I cheated - is there any way to fix this?
Q. So I've been dating my boyfriend that's about 8 years older than me for over two years now. For the last six months or so, I feel like our relationship has been quite stale and stagnate. I have learned to accept this because he is in his 30s and I'm ...
A. 19 February 2014: “At first, it didn't bother me because I really enjoyed myself but now,” Alcohol or not, it would have happened eventually. The alcohol just made it happen sooner, because you wanted to do it. You would have felt guilty the moment you sobered u... (read in full...)
I'm affectionate when drunk but not so much when sober. Is this guy just confused by my behavior?
Q. Hey guys this guy I've been dating told me he is completely besotted by me. What does this mean? I feel like the next day he was distant and cold, he kept saying I clearly didn't want him there which I did. My friends think this all could be because ...
A. 13 February 2014:
My questions would be… Why does it take drinking for you to become affectionate? Why are you holding back your feelings if you like this guy? ... (read in full...)
Why is it okay to criticize big boobs?
Q. Every time there is a question about small breasts, I've noticed a lot of people take it upon themselves to criticise big breasts and call them 'ugly' and 'saggy' it's really insensitive, and quite offensive. The latest question I'm referring to is ...
A. 13 February 2014:
All boobs are great…big or small. The mentality behind a lot of men’s thinking is “bigger is better”. This is not just with boobs, but most things…penis size, guns, car engines, and so on. When it comes to boobs, most men fail to realize that ther... (read in full...)
How do I end this obsession that's threatening to ruin my life?
Q. Please believe me when I tell you that I have a very loving and beautiful relationship with my boyfriend. We might get married later this year. I had a crush on a colleague and it spiraled out of control and became an obsession. I avoid him like t...
A. 11 February 2014:
Focus that same obsession on your boyfriend. Let him be your eye candy.
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Is it normal for female friends to tease their male friends with their breasts?
Q. Is it normal for female friends to tease their male friends with their breasts? Since I met them in college, my two female friends tend to mess with me. They know I can be a bit, what's the word...embarrassed when I see their cleavage or something. ...
A. 11 February 2014:
If two ladies like you enough to tease you with their breast...I have two words for you...Enoy it. Some men have to pay for that, and others fantasize about it. You are getting the real deal.... (read in full...)
Why am I so weak and vulnerable?
Q. I am a woman going through a separation from my alcoholic husband who put me last for years... I moved out and met someone who was married.. I knew it was wrong.. I knew.. You always know when something isn't right but he wanted children with me. He ...
A. 11 February 2014: “How can someone be so cruel?” This statement you made is true…How could you be so cruel to yourself?? As you said “I knew it was wrong.. I knew..” Still you put yourself into that hall of pain, and now want to know how “he” could be so cruel? ... (read in full...)
My ex-boyfriend is telling people I cheated on him! Help!
Q. My ex-boyfriend is telling people I cheated on him. I never cheated on him. When we broke up, I dated a couple people but we were broken up for about 4 months. It is so devastating because my ex best friend hangs with him and his friends and they ...
A. 11 February 2014:
First…They are all ex people in your life…who cares. But if you really want to stand up for yourself, you say “I never cheated on him, but if I did, it would be because he sucked in bed, and I needed a real man.”
See how fast he shuts up. Yo... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my girlfriend's ex, and their relationship. Help!
Q. Ok I'll try and keep this short as I don't want to bore anyone! Basically I have been in a lesbian relationship for around a year now with a woman who I love very dearly. She is my first true love and I can't believe how lucky I am to have found ...
A. 7 February 2014:
“Basically I just can't stop thinking about it and it really is driving me completely mental.”
If what you said there is true, then this is not true… “I can't believe how lucky I am to have found someone like her.” There is no way you can be i... (read in full...)
All my friends are starting families. Why hasn't my boyfriend discussed starting a family with me?
