Should I tell my guy that I slept with a friend while we were broken up?
Q. I'm in a messed up situation that I can't see out without losing my boyfriend who I have been with for three years. Basically, last September I had a miscarriage during my 9th week of pregnancy. We had only known for 2 weeks when I lost our baby...
A. 23 January 2014:
If telling you your boyfriend what you did would improve your relationship then go for it. You were not together, and who knows, maybe he slept with someone too. Now don’t get all paranoid about that comment and go asking him if he slept with some... (read in full...)
Her training to fight makes me feel insecure.
Q. I'm in a fairly new relationship with a woman I adore. Our courtship lasted a bit long but we didn't want to get into a relationship just after a few weeks of admitting we liked each other. After a little over a year, we became happily official. T...
A. 22 January 2014:
It’s a good thing you are not like her, because if you were, most likely you would not be together. Two of the same personalities cannot live together in most cases. They would fight and argue. In most relationships…opposite attracts. She is stro... (read in full...)
How can I overcome this resentment?
Q. I have been married for 2 years. My marriage started on a wrong note, because husband treated me awfully; neglecting me, treating me like his slave, demeaning, mental torture,just the treatment that no human being ever deserves. I think he wanted to ...
A. 21 January 2014: What your husband did was wrong for sure. What you are doing now is also wrong. And two wrongs don’t make it right. You have been away from him for 7 months, enough time to recollect yourself and move on from your past. Weather you stay with him... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is now running around with my sister!
Q. Hi everyone. I hope you are all alright and God is following your steps. Today I'm writing here to ask everyone advice on a matter that seems complicated to me. So. I had a boyfriend, and if anyone has read about it before, we are not blood related, ...
A. 17 January 2014: The question of why is not your problem anymore. She is still your sister. She may be jealous of what you had. She might have been the favorite child that does not mean she is the happiest child. Let her be. Love her as a sister.
That guy is no be... (read in full...)
Married but fell for someone else
Q. I am 28 and married. I have never cheated on my husbands and never looked at another man until now. My husband has always been flirty with other women and chats them up right in front of me sometimes which is hurtful and embarrassing. I always take ...
A. 17 January 2014: My Grandma told me this when I was 14 years old..."when you get married, do everything the best you can for your wife. So if you ever divorce, she could never say you were an asshole. She would regret losing you, because no other man has treated ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is now running around with my sister!
Q. Hi everyone. I hope you are all alright and God is following your steps. Today I'm writing here to ask everyone advice on a matter that seems complicated to me. So. I had a boyfriend, and if anyone has read about it before, we are not blood related, ...
A. 17 January 2014:
You should be happy he is not with you, not upset. If he is willing to do that to you now, what would happen later in life if you were still together?? When things like this happen, it’s not bad. Just getting the bad person out of your life to beco... (read in full...)
A hypothetical! What would a guy think about something like this?
Q. This is a question for guys. Lets say a not so attractive girl tried to invite herself along for lunch,stammered and then in the end couldn't do it.Would you feel angry,irritated or wonder "how dare she tried to invite herself along" if you are in t...
A. 17 January 2014: I am sorry you felt the need to word the question the way you did. If you “think” you are unattractive, then that is how you will feel. But if you “think” and know you are an amazing person, then others will see it, and treat you as such. You ... (read in full...)
Even though he insults me I still go back to him
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years act like a jerk these days, always humiliates me, belittles me, never hears me out, taking me for granted, i was not able to share my joys, sorrows nothing with him, whenever i try to share something he insults me with ...
A. 16 January 2014:
One word...WHY??... (read in full...)
I used to be really good at dating...but am I too preoccupied with work?
Q. lately i have been having a dryspell and it all started when my career started pikcing up. in my field, i do heavy pressure and stressful work that drains me. my social life has really taken a hit because of this. nowadays i can still meet girls ...
A. 16 January 2014: Not a lady...
Life is just trying to tell you to stop the B.S, and settle your ass down. That simple.... (read in full...)
A hypothetical! What would a guy think about something like this?
Q. This is a question for guys. Lets say a not so attractive girl tried to invite herself along for lunch,stammered and then in the end couldn't do it.Would you feel angry,irritated or wonder "how dare she tried to invite herself along" if you are in t...
A. 16 January 2014:
She wanted to come along, but was too shy to ask. You on the other hand saw the situation and did nothing.Why didn’t you step up and invite her…popular guy?? Be popular for being kind to others, and helping those who are less fortunate that you.... (read in full...)
Self esteem in women:is it biological, is it cultural, is it our upbringing, ,... is it a jinx ?!
Q. DC community, please help me out in figuring this : why is it that lack of self esteem , at least in relationships, is such a pervasive FEMALE problem ? I mean, just look at the posts on DC and a huuuge quantity of them basically says ...
