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writes:Has somebody ever cured an obsession? I'm talking about a sexual obsession here. Before I could understand what sex really meant, I was obsessed about this one body part. Now I'm not gonna say which part because I want the answers to be independant of that information.It started since the first sexy scene in a movie and lasted til now. I'm 27 and still obsessed about a body part, so obsessed that it will depress me every month. It tends to really screw my couple life. This is not who I want to be, but sadly it is who I deeply am. Anybody ever cured a sexual fetish / obsession? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): As a young child, and well before I knew what sex or sexual arousal was, I watched an innocent animated movie and was turned on by a completely non-sexual scene. I didn't understand why I felt this way about this scene, i became obsessed with the movie, and later ashamed once i was mature enough to realize that it caused me to become sexually aroused. I didn't even know that other people shared my fetish until very recently. I have not shared my fetish with anyone, but once I realized there were other people who experienced the same state of arousal over the same subject I did, I no longer felt ashamed.We are all human. The best way to cOmbat obsession and depression over a seemingly taboo topic is to accept that you feel this way...others do share your fetish, and it isn't something that you should worry about fixing (unless it is something illegal...in which case you should seek a qualified counselor). Once you accept yourself as you are, and perhaps find a partner accepting of your fetish, the fetish lose it's power over you.Aside from the one fetish, I prefer larger men with large ears, who wear glasses and aren't conventionally beautiful. I also used to get turned on by kneecaps...Maybe the columnist Dan savage could help you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2011): Well, I will say that any sexual obsession I had where I eventually endulged, the obsession either ended or lost it's thrill. Since part of the fun of sex is to be obsessed to an extent, maybe ask if you need to "cure" it.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 June 2011):
 I have no practical or observational advice to offer, but I found you a helpful link. You have what is called a paraphilia, and if it is disrupting your normal life and not allowing you to have normal relationships then you will need to seek professional help, based on this article: http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/paraphilias-overview
I'll copy/paste the relevant QAs:
What Causes Paraphilia?
It is not known for certain what causes paraphilia. Some experts believe it is caused by a childhood trauma, such as sexual abuse. Others suggest that objects or situations can become sexually arousing if they are frequently and repeatedly associated with a pleasurable sexual activity. In most cases, the individual with a paraphilia has difficulty developing personal and sexual relationships with others.
Many paraphilias begin during adolescence and continue into adulthood. The intensity and occurrence of the fantasies associated with paraphilia vary with the individual, but usually decrease as the person ages.
How Is Paraphilia Treated?
Most cases of paraphilia are treated with counseling and therapy to help these people modify their behavior. Medications may help to decrease the compulsiveness associated with paraphilia and reduce the number of deviant sexual fantasies and behaviors. In some cases, hormones are prescribed for individuals who experience frequent occurrences of abnormal or dangerous sexual behavior. Many of these medications work by reducing the individual's sex drive.
How Successful Is Treatment for Paraphilia?
To be most effective, treatment for paraphilia must be provided on a long-term basis. Unwillingness to comply with treatment can hinder its success. It is imperative that people with paraphilias of an illegal nature receive professional help before they harm others or create legal problems for themselves.
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I hope that gets you started on the road to a healthy mental state, out of the depression that seems to be troubling you. Take care!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 June 2011):
 I don't know if there is a "cure" for a fetish. I think if you feel like it is taking over your sexlife maybe a sex therapist could help. Someone who can put the fetish of yours into perspective?
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reader, inhibited  +, writes (15 June 2011):
 I'm scratching my head as to what it could be that's so terrible. I wonder if you really should attempt to deny yourself though. Repressing something doesn't normally make people happier if you ask me. Is it worth just accepting it is a part of you and not what defines you and moving on. Is it really that terrible you couldn't find someone you can express that part of you with? Everyone has quirks. This isn't the answer you wanted but it may be a solution.
To answer your question no. In my book you can't be cured only taught to repress.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (15 June 2011):
 Hi
well unless you can discribe which body part your referring to it would be difficult to help the situation. But Im sure with knowing you have this problem and admitting it, is the begining of over coming this situation.
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (15 June 2011):
Believe me when I say that (as an example) for every man wondering why he is such a pervert because he secretly likes to rub broccoli on a woman's elbow and is desperately hoping for a 'cure', there's a woman standing in the vegetable section of a grocery store looking at the broccoli and shyly wondering if and when she can disclose her 'disgusting obsession' to an understanding male who won't be creeped out by it. You know what? You have an advantage, in a way. Because a woman who likes to have broccoli rubbed on her elbow will choose YOU over a guy who doesn't like to do it, even if you think she's out of your league. It's shared quirks that bind people together, not boring similarities. Anything you are interested in is NOT unique- you are a human being and there is no new quirk humanity is capable of- it's all been thought of thousands of years ago, and people still do and like the same odd things as our distant ancestors. If what you like doesn't actually hurt anyone unwiling, don't bother trying to lose it- go find someone to share it with you.
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