Q. Basically I found myself in a situation that I have not a single female friend that has no kids or is not married left. I am 27. Will turn 28 in a couple of months. ALL my friends from college started having kids one after another or getting ...
A. 6 February 2014: Then even more reason to talk about it. Know where you stand before you waste more years waiting and hoping.... (read in full...)
Getting over cheating - should I have believed him? How do I move on?
Q. Im married but almost a year into the marriage i found some naked photos on my husband's email. he had sent the photos to his email from his phone. They were of an ex girlfriend of his who he had only been on 3 dates with. When i found them i asked ...
A. 6 February 2014: Well you have let the ex-girlfriend do exactly what she planned to do. She wanted him to divorce you, and YOU are doing it for her by holding on the past and anger. Bet you didn’t see that coming. Hate, Jealousy, and pride do not at any time bel... (read in full...)
My boyfriend keeps promising me big gifts but gets me nothing
Q. My boyfriend told me throughout our entire first year that he had a huge birthday surprise for me... along comes my birthday Jan 29 and he just called me in the morning and then never came over (even though he promised). His reasoning was that he ...
A. 6 February 2014: I bet he is looking forward to a special gift from you in the bedroom on Valentine’s Day. Bet you it's a pretty BIG deal to him too. So you should get a sexy outfit and show him what your gift is. Come Valentine’s Day, he shows up with nothing, he ... (read in full...)
He cheated with a girl who is still his friend
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and recently he confessed to having a one night stand with a friend after we'd been together about a month. I feel terrible and betrayed and I don't know whether I can forgive him. I know he really ...
A. 5 February 2014:
Always forgive…NEVER hold on to hate.
Here is the problem…He is your boyfriend, not your husband, and even most husbands don’t get this kind of chance. He caused you pain and he is still hanging around the reason for that pain, and feels no way... (read in full...)
All my friends are starting families. Why hasn't my boyfriend discussed starting a family with me?
Q. Basically I found myself in a situation that I have not a single female friend that has no kids or is not married left. I am 27. Will turn 28 in a couple of months. ALL my friends from college started having kids one after another or getting ...
A. 5 February 2014: “ALL my friends” How many times have your parents said “If your friends jump off a bridge, would you do it too?” Plus the old saying as well “Be careful what you wish for.” Kids are great, but they are not like pets to run out and get one. The... (read in full...)
Do I still have a chance at attracting some 18-29 girl? Even if it's just to have as a friend?
Q. So, I'm 30 years old and I look at my life and feel like the only people I have in it are older people (my family and friends of my father's mostly). Dating-wise, it's gotten to the point where the only attention I ever get is from women at least ...
A. 3 February 2014:
A man or woman can attract a partner of any age. Problem is…your mind. If you think you are only good for this or that, then you have limited yourself and tend to stay where you think you should be.
Want a younger woman? Stop thinking the... (read in full...)
Since the event I just can't bounce back, is there something wrong with me or is this just hormonal?
Q. I just don't feel happy in my life at the moment. I'm in University and I have everything going for me I just need to work for the opportunities but I am just not happy. I push people away ALL the time, I blow up the tiniest problems and create ...
A. 3 February 2014:
How is your love life?? Since you “push everyone away”??... (read in full...)
I can't move on I love him!
Q. Dear agony aunt I really need help. I met a guy and we broke up in less than two month. He use to contact me but it wad now and then. He broke up with me because he said he didnt know what he wanted. After 5 month being seperated i contacted him and ...
A. 3 February 2014: What I see is a young woman who does not want to be lonely, or who has been lonely for a while. Someone came along to briefly take you out of your loneliness, and now you feel like this person is your whole world. You want to spend the rest of ... (read in full...)
I ruined my boyfriend's life because I didn't lose my virginity to him
Q. Hello all, my boyfriend and I have been together for 3years 3months, just recently he found out the guy I lost my virginity to was 20yr old and I was only 16, I regret it completely and know it was a huge mistake when I was immature young and drunk. ...