A. 16 January 2014: All bad feeling about yourself starts one place...the mind. If you start telling yourself you are Crap, then you start to believe it. When you believe it, then it is very hard to get rid of it. Example how the mind works….I saw my friend t... (read in full...)
Why can't I get the girl?
Q. I'm a freshman in high school and I've got a wierd issue of being rejected and/or friendzoned. I've heard that guys that leak confidence get the girl, but I've tried everything. I try to ask a girl to the movies or something but I always get denied. ...
A. 15 January 2014: I love it when young men like you say they “know how to treat a woman”. You would the first guy ever to know that at your age. And if you know so much, how can you really learn what you need to know? You said you have tried everything…except what ... (read in full...)
She's always got excuses not to spend time with me
Q. So I met a girl after ending a 10 year relationship. The new girl is much younger than me and she started the flirting and all that sweet stuff. So I really thought she was into me. We've been seeing each other for 8 weeks now. We live far apart but ...
A. 15 January 2014:
What are you confused about??
1) She doesn't want to be around you
2) The phone call warning you to stay away
3) She doesn't want a relationship
Sometimes we see trouble coming, but we done move out of the way. Moving is always a good thin... (read in full...)
Why can't men treat a good woman right, be faithful and stop that wondering eye?
Q. I am a 49 year old woman married 25 years and two children. I married my high school sweetheart, who was a flirt... He cheated on me 17 years ago, and last year... I don't know about all the other years, but I have doubts. He will never admit that ...
A. 15 January 2014: Glad to hear you are doing better… I hear a lot of “I” from you… not we. It seems you are so concerned with your feelings you have forgotten how the “we” part of your relationship works. If you are so stressed out all the time, when do you have tim... (read in full...)
Feel so lonely at school. Want someone special in my life. What are my options?
Q. I am an open lesbian, and have been single for over a month and tired of seeing people so happy with others. I really want to find someone who won't make highschool so lonely. I'm really love sick, and I walked into high school with no best frie...
A. 14 January 2014:
You don't need gays or lesbians as your only friends. Everyone and anyone can be your friend.... (read in full...)
Feel so lonely at school. Want someone special in my life. What are my options?
Q. I am an open lesbian, and have been single for over a month and tired of seeing people so happy with others. I really want to find someone who won't make highschool so lonely. I'm really love sick, and I walked into high school with no best frie...
A. 13 January 2014:
I never really understood how people get lonely in a school full of other people?? School kids love to talk, so the only way you can be lonely is if you are not talking to others.
You are an open lesbian, and guys find that extremely in... (read in full...)
Rejected Too Many Times
Q. Hi. Lately it just feels like I'm a reject. Nobody wants me. I'm not too bad looking either. I have light brown/ blonde-ish shoulder length hair and I'm sort of skinny. It feels like I'm just completely undesirable and worthless. Why has every guy ...
A. 13 January 2014:
Simple...you are causing your own rejection. When someone becomes so needy to have a relationship, it scares away the other sex (male or female). A relationship is suppose to happen naturally, not because you want one. That would not be love, that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a 'beached whale'.
Q. My fiance referred to me as a "beached whale" during sex (in the context of a conversation while not having sex). I'm usually on bottom for a few reasons. He can barely stay hard when I'm on top (not sure why), neither of us can really reach orgasm ...
A. 13 January 2014:
You know beached whales can be helped back into the sea,and going swimming with other male whales. One man's whale is another man's catch of the day :)
Personally, the bounce with each thrust, mmm,yes please. :)... (read in full...)
Can you help? What are some natural ways to overcome premature ejaculation?
Q. I am 24 male and suffering the problem of early premature ejaculation because I did masterbate for several years. Can you kindly suggest some natural measures that will help me overcome my premature ejaculation?...
A. 10 January 2014:
Stop masturbating...stay away from porn. Let your body re-adjust to the way things should have been. You will be told to try pills, and other methoids, but the natural way was how things were suppose to be in the first place.
Over time you wil... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my friend, now what?
Q. I am in 25yrs and bio all my friends know about this and some of them are lesbians and gays others are strait now I have this friend I meet usual we enjoy our friendship my problem about her I have morethan feeling a friendship with her I do have ...
A. 10 January 2014:
If you are afraid of rejection guess what? You can't be rejected if the other person does not know how you feel.
The most she can she is "Not interested" and you move on. Or maybe she feels the same way and waiting for you to say something.
... (read in full...)
I don't wish to lose my wife nor my friend!
Q. Hey everyone, I know this is going to sound bad but I really need some help. I have been married for 4 years with two lovely children, and although I love my wife and kids to bits I can't stop thinking about a friend of mine. We get on really well ...
