He put pictures up on Facebook of his ex wives, am I right to be upset by this or am I over-reacting?
Q. My boyfriend has recently put a couple of photos of his ex wives on his phone, and his FB timeline. I was a bit shocked when I saw them. His explanation was that they were a part of his past and he wanted them there. I found this odd, I too have ex ...
A. 24 February 2012: HI
I find it quite strange, as it seems you both have sorted this out, and used our site to humour yourselfs, not get advice wether it be possitive or negative. Sometimes in life we hear things we dont want to hear and that is the truth. S... (read in full...)
Should I take my ex back if she ever wants to come back?
Q. So me and my ex were together for 8 wonderful years. We started dating at 14 and ended at 22. We are also eachothers first real relationship and first sex partners. I always had my group of friends but she only ever wanted to be with me. She would ...
A. 24 February 2012: HI
I think it's great you have turned your life around for the better, I know you really love this girl but I would advise you not to back . She has had a different way of seeing things now, you were her first, so she never got to ( for a b... (read in full...)
Why did she break up with me? Was it me?
Q. Im a 16 and Febuary has been terrible. My team lost the superbowl, I got a ticket, I am jobless, my grades are dropping, drinking is becoming a part of my life, and on top of all that my girlfriend just dumped me. Her name's Caitlyn. Ive always ...
A. 24 February 2012: HI
no it wasn't you , she was very upset and emotionally connected with the other guy. It looks like you were her re-bound, I know its not nice, but the minute he showed up she ran straight back into his arms. She didn't even stop to think ho... (read in full...)
I can't help but think that she is hiding the fact that its all become too much for her and she is struggling to end it
Q. Why does she blow hot and cold. She says she loves me but of late is very quick to tears. I can't help but think that she is hiding the fact that its all become too much for her and she is struggling to end it. She is supposed to be moving in with ...
A. 24 February 2012: Your very welcome :) x... (read in full...)
Can't pick between two guys that I love
Q. I'm really confused and I need someone's help I been seen two guys just recently with the new one but I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 n half years now we have been off in on.. Been throw hell and back and between this time we had two ...
A. 24 February 2012: It sounds like your mind is already set on the other guy, if your current partner does not treat you how you want to be treated, then you have your answer staring at you in the face :) BUT you MUST choose, you can not continue the way you are.
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Weird tension between me, my boyfriend and my boyfriend's brother
Q. Before I started dating my current boyfriend, I made out with his older brother at a party. My boyfriend and I have now been dating for 6 months, but any time I go to visit his family with him, his brother is there and it's incredibly awkward. It's ...
A. 24 February 2012: HI
If you think talking to his brother is going to help I cant see the harm in it, however it may be because his brother came out of the closet so to speak that your ego was a little bruised, so its possible you have a curious fasinati... (read in full...)
I just want to know, to anyone who has depression due to a chemical imbalance as well as past events throughout life... does it ever go away?
Q. Hi guys.. So I found out in October 2011, that I have dysthymia disorder. I have a really hard time talking to people other than my mom (who is my bestfriend despite a lot of shit she put me through when I was a child) about how I'm really feeling ...
A. 24 February 2012: HI
It's no wonder why you have lost motivation, you have so much going on with your life & health. Are you going counciling? If not I would definatley seek help with a councilor for all what your going through. Self harming is sadly quite co... (read in full...)
What is the most romantic way to win over an ex who is dating someone else?
Q. 5 days ago I dumped my girlfriend that I have had for 6 months. I wanted to be single and I honestly think about my ex a lot. I love her still but she is with another man. It stinks, to say the least. So after the break up I see my ex's tumblr f...
A. 24 February 2012: HI
It could be she is on the rebound, so using this guy to make you jealous....However I agree with aunty bimbim, neither of you seem mature enough for a long lasting relationship yet. You DUMPED her after 6 months because you wanted to be si... (read in full...)
My girlfriend of 2.5 years told me she isn't really attracted to me anymore. Should I just give up and realize it's over?
Q. My girlfriend of 2.5 years told me she isn't really attracted to me anymore. We have a 22 month old son together. In the beginning, we were inseparable but not so much anymore. She has gained a lot of weight since the baby as have I and we're both ...
