Will asking about his past open a can of worms?
Q. Hi there, I've been in a relationship for 6+ months, and all is going well. We are happy. We never talk about past relationships, we are both quite guarded people and are slowly opening up more over time. He has a lot of female friends. Which h...
A. 23 February 2012: HI
try not to over think here, because if you do you may never have that lasting relationship. I agree dont completely let your guard down, not just yet, but dont stop yourself from continuing your happy so far relationship either. untill you have... (read in full...)
Will asking about his past open a can of worms?
Q. Hi there, I've been in a relationship for 6+ months, and all is going well. We are happy. We never talk about past relationships, we are both quite guarded people and are slowly opening up more over time. He has a lot of female friends. Which h...
A. 22 February 2012: HI
the love you both share is obviously getting stronger, so now thoughts of him and his past relatonshions are eating up at you, this is natural, and yes I can see how you may wonder about it, if his often going out with his single girl/fri... (read in full...)
I know he is not having an affair, but I don't understand what is going on
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship for just over four years now , I have been engaged and split , married and divorced with 2 kids one of them leaving home in sept for universaty my other son suffers from ADHD and autism . My partners sons to his ...
A. 22 February 2012: HI
I hear you, but you have to look at the bigger picture here, if your prepared to PUT up with this because his your first true love, then your life is never going to change, his set in his ways and made it obvious that if you want to leav... (read in full...)
My husband seems to be more interested in other activities that take him / his time away from me
Q. I've been married for almost eight years. We've had ups and downs but not quite like the down we are going through now. My husband seems to be more interested in other activities that take him / his time away from me. I do not think hes cheating as ...
A. 22 February 2012: thats what im talking about :D
keep us posted, and have fun, you deserve it.!!
Mandy x... (read in full...)
How to deal with my son's inappropriate actions?
Q. Normally I am a very proud father who tries to stay out of my grown kids business but after a recent family vacation / wedding I am disappointed in my sons actions. My son Ryan is 23 yrs old and has been dating his gf Jill (20) for alittle over a ...
A. 22 February 2012: HI
Im so glad you spoke face to face with your son, it's always better this way, as you say you cant see his reaction on the phone. im really pleased you have sorted this out now. Hope your next family get together is fantastic.
Mandy x... (read in full...)
My husband seems to be more interested in other activities that take him / his time away from me
Q. I've been married for almost eight years. We've had ups and downs but not quite like the down we are going through now. My husband seems to be more interested in other activities that take him / his time away from me. I do not think hes cheating as ...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
you say you used to go out with a girlfriend , but now your not because your still thinking about him and that your fear his enjoying the time your not there.......you have got to try and get a grip on this ( not trying to be mean ) :( try a... (read in full...)
How to deal with my son's inappropriate actions?
Q. Normally I am a very proud father who tries to stay out of my grown kids business but after a recent family vacation / wedding I am disappointed in my sons actions. My son Ryan is 23 yrs old and has been dating his gf Jill (20) for alittle over a ...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
yes I think thats best, give him a call and talk this through, it's easy for people who have not been in this situation to jump down your throat as to what your duties are as a father, but unless they have been in your shoes they really s... (read in full...)
I know he is not having an affair, but I don't understand what is going on
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship for just over four years now , I have been engaged and split , married and divorced with 2 kids one of them leaving home in sept for universaty my other son suffers from ADHD and autism . My partners sons to his ...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
Ok I am clearer now on this situation, and can fully understand why your feeling the way you are. I think I would feel the same in this circumstances. Its been four years and still not much of a move forward. I personally would sit him down... (read in full...)
Why am I having so much trouble dating?
Q. Hi I'm 16 and for some odd reason I can't get a girlfriend I have good grades I'm not a nerd I play football I try asking them out and the always say "no" or "I'm not ready" then like a few weeks later there dateing someone else and or if they are ...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
sorry to hear your having a hard time :(
sometimes though we are just not everyones type, but hold on in there, because there is someone for everyone. Instead of asking a girl out, why not try to get to know her better first, find a gi... (read in full...)
My husband is taking strange vacations. Why is he acting the way he is?
Q. hello am married for going for 19 years he is working in australia for going 6 years i feel he dry to me any more i mean he does'nt talk to me, and he take vacation in the philippines some picture he bring is this picture hes girl?an why he has ...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
It dont sound good, but it could be innocent....however from what your saying it sounds like your husband is soiling his oats. ( having an affair) or haing flings. I would ask him straight what is going on, because if your having great do... (read in full...)
Will asking about his past open a can of worms?
