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She's a lesbian, but I can't stop thinking abut her!

Q.   I had a friend she was a lesbian. We spent lots of time together and i started to get feelings for her. And i presumed she had feelings for me because she'd hold my hand, snuggle up to me... all that kind of stuff. She even went to prom with with ...

A.   27 December 2011: Hi Oh that fantastic, im so happy for you :) Have a wonderful new year. I hope your christmas was good too. x... (read in full...)

Why does my bf want me to call him "daddy" during sex???

Q.   My boyfriend wants me to start calling him 'daddy' during sex. Can anyone explain this? He says that it is really hot and something that will get him off. Why does he find this so hot? It's incest foreplay! It's disgusting! Has anyone done it? Why...

A.   28 May 2011: HI thats great news :) see everything always has a way of working itself out. Good luck with the future, xx... (read in full...)

Why does my bf want me to call him "daddy" during sex???

Q.   My boyfriend wants me to start calling him 'daddy' during sex. Can anyone explain this? He says that it is really hot and something that will get him off. Why does he find this so hot? It's incest foreplay! It's disgusting! Has anyone done it? Why...

A.   15 May 2011: Hi Many men like role play in the bedroom, as do many women. I dont think it has anything to do with incest, more of a wanting to feel like a sugardaddy, and in control. However if this is not for you, and it makes you feel uncomfor... (read in full...)

If you give good help does it feel horrible if no one likes your answers? This is for the people who answer a questions here ever please

Q.   This is a question especially for people who like answering questions here. About their relationship on screen between the people they try to help and the people who get answers. The people who answer here have so many things they know and sometime...

A.   14 May 2011: Hi Firstly I would like to say, what an interesting question to have asked :) In regards to peoples ratings on us, If they are negative it is probally due to the fact the person has not liked the reply because it maybe to close to the truth fo... (read in full...)

Am I wasting my time seeing someone for so long who can't bring himself to tell his family about me?

Q.   i've been in a relationship with my bf for 9 months. He's been living back home with his parents since a few months before we met in order for him to save money. We get on really well and laugh together alot but he hasn't mentioned me to his fami...

A.   12 May 2011: Hi I would say yes you are. When two people are in a relationship, they should be proud of eachother and WANT to show you off. it sounds to me he has something to hide. I can understand some people have issues with this, i.e parents dont agr... (read in full...)

He never makes a move! Should I chase him?

Q.   do i need to chase him? this guy im dating never made a move for approximately 4 dates in which i invited him. i did keep wondering that whenever i ask him out, if he doesnt like me, he wouldve said no but he never said no to my invites, neither ...

A.   12 May 2011: Hi Maybe he is just being honest with you, he said he dont want to rush things, and he likes to spend time with you, so these are good signs, I would test the water, by NOT texting or asking him out for a date, and I bet you he will miss not... (read in full...)

Straight Female - Transgender Male

Q.   I have been in a near perfect relationship with a Male who wants to be Female for almost three years. When we first met we had hit it off easily. He has had issues with relationships in the past (always flings) presumably because either they only ...

A.   12 May 2011: Hi I understand how difficult this must be for you, but you MUST understand he is incredibly unhappy with his body. Of course he doesn't want sex, because then he would have to use the organ he hates which tells him his still a man. You wil... (read in full...)

I'm thinking there's something wrong with me, my libido is so high!

Q.   Hi, im 21 and i thinking that its something wrong with me, im insatiable, my libido is so high. Even when i have 3 or 4 orgasm, im desire more and more, if the girl is tired or something then i turn to masturbate at least 3 time. is normal? it ...

A.   12 May 2011: Hi Your a young red blooded male, its only natural you have a wonderfully high libido, However I worry you have a slight addiction to this feeling, as your masterbating a lot as well as having sexual intercourse. Either find someone who is e... (read in full...)

If we're just friends why does he kiss me like this?

