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We have a sexual relationship only, should he at least have sent me a birthday card?

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Question - (31 August 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 31 August 2009)
A female Canada age 51-59, anonymous writes:

I have a sexual relationship with this man. We have been seeing eachother for a while, mind you mainly just for sex. It was my birthday the other day and he did not call to say Happy Birthday. I did not expect a gift but I was expecting a phone call. Was I asking for too much?

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A male reader, Danielepew Mexico +, writes (31 August 2009):

Danielepew agony auntSome people would, and some wouldn't, out of fear that sending the card would make you think the relationship is more than initially offered.

Some people wouldn't send a card out of not having a heart.

If you want the card, that is because you're starting to feel used. You want to be appreciated as more than a sexual partner. Think about it.

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A female reader, CupidGirl826 United States +, writes (31 August 2009):

I agree with AuntyEm, on how he might feel it's starting to get too personal for him or seen as too much of a commitment to him to acknowledge it.

Good Luck

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A male reader, baddogbj China +, writes (31 August 2009):

baddogbj agony auntYes. No matter how few strings there are he should have acknowledged your birthday.

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A female reader, AuntyEm United Kingdom +, writes (31 August 2009):

AuntyEm agony auntHmm, perhaps(If indeed he does know when your birthday is)he feels that buying you a card is a little too much like taking things a step closer to a relationship. It's a tiny thing but it makes things personal...or you could just assume that he's a man, and men don't really think things like birthday cards are important!!

In a 'no strings' relationship, the minute you start to be discontented about how he treats you 'outside' of the bedroom...then it's probably time to quit. Your just having sex...he doesn't owe you anything.

Aunty Em

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A male reader, Collaroy Australia +, writes (31 August 2009):

Collaroy agony auntHi,

From what you have said he couldve at least sent you a card. I agree. But when you are in a no strings sex only relationship I wonder if he even knows when your birthday is?

If he does, it would've been nice for him to at least send you a card.

The rotter.

good luck.

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