dont like to be alone.You would rather have someone than no one...For starters no man of 26 is interested in a 16yr old oth... (read in full...)

I don't want to end things when they're going so well with my current boyfriend, but I don't know if I can keep going when I can't stop thinking about my ex. Help

Q. I broke up with my boyfriend of 11 months almost a year ago. I didn't hear from him for 4 months afterwards, and then he got in contact asking how I was. I was already seeing someone else by then, who I like a lot. The problem is, we kept talk...

A. 25 May 2011: HI your ex is playing the control freak, he can see your happy, and dont like it's not with him. If you brokeup with your partner now, and things dont work out with your ex, you would be gutted you let such a great guy go. Dont let your ex ... (read in full...)

I've lost attraction to my wife and fell for a co-worker

A. 25 May 2011: Hi yes you hve got yourself in a right pickle haven't you. The reason your attracted to this women is because she reminds you of all the things you fell inlove with your for. Have you concidered marriae counciling? we all go through a st... (read in full...)

My bf thought I was asleep and started masturbating to porn. How should I deal with this?

Q. Hi new to this! But just wondering. Iv been with my boyfreind for 6months now and we live in our own flat. Everythings great etc and Yesterday we had sex during The day, and I fell asleep in bed cuddled up to my boyfriend about 1am this morning...

A. 25 May 2011: Hi He was probally still thinking about what you both did, however you fell asleep after and he was still horny, wrong move doing it next to you, I bet his feeling really embarrassed now, and dont now what to say to your reaction. But dont be ... (read in full...)

Fiance cannot stop bringing up old lovers!

Q. My fiance can not stop bringing up my past lovers and Its ruining our sex life, as well as our relationship. I am 27 years old and have been with 38 men, and I'll admit, thats a lot. I have much regret for my bad choices in lovers, and wish I ...

A. 25 May 2011: Hi are you kidding? It dont matter how many men you slept with whilst you weren't together, thats your life, and we all have our reasons, wether it was lonely, or just wanting some fun, men do it all the time, so why should women be made to feel... (read in full...)

How can I get pregnant quickly?

Q. hi i am currently trying to conceive i would like some advice on the any quick ways to get pregnant? or anything i can do to get pregnant faster? i have been with my bf for 2years and have had one misscarraige before we have been trying again for...

A. 25 May 2011: Hi The more you keep trying the more pressure you will both put on yourselves. Just relax and enjoy the fun on the way, it will happen when you least expect it to. Or you will both end up like sex robots and start to loose the passion in your ... (read in full...)

Its just not working and I want to break up but I'm afraid he'll tear up my house

Q. I am a 29 yr old black female I've have been in a relationship for a year now my boyfriend doesnt want to have sex he say's it's because he doesn't want to get me pregnant, he has to work etc. If i try to make a move he turns on his stomach wow, ...

A. 25 May 2011: Hi This man is using you, and sounds like he is getting his oats elswhere too. Of course you wont be satisfied, who would be with a few minutes sex? You would probally get more excitment from reading a book! If you fear he would smash up y... (read in full...)

How do I let him know nicely that I am not interested?

Q. this is kind of a variation on the how to let him down easy question. he's a guy i work with (which makes it even more awkward), but the problem i have is that it's really obvious that he likes me (texts regularly, buys me coffee, always suggestin...

A. 25 May 2011: Hi Do you have other male freinds? why dont you ask one of them to pick you up for lunch, and act as though your a couple, this guy will think your not available then and should leave you alone. If he still wont leave you alone, you should s... (read in full...)

Why does my bf want me to call him "daddy" during sex???

A. 15 May 2011: Hi Many men like role play in the bedroom, as do many women. I dont think it has anything to do with incest, more of a wanting to feel like a sugardaddy, and in control. However if this is not for you, and it makes you feel uncomfor... (read in full...)