How do I find balance in our relationship?
Q. Ive been with my partner now 10 months. He is great with my son who Is 5 yrs old and we live together now.we seem to get into arguments because of me I admit that.i have a very hard time letting go over some past things and I no that I shouldnt be ...
A. 30 December 2013: You need to seriously sit down and think clearly what you want in your life. You need to let go of the past. If your past was bad...why oh why do you want to hold on to it and let it control your future??? If you can not trust yourself to be... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend remain friends with people who have treated him badly?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months. Our relationship is great except for something that I've noticed and I'm not really sure if it's that big of a problem but it does bother me. He remains friends with people who have hurt him an...
A. 24 December 2013:
He is a very smart guy. Hating will get you nowhere. I am the same way. Love first and always. Leave hate alone.... (read in full...)
His dislike of me makes me uncomfortable with my group of friends.
Q. my friendship group has recentally broken down with lots of different people involved in individual fights. during this time i have been dealing with issues with work and my ex so i have spent that much time around it all. however a few weeks ago, ...
A. 24 December 2013:
You care because??? Does he/they put food in your house? Provide for your family? Look after you when you are sick? Do they do anything helpful for you? If the answers are no to all, then it should not matter if they like you or not. You do not ... (read in full...)
I don't want to be alone anymore.
Q. If I'm trying to find my first g/f, or in general first date, etc... What places should I go, library, book store, when I'm at the park on a walk? I'm feeling out of options here, I just don't really want to be alone anymore. If anyone has anything ...
A. 24 December 2013:
You can meet a woman anywhere, at anytime. What is the best way to meet one??? Don't expect to meet one. Treat all women the way you want to be treated yourself. Smile at everyone, and be kind to everyone, not just women. Why?? The woman you meet... (read in full...)
What are the secrets to a health and happy relationship? I am besotted with my other half and I want this to continue.
Q. Hi all, I am absolutely besotted with my other half. I believe we make a great team. I would like some advice from those that are in healthy and happy longterm relationships. What advice can you give me so that I do my best to help us grow old...
A. 24 December 2013: Love is patient and kind; it is not jealous or conceited or proud; love is not ill-mannered or selfish or irritable; love does not keep a record of wrongs; love is not happy with evil, but is happy with the truth. Love never gives up; and its faith, ... (read in full...)
I worry my hearing aids may put men off!
Q. I need help please! For about six years now I've been deaf in both ears due to otosclerosis - a genetic condition where the bones in the ears stop moving. The way that this works is that I'm not completely deaf, but certain tones and pitches are ...
A. 23 December 2013:
Your hearing aid will help you with men perfectly :) How you say??? All fools and losers who judge you from the outside will stay away. The real men who want to be with you will look past all that and see the real you. Bad things happen for good... (read in full...)
My husband has told me he is gay!
Q. Last night my husband admitted to me he was gay. He said he didn't want to have these feelings and won't follow up on them, he wants to stay married to me and have sex with me. He said he does like women, but only certain select women, has never had ...
A. 23 December 2013:
First thing you do...thank him for his confession...that took a lot. Second...clear your mind of doubt and guilt..third...Put your love into beast mode...show him what you can that no man can ever give him. You are woman...and no one man, woma... (read in full...)
He keeps telling me he is going to break up with me!
Q. My boyfriend kissed me when he was trying to break up with me yesterday. I found that to be confusing in itself. Then 15 minutes later he changed his mind and was all over me and said he wants to be with me and wants me to be his girlfriend!!! ...
A. 23 December 2013:
Let me see how this works...He is not your husband you built a life together with, no kids, no house, cars, or bank account tied together...right?
So he says "I am breaking up with you"...and you are sticking around to find out if he means it ... (read in full...)
How can I appreciate myself despite being faced with prejudice over being a black African.
Q. The negative opinion of black Africans and the negative reaction to to black people has me feeling bad about myself. I've been able to spend more time on the internet and increased social awareness has left me struggling to be happy with my race and ...
A. 23 December 2013:
How can you be happy with yourself??? First...You woke up...That simple fact should be enough to make you happy. I am sure there are people out there in wheel chairs, or have cancer, or something way worst than black skin, who would trade your life... (read in full...)
Is it possible to predict before marriage that a couple's sex life will suck 5-10 years after they get married?
Q. Almost every one of my guy friends who has been married for more than 5 years or so has told me their wife has lost almost all interest in sex. Many go for a month or two without it onb a regular basis. They also tell me about friends of theirs who ...
A. 22 March 2011: From what I have seen. The more sex you and your partner have before you are married, the less need there is to do it after you are married.
Marrying as a virgin does have hugh advantages...you have the rest of your married life to explore ... (read in full...)
Age gaps between your children - what is best?