A. 24 February 2012: HI
No dont give up just yet, You say you have a 22 month old, that in it's self is prabably putting a strain on things, could she be suffering with post-natal depression? Also you say you have both gained weight and not happy about this, Wh... (read in full...)
Can't pick between two guys that I love
Q. I'm really confused and I need someone's help I been seen two guys just recently with the new one but I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 n half years now we have been off in on.. Been throw hell and back and between this time we had two ...
A. 24 February 2012: Only you can make that choice, I can only offer you advice as from what you have written. Only you know what is in your heart, all I will say is who would you miss the most if you never saw them again?
Mandy x... (read in full...)
I can't help but think that she is hiding the fact that its all become too much for her and she is struggling to end it
Q. Why does she blow hot and cold. She says she loves me but of late is very quick to tears. I can't help but think that she is hiding the fact that its all become too much for her and she is struggling to end it. She is supposed to be moving in with ...
A. 24 February 2012: HI
so maybe all she needed then was a firmer but fair reassurance that your not going to be the same. I hope this continues to get progressively better for you both. I would add though also try to be YOURSELF now she has been informed of your ... (read in full...)
Why does he stare into my eyes deeply?
Q. Hi everyone, i would be glad if i get answers to my question. There is this guy who i kn he likes me but i dont kn if he loves me. What i dont understand is whenever we are chatting, he keeps on touching my hands sofly and gently and gets very close ...
A. 24 February 2012: HI
I think his is very much inlove with you, Im not sure about the marriage bit as you are both still very young, but who you knows maybe one day will :) But he definatley loves you, thats for sure :)
Mandy x... (read in full...)
I can't accept my friends faults and focus on her good points anymore
Q. my bestfriend and i have always got along really well until recently. she's a stronger personality than me and i've always just accepted that normally. until now. my whole year is going through a period of stress at the moment because of exams etc ...
A. 24 February 2012: HI
I know she's a friend but she sounds very self centered and shallow to me, if she puts people down, and bigs herself up it's because she lacks self confidence, but there is only so much you can take. I would pull her up on it, after all I wo... (read in full...)
I knew he was a jerk before I met him but why does it hurt so much that he has moved on?
Q. I feel so insecure like never b4. Please help. Before I met this guy I was confident. I met him 2 years ago on a chatline. We instantly connected. It took us a while to finally meet n person because he was emotionally and verbal abusive to me. So I ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
As horrible as this is im afraid he used you for sex, now he got it his moved on to the next poor girl, your not the first or the last girl who has fallen for this kind of guy. His a complete arsehole who gives good men a bad name, put this... (read in full...)
Can't pick between two guys that I love
Q. I'm really confused and I need someone's help I been seen two guys just recently with the new one but I have been with my boyfriend for about 4 n half years now we have been off in on.. Been throw hell and back and between this time we had two ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
I would stop all contact with this other guy and make a real go at your relationship with the childrens father. Why spoil a happy family over the frill and lust for another guy, because thats all it is lust, you have been in a on off relat... (read in full...)
How can I make him see that I've changed since then and that I am the right choice?
Q. ModNote: The OP has implied that this question could have more detail added - the OP is welcome to add that details as follow ups to this question, herein, to assist others to answer this question. The reason for him not liking me was mostly m...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
I would try to be his friend again first, maybe write him a letter apologising for the confusion, and if have upset him, and if he dont want to be more than friends you would rather that then not be speaking as you miss his company.If h... (read in full...)
Are there any health risks in swallowing cum?
Q. dear cupid, are there any health risks involved with swallowing cum? please don't mention std's, because i already know that they're a risk factor, buuut i also know for a fact that the guys i've given oral sex to don't have anything. soo, o...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
Semen is full of protein, minerals (zinc Calcium), some fructose sugars and other nutrients. It has few calories, and is perfectly safe to swallow if it has no disease or germs. So enjoy :)
Mandy x
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Why would my partner need a second sperm test?
Q. Can anyone please give me some advice, my partner and i have been trying for a baby for 1 year now, with no luck. My partner has had a sperm test but has been told he needs to do a second one, does anyone know why this might be. My partner is away ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
The semen sample must be kept at room temperature, and the container must be spotlessly clean. If the sample spills or leaks out, the test is invalid and needs to be repeated. Except for liquid paraffin, no other lubricant should be used dur... (read in full...)