Q.   i am not sure if this guy likes me we been talking and he says that we are friends but we do kiss. he says he dont want to lead me on but than again he still kisses and flirts with me?...we both got out of relationships so we ended up talking to ...

A.   12 May 2011: Hi You need to tell this guy straight, if yuor just freinds, then no more kissing and flirting, its just playing on your emotional strings. I have male freinds, and in no way do they flirt or try to kiss me other than a peck on the cheek!! ... (read in full...)

Any advice on making my broken heart feel a little better because I feel horrible..

Q.   There was this guy i fell hard for recently. I got advice from a lot of people that i should tell him how i felt and to go for it to see how things would go because i really thought he was interested in me (he acted like he was). For example, he ...

A.   12 May 2011: Hi If he likes you he wouldn't have walked off like that just because your phone was playing up! It sounds to me like this guy is just over his head with his own ego. Your worth more than that, and should'nt have to chase a guy. Be strong, ... (read in full...)

Will it hurt when they remove it?

Q.   I'm getting the mirena coil taken out on Thursday after months of problems with it can anyone tell me if it hurts. thank you...

A.   12 May 2011: Hi This should make no difference weather your on your monthly or not, as when A coil is removed you may very well have bleeding anyway, and this is very normal. hope this has helped... (read in full...)

Will it hurt when they remove it?

Q.   I'm getting the mirena coil taken out on Thursday after months of problems with it can anyone tell me if it hurts. thank you...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi When its removed you should feel no discomfot at all. If you do it will be very slightly, just relax and take deep breathes whilst they remove it. Its usually more emmbarrassing than discomfort :/ I hope this has helped... (read in full...)

My boyfriend called me a slag even though I lost my virginity to him!

Q.   me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 to 6 months and have a good relationship we were getting over an arguement that was his fault so i was a bit heated at him when the question about sex came up. he was being abnoxious at the fact that i l...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi Well It sounds like his very immature to me..... So what if you did or didn't have sex before him. its what you both have now that counts!!! The only reason why his so pissed now, is because he wants to know his the only one thats had yo... (read in full...)

Why would she lie to me?

Q.   Me and my girl are very happy together, we spend nearly every day together and love each other too bits. However today when she was in college she rang be by mistake when her phone was in her pocket and i listened =[ I heard her friend shout her ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi She probally felt watched! it was an innooent occurance but felt if she told you the truth you would feel otherwise! Its not a lie, its a case of not telling you so she dont hurt your feelings, as she knows you so well. She obviousl... (read in full...)

How can we be friends when I still love him?

Q.   My ex bf and I broke up about a month ago. We just recently started talking again, and now i feel so sad. We havent actually talked face to face, weve been passing notes. Well in one of those notes he told me that he still loved me and probably...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi Its because he told you how he feels that your finding it hard to move on. His moved on and you know he wont be with you again, so please dont let him make you feel this way, its called mind games!! He likes the idea of your ( perfect ... (read in full...)

What is an unexpected or creative hobby to have?

Q.   I know this is for relationships, but I have tried asking people and researching but not really had much help. I'm wanting to take up a sport but i don't know what one i could start? Like what is an interesting or fun sport to do? As well a...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi You sound like the person who wants to have it all? but sadly you cant. You can only do what YOU want to do , not what others suggest to you. I could say take up piano, or start writing novels, but unless this intersts you , you wont. Yo... (read in full...)

Any tips on courting, or letting a girl know that I'm interested in dating?

Q.   Dear Cupid, Is there still hope for my romantic life? Im already 20yrs and I still haven't had a girlfriend, let alone gone on a date. By date, I mean courted a girl. Sure I had crushes and all those but let me explain. I was a bit awkward ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi I think you are awsome :) I will tell you why...... Most guys will mess around and try all sorts before they find THE ONE. You however have put your education first, and that is a BIG plus in a girls eyes :)JUST continue to be YOU and it... (read in full...)

Advice on best hair removal creams or strips? Also to have mum understand?