Q. Hi there, I've been in a relationship for 6+ months, and all is going well. We are happy. We never talk about past relationships, we are both quite guarded people and are slowly opening up more over time. He has a lot of female friends. Which h...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
I would just continue the way you are, if its not broke dont fix it!!!! if he had anything to hide he would not introduce you to them, and they warmed to you, which suggests there is nothing going on. maybe he dont want the same old same old... (read in full...)
Is he still interested in me?
Q. I have been talking to a guy for a week now- 7 days. He was texting a lot and then we went out on a date saturday. It went well- there were laughs and flirtation. He drove me home and we text that night and throughtout the day sunday (facebook and ...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
he is at the moment, but if you keep texting him all the time and contacting him on FB, you will push him away. Its only been a week! let him contact you first for a while, if he texts you he will feel less pressure. It comes across as too e... (read in full...)
Any kind of sexual activity leaves me exhausted, in pain, or both
Q. My current bf and I were each other's first sexual partners. In the four years since then, he's gotten skilled at making me feel amazing. Myself on the other hand, well,any kind of sexual activity leaves me exhausted, in pain, or both. Blowjo...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
well the burning in the forearm is due to being a little to vigerous, slow it down a bit and alternate the hands. as for the legs you should try doing a daily routine of bike riding and lateral thigh training to strengthen your leg power. B... (read in full...)
Is this kind of behavior inappropriate for a married man? Does it mean he is attaracted to me?
Q. Extremely confused by this older married man!? There is this man at my work who is constanly flirting with me. He is about 20 plus years older than me, I am only 22. We do not work together but cross paths a few times a week or more. I have known ...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
stay well away from this man,he is slowly worming his way into your bed, this is NOT how a married man should behave, and especially with a work colleuge. you are doing the right thing now by not allowing him to get closer. It may have bee... (read in full...)
I know he is not having an affair, but I don't understand what is going on
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship for just over four years now , I have been engaged and split , married and divorced with 2 kids one of them leaving home in sept for universaty my other son suffers from ADHD and autism . My partners sons to his ...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
sounds like his scared of commitment, but I can also see where his coming from,you dont work and have debts to pay, you both have children so he probably does not want that burden, to be honest neither would I. Have you spoke C.A.B ( citize... (read in full...)
Could my baby look like my lover?
Q. If a woman is pregnant and sleeps with another man can the baby have features of the man who is not the father?...
A. 21 February 2012: Hi
I think you need to be honest from the start here, the child can look like a partner ( but only in your eyes ) it will be what you want it to be, but if your going to base your relationship on a lie not only to your partner but to your chi... (read in full...)
How to deal with my son's inappropriate actions?
Q. Normally I am a very proud father who tries to stay out of my grown kids business but after a recent family vacation / wedding I am disappointed in my sons actions. My son Ryan is 23 yrs old and has been dating his gf Jill (20) for alittle over a ...
A. 21 February 2012: HI
im all for letting your hair down and having fun, but your son completely over stepped the mark here. You sound like a very patient man, I think I would have hit the roof there and then if that were me. He obviously can not handle his drin... (read in full...)
My husband seems to be more interested in other activities that take him / his time away from me
Q. I've been married for almost eight years. We've had ups and downs but not quite like the down we are going through now. My husband seems to be more interested in other activities that take him / his time away from me. I do not think hes cheating as ...
A. 21 February 2012: Hi
it's so sad when a marriage hits a stagnant stillness. You were both pretty young when you married, and im guessing this is maybe why he is now trying to recapture some youth, along time,other activities suggest he needs this. I dont think he i... (read in full...)
Do I tell this guy I'm pregnant?
Q. I might be pregnant. It's outside of a relationship, although we're good friends. I don't have anyone else to talk to this about and I'm freaking out. I'm two weeks late. I've already gone to the doctor and discussed everything which you could ...
A. 19 February 2012: HI
this is a rocky road your heading down. your afraid more about if this guy will sleep with you again rather than the obvious.......you could be pregnant.. yes you should defo tell him, because it took two to tango.he has a right to know. bu... (read in full...)
He says we can't date because of distance. Do I keep him as a friend?
Q. I started talking to this guy who I met on a dating site back in September. It was very casual and after a month of going back and forth with texts we finally met up for dinner. I almost did not go because we both kept canceling previous dates and I ...
A. 16 February 2012: Hi
given the way you feel, and he is saying he wants to be single, I doubt you will be able to stay fiends to be honest. You will always be feeling this way when in contact, maybe leave him be, make no contact what so ever, if he wants to be with... (read in full...)