Girlfriend has jealousy/insecurity issues as well as personal issues. I want out but am afraid.
Q. I want to break up with my girlfriend of nearly three years. We live together with her parents, and we are supposed to move into a new place on Thursday. I am not happy in our relationship because she is jealous and spiteful of me. Whenever I ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
staying with her just because you fear she may do something to hurt herself is not a good reason to stay. You cant live your life walking on eggshells. I suggest you have a real good talk with her before you go ahead and move in with her... (read in full...)
Why can't I get this guy out of my head? Help!
Q. A mutual attraction developed between a man I used to work with. I left the company. He was one of the bosses. It has been nearly two years and I can not get him out of my head. I am continuously dreaming about him. It is as if my subconscious ...
A. 23 February 2012: Ok, then why not give him a call this weekend, see if his busy or not. Maybe go over about him being your mentor over a meal, keep it freindly and see were this leads you both?
Mandy x... (read in full...)
B/f talks to too many girls on facebook and its starting to drive me crazy
Q. my boyfriend talks to lots of girls on facebook who are "old friends" as he says. i'm normally not a jealous person but this is starting to bug me as its in excess of 10 different girls, and the "chats" are quite overly friendly. they say things ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
I think your being a little bit over jealous here. Everyone I know has lots of girls and boys on their FB, freinds from school, freinds of freinds, general chit chat, the old " yeah we should meet up sometime", Which 9 times out of 10 never... (read in full...)
Is an emotional affair like texts, emails not cheating and more like porn?
Q. I am right now very numb... Two days ago I woke up and was going to paint getting ready for my long term bf to finally move in. He had slept over and left his iPad. I was looking at the furniture that we had been looking at the night before on it ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
what a croc of s**t...he got caught out and his playing the therapy card! This is a form of cheating, NOTHING like porn. I wouldn't watse another minute with him. Lucky you found out before you went through with decorating and moving i... (read in full...)
Wife and I haven't had sex in a year, she says go somewhere else
Q. My wife and I have not had sex in almost a year now and I do not know what's wrong. I try to talk to her about it but can't get any straight answers. She says she still loves me but that I should go find someone else who will not only love me but ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
Do you know if she is going through the menapause?
Sometimes when the hormones are playing up it can make you feel really depressed, and the last thing on your mind is sex. It dont mean she doesn't love you any less, she probably fee... (read in full...)
Why can't I get this guy out of my head? Help!
Q. A mutual attraction developed between a man I used to work with. I left the company. He was one of the bosses. It has been nearly two years and I can not get him out of my head. I am continuously dreaming about him. It is as if my subconscious ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
I think it's a case of out of sight out of mind with him, his probably flirting with someone else now,As for your dreams,if your thinking about him alot, your eventually going start dreaming about him, like if you watch a horror movie, t... (read in full...)
I can not talk about how I feel about him to him, he does not want to hear about it.
Q. The father of my baby says we are only friends, but everyone arounds us says we are more than friends. I do not know if he really interested or if he is trying to take it slow funny cause I am pregnant I know; by him . In the beginning he told me he ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
his playing mind games,his got you pregnant, now he dont want the responsability of it all. He is only trying to keep you sweet so when ever he fancy's a bit of sex you will give that to him. how far gone in the pregnancy are you? and are ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends MOM and BRO - are taking drugs and it's effecting our life
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for about five years. We handle everything as if we are married, and yes that has been something we have talked over... I have very humble and quiet personality, my boyfriend is the opposite, but I like to think we...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
he is obviously going to stand his ground on this subject, which is so sad because he dont really understand fully how this is slowly spoiling his own life with you.
He is definately stubourn! how is his reaction to your firmness on ... (read in full...)
Will asking about his past open a can of worms?
Q. Hi there, I've been in a relationship for 6+ months, and all is going well. We are happy. We never talk about past relationships, we are both quite guarded people and are slowly opening up more over time. He has a lot of female friends. Which h...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
try not to over think here, because if you do you may never have that lasting relationship. I agree dont completely let your guard down, not just yet, but dont stop yourself from continuing your happy so far relationship either. untill you have... (read in full...)
We are so different but I have a huge crush on him! How do I get the courage to talk to him?