A. 10 January 2014:
I assume you would be happy for your wife if you found out she was doing the same thing to you...Right? After all, you are looking for understanding in this matter...so you would be just as understanding if it was turned around...of course you woul... (read in full...)
I know I shouldn't do this but I compare my current boyfriend to my ex!
Q. Hi, Okay so here goes .. I was in a relationship with a guy I met online for about 1.5 years which was very rocky to say the least. In those 1.5 years he broke up with several times because of his religious issues (he's a Muslim you see and I'm ...
A. 10 January 2014: Your mind goes back to your ex because you are repeating the same mistake. If you did not like the fights online, what makes you think real life fights are any better? I could tell you to leave the new guy and find someone who is not like ... (read in full...)
Things to brighten by boyfriend's day? I need lots of ideas!
Q. 1) Besides the regular "I love you", "I miss you".. what are some cute positive things I can text my boyfriend throughout the days to make him smile or possibly make his day a little brighter? 2) What are some cute, cheap but meaningful, thin...
A. 10 January 2014:
Wear a robe or over size T-shirt, something where you can be naked, but he can not see you naked. As he is leaving to go out (work, etc), go up and give him a kiss goood bye, take his hand and run it under your rode, and between your legs. Then... (read in full...)
We don't ever want to have sex at the same time!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 and a half years, and though I don't think we've ever been better, I feel like we could have sex more often. He likes to have sex at bedtime because he usually conks right out afterwards, but ...
A. 10 January 2014: When you are in the mood, what do you do to let him know? Do you start rubbing some part of him to hint you are in the mood? If so, that usually does not work for men in a long term relationship. Men are visual creatures. That is why porn is so bi... (read in full...)
Do most guys like performing oral sex on women?
Q. Hi Everyone, I'm hoping you can provide me with some insight here! I have been with my boyfriend for a year and he almost never goes down on me. In the 10 months we've been sexually active, he's gone down on me maybe 5 times. I can't figure ou...
A. 8 January 2014:
Personally... I loved giving oral to a woman, but I get bored doing it the same way all the time, and I get even more bored when she makes it sound like a job. Just offer it up like it's the best thing I am going to tatse today. Not "Hey, do you ... (read in full...)
Would she be offended if I asked her to wear a wig during sex?
Q. I'm in a relationship for almost 2 years, we're both divorced and not rushing into marriage. she lives with me weekdays being I'm very close to where she works. We have a good relationship and I don't want to rock the boat asking her to wear a wig. ...
A. 7 January 2014:
You are very confusing. Listen to what you said "I don't want to rock the boat asking her to wear a wig." "She is a natural beauty," " she still looks awesome." "Well what ever she wants." "She's still my girl and she's still a very beautiful woma... (read in full...)
Doesn't a guy usually try to grab a girl's boob while kissing if he likes her?
Q. this new guy ive been hanging out, is really nice to me, and comes to see me everytime i ask.. and helps me out with anything i need. He also said he likes me, but everytime were together he wont reallly iniciate the first move even tho we kissed ...
A. 7 January 2014:
A guy who goes after your privates parts as soon as he can, tells you what he wants.
Don't rush a good thing. He may not be that experience, and even if he was, do you want to rush love?... (read in full...)
It's always the ones you don't want.... Who agrees?
Q. I don't know if other people get this but I've noticed in life the people who chase us and praise us are the ones we aren't very attracted to, yet the people we are attracted to a lot are quick to lose interest or not interested in us? My ex was...
A. 6 January 2014:
It's simple...Those who want you and you are not interested in, have what you need. Those you are interested in , and have the physical looks you want, treat you the way you treat those you are not interested in. The old do on to others as you woul... (read in full...)
Our sexual interests are completely opposite. Can I satisfy my needs elsewhere?
Q. I am happily engaged to an amazing man; we are getting married this coming October. He is my best friend, and an incredible person. I love him so much, and the thought of him being hurt is just too much for me to bear. However, when it comes to...
A. 3 January 2014:
Switch things around, and find out that your lover feels that way about you. See how that would make you feel.... (read in full...)
All of my friends that are my age are married and are starting families of their own and it’s like my only consolation is to watch them live out the dreams that I had for myself
Q. I just wish I knew how to fix things, but I honestly don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m just stuck right now. Yet another birthday is on the horizon and I don’t feel like I’ve accomplished anything. I recently lost a job that I hoped would be ...
A. 3 January 2014:
The only thing killing your confidence is you.
The amount of time you spend putting yourself down because you lost a job, being the oldest student, not having a real relationship, and watching your friends have a life...when do you have time to... (read in full...)
She wont say she loves me!
Q. Hello, ive been with my girl friend for years, we have broken up before, after 7 years, cause she never said she loved me, we got back together, she said it once, now a year an half later still doesn't say it, we get along real good, I say it once ...