Q. hi guys.. ive recently had a baby shes 3 months old and such a good baby. Me and my partner want a large family but not sure how much of an age gap to have between our kids. id like them close together but dont know if id cope. is it harder having ...
A. 1 March 2011:
Hi,
My kids are 1 year and four days apart...He's 15, and she is 14 now. I love it and they do as well...very close friends.
Was it hard? Yes...two kids in diapers is not easy. Was it worth it? Oh yes :) Potty train was very easy for the se... (read in full...)
I don't want to be gay!!
Q. I am a Baptist Christian guy. I know the Bible prohibits homosexuality, or bisexuality etc. But I feel attracted to mens bodies. It's not like I love men. It's lust. And with girls I'm not attracted to their bodies as much but I love them for who ...
A. 24 February 2011:
Actually...it is against GOD will to be gay in the Bible...
Leviticus 20:13...If a man has sexual relations with another man, they have done a disgusting thing, and both shall be put to death. They are responsible for their own death.
An... (read in full...)
The girl I want is not interested, but the girl who I don't love is begging me to be in a relationship with her! Help!
Q. pls advise me the girl i wanna date is not showing she loves me but the one i dont love is begging me to go into relationship with her! pls am afraid sumbody help...
A. 23 February 2011:
If you love a woman from the inside, she can be more beautiful than gold. Love for the heart, not for what you see.... (read in full...)
How do I get taken seriously in social and professional situations?
Q. How do I get taken seriously in social and professional situations? I am 33 years old, though I look younger than I am. Recently something has been bothering me. I have always been a good listener, and people tend to open up to me. However, th...
A. 23 February 2011:
"A wise, mature person is known for her understanding. the more pleasant her words, the more peruasive she is"
Believe in what say, and if you are sharing wisdom, they will listen. :)
... (read in full...)
Are men and women really that different in terms of our sexuality?
Q. Perhaps I'm wrong, but it seems to me there's a tendancy these days to want to think that men and women are identical, or close to it, in most or all respects. As an (obviously unscientific) experiment, I created both a fake male profile and a fa...
A. 23 February 2011:
Start by looking at how men and women are generally brought up. Young girls are given dolls, teddy bears, doll houses, clothes to play dress up, fake make up, etc. They are shown from a young age to care for themselves, look good (make up), look... (read in full...)
Wondering about the appearance of semen from different men?
Q. okay so i got with a guy when i was 15 and was with him for 4 years, i lost my virginity to him and remained faithful to him, i never cheated on him and so i had only had a sex life with him, obviously when your sleeping with someone and have been ...
A. 8 February 2011:
If it's like water, it could just be pre-cum. Pre-cum acts like a lubricant to help with penetration. ... (read in full...)
How does a couple get out of this vicious cycle?
Q. What do I do in this situation? I have been with my boyfriend off and on for about 5 years. The reason for that is because right after we got engaged at the very beginning, he changed. He got scared of committment. He went on a 2 month vacation, ...
A. 8 February 2011: If it is this bad now...before you get married...then get married and see how bad it can really get. Life has already given you the warning signs you need. Sad part is, you could have been married to the right guy by now, and probably pregnan... (read in full...)
Who is truly fulfilled in their job?
Q. Hi everyone. I've always worked in office jobs and although I don't mind the actual WORK, I HATE the politics that comes with EVERY SINGLE position I've had. No matter which company I've tempted, contracted, or worked permanently at, I get tre...
A. 8 February 2011:
In some ways I am like you. I love everybody until they give me a reason not to. The more happy and nice I am, the harder someone tries to make me miserable, and I Love It. I love the challenge of raising above all the stuff you mention. Mise... (read in full...)
She has feelings for another. how can I get over her, but not lose her as a friend?
Q. Well to start me and my friend started to talking to this girl, he really didnt care while i fell pretty hard for her. Well she told me that she only had feelings for my friend who by the way broke her heart two days later. So since we r such good ...
A. 8 February 2011:
Look at it this way…It is better to find out now she has feelings for someone else, than let’s say 5 years down the road. You have really invested time, love, or have kids, marriage…and then…oops “I love someone esle.”
So…bad things happen for g... (read in full...)
I'm ashamed of my cutting scars
Q. I've got a couple scars on my body from cutting/injuring myself when I was younger. I'm ashamed of it and when I know I will be intimate with a man, I always put on makeup to cover them up. If he does notice them and asks me about them, I li...
A. 8 February 2011:
Now you are giving yourself emotional scars? Your scars should remind you to stop hurting yourself physically or emotionally. It should teach you to accept yourself as you are. If a guy does not like it…he can leave. Besides…I am sure you have bett... (read in full...)
How can I let him know that I like him over the phone?
Q. There's a guy who i like and i think he likes me too but there's quite a big age difference. Anyway he lives in a different country to me but when i went to visit the country he was in, he talked to me a lot. Most of the time my brother and sister ...
