Is 19 too young to want a baby?
Q. Well.. ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and i love him more than anything. ive recently started a new job where the majority of the girls are either just married, engagaged or pregnant so all the office talk is ...
A. 28 August 2009: Hi,
Listen to your mother, she seems to be the only one thinking logically here.
You havent even moved out of home and you are talking about having babies. Good grief, change jobs and hang out with people your own age. 19 year old girls I know usu... (read in full...)
Not sure if my girlfriend was a virgin or not?
Q. I know that some girls bleed and some don't when they have sex for the first time. However before i could have sex with my girlfriend for the first time it took a while mainly because even if she was aroused i could never penetrate her, it even hurt ...
A. 28 August 2009: Hi,
at first I thought you were one of these posters complaining how their girlfriend wasnt a virgin.
But you seem genuinely concerned about her feeling the desire to lie about her sexual past.
I agree, it does sound like she was a virgin, she ... (read in full...)
We were cheating, I left my partner she hasn't left hers!
Q. We were cheating on our partners and we got caught I finished it with my partner because I felt like it was the rite thing to do. She wants me back but I only feel like I would hurt her again so I cant. She went back to him but she wont stop te...
A. 28 August 2009: Unfortunately when you play the affair game for most people the risk and the excitement of being unfaithful is mostly what its about. Once you played the "I've left my parter to be with you" card, the excitement has gone. It's no longer secret ... (read in full...)
Not happy with my b/f's action and now I'm seeing my ex
Q. I've been dating a guy i work with for almost a year, we both have 2 jobs and the time we spend together is mostly late at night when he comes over to sleep. I've been bothered for a while about him having a lot of female co-workers numbers and the ...
A. 28 August 2009: Hi,
well for a start, the only person I feel any sympathy for is your ex. He is being used by you as a backup - which you seemingly feel no guilt or remorse about.
Both you and your boyfriend are of the same kind, he's a player for sure ( the la... (read in full...)
Brother molested me as a child years ago but acts like what I remember never happened!
Q. I am 52 yrs old and was sexually molested by my brother between ages 7-8. Recently this conversation conversation came up and he told me he had never really abused me. He says that he spoke to other people and that touching me thru the sheets was ...
A. 28 August 2009: Can you tell us how old your brother was when he was doing this?... (read in full...)
We split up with the intention of getting back together, his parents now wants him to move on, I thought they like me, what gives?
Q. My longtime boyfriend and I recently decided (mutually) on a break in our relationship because there are some issues we need to resolve as individuals first if we want things to work in the long term. We agreed that if we wanted to see other people ...
A. 27 August 2009: The one thing you need to understand is it really is nothing to do with you. I'm sure they were relieved their son was dating a 'nice girl'.
But lets be realistic here, their young son splits up with his girlfriend , of course they are going to enco... (read in full...)
6 strangers, 6 one-night stands and no condoms! And yet she still shows no remorse!
Q. How would you feel if you found out the women you love had slept with 7 guys before you, but... 6 of them were one night stands in the space of 2 years, and no protection was used? What does that say about the women you love and who she used to ...
A. 27 August 2009: I agree with quiet-ech , society is embedded with men whose traditional values conflict with the women in their lives . The fact you call it promiscuous behaviour demonstrates that you will never forgive her. There are millions of faithful loyal ... (read in full...)
Was the waitress hitting on me?
Q. I was at a waterfront restaurant with my friend and our waitress gave us food and all and there was another hot girl painting kids faces for some reason idk and the waitress asked while looking at me if we would like to get our faces painted I said ...
A. 27 August 2009: Dude,
one good thing is , she wouldnt have touched you if you were a creep. So at least you have that going for you.
But you sure sound very inexperienced in that you are wondering if this is a sign.
The best way to get to know girls is to Talk t... (read in full...)