Q.   Hello, This isn't really a relationship question, but I would like you guys to help me with this if you can, I think women would be more helpful for this type of question :) haha I'm going on holiday in the summer with five of my friends. and ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi Firstly it dont matter how long your letter is , as long as your get your point across angd get the help you need. :) I would reccomend you go to a salon to be waxed, you will not have to do anything then for a least a month :) and as ... (read in full...)

Pain and bleeding after sex... Is this normal?

Q.   I was on my period last week I've been off for a few days and me and my boyfriend had sex last night everything was great an this morning i had went to the bathroom an I had light pink stuff like really light pink blood. What's this mean. Is this ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi This is quite common so dont worry yourself. You have only just finished ovulating so sometimes if the sex is a bit intenese, you can release some last bit of monthly which has not come out. Or stress i.e an intense orgasam can leed you... (read in full...)

Is too much sex hurting me?

Q.   so me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and we both like to have sex meaning we do it a lot. so for the pass month of so its like a sharp pain on my left side inside of my property area. it feels like a rip. it only hurts wen we do it and ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi Have you been to the Dr about this? I could be that you have a rumbling apendix, which needs to be treated a.s.a.p DONT worry about this its just a precaustion!! It could also be that his a large guy down below and you dont have enough l... (read in full...)

Breaking up was a big mistake, how do I get her back?

Q.   hey,, i had a relationship for about 2 and a half years but broke up with her because i thought i liked someone else but i really want her back and i totally regret it. her parents and friends find that even talking to me is not to be allowed but...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi I can hardly blame her for how she feels right now, or her parents. you see someone else that sparked your curiosity and went to her. If you really do regret how you treated her then I suggest you talk to her parents first, and explain ... (read in full...)

She's a lesbian, but I can't stop thinking abut her!

Q.   I had a friend she was a lesbian. We spent lots of time together and i started to get feelings for her. And i presumed she had feelings for me because she'd hold my hand, snuggle up to me... all that kind of stuff. She even went to prom with with ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi It may be because she really knows YOU!! thats why you felt the need to be with her? Sometimes if we are feeling low, or misunderstood, we can take kindness as strong feelings, because were missing it in our life. I f she told you she dont fee... (read in full...)

Am I wrong not to want to take my husbands child on our Holiday?

Q.   A couple of years ago my husband and I went on holiday and took his child from a previous relationship with us. During the holiday my husband did absolutely nothing with the child and I ended up doing everything for him so it was no holiday for me. ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi I feel you are right to be wary, This should be a carefree holiday, after all a holiday is about relaxing. If the child is unwell, then his mother should NOT want him to travel anyway. You need to be strong about this, and tell your hus... (read in full...)

How can I bring us back to life?

Q.   Hi, I'm 15 and I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. He is pretty much perfect for me, he's lovely, caring, understanding, witty, funny etc etc etc. But recently things have been getting a bit monotonous, nothing is spontaneous or ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi You dont say weather your both sexualy active? If your not, maybe his feeling a little scared because he knows you have been together for some time, and the next step is obvious? And you also dont explain what the arguments you think you are ... (read in full...)

I think she likes me, but how can I be sure?

Q.   Ok, so basically i just want to know peoples views on whether this girl likes me or not based on stuff thats happened. I've know this girl for ages, we stopped talking and hanging out for about a year but recently we started talking again and have ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi Thing here is, if you have been a freind when she is in need, and keeping her spirits up, she is more likly to see you as just that a great freind, who she does not want to ruin that relationship with. Could you imagine for one moment, ... (read in full...)

How will I measure up in real life?

Q.   hi.. i m 24..virgin...not very low in confidence but smwhat it does hamper me..i have met this girl and i m planning to start a relation wd her....there are some doubts i want to clear...hope this helps.. -when i MB i dont last really long..wi...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi You sound like your very sexualy intune with yourself, this is why when you masterbate you ejaculate very quickly. This does not mean it will be the same when you have sex with a women! as long as you take your time to explore eachothe... (read in full...)