He says we can't date because of distance. Do I keep him as a friend?
Q. I started talking to this guy who I met on a dating site back in September. It was very casual and after a month of going back and forth with texts we finally met up for dinner. I almost did not go because we both kept canceling previous dates and I ...
A. 16 February 2012: hi
then may I suggest you write him a letter as to how you are feeling. Not an email or text it's inpersonal, explain how he makes you feel when his around, as I think from his eyes you dont want nothing more than a fling every now and then. se... (read in full...)
I want to stop. How can I get over my strong desire to download porn?
Q. Hi I am a 14 year old gay teenager, and I think im addicted to porn Recently ive been watching a lot of porn and I've tried to stop several times, but I can't. I use my iPod touch to download it via app. I've deleted the app to attention to get ...
A. 15 February 2012: HI
Its natural at your age to be curious and watch these kind of movies, but to this extent as you are aware its not, you have made the first step by admitting this is a problem, now you can start your road to freeing yourself from this. I ... (read in full...)
We are married but strangers and I'm bored with him
Q. Please help me out here.I'm going through hell my husband is a very quiet kind of person he is not even romantic.while we were datin I think he a lil better compared to now wen we got married and had a baby.I dnt knw his dreams he doesn't knw ...
A. 15 February 2012: HI
Its sound like his suffering with depression, these are all signs of giving up. Sometimes when the honeymoon period is over , people tend to get into a habit or routine so to speak, but this is gone beyond that. Do you know if he takes dr... (read in full...)
He says we can't date because of distance. Do I keep him as a friend?
Q. I started talking to this guy who I met on a dating site back in September. It was very casual and after a month of going back and forth with texts we finally met up for dinner. I almost did not go because we both kept canceling previous dates and I ...
A. 14 February 2012: it sounds like to me YOUR not ready, you start seeing this guy, yet you move further away each time......what are you running from? what are you afraid of? if things are so great when your together why keep going further and further away?......I ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't anyone ever like me?
Q. Okay so valentines this year has me thinking. I never had a boyfriend ever. The guys I always like never like me they always see me as their bestfriend. I am a smart girl, I'm chubby but I look good, I sing,have a nice personality,nice style I'm ...
A. 14 February 2012: Hi hunnie
I think maybe your trying to hard to please everyone, ( without knowing ) I say this because sometimes we go about our life being a nice decent person, yet so many people cant except it, you see have you ever heard of the syin... (read in full...)
I rejected him because I was I wasn't sure what sort of relationship I wanted with him
Q. Dear agony aunts, it's valentine's day today and I gave a valentine to the guy that I rejected a few months back but really liked a lot(the thing is, I don't know what kind of way I like him!) . And he was astoundingly cold to me, as though I was ...
A. 14 February 2012: Domolovescookies took the words right out of my mouth. If your going to blow hot and cold how do you expect the poor guy to react? I suggest you work out what these feelings are before you contact him again, as no-one likes mind games.
Hap... (read in full...)
I think of him as cuddly, but I don't want to insult him
Q. I hope I dont insult ppl in the process of asking if I'm being insulting XD To the overweight community: (ja im sure ive already insulted everyone) All my life ive been really tiny... high metabolism or w/e but ive been kinda skinny... And I w...
A. 14 February 2012: LOL, most men would not find that insulting at all, but if your worried he might, then just say I feel so comfortable and safe in your big strong arms....or words to that effect. I find the words ( your not fat your healthy) more insulting lol. I ... (read in full...)
I feel it's too late for him, but I don't want to hurt him either
Q. Okay, hi everyone! :)...... Hope you can all give me some good advice, as I'm in a very confusing situation atm. I'v been with my boyfriend 3 years. We've had lots of ups and downs. Mainly downs. He can be very difficult. Jealous and controlling....
A. 14 February 2012: This is a WAKE UP CALL, the man clearly is insecure, has trust issues and probally much more goin on. He is now ( stalking) you, this is NOT exceptable, who knows what else he is capable of. I appreciate you love him, and that its always hard to ... (read in full...)
I just get turned off by his double checking the condom
Q. Hi everyone, I didnt know who else to bring this up with so thought i'd see what other people on here think... Basically my partner and I are in a very loving relationship. We both want children and plan to start trying in ...
A. 29 January 2012: Hi
Well the one good thing about this situation is that his not going to be the type of guy to get you pregnant and leave you, his just being extra safe because he wouldn't want to bring a life into this world when his clearly not ready to... (read in full...)
What is the true meaning of 'romance'?