He threw me out because I don't agree with him all the time
Q. My boyfriend kicked me out of our home on sunday, leaving me heart broken and homeless. his reasons were basically to cut a long story short that i react differently to him in situations and this frustrates him, im a very emotional person. I have ...
A. 27 August 2009: To me there are two types of relationships , those with conflict and those without. You give a key indicator in your text : "I am a very emotional person". This tells me that you express these emotions over often trivial matters. For a lot of ... (read in full...)
Why do people want and desire to marry?
Q. This is not the rant of a commitment-phobic partner, it's a real and serious question. I plan on getting married. I want to and when I really think about it, I honestly have no genuine idea why. None. We've created this institution call...
A. 26 August 2009: For a lot of people marriage provides stability in their lives. It is a societal acceptance of the bond between two people.
However, I totally understand where you are coming from.
I have many friends who live in a committed relationship with chi... (read in full...)
Cheated just before we got married, and now he wants a threesome to even the score!
Q. I cheated on my husband 2 years ago a few months before we got married. I had sex with another man one time (the biggest mistake of my life). Now he wants to make me feel the same way that I made him feel back then by having a threesome this weekend ...
A. 26 August 2009: I think this is a good cautionary tale for those who are consumed by guilt and looking for the opportunity to tell their spouses of their past indiscretions.
Most don't forgive, and unfortunately for you, your spouse wants to torture you.
He is... (read in full...)
Cheated just before we got married, and now he wants a threesome to even the score!
Q. I cheated on my husband 2 years ago a few months before we got married. I had sex with another man one time (the biggest mistake of my life). Now he wants to make me feel the same way that I made him feel back then by having a threesome this weekend ...
A. 26 August 2009: I think this is a good cautionary tale for those who are consumed by guilt and looking for the opportunity to tell their spouses of their past indiscretions.
Most don't forgive, and unfortunately for you, your spouse wants to torture you.
He is... (read in full...)
I'm scared that if say the wrong thing, he'll beat me again! Please help
Q. dear cupid i've been seeing a guy for almost 3 months now , and on saturday, he beat me.. i dnt how to forget the images of when he beat , i love him and dont want to leave him, i love him too much, how do i go about getting things back to n...
A. 24 August 2009: My dear,
he has got you in a vice grip. I suggest you get ready for more beatings, especially now that he knows he can get away with it, he will do it at his leisure. Don't worry about saying something that will make him snap, he will do this for ... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any experience dating an Italian man?
Q. I am a 26 year old and dating a 29 year old Italian man. Does anyone have experience with Italians? Are the stereotypes of the men actually a reality in most cases? The relationship is not yet to a point of where I can't emotionally get ...
A. 21 August 2009: Hi ,
It has nothing to do with him being Italian.
It has all to do with him being a controlling partner. You think things will get better when he starts trusting you?
No way, things will get worse, get out now. This is only a taste of things ... (read in full...)
Why do guys like to grab girls' behind?
Q. ok so i just started dating this guy and we have talked for about a month...the other day we were talking about how far we have been (i told him i had never kissed anyone before him) and he said that he wants to wait till marrage for sex...he went ...
A. 20 August 2009: Oh dear,
because they are rather tasty?. what else can we say!... (read in full...)
How can I withhold sex until I know the guy better?
Q. hi, can anyone help?... I want to be in a relationship but whenever i try to wait for sex it doesnt work... I havent had that many but I dont know how to withold sex till I know the guy... what do I do?...
A. 20 August 2009: Gee, i never get this. I have never pressured any girlfriend into having sex. It's just rude and demeaning to them.
Who are these men you are meeting? I would suggest you change tactics , you are obviously attracting the wrong type.... (read in full...)
What does he mean "what happens in Las Vegas stays in Las Vegas"
Q. So my boyrfiend is on vacation whom is traveling all over Cali with some of his cousions, and from his social network status he wrote "what happens in vegas stays in vegas and his lips will be sealed". Now, this has made me insecure cause I know ...
A. 20 August 2009: Hi,
It's simply a saying a bunch of blokes say when they get together for a big hoopla.