I am getting anxious when we go out due to his constant looking at girls in summer clothes

Q.   I have raead a couple of problems from women whose boyfriends seem to look at women way too much when they are out together. I have just this problem. It has got to the point where I don't want to get engaged to my boyfriend because when he is ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi There is nothing wrong with looking at a beautiful, women OR man! as long as thats it. I am a straight women, but if I see a beautiful women walk past I cant help but look either, I think WOW what great legs, or OMG I wish I had an arse ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend doesn't like sex with me, please help!

Q.   My boyfriend never gives me oral but then again he never asks me to give it to him. Most guys I have been with enjoy oral and may ask for it but he never does I usually try to surprise him with some oral but he sometimes does not even get off from ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi What I get from your message is a guy that really respects women, he dont see you as some play thing, not all guys WILL like oral sex, its not because of how you taste, they just dont get off on it. Why do women expect all men to like thi... (read in full...)

I need help with my girl friend. She's upset. I don't want to lose her. What should I do?

Q.   ive been in a relationship for 1 year. it's been mostly a long distance relationship. im 27 she is 23. i live in one city she lives 5 hours away in another city. we use to live together 8 months ago but she kicked me out for having a big fight with ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi Its such a shame when two people love eachother they argue over the silliest things. I would advise you NOT to go to this party, give her some space, cause if you keep doing all the chasing and running after her, it will push her away. Gi... (read in full...)

Is he trying to get revenge after I had sex with someone else? Or does he just not care about me?

Q.   I've had a relationship with a guy for about a year and a half now, we have never actually called each other " boyfriend, girlfriend" but when him and I are on good terms, he doesn't mess with other girls and I don't mess with other guys. We have ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi firstly I would like to say please dont continue this tic for tac by sleeing with someone else, just to prove a point, because from what I am reading so far you both have some more growing up to do. He may very well be scared of commitme... (read in full...)

Why doesn't my girlfriend show her feelings to me so much?

Q.   my gf and i have been together for a while now and she means my life to me shes the girl of my dreams i never even thought i would have chances with her. well i did and im perfectly happy with her, but some times i wish she would show her feelings...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi Sometimes girls dont over show their feelings in case they push you away, and you say she really loves you, she may be holding back a little so she dont scare you off. Have you spoken to her about this? Maybe you could give a little hint , l... (read in full...)

My girlfriend says she loves me but she has feelings for someone else, what do I do?

Q.   Hi there, well me and my girlfriend have being going out for over 8 months now and there is a 2 year age gap, but it doesnt make a difference to be honest. I thought everything was going alright, then i found out that she still has feelings for this ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi I would just ask her straight if she would rather be with this other boy, if she says yes, then all you can do is move on and learn from this experience. If she says no, then tell her how upset this is making you feel, and that your not... (read in full...)

Do you think my married friend has feelings for me?

Q.   I have a friend that is having a hard time in his marriage. We always talk on the phone; but it has gotten to the point where he talking to me while she is at home also. Today, we were talking about his children when he said, ''In another lifetime, ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi It sounds like you have been a great freind to him, and you have helped him through tuff times, But he may have taken that for you wanting more from him, and has said this to see if you have feelings for him too. either way I wouldn't... (read in full...)

Things feeling different between my boyfriend and I

Q.   Okay im 29 weeks pregnant. and her latley i have been feeling like my boyfriend is cheating on me.im not sure if it's hormones or what it is. but sometimes i get a gut feeling and then i feel like im gonna drop down and cry i know it probably...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi It sounds to me like your hormones are all over the place. And its no wonder you are feeling like this, I dont think he is cheating, I think his probally nervous about being a parent just as much as you are. Maybe he does have somethin... (read in full...)

My wife is cheating and I don't know what to do, please help!