A. 3 February 2014: Well this will be the first time since the world was made, that a man’s life was ruined because his now partner had sex with someone else. What was ruined? His ego. People like to take pride in being the first sexual partner for someone else, an... (read in full...)
Found old love letters in my partner's sex drawer.
Q. This morning I discovered old love letters from my partner's ex-girlfriend from over two years ago-- they dated for about 6 months. I don't care about him still having them-- we all keep mementos from the past-- but I discovered them in the "sex ...
A. 31 January 2014:
If you find the ex-girlfriend in the drawer too, then worry. Other than that, a simple conversation can fix that right up.... (read in full...)
Is the guy I'm dating a sex addict?
Q. I am concerned that the guy I met online and I am currently dating is possibly a sex addict! I've ignored some obscenities and red flags but now I am confused!!! I like him very much but I can't help but to be concerned with his preoccupation with ...
A. 31 January 2014:
“I've ignored some obscenities and red flags”
I you are putting yourself into this situation after you have ignored your own advice, how are we going to help you?? Your own senses are warning you already, but you still want a relationship... (read in full...)
Having doubts about starting a relationship with this woman. Am I being too sensitive?
Q. Hello, I have recently met a girl who is very keen on having a relationship with me, it has only been 2 months since we met and I want us to take our time to get to know one another better. She doesn't want to wait and keeps on rushing me. Afte...
A. 31 January 2014: You know those relationships where to get warning signs and ignore them, only to get hurt later on??? Well, don’t ignore these warning signs. If she is encouraging her brother to cheat, how do you know she is not cheating on someone else... (read in full...)
Should I apologise to the ex for my wrongdoing?
Q. I broke up with my ex 7 months ago because we fought too often. We had a brief period of no contact, but eventually he started talking to me again about once a week. We decided to give things another go about 2 weeks ago, but I bought up old issues ...
A. 31 January 2014:
Keep looking back at your past, and you will miss the better things right in front of you. They are called EX for a reason… they should no longer EX-ist in your life.... (read in full...)
Am I overthinking his comment?
Q. This is the dumbest thing I've ever asked.. But I'm not sure if I should be insulted or think it's sweet... My boyfriend said to me: you may not be perfect but you're perfect for me... I instantly thought "aw how sweet", but should I be insu...
A. 31 January 2014:
No one is truly perfect. So perfect for him...Lucky you. :)... (read in full...)
He is badmouthing me to mutual friends. Should I confront him?
Q. I had a falling out with a guy friend some months back. I discovered he had feelings for me (I had feelings for him too), things became complicated and our friendship ended on a very sour note. He ended up blocking me on all social networks. I ...
A. 31 January 2014: “I've gone on with my life.” If that part of your comment is true…why do you care what they say?? There is a saying “The truth hurts.” So if what they are saying is true, then I could understand why you are “perturbed” as you say. If what they... (read in full...)
I think my mom is jealous of my girlfriend!
Q. Hi everyone, basically this isn't a big issue, mainly minor but I wanted to ask if anyone had an idea of how to stop it. I've been with my Girlfriend for over a year now and we are both completely in love, since I've been at university, we've just ...
A. 31 January 2014:
Your mom has many years of experience under those gray hairs, and maybe she sees something in your girlfriend she does not like. Something you do not see because you are so infatuated with her. Take advice from those older and wiser than you, it m... (read in full...)
I can't seem to hit a girl's g spot
Q. i have 6.2 inch penis 4.5 inch straight and and around 2 inch slight down curve.. i had sex with thirteen different girl but i never get any negative comment but i still fell insecure because i think i m not able to satisfy and make girls orgasm in ...
A. 30 January 2014: You want to give a woman a G-spot orgasm? Easy…it is not the size of your penis, it is the size of your brain that counts. Stop thinking like a common man who thinks sticking it in is the way to a woman’s heart. Here you are thinking of yourself... (read in full...)