A. 4 February 2011:
In weddings they say "speak now or forever hold your tongue" or something like that.
You may get your heart broken...but if you don't say what you feel, what is the point of feeling it?
There is also a song that says "Say what you need to say... (read in full...)
Should I divorce my husband so he can have a child?
Q. We are a couple in our 40's and childless...An ex-boyfriend of mine is having a baby, so now I realize it is me who cannot conceive. Though my husband of 5 years have resigned ourselves to not having children (which I desperately want) should I ...
A. 4 February 2011:
You do know there are hundreds of kids out there that would love to be adopted right??
Let see...let your husband go to fill his void,and create a bigger one for you...or fill both voids by adopting a child...what to do, what to do.
... (read in full...)
Why swallow? whats the pleasure?
Q. dear readers, i would like to ask the men out there and possibly the women why men like a girl to swallow their semen? why is it attractive to men to see there girlfriend swalllowing the product of their energy? some women say it tastes awfu...
A. 1 February 2011:
I think it's because she is willing to go above and beyond the normal oral sex. Plus if she doesn't mind or actually enjoys it...then it becomes a real turn on. ... (read in full...)
I am thinking about leaving my boyfriend because I am not pretty enough compared to his ex!
Q. What do you do if you are not pretty? I feel so insecure about myself. Its not my body, in fact I think my body is amazing I am blessed in term of genetics but my face is so...plain. ITs not ugly or weird its just boring and shapeless. ITs more ...
A. 1 February 2011:
And who on GOD's world told you that you are not pretty enough for a man???
Do you really think the way you look on the outside is what makes a man stay with you?? You could be the most beautiful woman in the world, but if you're ugly on the ... (read in full...)
How do you lose fat from your inner thigh?
Q. I am needing to lose fat off my inner thigh. Dose anyone have a suggestion over it. Cause it could really help me out. I mean I have try everything. ...
A. 31 January 2011: Walking...fast. Squats.
Also...take an excerse ball, lay on your back, lift your legs off the floor, bent at the knees. Hold the ball between your knees, and sqeeze hard, hold for a few secs, then relax. Each time you squeeze try holding as long ... (read in full...)
The wandering eye......
Q. My guy and I had a little spat in regards to the wandering eye and loyalty to me and the relationship. He says that my constant banter of telling him how upsetting it is to me to see him looking at other women and physically acting like he's not ...
A. 31 January 2011:
Let me give you a simple warning right now.
Men look at other women, that is a fact. Women look at other men too. However!!!
If your man tells you he will go cheat on you because of your complaining...run!!
He already has it in his mind, ... (read in full...)
My fiance has online profile looking for discreet casual sex!
Q. I have been with my Fiancee for 3 years. We are both in our 40's. A few months ago he was in a car accident and was house bound for three months. During that time, he got very upset with me for not giving him more time and attention while he ...
A. 31 January 2011:
Question??
Would you do that to him??? If the answer is "No"...Then why are you even stressing about this? Discreetly say good bye, and thank you for showing me what kind of man you are before I made the mistake of marrying your sorry ass.
... (read in full...)
Which one is better? To love or be loved?
Q. My bf is an egoist person. He always asks me to stay online 24 hours for him. And always said that i must reply his chats. If i late reply 1 or 2 mins, he will get angry. He never allows me to attend someone's call when i chat with him. While he...
A. 31 January 2011:
The question is...do you want to be loved and in love? If the anwser is both...then you know what you must do.... (read in full...)
He wants to give us another try but I don't feel anything for him anymore! Should I work at getting the feelings back?
Q. Ok this is a long shot so here it is. My exbf broke it off with me and I took it hard. I cool now and guess what? He's pressuring me to give it another try. Ok so here's the deal. I'm tolerating him and I'm bored. I've lost every feeling of love ...
A. 31 January 2011:
Love is not a fire...sometimes when it's out, it'd for a good reason. So not matter how much gasoline you give, it may not burn.Even if it flares up again, it may not stay burning and go out again...but at what cost?
Take a look ahead 2-3 ye... (read in full...)
How do I persuade my boyfriend to perform oral sex on me?
Q. How do i convince or persuade my boyfriend to perform oral sex on me,i have talked about it a couple of times but he said that he is not comfortable with it.What else do i do cause i really enjoy oral,moreover he doesnt last long during sex and i ...
A. 31 January 2011:
Are you shaved? or waxed? And then cover it in whip cream :) Chocolate or strawberry.
Some guys have a thing with hair.... (read in full...)
She found someone richer than me, what should I do?
Q. I am a guy of 23 yrs. I was never loved by anyone- not even my parents. I never had any friend. My parents used to torchure me physically as well as mentally. One day I was thrown out of my house because I had failed in exam. I was very depressed ...