Q.   i been marry for 18 years with my wife we have 3 kids and she cheated on me with some guy about 3 years ago the in November last year i seen her texting some one she got nervous and hid her cell phone so later that day i found it and was checking ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi Im sorry you had this happen to you. But if your wife has cheated so many times I feel maybe she always will. I admire you for wanting to stay with her for the childrens sake, but in the long run they will only get more hurt by this, if... (read in full...)

Is it normal to feel sick during your period?

Q.   Is it normal to feel really nauseous during your period? I feel like I'm constantly car sick. It's awful....

A.   10 May 2011: Hi This is very common, and quite normal in many women to feel sick, headaches, back pain, stomach cramps, and in some cases upset bowel movments, how ever are you sexual active? If you have been with a boy you need to make sure its because ... (read in full...)

What did I do wrong that my parents don't trust me?

Q.   what, what I did really that bad...?.. okay I am an only doughter of four and I feel like my parents over protect me... last night I went to my x-boyfriends ( were trining to work things out and take it slow) house to watch a movie..(we didn'...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi Your parents only want the best for you I feel, and I must agree, I have a 17yr old daughter and I would not like for her to be standing on the street with a boy at that time of night, Not because I dont trust her, but because the world is... (read in full...)

Does my mom have cancer?

Q.   I am very upset and keep crying. My mother had blood work done and urine as well recently. She is 60 years old..they found blood in her urine..they tested again and still found blood. They did a urine culture. He said it was bacteria but not a UTI ...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi Please try not to worry yourself sick over this, I am sure it is something very treatable. Reading up symptms online is the wrong thing to do, there is so many causes for this that your bound to only read the negative's and worry more. Bl... (read in full...)

Should I enlist with the Military?

Q.   I've been looking into joining some type of reserves for law enforcement, but I hear that people in the reserves are often first to get deployed opposed to people in active duty. Is this true? I would talk to a recruiter, but I do not think they w...

A.   10 May 2011: Hi I think it sounds like a great idea, And believe it or not, talking with one of the recruiters would be the best thing. They WILL give you an honest answer because they like to give you the pro's and con's about this sort of life. Both of ... (read in full...)

I don't know how to handle the relationship he has with a female friend.

Q.   I am in a relation with a guy since last 3 years, he is very aggressive. not only with me but also to his family members, so i just accept this thing as his nature. He is having a female friend who proposed to him for marriage 3 yrs back, but he ...

A.   9 May 2011: Hi It's no wonder you feel the way you do, I would be very wary of this girl, she sounds like she doesn't care who she hurts, as long as she is the centre of attention. BUT you can can be one better than her, have you ever heard of the saying keep ... (read in full...)

I haven't built up my hopes on one person for ages but he might be changing that! Help!

Q.   I'm a teenager struggling through this annoying change everyday so if anyone is going through the same experience or already has been, please help me out here... Lately, I've been just myself and hanging around with friends, not worrying about bo...

A.   9 May 2011: Hi There The best thing you can do is continue to be yourself around him, A lot of boys and girls call each other 'babe', and 'I love you loads' most of the time its just a friendly thing. But if you are starting to have feelings for him now you ... (read in full...)

My former friend and co-worker has totally blanked me and I don't know what to do about it!

Q.   up until this week i was close friends with a guy at work we were very close and he said he viewed me as a sister. ive helped him no end, been there for him always, helped him with work money you name it. we started working on a new team togethe...

A.   9 May 2011: Hi I wonder if he felt you were over stepping the friendship by telling him who he should be friends with :/ did you become more of a mother figure rather than sister? either way I feel he is being very unfair to you, as you were only looking ... (read in full...)

Why am I dreaming about being pregnant?

Q.   I have been lately dreaming about being pregnat...... Like one dream the other night, there was something happening but we all got rushed to aN evacutaion are because tgere was bomings but i found out i was pregnat i could fell its heart beat, like ...

A.   9 May 2011: Hi To dream that you are pregnant, symbolizes an aspect of yourself or some aspect of your personal life that is growing and developing. You may not be ready to talk about it or act on it. Being pregnant in your dream may also represent the birth of... (read in full...)

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