Tired of husbands childish traits. How should I cope?
Q. Sometimes I really dislike, maybe to the point of hate, my husband. Most of the time he's a great guy. But he has some childish traits that can go beyond irritating. He likes to push buttons and tease to the point where I get genuinely angry,...
A. 30 January 2014:
You cannot change people, but you can teach them… First, your husband is not you, does not think like you, and is not affect by the things you are affected by. You are two different people trying to live as one.
When you react to someone’s fo... (read in full...)
How do I ask her out and what should I wear on the first date?
Q. This us a very short question. Okay I have been seen this girl for 1 month now he haven't met yet we speak everyday non stop, she's great a lovely caring girl I like her a lot, I am going to ask her out in person when we meet. What do I wear and how ...
A. 29 January 2014:
Well wear clothes first of all… :). Do not over dress, or under dress. A lot of guys dress up all fancy and give the woman the wrong idea…as if this is the way they look all the time. Casual is what you are looking for, because that is how she will... (read in full...)
We're not together anymore but we still act like a couple and have sex... it's starting to get to me. Advice please?
Q. Last month my boyfriend decided that we "take a break" (or in other words: break up) and we've been together for maybe more than three years, but we've known each other much longer than that because we originally were best friends. Him and I have b...
A. 29 January 2014:
You said you know the right thing to do, so why are you not doing the right thing? Love is love, it does not have pain, or sadness. We are the ones that cause these things for ourselves, by not doing the right things. Focus on you for now, and if i... (read in full...)
If I'm the only woman he ever wants to have sex with then why is he imagining doing it with other girls, maybe even ones he knows?
Q. I know this was a silly thing to do, but yesterday I looked at my boyfriend's search history when he was out. We've been together almost 2 years now and he wants to marry me, have kids with me and I know he's the one I want to be with for the rest ...
A. 29 January 2014:
It is simple human nature to want what we don’t have. As a woman you would understand this very well. You might at some time wish you had bigger boobs, longer hair, curly hair if it’s straight, or straight if it’s curly, curvy hips, flat stom... (read in full...)
His Facebook has 300 women and no men on it!
Q. Hi. I'm having a hard time with my jealousy over my boyfriend and it has caused a huge fight between us and he is really mad and so am I because I feel he does not understand where I'm coming from and insists that it has to do with my previous ...
A. 29 January 2014:
Let's switch things around, and let me ask you this...Why would you have 300 men on your facebook, and no women?
No need to get mad or jealous...but answer that question for yourself.... (read in full...)
Worried that my insecurities will ruin my happiness and relationship!
Q. I'm so worried all the time when it comes to my relationship. I've been with my lovely, sweet, thoughtful boyfriend for a year and a half. We are living together for a year - it felt right as we had known each other a year before dating and we both ...
A. 27 January 2014: Has all the worrying done anything good for you? You see that it is bad for you and your relationship, yet you continue to do it. No amount of worrying has ever kept a relationship together. Wise thinking and communication you can stay together... (read in full...)
She slept with someone else during our break
Q. Me (20) and my girlfriend (21) are in a relationship for a year and 4 months. Somewhere along the way we broke up, just to get back together 2 months later. I don't regret taking her back at all. Our relationship is even going better now than it ...
A. 24 January 2014:
“I don't regret taking her back at all. Our relationship is even going better now than it did before.”
If things are that much better…then let it go. If you had slept with someone on your break up, you would not be on here complaining ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and husband is up all night playing games and not letting me get my sleep!
Q. Dear Aunties/Uncles, I'm hoping you can help me sort through my feelings and figure out what to do, I feel like he can't understand what I'm going through. My husband and I are avid gamers, it's one of the things that brought us together when we...
A. 24 January 2014:
Power cord…You will get it back AFTER you have done your job as a husband.
You cannot change people, but you can teach them.
... (read in full...)