Q. hey everyone I really need help,there is this guy in my school, he's soooo cute and adorable, i dont really know him that much i just see him around the hallway and in gym class but not in the same class. he's white and i'm black (weird right), ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
your never going to know unless you make some kind of a move towards him. I dont think it's at all weird that your Black and his white, its what's inside that counts. i know it will be hard if you have low self esteam BUT why dont you try... (read in full...)
Should I arrange to see her again?
Q. I met a girl just after christmas. We got on really well and we exchanged numbers. We didnt see each other for a while after that because of commitments we both had but eventually we met up. Unfortunately, one of her friends interrupted us a messed ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
I think she's probably lost interest to be honest, I would let her contact you. If after a week of nothing she still dont get intouch, Move on with your life and find a girl who is interested.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
I know he is chatting to other girls but he denies it, is he cheating on me?
Q. i love my boyfriend so much and we are mostly in on off relationship for 6months now..but for the past 2 months now we are in serious relationship than other 4months which when off on... but main problem is that i doubt him most of the time that he ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
Red Flag here....He is a serial flirt and probably a serial cheat. Unless he can assure you with evidence his not , I would tell him to jog on.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
He claims they are just friends but he has told me she is prettier than me, should he stop seeing her and stop texting her?
Q. Dear all, I am in a serious relationship for a year now. 3 years ago in 2009 I broke up with my ex and was very depressed. During that time I even had to see a councillor. And he advised me on what I should have in mind for my next bf. that year, I ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
Yes he should stop meeting her and texting her, your his girlfriend, and its you he should be going for meals with, and texting. Im not surprised you feel so low when he seems so shallow about a girls looks rather than whats inside as well ... (read in full...)
She texts me all the time but she has a bf....I find this odd. What should I do?
Q. hi guys,after 4 years i meet a highschool friend(female) in my college. she got admitted newly. i know she has a bf,when i asked her, she admits it too. she started texting me,we become close now. during our school days, we never talk to each other. ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
Sounds like she is not happy with her relationship, and finds you mentally stimulating, someone she can really talk to. I agree I dont think she should be texting you all the time like this whilst in a relationship, as this is unfair t... (read in full...)
I want to know what I might be suffering from before I see a doctor?
Q. please help me.i have small pimples or swellings on my outer and inner labia.when i sratched one,a little like fibre came out and it dried and left a scar on me.i also have developed slihgtly itchy skin and eyes.when i checkout my pants,they have a ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
Sounds like thrush, you can get an over counter tablet and cream for this, its called , Canesten Duo
but to be sure that its not an std ( if your sexualy active) Go to your Dr's. Thrush is very very common , and nothing to embarrassed ... (read in full...)
Feeling awkward when I get intimate with my boyfriend, how do I get over this and get the passion back?
Q. Hey, I need some advice on how to get over feeling awkward when I get physically intimate with my bf, please. We've been togther 16 months and are now talking about moving in with each other. At first, our sex life was amazing....lots of lust! ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
I think you have both got into a routine,so the fun side of things has got a little stagnant...If it were me ( as everything else is great ) I would spice things up a little, make it fun not serious, something like.....waiting for him to c... (read in full...)
I am jealous about my guy's other children!
Q. That's a long story but will try and make it plain and easy... I was in a relationship with a guy for 8 years and although I did not plan to have kids to him I always thought that I would end up admitting it was the best thing because that baby ...
A. 23 February 2012: Your very welcome.
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Is this a problem? Or is it normal?
Q. so i've been reading alot of questions on here, and have only just realised i have a problem of my own. i am sexually active(safely), and everytime i have sex, if we are in missionary position or i'm on top, it feels good don't get me wrong, i...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
This is normal, actually that need to pee feeling is more than likly an orgasam about to happen, which in many cases causes the women to ejaculate. This is an extremely powerful orgasam that will give you the ultimate feeling for atleast ... (read in full...)
Do I give my ex yet another chance for my little girl's sake? Or do I move on?
Q. hi again... i seriously need advice. i come out of serious relationship of 4 years, 3 n half months ago, my ex is a recovering alcoholic, we have a little girl. he is desperate to get back with me and he is going to this council session every week ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
I think it's great he is taking his life more seriously now, and getting help, but as far as a reconciliation goes, I dont think it would be a good idea. Being in recovery is a long healing process, and there will be many issues for him stil... (read in full...)