A. 31 January 2011:
Well, if you die you would never know what love feels like. And trust me...that a feeling you do not want to miss out on.
What have you learned from that relationship??? One... you can get a girlfriend. Two...she is not the only woman out th... (read in full...)
Am I crazy for staying?
Q. My wife and I share 2 gorgeous children and we are coming up to 12 faithful years together. Over the past fortnight she has revealed to me that she has fallen for a female work colleague. My wife has had a very sordid past with many men and women. I ...
A. 31 January 2011:
...now put yourself two years from now. Do you think either of you will be happy trying to hold on when you know what the other really feels? You want it your way, she wants her way...equals...... (read in full...)
What is the secret to being happy?
Q. Hey everyone, I have a question I'd appreciate your honest answer to. How many of you are truly happy in your lives? If so, what are your lives like and what's most important to you? What do you think the secret is to being HAPPY? How...
A. 31 January 2011: Very good question :)
First off…Life is very simple no matter what anyone says. We are the ones that make it complicated.
I have problems in my life too, just like anyone else…but I am also 97% happy every day. The 3% is when someone who is m... (read in full...)
Away boyfriend is convinced other guys hit on me when that's not the case!
Q. My boyfriend is a Marine and gets extremely jealous even at the thought of another guy flirting with me. We are many states apart and I obviously have the occasional worry of girls hitting on him. However, he takes it to another level. He is ...
A. 18 January 2011:
And you see this jealousy as a good thing, so you still around to defend yourself.
Do you see the warning sign here, or are you one of those that will be saying that line we here so often... "I should have..."
Love and jealousy can not liv... (read in full...)
My GF has had more sexual encounters than me...and it makes me feel like Iv missed out on stuff
Q. Basically im in university and have fallen in love with a beautiful girl. However she was only the second girl I ever slept with. I was her 5th. Now i do not have a problem with her sleeping with more than me as it opened my mind to girls are jus...
A. 18 January 2011:
Do you get a prize if you sleep with more women? Does it make you a better man? Better person? What does it do to make your life any better than it is now???
There is a saying...The small axe cuts down the big tree. Your experience maybe small,... (read in full...)
My girlfriend's past troubles me: She got pregnant in an orgy
Q. What is up with my girlfriend? I sent her a text saying that I was having jealousy issues, and that we should be apart tonight, since she practically lives at my house. Basically, this all comes down to her allowing 2 guys that were her "friends" to ...
A. 6 January 2011:
See...Normally when something makes us sick or disgusted, drives us crazy, and so on, we get rid of the problem.
So, if we keep the problem around and then complain about what the problem is doing to us...Hmmm, what does that mean?
You... (read in full...)
Am I unlucky in love?
Q. here is a list of my exes.. tell me what you think.. (most recent first) just wanted a FWB ex-girlfriend and mother of kid cheated on him and it left him an emotional mess. I met him only a few weeks after she had dumped him for her other man, b...
A. 6 January 2011:
Well, I can see you have had your share, and why you think you are unlucky in love.
I can also see you have a very big and caring heart, good for you. :) I also feel that you had warning signs from these guys, but probably choose to ignore them,... (read in full...)
Am I unlucky in love?
Q. here is a list of my exes.. tell me what you think.. (most recent first) just wanted a FWB ex-girlfriend and mother of kid cheated on him and it left him an emotional mess. I met him only a few weeks after she had dumped him for her other man, b...
A. 4 January 2011:
That all sounds good :)Now...why don't you tell us what kind of man you want??? Don't tell us the perfect man :) He is dead :)
What do you want for you??? Forget the body. Because having a great body does not mean he is a good man.
What... (read in full...)
We are 16, we have no money and have ran out of things to talk about! What can we do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year and five months. We have talked about everything and and now it seems like because of that we have nothing to talk about, i believe another person had ask a similar question to mine but some ...
A. 4 January 2011:
I can say start looking for a job...but...
Then you can talk about your work day :)... (read in full...)
Should I go with the flow? Or is it over?
Q. Go with the flow? Or is it over? I met a guy online in the summer. He lives out of town so we met a few times, most recently over the holidays while he was in town. I texted him on December 30th and told him that "I missed him" and he repli...
A. 4 January 2011:
"At this point, I realized (or assumed) that he used me for sex"
You realized that much, but then you said "Will leave it up to him to contact me."
Which will it be? Are you done because of what you realised, or do you need to feel more "c... (read in full...)
Is this all normal behavior during sex?
Q. Im in a new relationship and recently had sex with this man for the first time, during the act he spoke out about what he was seeing ie youve opened your legs wide for me, he shouted out on 3 occasions while looking away "fuckoff" as if to someone ...
A. 4 January 2011:
Normal compare to what??? Compare that to all your other sexual experiences...and the answer is???... (read in full...)
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