The real issue here is you don't trust him. Be honest about it.
He will find out soon enough, as it will be written all over your face when you see him agai... (read in full...)
He's lying about dating sites and porn
Q. i've been with my boyf for nearly 2 years, we live together and it hasn't all been plain sailing! He had a problem with porn. not just any porn but wanting to do things with black guys (both me and him - we are white) I told him that i wasn't into ...
A. 20 August 2009: I think the problem here is a lack of communication. You have been with him for 2 years, so obviously its a serious relationship. However there appears to be little trust, it is obvious he is fulfilling a fantasy and because you are not interested ... (read in full...)
How can we strike a compromise on our religious beliefs?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for some time now, and recently, a discussion came about regarding marriage and children. First let me say, he is Catholic, I am Episcopalian. He's not extremely religious at all, but when the aforemen...
A. 20 August 2009: As a catholic I will tell you one thing, you are best of sorting this out now than when it's too late.
You are still young, you need to find out now if he is not going to budge. Because believe me he won't if he is adamant about it. And you will... (read in full...)
STD from a dog?
Q. I came home from work early and saw my girlfriend at the time uploading videos to the web. When i logged onto the PC i went to check out what she recorded. It seems my ex-girlfriend engaged is sexual acts with my German Sheppard. She literally had ...
A. 5 October 2008: I notice nobody is talking about the dog here... he has feelings too.... (read in full...)
I'm wondering what walks of life the aunts and uncles come from?
Q. Dear posters, I think its wonderful to have people from different walks of life, to be able to come here and look at others situations with a different set of eyes. its great! On to my question, I was left wondering what each and every one of you...
A. 25 September 2008: C'mon Big Sis , give us something, don't leave us hanging.
After all, you know about me ( the whole Kiwi thing with the sheep and Orcs )so its only fair you share .
... (read in full...)
I really want to buy the right costume for my hubbys birthday surprise. So guys, what really turns you on??
Q. Hi, This one is just a bit of fun really but it was something i was thinking about as i really want to buy the right costume for my hubbys birthday surprise. Ok, guys, what turns you on the most? 1.Sexy nurse 2.French Maid 3.Police Wo...
A. 23 September 2008: I consider such things an insult to my intelligence. On the other hand, if you are going to twist my arm........the French Maid.... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever had a serious relationship develop from a one-night stand?
Q. I am just curious, has anyone ever had a serious relationship leading to love after a one night stand or sex the first night you've met them? Is it possible for him to respect you after you did the deed?...
A. 19 September 2008: Hi,
I am always confused by these type of questions. It's as though we are harking back to old days where women are seen as corruptors of men . So the women who "seduces" the man is therefore a slut/whore/unworthy.
Now its true many men think li... (read in full...)
I am feeling like a FOOL!
Q. A long distance relationship for the past 8 months; how foolish! I believed and hoped; yes, I wanted to believe that all will be well and that he will come to visit as promised and arranged for the last month. However, like so many times the ...
A. 9 September 2008: Hi,
you dont give any examples of his behaviour or ask for solutions so i guess you are just venting your feelings here and not really looking for any advice.
I am most curious what you mean by 'undercover business'?... (read in full...)
She says she loves me and I'm the perfect guy for her but... she doesn't want to be my girlfriend!
Q. ok then the girl ive been seeing for months says were just friends,yet we reguarly have sex an talk about a serious relationship together.but she says she doesnt love me and wants nothing with me,yet she says im the perfect guy and if she was to get ...
A. 8 September 2008: Hi,
it sounds like she has serious trust issues, or she is hiding something from you.
It really is hard to tell, but you have to either find out what she really wants or put yourself back out there. This will eventually do your head in , if she i... (read in full...)
He's older, he likes me, but he said no. Should I wait a while and ask again, or just leave him alone?