Q. Hey everyone !! I have been confused about the true meaning of romance :\ me and my boyfriend have been together for over ten months now and are very happy together. The other day i asked my man if he like being romantic he said yes and that we ...
A. 29 January 2012: Hi
I feel romance is doing the little things for eachother, like , leaving little love notes for each other around the house, or candle lit dinners, walking hand in hand along a nice sandy beach. putting flower petals in the bath tub and ligh... (read in full...)
I like a much younger guy, and now he is flirting with me!
Q. I need advice on something. I told one of my friends that I liked a guy in our college class. The thing is that I'm 23 and he is 17...I told her I was embarrassed about it and that I couldn't help how I felt. I had to tell someone so I chose he...
A. 29 January 2012: Hi
I dont think this would be a wise situation. As you say his only 17, he is very much in his adolecent years, so the only thing thats is on his mind right now is his school, and his hormones. there would be no future in this relation... (read in full...)
I need to learn how to interact with guys
Q. Hi guys, I think the best way to describe it is.. I'm stuck! Its been this way most of my life, and the situation doesn't really change. I guess you could say I have very little to do with guys. It's not me so much that doesnt have much to do ...
A. 29 January 2012: Hi
just be yourself, dont try to be anyone else just to make a guy want to be your friend, its you they want to know the real you. next time your out and you see a guy you know of, just say hi , strike up a conversation, just dont be too girl... (read in full...)
I'm so keen to find somebody I scare them away on the first date!
Q. to get straight to the point- i get too carried away about girls on the 1st date that im left gutted when they dont want a second. I work in a very male dominated industry and all my friends are couples. i have lots of interests and am always bu...
A. 29 January 2012: Well your on the right track, you now know it's your over willingness that turns them away....
I know it's hard but you HAVE to put the whole I need someone in my life to the back of your mind, or it will be a vicious circle. Instead of going to b... (read in full...)
His friend gave him an ultimatum, me or the friend!
Q. hey, i was talking about a younger boy, in my previous question. well now his friend which is my ex, has told him that he needs to choose between me or him. does anyone know what i should do or say?...
A. 29 January 2012: nothing hun,you will see just how loyal he is when you find out. and what sort of friend makes you choose anyway, if he chooses to dump your friendship then your better off without him x... (read in full...)
How can I help my g/f when she can't tell me what is wrong?
Q. Last night I was talking to my girlfriend and she seemed kind of down. I asked her what was wrong and she kept telling me she couldn't tell me. Because she has trouble communicating because of her past relationships not being exactly successful. She ...
A. 29 January 2012: Hi
all you can do is be patient, and let her know your there for her if she ever wants to talk. And when she is ready, and not under pressure to talk she will begin to see your not like the other guys in your realtionship, and will probably... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I don't like being touched?
Q. Iam a 21 year old male and was wondering if it was normal that I don't like being touched. Every time people touch me I get really uncomfortable. Hand shakes and hugs are the exception and I don't mind any of those. I have had a couple of ...
A. 25 January 2012: Hi
to be honest theres many times i dont like to be touched, its not abnormal, or anything to be ashamed of. its almost like it grates on you and makes you feel on edge. This might be because somewhere down the line you have been really e... (read in full...)
I am on my way out the door and about to separate from my wife!
Q. This will be a long post and I would like honest comments to each point. I am on my way out the door and about to separate. I want to break down the problems so I can improve myself. I'll start with some things that have bothered my wife: -...
A. 24 January 2012: Hi
Firstly many people air their stresses in different ways, the times your wife is nice to you is when she is having a good day, and on them days realises how much she loves you,and regrets the way she puts you down, then you flip that coin and... (read in full...)
He will Will but I wont!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has told me that he has already changed his will although we are not married yet to make me a beneficiary (along with ather beneficiaries). I have a will as well (predating our relationship) but have not made him a benefici...
A. 24 January 2012: your will is YOUR WILL, wether married or not, you dont have to change or update it just because you marry. The reason why anyone makes a will is to inform the law who YOU want to benifit from your death.Also I would not tell your partner who you ... (read in full...)
I met her on FaceBook and found that I love her. But she doesn't want a bf!
Q. I know her only on fb. even though she gave me her no, I have never talk to her on phone thats cause she live is USA and I live is South Africa but her Origin is in South Africa, anyways we were best friend on facebook, one day I faced problem then ...
A. 23 January 2012: hi many people use others on fb and other sites for cash so maybe she is just being careful? dont be harsh and delete account, just continue to be friends, time will tell if your meant to be... mandy x... (read in full...)
Why would he email me after 3 months of no contact? Should I reply with this?