A. 3 January 2014:
What exactly are you looking for in a relationship??? To hear the word love, or to be loved???
If she has been with you for 7 years, and you get alone really well, what does that say? People say I love you all the time but don't show it, or ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will not take down sports illustrated calendar that his mom bought him!
Q. This question is really weighing me down. This Christmas, my boyfriend of about a years mother bought him a sports illustrated swimsuit calendar. Now, before you roll your eyes and dub me insecure, know that my irritation and issue with this has ...
A. 31 December 2013:
If you can not handle a small thing like this, how are you going to handle the bigger problems that will come up in your relationship??
2nd...If his mother have that much control on his actions now...See where this is going???... (read in full...)
I want to find a special girl but I am too shy!
Q. Hi everyone, bit of a long question here. So I am a 22 year old male who has never dated or even kissed a girl. I hadn't really thought about it until recently. Seeing quite a few of my friends getting into relationships be it through Facebook ...
A. 31 December 2013: You do realize that women are just as shy as you are right?? So you are in a room with shy girls, you a shy guy...and who starts the conversations...NO ONE! So you leave feeling sad, and she leaves feeling the same way too. If you are buying... (read in full...)
Has he lost all interest in me, and if so, can I fix this?
Q. I can't get this off my mind, and I'm wondering if someone could possibly understand what's going on, because I sure don't! For a few weeks I knew my crush liked me back because he told me and also reminded me about it. He wanted to ask me out, b...
A. 31 December 2013:
Men are not very good with handling moods, and have their feelings hurt for no reason. It's seeing a cute animal, trying to pet it and then it attacks you. Don't really want to go back there again.
Call him, go some place alone...and ... (read in full...)
I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm.
Q. Please excuse the graphic details!! I have never had a "G-spot" orgasm. Only ever clitoral orgasms. My boyfriend of two years says he really wants me to have one. I think he misses it and feels he can't satisfy me sexually. But I can only really ...
A. 31 December 2013:
Well you said the truth..."I've always had a niggling concern that this orgasm thing is in my head." Enjoyment of sex does come from your mind. If your mind is distracted by trust issues or trying to have G-spot orgasm, you are missing out on t... (read in full...)
How can I be myself when I have no confidence?
Q. I am a 36 year old man. I Have no confidence when it comes to chatting to ladies. People always tell me to just be myself but that seems to me like i am not good enough. Any advice would be very appreciated. ...
A. 30 December 2013:
If you keep telling yourself your are not good enough, you will start to believe it. Then your body will show it, and other will see it, and stay away.
Confidence starts in the mind, and ends there as well. Treat people they way you want to be t... (read in full...)
Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic?
Q. Why do they have to ask extensive questions when testing for STDs at the clinic? I believe this is what puts people off going, the only question they should ask is how long since you last had unprotected sex. I also believe they should only ques...
A. 30 December 2013:
There are no extensive questions when you are dead. Small price to pay to live another day.... (read in full...)
Why do men think that lasting forever is better?
Q. This is a question mainly for the men out there. Why do you think that lasting hours while having sex is what women want? I've noticed this with all 5 men I've been with - they seem to think that lasting for ages makes them some sort of love God or ...
A. 30 December 2013: Because no one ever thought them about sex. 2nd...men last forever in porn...idots. Not even animals last that long. For men...your love muscle is to finish her with a bang, not to bang the Sh*T out of her. Sorry my dear. I appologise for a... (read in full...)
How to deal with previous sexual partners?
Q. Hey guys, I'm really stuck, I may be young but I am sure of this relationship I am in, there's literally one issue. The girl has had 6 sexual partners before me, and whilst there's worse things and worse numbers, I really really can't get ...
A. 30 December 2013:
Two ways...The past is the past and does not decide your future. Leave it alone and move to better times. I am sure you have done things that someone else may not be able to get past. But you would want anyone holding something against you from... (read in full...)
Why do I always have to pay? She never offers!
Q. Help! I'm dating this girl I really like for a few months. Problem is I end up paying every time we're out and she never, ever offers to pay. I've talked to her about this but she says I'm the first guy she's dated who complained. I really like her ...
A. 30 December 2013:
You don't. If she takes advantage of the you in that way, then get her out of your life.
If she does not want to be around you unless you are taking her somewhere...get out.
I am olf fashion and like spending my money on someone who loves me... (read in full...)
How do I find balance in our relationship?
Q. Ive been with my partner now 10 months. He is great with my son who Is 5 yrs old and we live together now.we seem to get into arguments because of me I admit that.i have a very hard time letting go over some past things and I no that I shouldnt be ...
A. 30 December 2013: You need to seriously sit down and think clearly what you want in your life. You need to let go of the past. If your past was bad...why oh why do you want to hold on to it and let it control your future??? If you can not trust yourself to be... (read in full...)
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