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writes:I just don't feel happy in my life at the moment. I'm in University and I have everything going for me I just need to work for the opportunities but I am just not happy. I push people away ALL the time, I blow up the tiniest problems and create arguments basically because I wouldn't treat those people how they are treating me. I'm not sure if that's a selfish trait or something I have but I can not figure out why I have such a problem with people. I'm usually a positive person trying to focus on the good but especially around my time of the month I just can't cope. I can literally feel stress pushing down on my head and shoulders, I have a super short patience with people and become really upset when this happens. I don't know whether I can just put this down to hormones or not. It was my birthday last weekend and I kind of ruined it for myself as I pictured a perfect day and of course nothing ever turns out that way. I know I would do everything possible to make sure my sister, parent, friends relatives had the most special day or time. I don't mean extreme gifts or surprises by this I just mean quality time with the people you love, seeing as I live away from home I value this most. Since the event I just can't bounce back, is there something wrong with me or is this just hormonal?!
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reader, Gauntlet  +, writes (4 February 2014):
 Good question of BrownWolf: this impatience you feel might be that sexual tension which is often less explicit for women than for men (IMHO) as for men, there is a "little" something that rings clearly to their hears. A contrario for some women, it manifests itself as an uncontrollable irritability to the slightest contrariety. The feeling of losing ones time becomes unbearable, the conversations are annoying, and basically everything is boring. To sum up this symptom, you feel it like if everybody wanted to disturb you to reach your real goal.
That's indeed an hormonal signal.
That said, you are student, and maybe you asked too much to your brain, and you need a little break too. Just you can know.
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reader, Jaeger12  +, writes (3 February 2014):
I know this may sound stupid but just take time out and go for an hour walk or something. but honest, a little bit of exercise, it makes the world of difference to your mindset.
You need to find a way to calm your emotions. Deep breathes, try think positive.
Happiness attracts happy things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2014): I think it might be a good idea to get a complete physical examination; and have both your general-practitioner, and your gynecologist check out your hormonal and stress levels.
Your problem sounds more physiological than anything else; since you associate it with your cycle. However, what you describe sounds like early signs of depression. Your doctor will surely be able to determine if this is the case.
If you determine it is not a physiological condition; then you need to see how you can alleviate stress.
You're a student, that in itself is very stressful; if you are an over-achiever. I myself, was too anxious about my grades and G.P.A. If you're high competitive, you're always on edge. You've set high goals for yourself, and may be going overboard on pushing yourself to achieve. Maybe just the opposite.
Perhaps you are struggling as a student; and just may need to join study groups to lower the stress of keeping up with your curriculum. Don't be afraid to seek help with subjects that are too much of a challenge.
All of this, my dear; can take a serious toll on you. It will make you edgy, nervous, irritable, and mean as the wicked witch of the west.
If you can; incorporate exercise, meditation, stretching, and quiet-time into your lifestyle. Even proper diet is a factor contributing to stress and anxiety. Too much caffeine; or foods full of sugar and bad carbs.
You might even consider a yoga class for poise, concentration, and a way to work off stress and loosen your tense muscles. You'll learn how to center yourself, learn to breath, and various exercise techniques to achieve calm and control tension.
Take it easy. You're too young to be stressing out so early in your life. You're a strong woman, and you need to learn how to add balance to your daily life, and relieve stress.
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reader, BrownWolf  +, writes (3 February 2014):
How is your love life?? Since you “push everyone away”??
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