Q. I am 18 just starting college. I met this guy in one of my classes who happened to know my sister. We had a long talk, and I found out he was 32. (to my surprise! He seemed so young.) Now he, my sister and I hang out all the time and have so much ...
A. 8 September 2008: Hi,
the age gap isnt that severe. However he may think he will have to do the pubs/clubs haging out with young people thing and decided he's a bit old for it. I'm only guessing here of course, it may be something entirely different.
But don't as... (read in full...)
He's looking for group sex - am I fair to be feeling this way?
Q. i have found out that when we split up my ex partner went on a large site looking for group sex and couple sex and he never put his sexual orientation as being straight. I thought that i had a child with a decent heterasexual man but it seems that ...
A. 8 September 2008: Hi,
while you have every right to despise your ex for his personal sexual tastes ,if he is a good father to his child you will be denying your kid the opportunity to grow up knowing his/her father. That could easily come back to haunt you in late... (read in full...)
He seems undecided about what he wants from me. Should I keep on waiting or move on?
Q. I have been with this guy for almost a year we both live in different parts of Canada. I tend to have high expectations of men, and he tends to be a workaholic and has a relaxed nature. In the beginning things were great, he called everyday...
A. 8 September 2008: Hi there,
It looks like both of you are carrying some baggage around with you and this is making a committed relationship nigh on impossible.
If he is always going to put work first, then that is something at least he is being honest about, b... (read in full...)
What can I do to increase my low sex drive?
Q. What can I do to increase my low sex drive? I'm almost positive that it's low because of psychological reason. My in-laws have become far too intrusive and my husband allows them to control all aspects of our lives. Because of this I have lost ...
A. 5 September 2008: Hi,
It is a no brainer to link your husbands acquiesence to his parents control over your marriage to your lack of sex drive.
This is not a case of he needs to be the alpha male and beat his chest in support of you, he needs to be your husband.... (read in full...)
Was I a stalker, or just a jilted person with a big crush?
Q. Ok, so I read someone else's question, and wonder am I a stalker, or just a typical crazy chick? I had a fling with this totally hot guy I worked with part time. I had, had a crush on him for over a year. when he finally asked me out I was thrilled. ...
A. 5 September 2008: Hi,
I think more a jilted person with a crush, though why you are obsessing about it now is a little confusing especially if you currently have a boyfriend.
So are you being entirely honest with us here, or was it a case of you think there was no r... (read in full...)
Have I found my true love or am I just being an idiot? I have trust issues...
Q. hi, about a month ago, i met someone, both of us are divorced, i was married for over 20 yrs to a man that was really cruel to me, and i been divorced from him for about 3 months, this other man, was also married for 13 yrs to a woman who was cruel ...
A. 3 September 2008: Hi there,
you certainly do have trust issues. I think most women would be over the moon to have a man so attentive to their needs, yet you still keep asking whether he is genuine. But this is totally understandable in your position, and you shou... (read in full...)
Is Sarah Palin a suitable candidate for VP?
Q. [Part of a DearCupid series on the forthcoming Nov 08 presidential election] Sarah Palin, John McCain's choice for vice-president, is a strict anti-abortionist, pro-guns and against sex-education. Her 17 year old daughter is now pregnant. ...
A. 3 September 2008: Hi Uncle Phil,
I lived in the U.K for 10 years under Thatcher and Major.. so I dont know about useless but I lived under the most evil and the most boring. That's your point of view Uncle Phil and now I've given you mine. This is why I hate poli... (read in full...)
He wants a baby, I think I'm still too young, what should I do?
Q. I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend for nearly 8 years now, we have a house and a dog, he is ready for kids i am not. We argued about this early this year and in the end to keep him i agreed to start trying after our holiday in september.(yes he ...
A. 1 September 2008: Hi,
the first mistake you made was agreeing to his demands without wanting to. But you cant change what you did in the past only make him understand that you felt under pressure to succumb to his demands. You need to make him understand that you ... (read in full...)
Consequences of smoking pot?
