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Found old love letters in my partner's sex drawer.

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Question - (31 January 2014) 5 Answers - (Newest, 31 January 2014)
A female United States age 36-40, *pirographgirl writes:

This morning I discovered old love letters from my partner's ex-girlfriend from over two years ago-- they dated for about 6 months. I don't care about him still having them-- we all keep mementos from the past-- but I discovered them in the "sex drawer" where we keep all the stuff we use, and a love letter I wrote him a few months ago was on top of them. It made me feel weird that they were in the "sex drawer" and that my letters were intermingled with them.

Does anyone out there have advice for how to proceed?

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A male reader, Gauntlet France +, writes (31 January 2014):

Gauntlet agony auntPlay it jokingly if I can say. Hide these letters - no question of destroying them ! - and wait for a reaction. If there is no reaction for a while, say a month, it might be the sign these letters were just "remembrance of things past". Reversely, if your boyfriend seems nervous, and become infuriated against "whoever who took his letters", it could be a major red flag.

At that point of the trap, feel free to handle him his "precious letters" with a sarcastic smile, then time will come to have a serious talk about how he feels about his ex.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2014):

Proceed? I don't get why their being in the "sex drawer" make any difference? Do you have a "love letter" drawer? Your letter was on top so just relax.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2014):

I agree with you that it is VERY weird her letters are kept alongside yours. Just ask him to keep them somewhere else, that seems like a very reasonable request.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2014):

Hand them to him and ask him to please put them somewhere where you won't stumble upon them by accident.

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A male reader, BrownWolf Canada +, writes (31 January 2014):

BrownWolf agony aunt

If you find the ex-girlfriend in the drawer too, then worry. Other than that, a simple conversation can fix that right up.

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