I am jealous about my guy's other children!
Q. That's a long story but will try and make it plain and easy... I was in a relationship with a guy for 8 years and although I did not plan to have kids to him I always thought that I would end up admitting it was the best thing because that baby ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
I dont think you should worry yourself too much about this, He is with you, and you have a beautiful child together, his probably trying to balance his love btween them all and finding it hard. It will settle down and get into a ood routine ... (read in full...)
Starcrossed lovers with a disapproving family....what can we do to ensure we stay together?
Q. This is like a Romeo and Juliet kinda situation.... Ok, so basically me and my gf have been going out secretly for a year and a bit. It's a long distance thing, we live an hour away. This is all secret. However, recently her elder brother confisca...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
you are not a child any more and neither is she. You live in England were you can leave home at 16! if you both are so much inlove with eachother, it's time to proove it to yourselfs. be a man and visit her family and stand up for your lov... (read in full...)
He can handle longer sessions.....so what am I doing wrong when he finishes quickly?
Q. Not really sure how to ask this.... sometimes my boyfriend will cum two or three times in a row and we can usually go at it for like an hour. othertimes it only last like 10 minutes. am i doing something wrong when its only 10 minutes? his body can...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
sometimes things get heated up quicker, you probably turned him on so much that he couldn't hold back any longer. And sometimes having a quicky is more pleasurable than taking hours. I dont think your doing anything wrong, quite the opposite... (read in full...)
I gave him oral sex on the 4th date and now he has stopped contacting me, are my fears of him never contacting me again correct?
Q. I know that getting physical too soon especially if you are just dating and the guy is not your boyfriend is not the best way to go. However, I have been on 4 dates with this guy and on the fourth date gave him oral sex. I said some stuff that may ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
HHmm well it was a little too soon for that kind of activity, BUT if you felt right about it at the time who is anyone to judge. Give him a little time, there may be a perfectly good reason as to why his not been intouch.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
He put pictures up on Facebook of his ex wives, am I right to be upset by this or am I over-reacting?
Q. My boyfriend has recently put a couple of photos of his ex wives on his phone, and his FB timeline. I was a bit shocked when I saw them. His explanation was that they were a part of his past and he wanted them there. I found this odd, I too have ex ...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
the fact that they have JUST gone on there, and his been blatant and rude about it suggests he still habours feelings for these women. I dont think your over reacting at all. If he wants nothing else to say about it, and say's it's your pro... (read in full...)
I am jealous about my guy's other children!
Q. That's a long story but will try and make it plain and easy... I was in a relationship with a guy for 8 years and although I did not plan to have kids to him I always thought that I would end up admitting it was the best thing because that baby ...
A. 22 February 2012: HI
no your not a bad person your only human, your bound to feel a little jealous at times, but they were here first so his going to have more of a bond with them, in time as your child starts to grow he will also get a very strong bond with tha... (read in full...)
I can't help but think that she is hiding the fact that its all become too much for her and she is struggling to end it
Q. Why does she blow hot and cold. She says she loves me but of late is very quick to tears. I can't help but think that she is hiding the fact that its all become too much for her and she is struggling to end it. She is supposed to be moving in with ...
A. 22 February 2012: HI
please dont end it with her, she is obviously very scared of a repeat of the last relationship. Its not just her she is thinking about its her child too. just be there for her, let her know what ever she decides you still love her and that... (read in full...)
Will asking about his past open a can of worms?
Q. Hi there, I've been in a relationship for 6+ months, and all is going well. We are happy. We never talk about past relationships, we are both quite guarded people and are slowly opening up more over time. He has a lot of female friends. Which h...
A. 22 February 2012: HI
the love you both share is obviously getting stronger, so now thoughts of him and his past relatonshions are eating up at you, this is natural, and yes I can see how you may wonder about it, if his often going out with his single girl/fri... (read in full...)
Will asking about his past open a can of worms?
Q. Hi there, I've been in a relationship for 6+ months, and all is going well. We are happy. We never talk about past relationships, we are both quite guarded people and are slowly opening up more over time. He has a lot of female friends. Which h...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
I would just continue the way you are, if its not broke dont fix it!!!! if he had anything to hide he would not introduce you to them, and they warmed to you, which suggests there is nothing going on. maybe he dont want the same old same old... (read in full...)
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