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writes:I have a sexual relationship with this man. We have been seeing eachother for a while, mind you mainly just for sex. It was my birthday the other day and he did not call to say Happy Birthday. I did not expect a gift but I was expecting a phone call. Was I asking for too much? Reply to this Question |
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reader, q1605  +, writes (31 August 2009):
 And the correct answer iszzzzzz. Envelope puh-leeze...Aunty Em's. Sex only means sex only means sex only. That means you relationship is confined to the bedroom. That is the allure of fuck buddies. When one of you seeks out the other, there is none of this frivolous "wonder what he wants to do/take me/how does he feel about me crap. Your phone is ringing and the call his from him. You know he wants to fuck. You can keep it in this nice no frills package or you can drag feelings and expectations and kiss his ass good bye. Go make an issue out of a f'ing non event like a birth day and watch him leave skid marks on his way out the door.
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reader, Danielepew  + ♥, writes (31 August 2009):
 Some people would, and some wouldn't, out of fear that sending the card would make you think the relationship is more than initially offered.
Some people wouldn't send a card out of not having a heart.
If you want the card, that is because you're starting to feel used. You want to be appreciated as more than a sexual partner. Think about it.
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reader, CupidGirl826 +, writes (31 August 2009):
I agree with AuntyEm, on how he might feel it's starting to get too personal for him or seen as too much of a commitment to him to acknowledge it.
Good Luck
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (31 August 2009):
 Yes. No matter how few strings there are he should have acknowledged your birthday.
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reader, AuntyEm  + ♥, writes (31 August 2009):
 Hmm, perhaps(If indeed he does know when your birthday is)he feels that buying you a card is a little too much like taking things a step closer to a relationship. It's a tiny thing but it makes things personal...or you could just assume that he's a man, and men don't really think things like birthday cards are important!!
In a 'no strings' relationship, the minute you start to be discontented about how he treats you 'outside' of the bedroom...then it's probably time to quit. Your just having sex...he doesn't owe you anything.
Aunty Em
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (31 August 2009):
 Hi,
From what you have said he couldve at least sent you a card. I agree. But when you are in a no strings sex only relationship I wonder if he even knows when your birthday is?
If he does, it would've been nice for him to at least send you a card.
The rotter.
good luck.
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