Q. Why would he email me after 3months of no contact? should I reply with this? ? I loved my ex boyfriend so much. Thought he was the one. But he dumped me saying he didn't want a relationship then I found out he was cheating all along. He wan...
A. 23 January 2012: hi hun i would actually say this ... if anyone has a split personality it's you, don't contact me again because i have moved on to a more mature level.... people like that are down on themselves so try to bring you down with them. i... (read in full...)
Getting my marriage back on track - please help me
Q. Dear All Helping souls, I am from a south asian country - India - and have a problem. Being a workaholic I have repeatedly given preference to my work over family and wife. (family has one 3.5 years old child and we are married for 6 years)....
A. 19 January 2012: HI
I commend you for wanting to try and change, and re-build your relationship, However I think your wife is pulling a fast one here. If this relative indeed assulted her and took pictures why would she still be talking to him, let alone go... (read in full...)
The ex and her text
Q. I feel like I go crazy every single time I see my boyfriends ex commenting on his facebook status I just wish she was not there or even in his friends. Every time I ask him to delete her, he says he is afraid it will cause drama. My thought is she ...
A. 19 January 2012: HI
sounds to me like she cant have him so no one else will....and if he was truely over her then why would he keep in contact ..is this what goes through your mind??
well STOP it now or you will only push them back together. Once someone has ... (read in full...)
How should I approach guys I'm interested in?
Q. I'm a gay senior in high school, and though it's not extremely "hard" in the sense that their are (many) homophobes, nobody else is out, to the general public at least. However, I was wondering how to approach a guy, closeted or curious, to maybe ...
A. 19 January 2012: Hi
I dont think you should ask out right, a little wouldn't harm :) just to see were the water lies so to speak. You see as you would understand many guys dont want to come out of the closet, and actually cant get really nasty if approach... (read in full...)
I need help to get my ex back, I'm so confused and a complete mess. There seriously seems to be something weird.
Q. Hi there, im in desperate need of some advice to get my ex back. I know you’ll possibly think, you deserve better, move on but believe me it doesn’t help, and this is why I’m writing here to see if anyone can help give me advice and to try and ...
A. 19 January 2012: hi
you cant win him back if he is inlove with this girl. Maybe he felt you were a little strong willed for him, like you were wearing the trousers so to speak. If you love him let him go, and if he loves you he will come back, but untill t... (read in full...)
Can rough sex cause burning?
Q. I need help.... I had sex with my boyfriend and it was kinda rough... well now when i go pee it kinda burns a little... is this normal and if it is is it just because of the roughness???/...
A. 19 January 2012: HI
rough sex will cause friction burns, and obviously when you urinate it will burn or sting, but if it still feels like this after a day or two then you should make sure its not become infected. In future explain to your man that your only hum... (read in full...)
Not sure what to make of this
Q. I may be over analyzing this but i just want a woman's perspective. Its pretty simple i asked a girl out that i met awhile ago through some friends. She said she would love to go but she is busy this week (friday i asked her to go out). She said ...
A. 19 January 2012: hhhmm thats a tricky one,
lets do lunch could be just that and nothing more, or as you say if she is a bro she could be just playing it down, trying not to come across eager. However giving your circumstances I would remain friends build that up ... (read in full...)
How to please my boyfriend orally?
Q. I used to be good at giving oral sex, but a man I was with for a long time didn't like oral sex, and as a result of not doing it for so long, I have completely lost my touch. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about six months, and I ...
A. 19 January 2012: hi
you just need to relax, dont even think about giving him oral sex. it will happen when your both ready , and then only then will you both enjoy it without even thinking about it. you have just gone a little shy from not doing it for such a l... (read in full...)
I am worried my girlfriend is not a virgin!
Q. I met this girl and I fell in love with her only to find out that she is an ex girlfriend of a my workmate.I never bothered and am now planning to marry her. We did not have sex because she claims to be virgin. Is this relationship ok? what happe...
A. 18 January 2012: Hi
well I agree with starlights here, If you dont trust her why would you want to marry her?
I think you should disscuss this with her before you do get married, because this will only stick in your brain. The poor girl dont have a chan... (read in full...)
I found dirty knickers in my husband's car
Q. I found dirty underwear in my husband car and they aren't mine I don't known what to do? Dirty females underwears in my husband car? Im confuse I don't know what to do....
A. 16 January 2012: Im sorry your husband has womens dirty knickers in the car, and you find them, he then tells you not to be nosey???? I would pack his bags for him and put them in his car, and let whom ever he is seeing deal with him. You dont deserve to be treated ... (read in full...)
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