Q. I'm happy with everything in my life, I love my boy heaps. We both work full time, and we smoke pot... is this affecting us in our personality? We only smoke after work......
A. 1 September 2008: Hi,
I believe the odd joint every now and then isnt a major problem, but like any drug, daily usage will eventually affect you. Many people develop pyschological problems, lack of motivation, and a truckload of other mental and physcial prob... (read in full...)
Do people think that 25 years is too big an age gap?
Q. do people think that 25 years is too big an age gap? I am engaged to my boyfriend who is 25 years older than myself. My only problem is my mother does not approve. I just want to see what other people think as I would like to be able to see it from ...
A. 1 September 2008: Hi,
this is an age old question. True love often conquers all, but in 10 years time when you are in the prime of your life your partner will be at retirement age. These are things you really need to think about and it is natural for your pare... (read in full...)
I have a wife and two kids but I miss the relationships with men that I had before marriage!
Q. Hello to all, I am so crazy right now. I am so in love with my wife and 2 kids but my insides still have desire for men. I told my wife before we got married that I had past relationships with men but never really felt like it was the right thing....
A. 1 September 2008: Hi,
well I think you know you have been living in denial all these years. But you cant change the past now. Still to pretend you are heterosexual is to continue living a lie and denying your sexuality.
You have to weigh up the pros and cons of ... (read in full...)
How can I get more info on this teacher to aid in my fantasies?
Q. How can I find out information about my TAFE teacher in order to better enjoy my sexual fantasies? I am studying part-time at TAFE (Technical and Further Education - look it up if you don't understand) and working full-time. I am 22 years o...
A. 30 August 2008: Hi,
you cant and you shoulndnt. What you are talking about is an invasion of his privacy and your motives i have to say are very suspicious.
You can find out most of these things through simple friendly conversation. Why don't you just talk to ... (read in full...)
What advice/information do you have about a nooner?
Q. My long time boyfriend and I are interested in having a nooner. What advice/information do you have about them? Could we have it in an office or is it better to come home for it? ...
A. 28 August 2008: My dear Big Sis, once a Gooner always a Gooner, for my heart beats red. I fear yours is filled with the blood of that other red menace for which you have my deepest sympathies. I feel truy sorry for you as you have obviously been lead astray in ... (read in full...)
Sex has faded in our marriage so what is really going on?
Q. I just turned 41 and my husband just turned 37. We used to engage in sex alot but now there always seems to be something in the way. I love him to death and soetimes I just wanna give him oral pleasure just to make him happy but he rarely takes me ...
A. 27 August 2008: Hi,
It could be a number of things. He could be stressed out at work or have other personal issues he is not communicating with you - these can all affect your sex life.
Or it may simply be a case of you need to spice things up in the sex departme... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend of four years that I cheated?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years and cheated on him a few months ago. I love him dearly and cant stand the thought of loosing him over such a stupid mistake. We are now talking about finding a house as an investment property and ...
A. 26 August 2008: Hi,
I think you have two problems here. One the cheating, the other the settling down with your boyfriend.
And I believe they are both linked.
On the first point, no I dont believe you should tell your boyfriend, I always feel if the person who c... (read in full...)
Any chance I could have sex with her on the night of the reunion?
Q. My situation involves my old high school sweetheart. In jr. high school I met her and thought she was cute. We became friends and had a lot fun. In high school we dated. I went to the high school prom with her and we had a fun time. We wanted to ...
A. 24 August 2008: Hi,
seeing as sex seems to be your main concern , I doubt you have much chance at all, unless she fancies a quickie with an old high school sweetheart.
But from what you say I think your intentions lean more towards sex than a relation... (read in full...)
What advice/information do you have about a nooner?
Q. My long time boyfriend and I are interested in having a nooner. What advice/information do you have about them? Could we have it in an office or is it better to come home for it? ...
A. 24 August 2008: I'm curious , what on earth is a nooner?... (read in full...)
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