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female
age
41-50,
*vntysvn
writes:Okay, so I am a divorced mom and I know that a lot of men are turned off by women with childern, afraid of baggage or whatever. But it has been OVER A YEAR since I have gone a date. I am on match.com and a couple other dating sites, and the only guys that seem to contact me are 10-12 years younger or older than me, which I am just not into. And the ones that I do talk to, we will talk for a while then he will ask me to meet and then I won't hear anything back from them. why is this happening? Is it wrong for me to contact the guy and ask what changed? I just don't understand it. I know that when the time is right the right guy will come along, but in the mean time I would like to be meeting some so that at least when the right guy does come along I will know it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2009): I think you might look closer to home in your community. Get involved in some community activities and church and you will meet friends. Once you get to know some people put them to work to find you a date....and you probably will meet some nice single men...that you can know something about before you invest too much of your time.
You are young, there are plenty of single men in your age group, and don't narrow your field, date the guys 10-12 years younger and older ones, age is just a number and women outlive men, so keep and open mind. Some young men are mature, some aren't same for any one at any age.
Dating is a numbers game, remember that....gotta go out on some dogs to get to the gold.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (1 September 2009):
 Unfortunately I think you will find matchmaking and dating sites are full of men who are either married ( I believe it is a ridiculously high percentage) or just looking for a bit of fun. Then there are the serial commitment phobes. Men who need companionship but simply cannot bring themselves to even turn up for a date ( don't ask me to explain why they do it who knows!)You seem to be meeting these men . Perhaps you could try some other sites where friendships are more the go over the pressure of feeling you are seeking a partner. I always feel the best way to meet your match is through sharing common interests - a dating site never gives this opportunity because so many people are being so deceitful.good luck anyway.
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