Since I have been talking to a new girl, my ex has been in my thoughts!
Q. Sorry if this takes to long right so I broke up with my ex now for 9 months she was my first ever girlfriend I lost my v to her ect we was together for 18 months since we broke up all I have been doing is flirting with other girls and meeting them ...
A. 24 January 2014:
Stop talking to the new girl until you get over ex. Don't need to hurt her, and make her your ex too.... (read in full...)
What can I do to finally meet my valentine after eleven years of no dating?
Q. Dear Cupid ,I really want a valentine I haven"t been in a relationship for 11 years now my kids are grown and my son is about to graduate and is going off to a higher education I can't really get out cause I am a caregiver for my mom who is an ...
A. 24 January 2014: First you need to go where the men are…like…outside the house. Smile, and bring your “I am good for you” thoughts. What your mind thinks, your body follows. Not saying to be trashy or anything like that. Stay away from bars unless you are looking ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a person cancels a date and doesn't reschedule right away?
Q. So, I met a guy online for a date two weekends ago and had an amazing time. The conversation flowed effortlessly, we kissed and had great chemistry, and both of us admitted that were were a little "twitterpated" by the end of the date. He made p...
A. 24 January 2014:
“If it were me,”
This is your first mistake. He is not you, so don’t expect him to know how you feel because you feel it. We are not mind readers, and we expect effort on your part as well. You want a man to show interest in you, we want a wo... (read in full...)
Should I go for a threesome?
Q. So, Uni drama again. Bloody Uni eh? So someone I met in first year, liked him for ages, tried to get with him for ages, we had a sexual thing but other than that we never really went anywhere, he pretty much friendzoned me soon as he could, then w...
A. 23 January 2014:
NEVER a good idea. But you can try, as long as you are ready to deal with the consequences after. No real friend will ask another friend to do something that could ruin their friendship. He is thinking with the little head not the big one.... (read in full...)
I feel insecure. What does he see in me? I'm so different from his ex!
Q. Been together with my boyfriend for 3 years, I love him to bits but one thing makes me feel insecure and i'm honestly not sure why, was hoping for anyone's thoughts on this. His ex who is mother of his children, so he obviously loved her at some ...
A. 23 January 2014: “She is the opposite of me”
You think that could be the very reason he is with you and not her? If she was what he wanted in a woman, they would still be together…yes? So you have him for yourself, he is not trying to get back with her, but you ... (read in full...)
What does it mean if a person cancels a date and doesn't reschedule right away?
Q. So, I met a guy online for a date two weekends ago and had an amazing time. The conversation flowed effortlessly, we kissed and had great chemistry, and both of us admitted that were were a little "twitterpated" by the end of the date. He made p...
A. 23 January 2014:
Well you can sit there and let your mind come up with all kind negative scenarios to drive yourself crazy…or, you can text him and arrange another meeting. If he is running a successful business, then expect these things to happen. A simple text... (read in full...)
Is being in love meant to be difficult?
Q. Hi everyone I have had, in the past, many abusive relationships. I have suffered from anxiety and agoraphobia (still suffer but I am very positive and proactive) and I haven't had an easy life but the good thing is that I am strong despite a...
A. 23 January 2014:
You said you found the man of your dreams…were you dreaming of this kind of man? By what you said about him, ever think he might be the one with OCD? Or maybe his ways drove his wife to divorce?
Talk to your partner and let him know how you feel... (read in full...)
Should I tell my guy that I slept with a friend while we were broken up?
Q. I'm in a messed up situation that I can't see out without losing my boyfriend who I have been with for three years. Basically, last September I had a miscarriage during my 9th week of pregnancy. We had only known for 2 weeks when I lost our baby...
A. 23 January 2014:
If telling you your boyfriend what you did would improve your relationship then go for it. You were not together, and who knows, maybe he slept with someone too. Now don’t get all paranoid about that comment and go asking him if he slept with some... (read in full...)
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